Those Who Are Dangerous Sons

Unless otherwise stated, all Scripture quotations are taken from the King James Version of the Bible.

Those Who Are Dangerous Sons

Copyright © 2011 Dag Heward-Mills

Originally published under the title Fathers and Loyalty

by Parchment House 2011

This edition published 2014 by Parchment House

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EBOOK ISBN: 978-1-61395-929-9

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Contents

Chapter 1: How to Identify a Father

Chapter 2: How to Recognize and Receive Different Fathers at the Different Seasons of Life

Chapter 3: Ten Types of Fathers

Chapter 4: Seven Reasons Why Problems Pass from Fathers to Sons

Chapter 5: Sons Who Inherited Problems

Chapter 6: Seven Signs of a True Son

Chapter 7: Four Types of Sons

Chapter 8: Dangerous Sons

Chapter 9: Short Sighted Sons

Chapter 10: Three Rewards for Honouring Fathers

Chapter 11: Seven Supernatural Powers of a Father

Chapter 12: How Fathers Cause the Rise and the Fall of Many

Chapter 13: Four Marks of a Father

Chapter 14: Twenty Reasons Why a Son Must Be an Allos

Chapter 15: Why Some Sons Find It Difficult To Honour Fathers

Chapter 1

How to Identify a Father

For though ye have ten thousand instructors in Christ, yet have ye NOT MANY FATHERS: for in Christ Jesus I have begotten you through the gospel.

1 Corinthians 4:15

The gift of a father is a rare gift. Not every man of God is a father. Not everyone who teaches the Word of God is a father. Not all the visiting preachers and teachers were fathers.

Not every prophet is father and Paul pointed this out to the Corinthians.

A Father Is a Rare Gift

There will be many people who will make an input into your life. Instructors and teachers abound but these are different from fathers. A father’s input is comprehensive. A father gives you a complete package that goes further than a good teaching. A teacher is concerned about giving a good lesson. A prophet is concerned about ministering the power of God through visions, dreams and words of knowledge. But a father is concerned with your total welfare.

Because fathering involves much more, there are not many fathers! It is easier to go through the prepared notes than it is to give total care. People can be so difficult and so ungrateful that only fathers can handle them over the long term.

There are many, many pastors, evangelists and prophets, but a fathering prophet – who can find? That is why Paul said: You can have ten thousand instructors but you do not have many fathers.

The key characteristic of a father is not his age but his ability to produce after his own kind. Contrary to some opinions, there are many young people with a father’s heart.

In the natural, people often become fathers at a young age. The proof of fatherhood is in the children who are produced by the father. It takes love, commitment and patience to bring up children. In the end, the children attest to your fatherhood.

If you compare the ministries of Elijah and Elisha, for instance, you will find the differences between a fathering prophet and a non-fathering prophet. These differences become quite clear when you study their ministries. By comparing the ministries of Elijah and Elisha, you quickly see the differences between a man who has a father’s heart and one who does not.

Both Elijah and Elisha were excellent prophets. But Elijah had an additional gift of being a father. That is why he had a successor. Elisha had no successor. He cursed Gehazi who was next in line to him. He cursed Gehazi when he made a mistake with money. The father’s heart does not curse his only child.

The fathering spirit is that thing which causes a man of God to produce people just like himself in the ministry. Very simply put, the fathering gift is a manifestation of God’s love. It takes love to bring up people who don’t understand what is being done for them.

It takes love to bring up people who will not understand you for many years. Truly, God sends many, many teachers who minister to our lives. They will minister the lessons and the points that make up the doctrine. But a father will go many steps further. In addition to teaching you, he will minister the love and the patience that are needed to bring you into God’s perfect will.

Idealism in a minister makes him look for perfection all the time. Idealists and perfectionists are not usually good fathers. They often do not appreciate that the grace of God is working slowly in someone’s life. They insist on perfection all the time and that is not possible with human beings.

You can receive a man of God as a teacher. You can also receive him as a pastor. You may receive a man of God as a prophet or evangelist. It is also possible to receive him as a father.

May you find a father in this life! May you receive the capacity to love and to become a father yourself!

Chapter 2

How to Recognize and Receive Different Fathers at the Different Seasons of Life

God will send you different fathers at different times.

For though ye have ten thousand instructors in Christ, yet have ye not many fathers: for in Christ Jesus I have begotten you through the gospel.

1 Corinthians 4:15

God is going to send a number of different people to father you. The first of these is your earthly father whom you must receive properly. You must not see your earthly father as an ancient of days who is out of touch with the realities of modern life. Seeing your biological father as outmoded hinders you from receiving his great wisdom.

This biological father will have his limitations in fathering. Soon the relay will have to begin and the next person sent by the Lord to father you will arrive on the scene. Through his ministry, you will receive the fatherly care that you need to go through the next stage of your life. Then another person may arise who will play a fatherly role in your life. A relay of sorts is in motion! The baton of fatherhood has passed from one person to the other.

There are many things that your biological father doesn’t talk to you about. Maybe he should talk about everything, but he doesn’t. For many of us, our parents did not give us step by step counselling on choosing a wife or a husband. Most biological parents just made comments about different things in marriage.

That is often as far as their marriage counselling goes. Thank God for the pastors who often take up that role and guide children into marriage. Pastors often become the next father in the relay.

One day, my daughter asked me a question, Daddy, how do people become pregnant?

I was taken aback by the question but I answered, God makes them pregnant.

But she insisted, I know God makes them pregnant but how does it happen?

I mumbled some answer and managed to change the topic.

Later my wife said to me, You have to talk to your children about sex.

I answered, "Why should I? You talk to them about it."

We began to argue and she said, You are the head of the house so you are the one who must talk to them.

But I answered, You are their mother and you are always talking to them, so why don’t you talk to them about this as well?

She continued, It is your duty and you must play your role!

But I didn’t agree. I used my authority as the head of the house and delegated her to talk to the children about all these things.

You see, we had reached the place where our fathering and mothering abilities were wavering. We wished that God would send others to minister to our children as we had ministered to other people’s children. We were praying that the next father in the relay would appear on the scene and help guide the children to safety.

Among the hundreds of instructors and teachers, it is always important to recognize who the fathers are. Fathers have a wider scope of concern for your life. Their input goes beyond even what they say. You will discover that their ministry cares for you totally. Their ministry has an uncanny wide-ranging effect on your life.

One of the keys to recognizing a father is to recognize the love, care and direction of our Heavenly Father being transmitted through him to your life.

Many people mistakenly think that the verse says you have ten thousand teachers but you have one father. The Scripture says that you do not have many fathers. It says in other words that you have a few fathers.

Jesus said, Don’t call anyone father.

And call no man your father upon the earth: for one is your Father, which is in heaven.

Matthew 23:9

This is because no human being could truly be all that a father is supposed to be. All men fall short of this role and only the Heavenly Father truly exemplifies what a father is.

Have you not noticed how earthly fathers often compete and fight with their children? Even biological fathers can inflict a lot of pain and suffering on their children.

Many people hate their fathers. And there are many whose lives are distorted because of their fathers. This is ample evidence that fathering by the natural man is fraught with imperfections.

This is the reason why there is a need for what I call, the relay of the fathers.

The relay involves God sending one person after another for different phases of your life and ministry. It is important to recognize the different people as they walk into your life.

This is what Jesus was illustrating with the parable in Matthew 21. Indeed we will be judged by the way we receive the different fathers God sends to us.

Hear another parable: There was a certain householder, which planted a vineyard, and hedged it round about, and digged a winepress in it, and built a tower, and let it out to husbandmen, and went into a far country: and when the time of the fruit drew near, he SENT HIS SERVANTS to the husbandmen, that they might receive the fruits of it.

And the husbandmen took his servants, and beat one, and killed another, and stoned another. Again, he SENT OTHER SERVANTS more than the first: and they did unto them likewise.

But last of all he sent unto them his son, saying, They will reverence my son. But when the husbandmen saw the