How to overcome fear, and start living fearless!

HOW TO OVERCOME

FEAR, AND START LIVING FEARLESS!!!

Written By,

Rasheeal Ra Blaze Dixon

Smashwords Edition

"This is a guide designed to help you

really live without one ounce of fear!"

Copyright © 2012 Rasheeal Ra Blaze Dixon

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

Dedication

Introduction

Chapter 1What is Fear?

Chapter 2 Fear of Failing

Chapter 3 Fear of Rejection

Chapter 4 Fear of Betrayal

Chapter 5 Fear of Heartbreak

Chapter 6 Fear of Others

Chapter 7 Fear of Love

Chapter 8 Fear of Taking Chances

Chapter 9 Fear of Death

Chapter 10 Fear of Enemies

Chapter 11 Fear of Commitment

Chapter 12 Fear of Confrontation

Chapter 13 Fear of Change

Chapter 14 Fear of Losing Control

Chapter 15 Fear of The Unknown

Chapter 16 Fear of Being Manipulated

Chapter 17 Fear of Being Outsmarted

Chapter 18 Fear Shouldn’t Exist

Author’s Final Words

About the Author

DEDICATION

This book is dedicated to my late father Winston Dixon he was my hero, and the one that made me become fearless and showed me that there shouldn’t be any fear in my heart at all. Until we meet again everything that I do will be dedicated to him because I love him for making me into the man that I am. I just wish that one day I can be as great of a man that he was.

INTRODUCTION

Welcome now you’re on a journey one that will thrill you, and allow you to conquer everything that you ever wanted to conquer. First you must conquer the F word. Yes the F word that I’m talking about is fear, and I’ll show you how to really eliminate that word truly from your vocabulary. I will also show you the methods that I personally used to eliminate all forms of fear from my life and hopefully you can apply it to yours also. Over the years I’ve developed an internal defense mechanism that turned me fearless, and different personal events also shaped me into becoming fearless also.

Right now you will learn it, and it may also help you so keep this book, and study it because over time you will become fearless. It may not happen overnight, but trust me if you follow these methods gradually over time you’ll also build the same internal defense mechanism that I did. So, just enjoy because after reading this I guarantee that you’ll start to understand, and also conquer your own fears a lot more. This is now the moment where we will dismantle fear, and conquer it to where inside you it will no longer exist!

CHAPTER 1

WHAT IS FEAR?

Well fear is considered as an emotion, and if you looked at the definition of what fear was then you would see that. Just like how love is an emotion fear is one also. Even though fear can be a very intense emotion that at certain times can really take a hold of your life. Fear sometimes will paralyze you, and become a real drag on your life.

What is fear that’s the question, and as you go on you’ll see that fear is nothing but your worst enemy. Fear does nothing good, but holds you back and will eventually in some cases hurt you. I’ll give more examples of how fear can hurt you later on in this book, and then you’ll see exactly what I mean. Fear is something that I really hate personally because I’ve seen how it damages people.

From my personal observations I’ve seen a lot, and now I’m going to grab fear by the neck, and then break it in two. I know that you’ll be on the same route and then do the same thing. Fear can be a serious distressing negative emotion that can be induced by something that your mind may perceive as a threat. Then again the mind does have the control over us, and if we’re able to control our mind, and completely conquer fear then it will be eliminated. This will take time though, and soon time will be your healer that will help you overcome fear.

I couldn’t write about fear without talking briefly about other emotions such as sadness, happiness, and anger. The reason why is because sometimes a lot of these other emotions go hand in hand with fear. You basically can’t have one without the other, so that’s why I’m going to talk about a wide range of emotions but fear will always be the reason why I bring up the other forms of emotions. Fear is very uncontrollable at times and there are times when it can consume you in a way that you never would imagine that it would.

I know this because there was once a time when this enemy known as fear was once always attacking me. I’ve even read where some psychologist and people who study fear believe that it belongs to a small set of innate emotions. No matter what some may say one thing that no one could dispute, and that’s the power of fear. Fear is very powerful you basically have some dictators in the world that rule in fear.

They have the ability to use fear for their own personal gain they know how to basically use it to control others. The fear that many run from sometimes can be used as a tool to lure others in. This form of using fear can become very dangerous, if it falls into the wrong hands. Personally I believe that no one should ever try to manipulate anyone else using fear, but people do this regularly.

In some ways this is also the way that human beings are. After all we’re a species that can be very cruel to one another, so fear can be a much needed tool. When used properly one can use fear to rule nations. I’ll elaborate more on dictators, and world leaders, and the politics of fear further down in the book.

Sometimes I’ll also repeat some things over, but I’ll say it in a different way only to make you become familiar with the different forms of fear. This will be something that’s needed because those that are in power use this type of fear to manipulate the public all the time. The only thing that I’m doing is making sure that you fully understand it, so when you’re faced with it in a real world environment you’ll know exactly what it was that I was talking about.

There come times in life when you must eventually face everything that may scare you because that will be the only way that you’ll overcome. There will be no other way because then you’ll always be in fear, and hiding from whatever it is that you feel is in your way. In some cases it seems almost as if we’re groomed to live in fear, but if you really want to overcome that Fear conditioning then you can. We can always reverse something that has been done, as long as you’re alive and still moving strong it’s never too late I just want you to remember that.

No matter how you may approach your day to day life just know that fear will be right behind you coming directly at you. You must be able to understand where exactly the fear is coming from this time. It will completely be up to you to destroy it before it destroys you. You would never want to be caught off guard at any moment because then it might be too late. It is imperative that you always have the advantage because this will make you become the winner before you even start to play the game!

We’ll also touch on winning, and try to shine the spotlight on how fear sometimes will cripple most people from winning. The emotion of fear gets so intense to many individuals that they could sometimes become filled with paranoia. Being paranoid isn’t easy trust me I’ve been there before, and it was a horrible feeling. Always looking over your shoulder and other forms of paranoia is nothing but a very intense form of fear.

There probably are, so many different forms of fear in the world that there might be too much to name. We probably would be here all day trying to breakdown, and explain the many different types of fear that exist. I once saw a case study in where scientist studied many different individuals on their fears. Some of these people had the same fears, and some of them had different ones, but in many cases the results were always different.

Even though they found they would link fear back to different parts of the human brain in some cases. Look we can either look at it like this we could take fear either as a gift or a curse. That is something that I would say is very subjective, so it’s up to the individual to decide whether it is or not. I look at it like beauty it’s only in the eye of the beholder I guess.

When I say I look at it almost like beauty I mean it’s up to the particular person whether they would use fear as a gift or a curse. It can be a gift because you could use it, as inspiration to really go far, and reach where it is that you want to reach in life. I’ve seen certain situations where people used it as a gift and had extraordinary results. One case was when I seen a person that was a scared of heights but they used this type of fear to conquer that fear of heights.

The person ended up climbing on top of a mountain just to overcome this fear, so they used it as their crutch. It was this fear that they turned into a gift to conquer their fear of heights and ever since they did that they weren’t a scared to fly anymore, or do anything that incorporated heights in it. Being able to go high and look down wasn’t something that scared this person anymore, and that became a good thing. This person was able to live a better life the second that they eliminated that one little fear.

Now on the other hand the curse is very serious. It can become so bad that a person may be unable to get a certain task done because of a certain fear, and I seen many drastic cases. I once saw someone that had a real fear of aluminum foil. To some folks you might look and say how someone can fear aluminum foil well there are a few cases of people that do. You even have some people that fear cotton balls, and some things that many may say are strange.

These types of fears to everyday products can become a curse it can really alter the way these folks live, and really ruin their whole life. Just think about it no one wants to live life like this especially being a scared of such regular everyday objects. They also have to deal with the embarrassment of others laughing at them. These fears are very real, and they become a major part of a person’s life.

Some of these fears become so major in a person’s life that it almost becomes a distraction from their everyday routine. They’re often unable to interact with others normally because of these fears which can become a real problem. So there you have it the reasons between the two the gift, and the curse even though I will get more in-depth later on in this book. I will show real scenarios based on actual events that really occurred, and also tell you real stories about fear.

The real purpose of this will be to really try to make you overcome a certain fear that you may have. This will be your first guide to turn to that will allow you to look at fear, and completely laugh at it. Real emotions affect us all in different ways, so everyone will have their own way of really approaching them. I’ll try to give you alternate routes to these emotions because maybe that’ll help you. So, approach these routes the best way that you can, and I feel honored that you allowed me to show you these routes.

Imagine being able to wake up completely fearless and how great you would feel. I know it would be an incredible feeling, and one that would truly make you feel liberated. Having the ability to control certain emotions, is a great thing that I really believe everyone should be able to control. The only thing better than this in my heart, is probably being financially free and completely out of debt.

Anything that involves being free, and truly independent is a great thing. Lately I developed one fear that I probably could say might be a good fear. I know fear isn’t good to have in some cases, but I did realize that in certain cases fear can be a gift. The type of fear that is a gift here that I feel will help you, is the fear of being in debt. If you fear debt then you’ll be less likely to become caught up in it. Always remember this first lesson on the gift, and the curse of fear because it will truly help you to reach far in life.

If, you genuinely and truly fear being in debt then you won’t freely make yourself fall in debt, and that’s a really true statement. You’ll be more aware of the decisions that you make, if you really fear debt because if you don’t fear it then you’ll fall in the trap. Once you fall in the trap then your whole life will be altered because once you’re in debt it can be very crucial in your life, so fear it use that as a gift so that you won’t fall for the trap. If you do fall in the trap then you will really be cursed then!

Being in debt is a form of modern day slavery and truthfully you don’t want to be in it. So fear it from the beginning, and you’ll truly prosper in many ways that you never expected that you ever would. Also never fear to sacrifice because sometimes there comes a time in life where you will have to make a sacrifice in order to truly flourish. Sacrifices can be made in different ways, so if you plan on being really successful definitely prepare yourself to make these sacrifices.

That’s another gift that you will offer yourself by not fearing making a great sacrifice, if you know that it will enhance your life. Living well is something we all want to do, and sometimes we have to make sacrifices in order to attain the type of living that we want. So, be prepared to make a sacrifice and never fear it because you’ll get the desired result that you want only if you’re really persistent. Never fear a great sacrifice that can help you out always keep that in the back of your mind because that can be a real gift, and not a curse.

People that are always scared, and that are always filled with fear might also become a liability for you. I would suggest not to or at least try your best not to really associate with individuals like this. If, you’re able to avoid them then do so because soon you’ll realize exactly what it is that I mean when I say that. It could be counterproductive when you’re trying to do one thing your way, and someone that you’re around is scared to participate.

They may slow you down, and eventually become a very huge burden on you, so I would recommend not to really associate with these type of folks. Time won’t stop for no one and you better realize that don’t make fear waste any time because you’ll never get any of that back. I really hope that you really will get everything down pack because it will help you more, and more every day. You will have to apply everything that you learn from this book when you feel it’s best to.

Observe, and always be aware because the more fearless that you become the better person that you will also become. You’ll start to no longer be weak minded, but become a stronger person holding your ground even better than you ever have before. No matter how you look at it I’m sure that you’ll see it from a different perspective, and start to completely think differently about it. So prepare to really decipher, and understand how to take charge and become the master of your own destiny once you’re able to conquer all of your fears!

CHAPTER 2…

FEAR OF FAILING

Everyone has this fear, and I would say that it is absolutely natural. After all who would really want to fail no one in their right mind would ever want to. We all fear failing a little even though some of us may not want to admit it. This fear only becomes dangerous when it gets directly in the way of anything that you may set out to do.

I know some folks that hate to fail so bad that they won’t even attempt whatever it is that they want to achieve because they fear failing at it. Whenever I ask them why, immediately the answer that I would receive was that they feared failing. They felt by not going after their goal this would eliminate their chance of failing. When really all this did was just contributed to them failing even more without them even knowing it.

You can’t fear failing because there will come a time in life where we all will fail. In fact failing could teach you a great lesson. Sometimes it is through trial and error when you learn the most. During this stage it’s almost like a scientific experiment, and you learn plenty of valuable information. You’ll learn what exactly you must do to avoid failing again.

You have to see what it was that you did wrong that made you fail, and try not to do the same mistake twice. You have to diagnose the problem, and don’t look at it from one angle you must look at it from many different angles. By doing so you’ll really get to see what you did wrong that caused you to fail in the first place. It almost feels like you’re getting a full 360 degree view on what made you fail.

Always learn from every failure, so that you’ll come out stronger, and rejuvenated ready to go back in to get your desired result this time. Don’t just settle because that won’t let you go nowhere. I’ve seen too much people that just settled, and then the buck stops there. By settling, and not going back in you just ruined your chances of ever turning that first failure into any type of win.

Imagine if a sports team that made it all the way to a championship game, and then lost had this quitting attitude. It would never be productive to their desired goal of winning at all. That’s why most teams that lose a championship game always knows that next year they’re going to try again, and try to win it this time. That’s the mindset of a true winner, and someone that doesn’t want to repeat being a failure.

Even right here you can apply the gift of failure to failure, and turn it into a positive just don’t make it become a curse. Use fearing to fail to a point that it makes you become focused always thinking about winning because you don’t want to become what you fear. You absolutely in no way want to become a failure because you know that it isn’t in your DNA to be a failure. You know that you’re better than that, and you will be better than that, if you use your will power.

There will always be a next time only if you’re ready to examine why you failed in the first place then go out, and do the opposite. Never let one bad decision get you down because if people thought like that society would never be where it is today. Picture if Thomas Edison had quit, if one of his inventions never worked right when he made it. Life probably would’ve been very different for all of us that inhabit this earth.

Instead he kept going, and really understood what he needed to do, so that he wouldn’t repeat the same mistake that made him fail in the first place. You need to do the same don’t let one thing get you down, or even hold you back because you’ll only be hurting yourself just trust me on that one. You want to just look at failure, and say Getaway. Once you do this then you’ll be absolutely limitless.

Often we’re the ones that put limits on ourselves, and really suffocate our own personal growth. Once you limit yourself then you just made yourself fail without even really knowing it. You ever heard the saying The only dumb question is not asking a question at all. Well the same thing can be applied to failing, and trying to achieve your goals. You’ll never know what could’ve happened, if you never tried.

Just keep