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    Growing Mentor Intelligence™: A Field Guide To Mentoring
    Growing Mentor Intelligence™: A Field Guide To Mentoring
    Growing Mentor Intelligence™: A Field Guide To Mentoring
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    Growing Mentor Intelligence™: A Field Guide To Mentoring

    By Alan D. Landry

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    A uniquely effective, strategic approach to mentoring for both mentors and mentees through the process of gaining Mentor Intelligence™.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherBookBaby
    Release dateDec 15, 2013
    ISBN9780991161201
    Growing Mentor Intelligence™: A Field Guide To Mentoring

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      Growing Mentor Intelligence™ - Alan D. Landry

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      Preface

      In spite of all our technological advances, today we live in a world that has created the greatest isolation and at-risk population than ever before. Across the generations we all seek understanding, acceptance, guidance, support and advocacy as we face our own unique challenges and seek the meaning in our lives. The core topic of this book - effective mentorship or what I call Mentor Intelligence™ - is a simple and effective answer to that need. Yet just as the need seems greatest, the practice of mentorship seems wanting, whether in the work place, in our schools, our organizations, or any other place where we gather as people.

      This book was written to address that gap. By enhancing our ability to mentor others as well as to be more effectively mentored by others, it can change our lives for the better. It can also change our world, how we relate to it, and how to increase our own sense of self-worth. We need to change the conversation about the topic, turn some traditional ideas upside down, and replace them with different perspectives that offer empowerment for anyone willing to invest the time and energy regardless of circumstance, organization or experience.

      So who is this book for? In a sense, it is written for anyone who has ever mentored anyone as well as for anyone who has ever wanted to be mentored. To those of you who are already mentors, I hope that you find something of value in these pages that will make you better mentors. For those of you hoping that someone will just say yes to mentoring you, create the future that you want to be. Within these pages are techniques and tools that can help you learn how to navigate life’s challenges while discovering how to give that gift back to others. Learn what Mentor Intelligence™ is all about, and more importantly, how to grow your own. Empowerment is at your fingertips if you are willing to put the effort into it.

      The pages that follow will introduce you to mentorship as a way of being rather than just a good thing to do. I will offer you unique perspectives on mentoring, provide practical tools to help you increase your proficiency as a mentor partner, and offer you a process that will allow you to help create life strategies, both for yourself and for others. Each chapter presents a different aspect about mentorship and offers both perspectives and tools to help each of us grow on our own personal journeys. At the end of each chapter, I have included a short summary of key points called A Blueprint For Exploring Possibilities. Because this is a practical guide, I have also created a separate page at the end of each chapter providing Questions for Personal Reflection and Growth. Besides the almost magical connection between writing down our thoughts and perspectives and opening our hearts and minds, there is also something powerful and liberating about putting our thoughts and feelings into words. I encourage you to create a mentorship journal, if you have not already done so, and watch the growth as your effort and commitment are rewarded.

      Above all, for each of you reading this book, know that you have the power to change a life, one person at a time, to turn adversity into advantage, to offer a hand up rather than a hand out, to teach life skills that will live far beyond your life, and to create opportunity for others where today there is none. This is the essence of leadership, it is the essence of good mentorship, and it is the core of leading a life of significance rather than a life of self-importance. Take a chance, step out of your comfort zone, reach out to someone and become a mentor, and be changed for the better in the process. There is no greater gift than to create purposeful change in another person’s life, giving back all that you have been given in your own life.

      Chapter One: Fulfilling Your Greatest Need

      Why Are You Here?

      So why is this book necessary? Isn’t our greatest need to be accepted for the unique whole person that we are, and to bring that whole person to every aspect of our life? Yet everywhere I turn, the same questions (among many others) come up time and again indicating that this greatest need is often unfulfilled:

      - Why am I here? What is my unique purpose in life and how do I align what I do in the work place to that purpose?

      - How can I be true to myself and to my values in the workplace? What does it mean to be authentic?

      - What should my short and long-term life goals be? How can I achieve them?

      - How can I balance my home life and my work life?

      - How can I navigate the social and political waters at work or in my organization?

      - What is my best career path and how should I choose among various options?

      - How can I increase my network so more people know about the work that I do?

      - How do I deal with a difficult boss or difficult teammate?

      Figure 1.0 The Whole Person Concept

      Our first step on this journey is the whole person concept I first learned about when I was a student at the United States Military Academy at West Point, New York. Each of us is a very unique and special creation; unique in mind, unique in body, and unique in spirit. This frames the concept of integrity better than anything else I have ever seen as wholeness in mind, body and spirit. Wholeness demands that the person each of us brings to work is the same person we bring home to our families and friends, and vice versa.

      Perhaps this concept is not new to you. As with many things in life, sometime those that are the most obvious to see are the most difficult to put into practice. I have observed the consequences of trying to be a different person at work than at home. I view this as highly unnatural. To fracture yourself to fit in or to be accepted means that you must be less than your full self at work. Not only is this a waste of human potential, it will ultimately fail as you compromise in both home life and work life to be someone you are not.

      The whole person concept is a foundational principal of my mentorship philosophy. It is why my approach is both effective and life changing because it aims at the heart of the matter – learning how to be whole.

      We have become a society that focuses more on information rather than on relationships, on gratification rather than discipline, on self-importance rather than significance, and on entitlement and status rather than responsibility. Ironically, information in all its forms and shapes (perhaps it is data rather than information) is more available today than ever before, but it is overwhelming and detached, void of the very human and empowering characteristics that we all need today. Many of our children regardless of social or economic status are living in an emotional, mental and spiritual vacuum, awash in information but void of meaningful relationships. They want to be whole to themselves but need help along the way. That is what mentorship is all about.

      There is something about the human condition that seems to drive a need to belong, to feel appreciated and valued, and to grow and be developed beyond what we are today in every person at every level. The need is not isolated to our youth or to early career employees. It is about each of us, the connections that link us to one another and give our lives deep meaning, and the opportunities that we have to grow as we share our unique journeys. Good mentorship is the glue that ties us to one another, across the generations and across possibilities that we are not able to see alone. It is also the most powerful solution to the isolation that affects us at work, at school, at home, and everywhere else we go, because in the end, it is about investing in meaningful relationship that provides mutual benefit to both mentee and mentor.

      The Workplace Connection

      As the need to belong, to connect and to grow is increasing in both our personal and work lives and the need for mentorship is expanding, my experience has been too few organizations have effective, meaningful programs. Frequently, key leaders are not willing to take on the role of mentor, and where organizational mentor programs do exist, they can lack the authenticity and senior leader support so critical to success. My challenge to the leaders of companies who do have organic programs is to survey your early career employees anonymously and authentically and get their honest opinion where there is no chance for retribution. If you ask them, they will tell you the truth, if they think you really want to know. If you don’t like what you hear, listen to their voices, read on, and lead the change that needs to happen.

      Mentoring is one of those programs that can easily fall through the cracks. Human Resource (HR) departments usually acknowledge the need but often lack the resources or senior leader support to develop comprehensive, effective programs. Some organizations create mentor programs, but absent the soul and the spirit of what true mentorship needs to provide, they do not work. It can be a great sound bite as companies market themselves as employers of choice, but when the reality fails to match the promise, the result is disappointment, frustration and disillusionment.

      The real challenge is that no one seems to own it – mentoring is, after all, deeply personal and is therefore a personal choice, right? Perhaps the more important question is Should it be optional? I believe that mentorship is a basic requirement of good leadership and that it is therefore an obligation of every leader in every organization. No one should be excused because it’s hard or simply because they do not want to do it. To do so is to abrogate a leader’s responsibility to grow the next generation.

      Mentorship is a discipline that requires the application of skills that can be taught and learned, and that is the real reason for this book. When I look across my network, especially at the 20-30 year olds, they reflect both the hunger for meaningful mentorship, and the void as well. It does not have to be this way. What if mentorship were defined by senior leadership of every organization as a basic part of the organization’s

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