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    Pause Points: The Mindful Pursuit of Health and Well-Being
    Pause Points: The Mindful Pursuit of Health and Well-Being
    Pause Points: The Mindful Pursuit of Health and Well-Being
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    Pause Points: The Mindful Pursuit of Health and Well-Being

    By Gene Harker MD Ph.D. and Curt Smith

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    If you have ever added a few extra pounds, spent too much time on the couch, damaged a relationship, alienated a coworker, or just simply felt burnt out, you know, first hand, the angst, guilt, and frustration of ill-health. Theres often a gap between the life we desire and the life we live.

    Pause Points is written to help us bridge this very real gap.

    In its pages, we discover Seven Essentials of Health and Well-Being:

    Love the Ones Youre With
    Fill Your Mind with the Best
    Bring Out the Best in Others
    Eat Mindfully
    Exercise Faithfully
    Find Peace and Relaxation
    Connect with the Creator

    With these Essentials in mind, Dr. Harker introduces us to Pause Pointsan experiential process designed to help us find the closeness, peace, and satisfaction we desire. Through a series of exercises, we learn to slow our pace, reflect, dream, plan, connect, and experience a new positive trajectory in life.

    Join the growing revolution of those who desire to flourish. Refusing to settle, they seek the very best, striving to get the most out of each day.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherWestBow Press
    Release dateFeb 14, 2011
    ISBN9781449710170
    Pause Points: The Mindful Pursuit of Health and Well-Being
    Author

    Gene Harker MD Ph.D.

    Gene Harker, MD PhD is dedicated to promoting health and well-being. He has four graduate degrees and more than 25 years of professional experience as a physician, psychologist, and professor. Dr. Harker is a frequent seminar speaker and he is published in professional journals. He and his wife, Lynette, have two adult children.

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      Pause Points - Gene Harker MD Ph.D.

      Contents

      Preface

      Getting Started

      Introduction

      Getting Started

      Seven Essentials

      of

      Health and Well-Being

      One

      Love the Ones You’re With

      Two

      Fill Your Mind with the Best

      Three

      Bring Out the Best in Others

      Four

      Eat Mindfully

      Five

      Exercise Faithfully

      Six

      Find Peace and Relaxation

      Seven

      Connect with the Creator

      Staying on Track

      Conclusion

      Staying on Track

      About the Author

      References and Notes

      Preface

      The unexamined life is not worth living.

      —Socrates

      Perhaps you have noticed how easy it is to get distracted and allow our health to slip. It is not that we consciously decide to risk our well-being. We do not plan to gain weight, alienate our friends, or sabotage our happiness. But in spite of good intentions and herculean effort, we cannot always find the health, happiness, and satisfaction we desire.

      When it comes to transcending the mundane and getting the most out of each day, it is easy to lose focus and stray from the desired path. We begin relationships with idealistic optimism and a beautifully imagined future but soon find ourselves angry, alienated, and stressed. We set out in our profession ready to make a difference, but it quickly becomes a struggle to get up in the morning. We begin our journey with every intention of flourishing and passionately seeking the best, yet we find ourselves in survival mode—merely getting by.

      Fortunately, it does not have to be this way. It is possible to seamlessly integrate healthy, life-giving practices into our daily lives. Growing scientific support links many of our everyday activities to tangible positive health outcomes.

      Based on more than twenty-five years of professional experience as a psychologist, physician, and professor, and tempered by my personal experiences as a friend, father, and husband, I have come to believe health is found at the intersection of mindfulness and purpose. Those who live well immerse themselves in the present, fully engaged in the moment, while simultaneously considering where they would like to be in the future.

      Health is discovered when we savor each moment and purposely do what we were made to do. And because we are biological, psychological, social, and spiritual beings, we are at our best when our efforts to live well involve every aspect of who we are. Health is certainly found in more obvious places like what we eat and how much we exercise, but it is also found in some rather surprising places like our friendships, our thoughts, our efforts to help others, and even our spirituality.

      The active businesswoman finds health when she leaves the day’s stress at the door and focuses intently on her three-year-old daughter, knowing both of them are better because of these precious connecting moments. The middle-aged man experiences health when he pauses to eat a nutritious lunch during his busy day, carefully selecting the right foods and mindfully experiencing every flavor, texture, and aroma. Health is also observed in the lives of individuals who are optimistic, appreciate their blessings, and believe they are valuable.

      In this book, I identify seven essentials of health and well-being. These essentials point us toward a holistic, health-filled existence. They represent a broad cross-section of life, touching on many dimensions of our experience, including our interactions with others, our minds, our diets, our exercise activities, our approach to managing stress, and our faith. When we embrace these essentials as our own and begin to nurture them, we find ourselves in the midst of a life-enhancing journey that leads naturally to a sense of peace and well-being.

      However, knowing the destination does not ensure our success. A beautifully imagined endpoint is only the beginning of our journey; we also need a map, or more accurately, a process to guide us. As I researched and wrote this book, I developed an approach to reaching our health-related goals called Pause Points. A Pause Point is a moment in time when we intentionally slow our pace, reflect on where we are, dream about where we would like to go, and experience a whole new direction.

      Some Pause Point moments are quite dramatic like the middle-aged man whose drinking has wrecked his family, ruined his career, and forced him to live on the street. He wakes one morning reeking of alcohol and his own urine and can no longer deny he has a problem that is decimating his life. He vows to stop drinking and begins to use the resources available to make a change.

      Most Pause Points, however, are less remarkable, fitting seamlessly into our everyday life. They are as simple as taking a walk, helping a co-worker, or connecting with a friend.

      While very diverse, all Pause Points have one thing in common: they all influence our health. Every time we slow our pace and alter our course, our lives are affected and our well-being is enhanced or diminished, depending on the path we choose. The challenge is to know the path that will take us in the right direction.

      In the pages that follow, you are introduced to a number of Pause Point experiences designed to help you get the most out of each day. As you proceed, slow your pace and take the time to mindfully engage in the exercises offered. Each exercise is designed as an experiment in which you are the sole participant. Try the suggestions and then observe their impact on your behaviors, thoughts, and feelings.

      It is my hope Pause Points will initiate a life-long inspirational journey of self-discovery and personal well-being.

      Acknowledgments

      Writing Pause Points was a team effort. There are many who deserve special recognition, beginning with my wife and children. They freely allowed me to spend countless hours on this project and truly are my inspiration. Curt Smith, who wrote this book with me, was instrumental in helping me clarify and organize many of the concepts you will encounter in the pages that follow. Special thanks is due Sue Bondurant, Jason Anhalt, Mike Frasure, Dr. Graham Carlos, and Dr. Debbie Abel for their many insightful comments on earlier drafts. I would also like to thank Dr. J.K. Jones, Doug Felton, John Sima, Kevin Hazelwood, Dr. Mark Moore, and Jon Huskins who made the effort to ask about this project, providing much-needed encouragement. I am indebted to Ashley Woehler from IBJ Book Publishing and Jennifer Taylor for their expert editorial help. Their insights and ideas improved the manuscript at various stages of its development. I also appreciate the many contributions made by the staff of Westbow Press. They helped polish, refine, and shape this book into its final form.

      Getting Started

      Introduction

      Getting Started

      Two roads diverged in the wood, and I—

      I took the one less traveled by,

      And that has made all the difference.

      —Robert Frost

      This was not at all how he imagined it.

      After spending a sleepless night taking an inventory of his life, Jerry came to the sobering conclusion: he was heading in the wrong direction. In relationships, where he once experienced intimacy, he now felt strain and alienation. Work no longer captured his imagination like it once did. Instead of exercising in the early morning, he now slept in. And his faith, which had been a critical integrating force in his life, had moved to the periphery, a barely recognizable add-on to Jerry’s harried existence. With his blood sugar creeping up, his pants growing snug, and his cholesterol rising, Jerry feared he would return from his next doctor’s visit with a fistful of prescriptions.

      Jerry’s story is all too often our story. The ideal self we dream about is miles from the real self we experience on a day-to-day basis. If we pause to reflect on our health and well-being, it is not unusual to discover we have strayed from the desired path.

      It is not that we intentionally set out to ruin our relationships, gain too much weight, or become cynical. We did not sit down one day and say, I’m going to get off track and start doing things that will lead to a miserable existence. Rather, the change begins as a subtle, insidious shift. The demands of a fast-paced life begin to squeeze out our good intentions. We want to live well, but work is making too many demands. We hope to make it to the gym, but our time is consumed by laundry, dishes, and paying the bills. Survival becomes the goal and any hope for flourishing is reserved for the elite few—you know, the ones living on the other side of the fence where the grass is greener.

      Fortunately, this does not have to be the case. It is possible to reverse this trend and begin a different experiential journey. This book is about resisting external factors that might impose an unhealthy direction, finding meaning and purpose, and then living in harmony with that purpose. It is written for those who desire to enjoy life and savor each moment along the way.

      Based on a growing body of literature, and informed by my professional and personal experiences, I have come to believe well-being is found by individuals who live mindfully and purposefully. It is the companion of those who immerse themselves in whatever is in front of them at any given moment without losing their identity or direction in life. This kind of health is demonstrated by the busy doctor who sets aside her packed schedule to hold the hand of a patient facing a life-threatening illness, choosing in that moment to share meaningful human touch. It is observed in the practitioner of faith who frequently pauses to pray and meditate, seeking an intimate connection with God. Health is a whole-person experience, intentionally lived in the here and now.

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      A few years ago, I was invited to join some dear friends for a five-day hiking trip in the Grand Canyon. As I hiked down the trail that first morning, with a cool, gentle breeze blowing against my face, I was transfixed by the unparallel beauty that surrounded me. The cerulean, cloudless sky formed the perfect border for the rock formations with their many-colored hues. It was a rich sensory experience filled with incredible moments of awe and wonder.

      Healthy living is like hiking the Canyon; those who live well know where they are going, but they are in no hurry because the journey itself has its own intrinsic rewards. While it is purposeful, with clear destinations and benchmarks, the fun is found along the way. Those who desire to get the most out of each day have a destination, a desired future in mind, but they live fully engaged in the present moment.

      Strangely, however, living well is not automatic or linear. Common sense tells us that it should be simple—but it is not. The default path in life often leads to isolation, alienation, strife, angst, and ill health. We all know how easy it is to experience disharmony. Who has not screamed at another person, felt the pain of isolation, or eaten too much junk food?

      One of the most widely accepted generalities of modern psychology is bad is stronger than good.1 There is consistent and compelling evidence suggesting that negative events have a more pronounced and lasting impact than positive events. The soldier exposed to a horrific battle lasting only a few minutes can be affected for the remainder of his life. Similarly, the child who was the victim of abuse can face significant issues well into adulthood. There is little, if any, doubt that traumatic experiences are life altering. But contrast this with positive experiences. While trauma has a lasting impact, there is no comparable counterpart when it comes to positive experiences. No matter how much pleasure is gained from a particular event, its positive impact is fleeting.

      Even when we look at more mundane day-to-day occurrences, the impact of negative events lasts

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