Listen
I do understand the fear of pregnancy and getting pregnant from the prospective of those who do not want kids and are in relationships/having sex with people who could impregnate them in this political climate. I understand the terror of losing your body autonomy and having options that should be your right ripped away from you by people who have nothing to do with you, your life, and your choices. I do not want anyone to ever think I'm telling them they're wrong for feeling that. That is the most rational thing in the world
What I mean when I say "Fear-mongering about pregnancy and birth is wrong" is the people who paint it exclusively as something disgusting. Grotesque. "Body horror." And not a natural process that yes, has risks, some of those risks being very serious, but there are FACTORS that add in to them. And the only way people can find out about those factors is through neutral education that NEEDS to become more wildly available
Because the fact is people, myself included, want to have kids and want to experience being pregnant. If you can't comprehend that, that is a you problem. It is not your civic duty to scare them into no longer wanting it because it is empowering TO YOU.
When I say I want kids and want to experience being pregnant one day and people say "Clearly you've never been pregnant" "Look up the girl with the list" "Did you know your teeth will fall out" "Read regretful parent subreddits first" congrats. You are absolutely no better than the people telling you "You'll want kids when you're older"
My life is not your business. You do not have the right to take one of my biggest dreams from me because it disgusts you. You still do not control my body
When all you do is talk about the horrific things that can go wrong during a birth rather than talk about the realities of it, what's normal and what isn't, etc. That's how you get people who GENUINELY BELIEVE a c-section is safer than vaginal birth in ALL SITUATIONS. When in realities a c-section is usually MUCH more dangerous because it is MAJOR SURGERY that comes with the risks of all other MAJOR SURGERIES. Obviously, in certain situations it is safer, but in others its not. This is what I mean by "neutral education of the risks." People should KNOW EXACTLY what they are putting their bodies through, and you sitting there talking about all the blood and guts isn't the education you think it is.
Treating pregnancy and birth and something disgusting is just misogyny. Treating people, especially women, who want kids as stupid or ignorant is just misogyny. Wrapping your misogyny in leftist "child free by choice" ideology does not make it less misogynistic. Encouraging people to live in constant fear of their own bodies is not the feminist move some of you genuinely seem to believe it is.
And when you've done all this to a point there is a culture where it is totally acceptable to say "Pregnancy is as scary as rabies and if you disagree you don't respect me" is actually insane
Exactly. I *had* to be a C-section birth because my umbilical cord was wrapped around my neck. If I was born vaginally, then I would've been strangled to death before I even got to breathe. However, my sister had no such complications and was born vaginally because she didn't need to be surgically removed.