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Marriage Minute: Don’t Solve Problems
Marriage Minute: Don’t Solve Problems
Scot Anderson on Instagram: "Husbands: NEVER speak an unkind word to your wife. . . . #happymarriage #marriage #love #unconditionallove #married #relationships #relationship101 #priceless #wife #husband #tips #advice #marriagetip #marriage101 #fyp #foryoupage #foryou #fyp"
Scot Anderson on Instagram: "Husbands: NEVER speak an unkind word to your wife. . . . #happymarriage #marriage #love #unconditionallove #married #relationships #relationship101 #priceless #wife #husband #tips #advice #marriagetip #marriage101 #fyp #foryoupage #foryou #fyp"
Scot Anderson on Instagram: "Husbands: NEVER speak an unkind word to your wife. . . . #happymarriage #marriage #love #unconditionallove #married #relationships #relationship101 #priceless #wife #husband #tips #advice #marriagetip #marriage101 #fyp #foryoupage #foryou #fyp"
Scot Anderson on Instagram: "Husbands: NEVER speak an unkind word to your wife. . . . #happymarriage #marriage #love #unconditionallove #married #relationships #relationship101 #priceless #wife #husband #tips #advice #marriagetip #marriage101 #fyp #foryoupage #foryou #fyp"
Vanessa Marin | Sex Therapist on Instagram: "👋 New to our content? Follow along for tips to keep the spark alive in your long-term relationship. When your secs life starts out strong but slowly fizzles, it’s easy to feel stuck, wondering, *What happened?!* 🤔 Physical connection can fade over time without an obvious ‘why,’ leaving you caught in what feels like an unbreakable secsless cycle. 😞 But here’s the good news: it’s not impossible to fix. ❤️ That’s exactly why we created Your Best Week Ever. 🌟 Here’s exactly what you get: 🔥 7 days of flirty, playful, totally approachable activities (that you’ll feel actually excited to do!) 🔥 Conversation starters to help you get back on the same page and feel closer than ever 🔥 Insights from a licensed therapist — for WAY less than wh
Vanessa Marin | Sex Therapist on Instagram: "👋 New to our content? Follow along for tips to keep the spark alive in your long-term relationship. When your secs life starts out strong but slowly fizzles, it’s easy to feel stuck, wondering, *What happened?!* 🤔 Physical connection can fade over time without an obvious ‘why,’ leaving you caught in what feels like an unbreakable secsless cycle. 😞 But here’s the good news: it’s not impossible to fix. ❤️ That’s exactly why we created Your Best Week Ever. 🌟 Here’s exactly what you get: 🔥 7 days of flirty, playful, totally approachable activities (that you’ll feel actually excited to do!) 🔥 Conversation starters to help you get back on the same page and feel closer than ever 🔥 Insights from a licensed therapist — for WAY less than wh
Vanessa Marin | Sex Therapist on Instagram: "👋 New to our content? Follow along for tips to keep the spark alive in your long-term relationship. When your secs life starts out strong but slowly fizzles, it’s easy to feel stuck, wondering, *What happened?!* 🤔 Physical connection can fade over time without an obvious ‘why,’ leaving you caught in what feels like an unbreakable secsless cycle. 😞 But here’s the good news: it’s not impossible to fix. ❤️ That’s exactly why we created Your Best Week Ever. 🌟 Here’s exactly what you get: 🔥 7 days of flirty, playful, totally approachable activities (that you’ll feel actually excited to do!) 🔥 Conversation starters to help you get back on the same page and feel closer than ever 🔥 Insights from a licensed therapist — for WAY less than wh
Vanessa Marin | Sex Therapist on Instagram: "👋 New to our content? Follow along for tips to keep the spark alive in your long-term relationship. When your secs life starts out strong but slowly fizzles, it’s easy to feel stuck, wondering, *What happened?!* 🤔 Physical connection can fade over time without an obvious ‘why,’ leaving you caught in what feels like an unbreakable secsless cycle. 😞 But here’s the good news: it’s not impossible to fix. ❤️ That’s exactly why we created Your Best Week Ever. 🌟 Here’s exactly what you get: 🔥 7 days of flirty, playful, totally approachable activities (that you’ll feel actually excited to do!) 🔥 Conversation starters to help you get back on the same page and feel closer than ever 🔥 Insights from a licensed therapist — for WAY less than wh
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Diego Perez on Instagram: "Leave a 💙 if this new set resonates. What else would you add? #relationships #love"
Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick on Instagram: "Have you done your check-in yet this week?! 😍 Weekly check-ins have gotta be a nonnegotiable part of your week. Building and fostering emotional intimacy is not something that just randomly happens… it requires daily intentional efforts. 🥰 And no, you def do not need to ask all of these in one check-in (I would actually highly advise against that… talk about overwhelming 😵‍💫)… but you can pick 2-3 and spend some time exploring each other’s answers and asking plenty of follow up questions. I completely get that not everyone is open or comfortable with check-ins (my clients will be the first to tell you how awkward these things are at first 🫣 but that’s okay! Laugh and just have fun with them)… Because they are also a complete game changer for
Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick on Instagram: "Have you done your check-in yet this week?! 😍 Weekly check-ins have gotta be a nonnegotiable part of your week. Building and fostering emotional intimacy is not something that just randomly happens… it requires daily intentional efforts. 🥰 And no, you def do not need to ask all of these in one check-in (I would actually highly advise against that… talk about overwhelming 😵‍💫)… but you can pick 2-3 and spend some time exploring each other’s answers and asking plenty of follow up questions. I completely get that not everyone is open or comfortable with check-ins (my clients will be the first to tell you how awkward these things are at first 🫣 but that’s okay! Laugh and just have fun with them)… Because they are also a complete game changer for
Polyvagal Institute on Instagram: "In our darkest moments, we don’t need solutions or advice. What we yearn for is simply human connection—a quiet presence, a gentle touch. These small gestures are the anchors that hold us steady when life feels like too much. -Ernest Hemingway Learn more about the art and science of human connection at Polyvagal Institute; explore our courses, trainings, and events: polyvagal.org #polyvagal #polyvagaleducation #polyvagalworld #polyvagalprinciples #stephenporges #debdana #glimmers #nervoussystemhealth #nervoussystemregulation #neuroscience #ptsd #traumahealing #traumatherapy #polyvagaltheory #humanconnection #vagusnerve #coregulation #neuroception"
Polyvagal Institute on Instagram: "In our darkest moments, we don’t need solutions or advice. What we yearn for is simply human connection—a quiet presence, a gentle touch. These small gestures are the anchors that hold us steady when life feels like too much. -Ernest Hemingway Learn more about the art and science of human connection at Polyvagal Institute; explore our courses, trainings, and events: polyvagal.org #polyvagal #polyvagaleducation #polyvagalworld #polyvagalprinciples #stephenporges #debdana #glimmers #nervoussystemhealth #nervoussystemregulation #neuroscience #ptsd #traumahealing #traumatherapy #polyvagaltheory #humanconnection #vagusnerve #coregulation #neuroception"
Our Love Note on Instagram: "When you’re in a relationship, it’s so important to see yourselves as a team working together to handle a problem, not as opponents trying to win. If you approach challenges as teammates, the issue becomes something you tackle together, not something that drives you apart. Instead of focusing on who’s right or wrong, the goal should be to really understand each other—what you’re feeling, what you need, and why this matters to you. When you shift the focus from winning to understanding, it changes the tone of the conversation and brings you closer. Fighting to prove a point or placing blame only creates distance, but working together builds trust and strengthens your connection. Remember, the problem isn’t the other person—it’s the situation you’re both tr
Our Love Note on Instagram: "When you’re in a relationship, it’s so important to see yourselves as a team working together to handle a problem, not as opponents trying to win. If you approach challenges as teammates, the issue becomes something you tackle together, not something that drives you apart. Instead of focusing on who’s right or wrong, the goal should be to really understand each other—what you’re feeling, what you need, and why this matters to you. When you shift the focus from winning to understanding, it changes the tone of the conversation and brings you closer. Fighting to prove a point or placing blame only creates distance, but working together builds trust and strengthens your connection. Remember, the problem isn’t the other person—it’s the situation you’re both tr
Autumn Fowler on Instagram: "Share or let me know if you agree! ❤️ #healthyrelationships #marriagetips #parents #marriedwithkids #parenthood #relationshipgoals"
Autumn Fowler on Instagram: "Share or let me know if you agree! ❤️ #healthyrelationships #marriagetips #parents #marriedwithkids #parenthood #relationshipgoals"
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Mindful Marriage on Instagram: "Make your points of contention into points of connection! 💕 Instead of holding grudges, stonewalling your spouse or telling them why they are wrong, try to lean into the disagreement with curiosity and love. 🫶 If one or both of you explode and do not handle a problem well, be quick to come back together to repair and discuss how it can be handled better on both sides later if a similar issue arises again. 🤝 Admitting and owning up to what you did wrong softens the feelings of tension and allows you both to be vulnerable enough to solve the problem now, and potentially others in the future.🙌🎉 Conflict is inevitable, but contention truly is a choice. If you are interested in receiving more guidance and learning more about healthy conflict resolution i
Mindful Marriage on Instagram: "Make your points of contention into points of connection! 💕 Instead of holding grudges, stonewalling your spouse or telling them why they are wrong, try to lean into the disagreement with curiosity and love. 🫶 If one or both of you explode and do not handle a problem well, be quick to come back together to repair and discuss how it can be handled better on both sides later if a similar issue arises again. 🤝 Admitting and owning up to what you did wrong softens the feelings of tension and allows you both to be vulnerable enough to solve the problem now, and potentially others in the future.🙌🎉 Conflict is inevitable, but contention truly is a choice. If you are interested in receiving more guidance and learning more about healthy conflict resolution i
Lauren Fogel Mersy, PsyD, LP on Instagram: "Some reasons why we get defensive: * Perceived threat: We may feel attacked, judged, or criticized, which can lead to feeling the need to protect ourselves. * Past experiences: Previous negative experiences, including trauma, can cause us to be more reactive. * Miscommunication: We may misinterpret someone’s words, tone, or intentions. * Vulnerability: We might feel exposed or unprepared for a particular conversation, which can lead to defensiveness. * Feeling misunderstood: If we feel that our perspective is being ignored or dismissed, we may become defensive to assert ourselves. * Sense of injustice: A perception of unfairness may trigger a defensive response. * Justification: We may become defensive to justify our actions, beliefs, or decisio
Lauren Fogel Mersy, PsyD, LP on Instagram: "Some reasons why we get defensive: * Perceived threat: We may feel attacked, judged, or criticized, which can lead to feeling the need to protect ourselves. * Past experiences: Previous negative experiences, including trauma, can cause us to be more reactive. * Miscommunication: We may misinterpret someone’s words, tone, or intentions. * Vulnerability: We might feel exposed or unprepared for a particular conversation, which can lead to defensiveness. * Feeling misunderstood: If we feel that our perspective is being ignored or dismissed, we may become defensive to assert ourselves. * Sense of injustice: A perception of unfairness may trigger a defensive response. * Justification: We may become defensive to justify our actions, beliefs, or decisio
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Emily H. Sanders, LMFT on Instagram: "It’s tempting to make assumptions when things aren’t clear- especially for people who struggle be direct and hate conflict. BUT assumptions are risky and often wrong. Even though asking a direct question may feel scary, getting the answers you need gives you information that can help you plan, get on the same page, bring comfort, or make corrections."
Julie Menanno on Instagram: "Relationship Hack——-Increase the odds you’ll successfully work through triggers and disagreements by using good timing. From an attachment style perspective…..to minimize impulsive reactivity, anxious and disorganized partners feel safe knowing there will be a predictable time when a problem is addressed; avoidant partners feel safe knowing they won’t always have to drop everything right then and there to deal with a problem. Of course there will also be times when it does make sense to face a problem right then and there, and there will be times when it makes sense to wait….this is where partners need to be flexible with each other, which is also a version of good timing….the time for flexibility when there aren’t clear cut answers. ❤️ #anxiousattachment #av
Julie Menanno on Instagram: "Relationship Hack——-Increase the odds you’ll successfully work through triggers and disagreements by using good timing. From an attachment style perspective…..to minimize impulsive reactivity, anxious and disorganized partners feel safe knowing there will be a predictable time when a problem is addressed; avoidant partners feel safe knowing they won’t always have to drop everything right then and there to deal with a problem. Of course there will also be times when it does make sense to face a problem right then and there, and there will be times when it makes sense to wait….this is where partners need to be flexible with each other, which is also a version of good timing….the time for flexibility when there aren’t clear cut answers. ❤️ #anxiousattachment #av
Julie Menanno on Instagram: "Relationship Hack——-Increase the odds you’ll successfully work through triggers and disagreements by using good timing. From an attachment style perspective…..to minimize impulsive reactivity, anxious and disorganized partners feel safe knowing there will be a predictable time when a problem is addressed; avoidant partners feel safe knowing they won’t always have to drop everything right then and there to deal with a problem. Of course there will also be times when it does make sense to face a problem right then and there, and there will be times when it makes sense to wait….this is where partners need to be flexible with each other, which is also a version of good timing….the time for flexibility when there aren’t clear cut answers. ❤️ #anxiousattachment #av
Julie Menanno on Instagram: "Relationship Hack——-Increase the odds you’ll successfully work through triggers and disagreements by using good timing. From an attachment style perspective…..to minimize impulsive reactivity, anxious and disorganized partners feel safe knowing there will be a predictable time when a problem is addressed; avoidant partners feel safe knowing they won’t always have to drop everything right then and there to deal with a problem. Of course there will also be times when it does make sense to face a problem right then and there, and there will be times when it makes sense to wait….this is where partners need to be flexible with each other, which is also a version of good timing….the time for flexibility when there aren’t clear cut answers. ❤️ #anxiousattachment #av