im really tired of people making "ace and aro struggles" and only talking about the struggles of ace-related things

if you want to make an ace post, fine! it's good to talk about your grievances, be it from discrimination to pet peeves. but seeing things purely about asexuality with aromantic just thrown in, or mundane stuff like "stop making these characters have sex! they can just be platonic" like hmmm arent you forgetting something?

Love is dead everyone gets to fuck now

hi! For those asking for advice, Nik Hampshire on YouTube has videos about being Aro without being Ace, and I thought it might help some people. Have a nice day!

do you have any advice for a minor that’s aroallo 😞

*looks up unrequited love on ao3*

*sees not actually unrequited love*

WHY. WHY DO THEY DO THAT. If its not actually unrequited then dont tag it unrequited! ugh and the rest is usually either angst or assault. why cant we get a protagonist who doesnt love someone back and feels nothing and shoots them DOWN!?

i rlly just wish there were more aro fics that werent just an allo's idea of a qpr (they are going to write romance but "oh no you gotta like it because i said it was totes platonic! i dont think you have any personality other than not dating people why dont you like my very clearly romantic but its platonic story! you must hate qprs cuz you dont wanna read them! youre aphobic, ignore that youre anattractional, youre SO bigoted against aspecs for not wanting to read romance or platonic relations that are only there to replace the romance!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!")

sorry for the little rant i just hate how qprs are only used as an excuse to ship aro (or ace, as these are always portrayed together by most people even though they can be seperate) characters, and the only aro representation we get is when theres qprs or other platonic relations as a replacement.

there is ONE fic on ao3 i found, ONE. thats all there is for us

https://archive.transformativeworks.org/works/57702451

This is one of my favorite blogs on Tumblr keep up the good work. Peace and aro sex in planet earth

the post about qpr fics being ignored is so so real actually, i’ve had to start tagging all of my qpr fics (which is basically all of them lmao) as ambigious relationship so that i can write a qpr in peace without the fic being completely ignored as like 99% of people will just read it as a slowburn romance lmao

Anon just read me to filth. I literally cannot have sex with someone the second I find out they love me or they want us to be romantic. It's like my libido and sexual attraction immediately go POOF.

The worst part about writing qpr fics is that you pretty much have to present it as a romantic ship for it to get any traction. Ik people say not to write for anyone other than yourself, I just wish there was a bigger audience for queerplatonic relationships </3

Romance changes the tone of everything and makes it worse.

Buying me food? Nice. Buying me food cause you wanna date me? Please go away

A book with a cool premise? Nice. Sudden romantic subplot? The rest of it better be good enough to compensate

Friend wants to hang out? Hell yeah. Friend wants to go on a date with you? Uh, actually, I think my schedule is just really super busy nonstop for the next seven months

Sex? Amazing. Sex with someone who’s into you romantically? Oh damn I suddenly have the worst headache

Actively doing research on flower language so I can find a decent flower arrangement to communicate “I want to fuck you but also I would never date you” so sending someone flowers might actually be cool instead of weird. Wait I actually like roses when you remove them from a romantic context. Romance ruined another thing for me. We can’t keep letting it get away with this.

for the longest time when i didnt id as aromantic yet i couldn't figure out why I preferred to read stories where characters strictly fuck and aren't in an established relationship and don't get together in the end

well, now I know

is it okay to date alloromantic people and not tell them i'm aro, only give them boundaries about actions?

I think I'm gonna write a fwb fic with my 2 fave characters no romance attached (thought the people who'd wanna know would be around here)

romance in fiction: cool, usually I'm fine with it, sometimes I even really enjoy it, sometimes it's a bit too much but the rest of the story makes me tolerate it.

sex in fiction: hell yeah let's go

romantic sex in fiction: this is the worst thing I've ever read. how could you do this to me

(but like actually romantic sex repulses me so much more than romance on it's own- evil attraction chimera /lh)

ngl i kinda hate it if im reading smut and the characters are all romantic like wtf you just were in their guts why are you kissing

also not as big of a fan of romance but i dont like if i get invested in it and its just build up to sex

kills any possible tolerance i have for the romance and if its sexual and they put romance in it ruins the moment ngl