Mothers at the Margins
Stories of Challenge, Resistance
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Lisa Raith, Jenny Jones and Marie Porter
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CHAPTER FOURTEEN
BREASTFEEDING "IN PUBLIC":
A PERSONAL AND POLITICAL MEMOIR
PETRA BUESKENS
... lactating breasts when they are taken outside the home are capable of
disrupting the borders of morality, discretion, taste and politics ... (Bartlett
2002, Il l)
Introduction
In her wonderfully erudite book, A History of the Breast, Marilyn
Yalom walks us through the changing meaning of breasts from prehistoric
veneration through to contemporary objectification (1997). We are invited
to reflect on the changing meaning of breasts and their heavenly fluid-the
milk of human kindness-that is both nourishing and abject; we traverse
the alternately erotic and maternal meaning of breasts and the ongoing
failure to integrate the two in our psyches. For Yalom there is a strange
disconnect between our being nourished at the breast and, in a
patriarchally defined culture, of breasts as a profitable and pomified
source of visual titillation. For the owner, of course, breasts are both erotic
and nurturing; however, if we look at our bodies through the lens of the
dominant culture the polarisation of these positions is total: Eros is on a
collision course with the maternal producing strong cultural tensions at the
site of breasts and breastfeeding (Dettwyler 1995; Young 1998; Steams
1999; Giles 2002; Gulupo and Ayres 2002; Bartlett 2003; Giles 2003;
Hausman 2003; Hausman 2004; Bartlett and Shaw 2010; Campo 2010).
To this already fraught dichotomy, we can add the discourses of
science and medicine informing us of the nutritional and immunological
superiority of breast milk (WHO 2002; Smith 2004; AAP 2005; ABA
2014). Encapsulated in the "breast is best" ethos pervading most public
and maternal health campaigns is the implicit assumption that good
mothers breast feed (Stearns 2009; Beasley 20 l 0; Copelton et al. 20 I 0).
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Now that we know breastfeeding is superior for babies, any mother who
doesn't breastfeed (by choice) risks public and private censure. On the
other hand there is an equally pervasive belief system that breastfeeding
should be undertaken with "discretion" - a point made by social
commentators and the lay public alike (Steams 1999; Bartlett 2002;
Hausman 2004; Campo 2010; Epp Buller 2013). Discretion, in this view,
translates to away from the public eye, in private and/or under some kind
of veil-interestingly, this is the only instance in which Western women
veil themselves and are actively encouraged to do so by the wider culture.
While exhorting mothers to breastfeed, then, it seems we just can't get past
viewing breasts as alternately erotic and abject.
Few outside feminist circles have ventured to ask about the cultural
and symbolic contradictions within which women conduct their
breastfeeding. What does it mean to feel overtly or covertly pushed out of
public space while feeding when, in the words of performance poet Holly
McNish (2013), we live in a world of "billboards covered in 'tits'"? What
does it mean that the pomified "dry" breast is everywhere-but the
lactating breast and its fluids are consigned to symbolic oblivion or worse,
disgust and contempt? Breastfeeding is sequestered to the domestic
interior or sanctioned in appropriate "private public spaces", such as baby
change-rooms and toilets, by those who assume themselves to be arbiters
of "good taste" and "discretion". This means, that "breast is best" but only
if it is invisible. In effect, women must find ways of recreating their
domestic sequestration within the public sphere if they are to avoid
judgements and condemnation.
This chapter will offer a reflective autobiographical account of my own
recent experience of being assigned to the abject when I was told not to
breastfeed in a local swimming pool 1 ostensibly for "hygiene" reasons and
ultimately-for the organisation changed their story-for "safety" reasons.
I will explore the scholarly literature on breasts and breastfeeding
especially as it relates to the public/private distinction on which the
controversy implicitly rests making the case that it is our collective
inability to symbolically place breasts-are they sexy or are they
maternal? Are they natural or are they medicinal?-that renders "public"
breastfeeding so challenging. I make two further arguments: first, that
breastfeeding controversies are increasingly defined by what the
sociologists Michael Bittman and Judith Pixley call "pseudomutuality"
(1997, 81 ), or, by a pretence of mutuality, such that discriminatory
individuals and organisations routinely claim to be "pro-breastfeeding"
I Hereafter referred to as "the pool".
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and; second, that claiming our right to feed in public is part of a broader
maternal politics of embodied citizenship shifting extant norms premised
on the ideal of the unencumbered, autonomous subject. Reconfiguring the
image of the ideal-typical citizen as one who may also be pregnant with,
birthing and/or nurturing another is part of this politics. In this view,
breastfeeding "in public" is literally a transformative "coming out"
redefining public space.
Breastfeeding at the bathhouse
In November 2013, 1 decided to head down to my local pool, the
Hepburn Bathhouse, with my pre-schooler and baby for a swim. I should
let the reader know this is no ordinary pool; it is an exquisite ultra-modem
facility made of rusted steel and timber beams housing a majestic pool and
spa heated to thirty degrees with huge floor to ceiling windows and a suite
of massage and beauty therapists at hand. At the entrance there are clearskinned youthful receptionists donning smart, faintly scientific, attire
reminiscent of beauty counter assistants in large department stores with
their " lab coats" and high heels. There are essential oils burning, soothing
meditation music fills the air and numerous brochures advertising the
expensive wonders of "chocolate champagne body wraps" and "aroma
stone massages" abound. People walk around in white bathrobes with
purple wristbands between private massage rooms, the pool, sauna and spa
and well-equipped changing rooms.
Part of the historic Hepburn mineral springs reserve, the Bathhouse
was essentially set up to capitalise on the large tourist trade that frequents
the Daylesford area I call home. While they offer a "locals card", the
Bathhouse is, as everyone knows, "for the tourists". I have never minded
because I figure we get access to a world class facility at discount (if still
expensive) rates when all the tourists are out of town. I ignore the aroma
stones and chocolate pastes, the 50 gram $30 organic herbal teas and
simply enjoy the beautiful and soothing space of the pool. It's one of the
few spaces where both my developmentally disparate kids are happy and
so I go (or used to go) fairly regularly.
My daughter Sophia loves the entrance into the pool, which consists of
a long ramp that seamlessly merges with the water. Stretching twenty-five
metres, it flanks the left (front) side of the pool and doubles as a runway
and toddler pool for us since it is differentiated from the main pool by
hand rails, steps and, about a metre across, by a ledge seat. This ledge is
like a shoal on which I bask seal-like with my baby; it's on the ledge that I
sit and allow Tom his first suckle while Sophia bounces about in front of
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us. Sophia has been a long-term feeder so, ironically, I'm always trying to
be "discreet" with feeding Tom when I' m with the two of them so she
doesn't get upset and jealous and want "boozy" herself. At any rate, by the
time Tom latches on, she's preoccupied with splashing and crashing and
chattering. Tom feeds strongly and I'm relieved-for all those reasons all
of us have internalised (even " liberated" feminist types such as
myself)-that he doesn't pull off constantly and look at his sister thereby
exposing my breast and nipple to other patrons. Tom feeds in that fulsome
way I've noticed all attachment parented, long-term breastfed children do:
it includes engaging in the world around him, undertaking gymnastics,
"talking", laughing and swiping at random objects that catch his attention.
He has not cordoned off suckling from life and so our capacity for
conventional decorum is limited at best. Some days he can feed with a leg
in the air while pulling out my earring and alternately laughing at his sister
and swiping at the cat. We don ' t feed in that sedate socially sanctioned
way you see in breastfeeding advocacy literature. I' ve taken to using my
sling a lot so that he can come on and off the breast without me feeling too
exposed. I wish I didn' t care but I do.
I'm feeding him, but I'm in a bikini so how discreet can Lreally be? He
likes to hold the "other booz" while he feeds-another of those indiscreet
facts about infant Homo sapiens who are so-called "demand feeders"i.e., given unregulated access to the breast and body of the mother. From
about six months of age such babies routinely twiddle and play with the
other breast-or, let's be more speci fic, with the nipple-so as to elicit a
" let-down" response (Dettwyler 1995; Nagle 20 113). Twiddling is a smart
evolutionary adaptation as it gets milk flowing in the other breast
too-useful when you're an older infant and want to fill up on the milk
from both "boozies", but more problematic if you' re a modem Western
mother trying to breastfeed your baby "discreetly". I've seen long-term
feeders who are discouraged from holding the other breast twiddle their
mother's moles, shirt buttons, bag handles and earrings. In either case, we
are evolved to twiddle with this second little idle hand and if we can't, like
a frustrated smoker, we'll find a substitute. It is said that suckling is the
only instinct we humans are born with, the only vestige of our primordial
mammalian heritage, but we forget that this suckling comes with a suite of
behaviours-suckling, holding, gazing, twiddling, cuddling and the
"demand fed" baby if left to his or her own devices will employ all of
these strategies when "feeding". Of course it is more than just feeding
when a baby suckles at the breast, it is also about attachment, comfort and
love.
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So let's recap the image because it's a good one: one under-slept
mother in a bikini with a thirteen-month-old baby fulsomely breastfeeding
while she supervises her four-year-old splashing and crashing. I am well
aware that many people believe such a scene is "offensive" and should be
"out of sight". So, I find a little niche at one end of the pool where there
are no other swimmers or, heaven forbid, people who are relaxing. I sit on
the ledge that flanks the far end of the entrance ramp and watch Sophia
play at my feet.
It's in this context that the infamous pool supervisor, whom another
mother has nicknamed "Napoleon" for her staunch marching and incessant
reprimands, approaches me. I prise the second hand loose (how does one
manage to defend one's self with a let-down in both breasts? f don't want
to spray her in the eye!). She says with the certainty of a parking inspector
issuing a ticket, "You cannot feed in the pool". Tom has pulled off and is
fascinated by the pool inspector; he stares at her in amazement while I
quickly cover up. My daughter does not pause for breath. "Mumsie look at
me. Do you like this jump?" She's oblivious to the sound of the law
breaking around her. I haven't had much sleep and I'm not in a great
mood. [ glare at the pool supervisor and state my rights; but inside T feel
very self-conscious: I wish I'd worn the one-piece not the bikini; I wish
I'd come with one kid not two; r wish I wasn't here; but I meet her gaze
and say calmly, "I can feed anywhere". She is stunned and pauses, not
used to her authority being questioned and certainly not by one of the
tired, harried mothers she has made a sport of bullying at the pool (f have
witnessed this before and it was repeatedly revealed in the complaints
posted on Facebook afterwards). After the pause, she backtracks and says,
"it's not about the breastfeeding, it's about hygiene". It wasn't clear if she
was referring to the milk from my breast or Tom vomiting, but she
clarified it was about the latter. At this point, l felt on shaky ground. Ts
there some caveat in the law that breastfeeding infants might vomit and so
can't be breastfed in or around pools? It was only later l wondered about
the urine, faeces, sweat, blood, hair, saliva and more that are routinely
found in pools. There is also the matter that Tom does not (ever) vomit
after feeds and is as much at risk of doing so as I am. I am uncertain and
so look at "Napoleon" indignant but nonetheless nod; a belligerent
concession to her point.
From here, the dynamic gets truly bizarre. She proceeds to interrogate
me about when Tom will next feed. I'm not sure why she feels entitled to
ask me this very personal question-it's akin to asking when my period is
next due though I can see she doesn't realise that. I answer in my
increasing fragility. This is perhaps the only thing I regret about the
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exchange; 1 mean dignifying her intrusive and inappropriate question with
an answer. "When he feels like it," I say holding her gaze. "Well," she
continues, "when he does you will have to move to those chairs over there
and you have to take her [Sophia] with you. She can't stay in the pool
alone". She instructs me to leave the pool and sit on the chairs at the
periphery to feed. l say "OK". I now feel undermined and patronised. How
is it that people can be so sure of themselves as they discriminate against
others? She was breaking the law yet saw fit to ensure our "safety"!
When we leave, 1 request the name of the pool supervisor and make a
verbal complaint stating that I will be following up with a letter.
Breastfeeding "in public": the personal and the political
Breasts have changed in their cultural meaning along with the values
and norms of society. The pendulum has swung from the complete
acceptance of "nursing" -prior to the invention of formula milk there was
no other way (although wet nurses often performed this work for elite
women), to the near ubiquity of the "scientifically superior" bottle of the
mid twentieth century, to the more recent return to breastfeeding as a
nutritionally superior yet socially and politically fraught activity (Fildes
1986; Apple 1987; Dettwylcr 1995; Blum 1999; Stevens, Patrick and
Pickler 2009). Nominally breastfeeding is supported by "everyone" and, at
the very least the majority of people know the familiar truism that "breast
is best". As a consequence of this tum many mothers who don't wish to
breastfeed now feel pressured and even coerced by the medical
establishment, and those who struggle to breastfeed or can' t often feel like
"failures" (Steams 2009; Copelton et at. 20 I 0). Indeed, recent research on
women who choose to bottle feed shows that they are well-versed in the
(popular) literature on breastfeeding and frame their choices within "the
same cultural logic that breast is best" (Copelton 2010, 36) engaging in
"ideological work" to make their own decisions consistent with this ethos
(Copelton, 25; Beasley 2010).
There is high cultural currency associated with breastfeeding; a
renewed acceptance of its benefits for both mother and child and therefore
to society as a whole. The research is as clear as it is broad: breastfeeding
is better for the infant and young child's nutrition, immunity, brain
development, cognitive development, attachment, teeth and jaw
development, speech as well as general health (ABA 2014a). These
benefits are so significant that one economist (Smith 2004) has said we
need to issue public health warnings, akin to those on cigarette packets, to
warn of the dangers of not breastfeeding! The World Health Organisation
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recommends breastfeeding for at least two years (WHO 2002) while most
national paediatric societies recommend a minimum of one year and
thereafter for as long as mother and child are happy to do so (RACP 2000;
AAP 2012).
As a consequence of two decades of public health campaigns, we have
become collectively "pro-breastfeeding". But it remains evident that
breastfeeding itself-the act of feeding an infant, a toddler or ("worse"!) a
young child-remains fraught given the pervasive sexualisation of breasts
and our collective inability to place women' s procreative "leaking" bodies
in public space (Dettwyler 1995b; Steams 1999; Bartlett 2002; Hausman
2004; Campo 201I 0; Balsam 20112). The attempt to superimpose the
discourse of science-i. e. the evidence concerning the nutritional and
medicinal benefits of breast milk-hasn't really helped to offset this
problem. In fact, as Bernice Hausman insightfully points out,
medicalisation has undermined breastfeeding in contemporary Western
societies because it has undermined women's confidence in their own
bodies and promoted a new reliance on experts (2004). Similarly, the push
to accept breastfeeding mothers in the workplace has mostly supported
"pumping" or the extraction of mother's milk into bottles. This maintains a
bodily and emotional separation between maternal and infant bodies
thereby ensuring women approximate rather than transform the "ideal
worker" norm (Blum 1999; Stephens 2010). It means workplace norms are
not changing to accommodate maternal and infant needs, which may very
well be better served by allowing breastfeeding breaks and/or working
from home.
We remain ambivalent both consciously and unconsciously about the
meaning of breasts. We can't decide-and apparently we must-if they
are nurturing or sexy and we can't decide if milk is medicinal or abject
and, because of this, the matter of "breastfeeding in public" - a strange
term that already presupposes that there is another kind of breastfeeding:
the "in private" sort-remains defined by cultural contestation and
conflict. While breastfeeding "in public" is protected by law in Australia
(the Sex Discrimination Act 1984)-it is "a right not a privilege" as the
Australian Breastfeeding Association state (ABA 2014b) -the culture
hasn't caught up. Women in Australia, as in the US, the UK and other
Western countries, are routinely asked not to breastfeed "in public" or to
do so more "discreetly". In one high profile Australian case in January
2013, Liana Webster was asked to "cover up or get out" of the Bribie
Island pool in Brisbane where she was breastfeeding her eleven-month-old
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daughter (Christian 2013; Vonow 2013).2 The well-known commercial
television host David Koch publically stated "I think it's fair enough to ask
her to move ... [to ask her] could you be a bit discreeter [sic], go up on the
grass?" He stated that the ledge of a pool, incidentally where the mother
was also supervising her other children, "is a high traffic area" and
therefore inappropriate for breastfeeding. This led to a spate of media
articles and an avalanche of letters both for and against. There was a
nurse-in protest organised at the Sunrise studios where Koch's morning
television show is filmed with organisers saying their message was to
"normalise" public breastfeeding and that women shouldn't be made to
feel marginalised, unwelcome or embarrassed (Pell 20113; King 20113).
Koch inflamed the debate by insisting that women "should be allowed" to
breastfeed in public but should be "classy" about it (Franklin 2013). Aside
from the extraordinary entitlement implied in statements defining what
women should and should not be "allowed" to do with their bodies, Koch
betrays the peculiar logic of contemporary discrimination: it is apparently
both for and against breastfecding.
In a point I will take up in more detail later in the paper, it is becoming
increasingly clear that when individuals or organisations discriminate
against breastfeeding women-and, incidentally, their children-by telling
them they should be more "discreet" or to move to a private area
(recreating on a smaller scale women's historic relegation to the private
sphere), such people invariably qualify that they are themselves resolutely
"pro-breastfeeding". This contradictory stance says: "Sure, breastfeed
anywhere, including in public, just don't be seen doing it. Be polite. Be
mindful of others. Be discreet. Be 'classy'." This is an insidious
development that creates confusion; indeed, it discombobulates breastfeeders
and protestors alike since the very people who are discriminating
simultaneously claim to be supportive of breastfeeding. The kind of
comment that David Koch made pretends to be on the same side (or
falsely believes itself to be) while actually undermining women and
recreating patriarchal distinctions of public and private that presuppose
women's procreative bodies are offensive and should be out of sight. The
politics of breastfeeding in public needs to be mindful of this false or
"pseudomutual" stance now pervasive in contemporary rhetoric.
2 Webster and her supporters also organised a feed-in at the Bribie Island Aquatic
Centre to protest her treatment (Taylor, 20 13).
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Fig. 14-1: Koch/Sunrise Studios Protest, Sydney, January 2013. Victoria
Brockman
Another recent case demonstrates the same duplicity. In January 2014,
Larissa Bakewell was asked to move to the toilet in Sake, a restaurant and
bar in Sydney, because patrons found her breastfeeding her eighteenmonth-old daughter "offensive" (lson 2 014). Together with NurtureNatural Parenting Magazine, Bakewell organised a feed-in protest via
Facebook. She was given a prompt apology by the director of Sake,
though others on her page sensed the potential duplicity. Lauren Hudson
posted the following astute comment on Bakewell's Facebook nurse-in
page (Monday, January 6, 2014):
It's nice he apologised but it's just words ... ifthey follow through on their
actions that's great for them but only time will tell. .. it seems they only
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apologised when the nurse-in was already organised, was this to make
themselves look good/feel better? I think stand strong, apology or not [.]1
am so sick and tired of this happening he should have educated his staff
from the start especially since he is a family man, I don't trust these people
it's really too late for an apology I think because if it was another women
with less confidence it would have gone unheard and the damage would
have been far worse ... Don't let the apology deflate the mission ... Sorry
don't want to sound too negative but I think it's a cop out ... he has
prob[ably] seen the result of these actions against other restaurants on TV
and doesn't want the same to happen ... I think it's good that these
restaurants are fearful of these actions putting them in the spotlight for
discrimination maybe they will try harder to train their staff prior?
Fig. 14-2: Sake protest, Sydney, January 2014. Photo courtesy of Victoria
Brockman administrator of Lactivists Australia.
Hudson captures two critical points here: first, that such incidents are
not individual and random, although they are routinely treated as such,
rather they betray an underlying cultural logic that is pervasive; second, an
apology after the fact that simultaneously claims that the organisation is
"pro-breastfeeding" is a contradiction in tenns. At the time of the event,
the organisation is question was not pro-breastfeeding but rather
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discriminatory. As Victoria Brookman from Lactivists Australia said at the
Sake nurse-in, "This is about saying to women, you can exist in society
when you're a mother" (cited in Ison 2014).
Another high profile case from a decade earlier involved then
Victorian State Labour MP Kirstie Marshall who was removed from
Parliament for breastfeeding her eleven-day-old baby who was identified
as "a stranger in the house". As Rhonda Shaw points out,
While Marshall was present in the parliamentary chamber as an elected
political representative and not as a mother ... there is no doubt that
Marshall's maternal body in this case exposes the limits of traditional
identity construction as autonomous and unitary. According to the Jaw
governing relations between actors in parliament and the model of sociality
to which it corresponds, these subjects are not selves who exist in relation
to other selves, nor are they individuals whose identities are formed on the
basis of their intersubjectivity. Rather, the bodies of these individuals form
quintessential liberal political subjects and, as such, are required to be
individuated, bounded and closed. (2004, 287)
The conception of the subject that undergirds modem rights (the very
same ones we draw on to assert our right to feed "in public" paradoxically)
configures the human being as an "individual" ignoring the corporeal
interdependence of maternal and infant bodies and indeed the profound
dependence of all our bodies on the generative capacities of the female
body. The foundation myth of "the individual" within contemporary
liberal-democratic societies renders maternal bodies and infant bodies,
perhaps especially in relation with each other, as deviant and disrupting.
The distinction between the realm of political and civil society and the
home is a creation of liberal modernity that presupposes a social contract
of self-governing autonomous citizens who have no relations of
dependence and pursue their own interests with few corporeal constraints.
What is missing, as the political philosopher Carole Pateman so astutely
observed, is an understanding of the "sexual contract" that underscores
and makes possible the social one (Pateman 1988; 1989). This is the realm
of "nature" - the production of bodies through sex (and these days
numerous other means), pregnancy, childbirth and lactation-that was
smuggled in and sequestered to the "private-domestic sphere". Here
relations of care rather than self-interest prevail; people are organised in
terms of affinity and blood rather than competition and contract and the
sexual, emotional and reproductive needs of citizens (historically men)
that would otherwise disrupt the smooth operations of civil society are
both satisfied and contained. All disembodied public relations between
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ostensibly free and equal citizens presuppose private ones and indeed rely
on their existence.
Since the advent of liberal modernity, women's sequestration to the
home has posed a problem, and has been contested by feminist and civil
rights activists drawing attention to the contradiction of a society based on
freedom and equality that excludes (at least) half its members. And while
women have fought for suffrage and then for inclusion in civil society,
including paid work, we have only been in the public sphere en masse for
the last fifty or so years. That's less than one century and, at the cultural
level, only constitutes two generations (at best), so it is hardly surprising
we are struggling to come to terms with women's procreative bodies in
public spaces-certainly very young women's sexual bodies (symbolically
corralled from reproduction despite the obvious connections) are now
ubiquitous. In only a few short decades the "billboard covered in tits" has
risen to troubling cultural hegemony. It's as if we are, in the present
historical moment, comfortable with the promise offertility (as symbolised
in nubility) but not with its actual manifestation. It seems there is only one
kind of female body allowed in public space and this is the sexually
objectified slender, youthful (pre-maternal) body tailored to the male gaze,
but the mother's body remains both abject and perverse-disruptive,
indiscreet and lacking class. Mothers are required to "get back in shape"
which means assume the musculature and weight of their pre-pregnant
selves and anything less is deemed a failure (Nash 2012). There is, in
effect, a symbolic erasure of the mother and the story her body tells.
Moreover, the assertion of rights by women using their procreative
bodies is also rendered suspect. The breastfeeding mothers who are
idealised are the sort who fit nicely in a Kleenex tissue advertisement; they
are slender, white, young, married and middle-class, their breasts are never
seen and the infant they are feeding is always under six months. We are
comfortable with this image because it contains, constrains and cauterises
the procreative power of women's bodies. As Hausman says, placing
breastfeeding mothers in nighties and dressing gowns in adverts to new
mothers does a disservice to the recognition of breastfeeding as part of the
repertoire of "maternal practice" (2004, 278) that is inevitably political
precisely because breastfeeding anywhere but the home constitutes an
affront to conventional sensibilities. Such depictions return mothers to the
domestic enclave even, paradoxically, as the same groups who promulgate
these images (La Leche League, the ABA etc.) develop elaborate and
politicised defences ofbreastfeeding (2004).
Linking the maternal and the political Hausman asserts that women are
"cultural mammals" necessarily encumbered and defined by motherhood
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(2004, 275). For Hausman, and I agree, we need to eschew the trope of
naturalism in our defence of breastfeeding-specifically, we need to resist
defining breastfeeding, and by extension mothering, as natural (and
therefore seemingly outside of politics); rather it is drawing our bodies
into a political conversation and redefining the norms of civil society to
include women's procreative bodies that constitutes the central task ahead.
For Hausman, this means linking maternalism and feminism in productive
and insightful ways-neither being silenced by the critique of essentialism
nor capitulating to the ideal of the disembodied self. This is what Andrea
O'Reilly has more recently called "matricentric feminism" - a feminism
that neither shies away from nor attempts to transcend "the mother" but
rather centres and makes political mothers' perspectives (201II, 25).
Pseudomutuality: the new rhetorical terrain
After posting about my experience on Facebook and having a strong
reaction from many friends and, in the viral world of social media, friends
of friends of friends of friends, l decided to organise a "feed-in" at the
Hepburn Bathhouse on November 28, 2013. Like the Sunrise/Kochi
protest before and the Sake protest after, our goal was to challenge both
the establishment and the cultural norms that render breastfeeding
unacceptable in public. Nurse-ins or feed-ins are an embodied protest that
have become increasingly visible in contemporary Western societies (for
an engaging and brilliant analysis of earlier Australian nurse-ins see
Bartlett 2002). Social media as a site for social and political activism is an
excellent means of publicising such events and provides a forum for
organisation and discussion before, during and after the event.
The protest went extremely well for a small-scale regional event
organised with only one week's notice. In all, forty-two people said they
were coming on Facebook and approximately twenty came; however,
close to 200 people liked and commented on the page. We made placards
and signs for display and one of the protestors brought his guitar and
played music. Most of the protestors were breastfeeding mothers, there
was a father and a grandfather (taking photos), a few residents who
opposed the price structure and prioritisation of tourists over locals, the
local media, and several managers from the Bathhouse. We were
photographed and I was interviewed both by our local newspaper The
Advocate (Atkins 2013) and an independent newspaper The Local who
also made a YouTube video of the protest (Kelly 2013).
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Fig. 14-3: Hepburn Bathhouse Protest, Hepburn Springs, November 2013. Image
courtesy of The Hepburn Advocate.
Fig. 14-4: Hepburn Bathhouse Protest, Hepburn Springs, Karen Armstrong. Image
courtesy of Donna Kelly taken from her YouTube video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v= R8ri-OCruKY
Although the protest was peaceable and even fun-notwithstanding the
newspaper photographer's explicit request that we simulate outrage so
they could "get a good shot" - it quickly became evident that the
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Bathhouse themselves were engaging in Orwellian double-speak. They
were smiling and affirming their "support for breastfeeding", undertaking
interviews and drawing attention to their pregnant manager as evidence of
their "breastfeeding friendly" culture. They claimed to support
breastfeeding and that their only concern was about "safety". On their
Facebook page that day they made the following remark:
... We value and welcome all mothers and breastfeeding mothers within
our Spa. We actively encourage breastfeeding within our work
environment and provide support for all breastfeeding mothers. We are
well aware of the sensitivities and are pleased the issue has been rectified
[sic]. Again we apologise for this incident and can assure you that we
welcome breastfeeding Mums and bubs.
Clearly, the Bathhouse is as steeped in the dominant ideology as the
rest of us-breast is best, and they did not want to be seen to be going
against this. In an effective public relations move, they claimed to be
completely pro-breastfeeding and somehow denied there was ever a
problem. This sat contradictorily with assertions that the employee in
question would be given follow-up training and I would be given an
apology. At the time of the protest-some ten days after my complaint
letter had been sent, an apology was still not forthcoming (neither had it
been issued at the time of the above post). Thus, rather than admit what
had happened, apologise for it and move forward, the Bathhouse elected to
move into "pseudomutuality". As Bittman and Pixley point out,
"[p]seudomutuality arises when the participants in a non-mutual situation
engage in actions which conceal this fact and instead portray the situation
as mutual" (1997, 81).
Given the confusing nature of such a strategy, it took me some time to
comprehend what was going on amid the smiles and seeming agreement.
We were all on the same side, which was very nice except for the fact that
an injustice had occurred and had not been apologised for; rather it was
being covered up in an ingenious public relations move which placed us
all on the same team. According to the Bathhouse, as stated to a fellow
protestor at the event, I had not been asked not to breastfeed, I only been
asked to move because I was "not within arm's length" of my older child.
The implication was that I was somehow failing in my duty of care. The
problem with this was I was within arm's length of my daughter; the
distance between the ledge where I was sitting and the ramp into the pool
where she was playing was such that this was inevitable.
What became increasingly clear was that the Bathhouse was not going
to properly acknowledge that the incident had occurred. While the
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manager said to me privately (at the protest and later on the phone) that
she believed my account and that her employee had behaved unacceptably
and would receive "professional development"-on the public record,
including in their fom1al apology, they apologised not for asking me not to
breastfeed, interrogating me about when I would next feed and requesting
that I move but rather for "the distress that one of our lifeguards'
comments caused you". Their apology letter continues, "As a result of the
feedback that you have so very kindly provided we have discussed with
our staff the policies and communication around safety specifically
relating to breastfeeding within the facility" (my emphasis, Whitehouse
2013).
The problem with this apology is that it is not an apology. I didn't need
an apology for my "distress" or only secondarily, and I didn't need them to
follow up on "safety". What was required was an apology for asking me to
leave the pool and for interrogating me regarding when I would next feed.
Moreover, the whole argument about safety was spurious and set up by
both the pool supervisor and the Bathhouse as a ruse to avoid the real
issue, which was telling me not to breastfeed in the pool and using bogus
arguments about "hygiene" and "safety" to justify it. The second sentence
is deliberately vague-it doesn't specify that employees will be trained in
the rights of breastfeeding women but rather in "safety specifically
relating to breastfeeding". I asked them in a follow up reply "what
specifically the issue with safety was" and received no clear answer, only
a reiteration of what had already been said. As manager Kim Whitehouse
stated to me in private correspondence,
Please understand that my discussions with the staff member involved
confirm that the primary concern was one of safety both for the child that
you were feeding and that of the child that you were actively supervising
thus the staff member asked that you move to what she perceived to be a
safer feeding location ...
What is interesting in this Orwellian twist in which the establishment
that told me not to breastfeed is somehow miraculously "breastfeeding
friendly" is that it wipes away the injustice and renders me suspect all at
once-surely an effective strategy for those wanting to avoid wrongdoing!
Not only is there a failure to directly apologise for instructing me not to
breastfeed, it implies-or, at the very least, potentially implies-that I was
somehow acting "unsafely". The suggestion was that I was not supervising
my older child properly.
The cost of being on the ideological opposition was simply too great
for the Bathhouse and so they adopted a disingenuous pseudomutual
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unfolding as the culture wars surrounding feeding "in public" are
increasingly, even if complexly, won by women.
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CHAPTER FIFTEEN
IN FROM THE MARGINS:
CATHOLIC MOTHERS' MATRESCENT
EXPERIENCE REAPPROPRIATED
CRISTINA LLEDO GOMEZ
Introduction
In 2007, a famous Benedictine monk from England came to Sydney to
speak about his new book, Finding Sanctuary (Jamison 2006). It was a
book about finding ways to live out holiness in daily life even amidst all
the busyness. He made all sorts of suggestions on ways of finding holiness
using the tools he' d learnt as an enclosed monk. The audience was
enthralled by the wisdom of the abbot. At one point in his presentation, he
paused and made a particular suggestion, "Now to those of you with very
young children", at which a friend of mine who had three young children
pricked up her ears, anticipating the long-awaited answer. The monk
merely smiled and shook his head. Then he said "I pity you".
Before you shake your own head at what seemed like a condescending
remark, let me tell you that I do not think this was an act of judgement
from a self-satisfied, arrogant monk. Rather I believe it was the monk's
humble acknowledgement of the real difficulties or parenthood such that
the conditions for finding sanctuary in the everyday, a moment of silence
and stillness, is almost, if not absolutely, impossible, when one has a
young child or infant children.
Matrescent experience in the Western
and Australian context
It is universally held that the first year of motherhood especially for a
new mother is one of the toughest years of her life. From a Western