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    Every Child Can Succeed
    Every Child Can Succeed
    Every Child Can Succeed
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    Every Child Can Succeed

    By Cynthia Ulrich Tobias

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    This enlightening source shows parents how to utilize a “learning styles” approach to help their kids live up to their potential and find success in life.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherTyndale House Publishers
    Release dateApr 9, 2012
    ISBN9781604828870
    Every Child Can Succeed
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    Cynthia Ulrich Tobias

    Cynthia Ulrich Tobias is founder and CEO of AppLe St. (Applied Learning Styles) and coordinates education and commerce programs throughout North America and internationally. She is a speaker and the best-selling author of several books including Every Child Can Succeed, Bring out the Best in Your Child, Do You Know What I Like About You? and You Can’t Make Me (But I Can be Persuaded). She lives near Seattle, Washington.

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      Every Child Can Succeed - Cynthia Ulrich Tobias

      Chapter One

      How Can Such a Wonderful Kid Cause So Much Stress?

      Why can’t you just do what you’re told?

      "Look at me when I’m talking to you!"

      "This room is a mess!"

      You just don’t appreciate what you have.

      "Kids! They think they know it all—you can’t tell them anything!"

      You’d better watch your attitude!

      As a parent, you know that each of your children is a God-given gift with special talents and unique and wonderful characteristics. But let’s face it—the same child who gives you so much joy can also be your greatest challenge. In fact, you may have noticed that every child in your family presents a different challenge. How can children growing up in the same home with the same parents be so diverse? Why don’t your children automatically deal with the world in the same way you do? Do they deliberately annoy you? Are they trying to drive you crazy?

      Over the years, researchers have discovered many of the reasons each person is unique. There are so many pieces to this puzzle that for some people, the issue has become too complex. Researchers have identified several personality types, at least four different temperaments, and many diverse management and teaching styles.

      If it sounds overwhelming, it can be. But this book is here to offer you hope. Most busy parents, even when motivated, can’t spare the time to delve into ponderous academic literature, only to find they’ll have to dig out any practical nuggets for themselves. Ironically, many researchers of individual differences seem convinced that their model is the only one a person would need. Therefore, as you study a researcher’s work and approach, you’ll feel a need to fit yourself neatly into one of the categories. Even when the research and methods are sound, many who try to understand the theory give up in frustration when it comes to putting it into practice.

      In my first book, The Way They Learn, I introduced five different research models in the field of learning styles—inborn strengths and characteristics possessed by every individual.¹ If personality and temperament are some of the most significant portions of each person’s puzzle, then learning styles are the pieces that make up the border. (See puzzle diagram) Your learning style determines what makes sense to you, what’s most important, and what you need in order to fully understand and communicate information.

      Shortly after The Way They Learn was released, a junior high school in the state of Washington received some grant money for a project to help its Learning Assistance Program (LAP). Although the students in this program were all struggling in school, they weren’t eligible for special education funds or instruction. Many of these seventh, eighth, and ninth graders were failing numerous academic subjects, and several were bordering on juvenile delinquency. One teacher, Mrs. Troy,* had chosen to become a full-time instructional aide in order to work with these particular kids. She was also completing her certification as a learning styles specialist. Together we sat down and designed a program that would enable the LAP students to discover and use their learning style strengths to improve their performance in school, as well as to boost confidence in their ability to succeed in life. The school purchased a copy of The Way They Learn for each student in the program, and Mrs. Troy was able to use both formal (research-validated) and informal (abbreviated, nonscientific) instruments for assessing the students.

      Mrs. Troy was tireless in her efforts, and she single-handedly spent six weeks assessing each of the more than 80 students, helping them pinpoint their dominant learning style strengths in all five of the research models used in the book. I conducted several hours’ worth of instruction for the school staff and spoke to interested parents at a PTA program.

      The response of the students was overwhelmingly positive. They were flattered that an adult would even ask about how they learn. They couldn’t imagine that a teacher would actually want to develop alternative strategies for studying and learning. Although there were many success stories, one of my favorites is about Jake, a ninth grader who had one foot in the principal’s office and the other foot in Juvenile Hall.

      Mrs. Troy was determined to get to Jake. He was failing every subject and hadn’t done any homework for almost a year and a half. He’s a great kid, insisted Mrs. Troy. "He’s bright and capable, and he has a wonderful sense of humor. These grades do not reflect what Jake can do." After determining Jake’s dominant learning styles, she set up a conference with him.

      At first, Jake appeared disinterested in the results of his learning styles assessments. Mrs. Troy picked up a copy of The Way They Learn and pushed it across the desk to him.

      This is your book, Jake, she said.

      He grinned and shook his head. "Oh no, Mrs. Troy. I don’t read books."

      She persisted. The book is yours. I’d like you to just look through it, she said.

      He shrugged, picked up the book, and walked out.

      A few days later, Mrs. Troy received an urgent message in her mailbox in the faculty room. Jake’s mother wanted to talk to her right away. With some reluctance and a certain amount of dread, Mrs. Troy called. Jake’s mother insisted she come and have a conference in person, so Mrs. Troy arranged to meet with her that afternoon.

      Jake’s mom was almost breathless when she met with Mrs. Troy. She started talking right away. I don’t know what you’ve done to my son, she began. The other day he came home with this book. She held up Jake’s copy of The Way They Learn. He said, `Mom, you’ve got to read this book! This is me in this book!’ Then he made his father and me sit down at the kitchen table while he went through all the various learning style descriptions you talked to him about. He kept pointing out the ones that fit him. I’ve never seen him so excited about something he did at school.

      Mrs. Troy smiled, but before she could speak, Jake’s mom said, "Here’s the best part. Yesterday we were all going to go shopping for school supplies, and Jake asked if we would wait for him while he did his English homework. I almost fainted! We waited, and he finished every bit of homework for the first time in months! She leaned closer, and Mrs. Troy could see her eyes brimming with tears. I don’t know what you’ve done, but my son is a different boy. Tell me how to make this last!"

      Mrs. Troy was able to help Jake’s mom, along with dozens of other parents, develop practical strategies to work with their children’s learning style strengths. There are plans to continue and expand this program every year for all the students in the school, since many of them begged to be tested for learning styles even though they weren’t in the program. The students are excited about the possibilities.

      Learning styles is certainly not a magic formula or quick answer to all our problems. But it provides an invaluable framework that can enable us as parents and educators to focus on individual strengths and begin to build confidence within our children for becoming successful, lifelong learners. With our knowledge of learning styles, we can provide parents and teachers with a more detailed road map than we currently distribute through standard school systems. We need to keep finding many ways to help our children be successful, and the strategies in the following chapters will give you lots of fuel for the journey.

      You will find that this book, while it offers invaluable advice and diverse strategies, holds true to the concept of accountability and high standards of conduct. I do not endorse letting children rely on their learning styles as an excuse, or using their style to get away with inappropriate behaviors.

      Many adults have grown up feeling that they are not really as smart as everyone else. More and more children are finding that they just don’t fit into the traditional education system. Because of our research in learning styles, we have discovered and documented that there are many ways of being smart. Each of us was created as a unique and gifted individual. Even those born with severe physical limitations have been endowed with some wonderful gifts and abilities. What a relief it has been for literally thousands of people of all ages to discover that they really do possess capabilities and areas of strength.

      As you read this book, you will find that most of what you discover will be helpful for you in understanding yourself as well as your children. Keep an open mind as you read, and try to be as flexible as possible when it comes to helping your children succeed by using their learning style strengths. I believe you’ll be amazed at the difference your knowledge and use of learning styles will make, both within your own family and among your colleagues at work. You may even discover that the things about your children that frustrate you most are actually some of their greatest strengths and abilities.

      Plan of Action

      Keep a brief journal of your interactions with and observations of each of your children. If you don’t want to make entries daily, do so weekly. Use the following questions as guidelines.

      1.  What made_________(child’s name) happiest this week?

      2.  What frustrated him/her?

      3.  What conversation between the two of us this week stands out in my mind? Why?

      4.  What

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