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    Relationship the Real Deal: The Truth . . . at Last
    Relationship the Real Deal: The Truth . . . at Last
    Relationship the Real Deal: The Truth . . . at Last
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    Relationship the Real Deal: The Truth . . . at Last

    By Lon Golnick and Sandy Golnick

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    Relationship: The Real Deal returns couples to the experience of freedom, ease, and satisfaction that is natural to relationship by revealing the real causes of the breakdowns that displace that experience.

    Relationship is the natural state of being human and is fundamental to everyone’s experience of being known, valued, and fulfilled. So how is it that many relationships which begin with love or friendship turn sour … or even collapse?

    In straightforward, lighthearted language, founders of RelationshipByDesign™ Lon and Sandy Golnick guide couples on a journey through their own experience, rather than feeding them data from endless studies of others in an attempt to help understand their own relationship. Readers discover how they were destined to experience disappointments, upsets, and frustrations in a relationship and why attempts to improve, fix, or change their relationship, their partner, and themselves only exacerbate the problems. Lon and Sandy disclose hidden truths about the nature and design of relationship and illuminate previously unseen mechanisms that undermine all relationships. Relationship: The Real Deal is an opportunity for couples to break free of relationship killers and experience freedom—a pathway for creating new relationship unfettered by the past.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherOpen Road Integrated Media
    Release dateMay 7, 2019
    ISBN9781642793031
    Relationship the Real Deal: The Truth . . . at Last

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      Relationship the Real Deal - Lon Golnick

      Introduction

      Regarding relationships, you have three things in common with virtually every other human being in the world:

      1.You want to – and often do – experience joy, ease and fulfillment in your relationships.

      2.You also experience upsets, disappointments and frustrations in your relationships; and your efforts to deal with them have often led to more upsets, disappointments and frustrations.

      3.You don’t know what a relationship is.

      We live our lives in relationships – families, marriages and other committed relationships, friendships, business partnerships, communities, etc. Yet the vast majority of human beings have never asked the question, What is a relationship? That includes the people who give you professional and/or friendly advice in order to have your relationships work for you. But how can you have your relationships work when you don’t know what a relationship is?

      When you have finished this book, you will know what a relationship is. Insights and truths that have been hidden from your view will emerge and produce the freedom, ease and fulfillment that are natural to being in a relationship – any relationship. The nature and design of human relationships will no longer be a mystery to you, and neither will the source of upsets, frustrations and disappointments in your relationships. You will no longer be daunted by the seemingly endless and complex barrage of issues and concerns that seem to engulf human relationships. Fear, suppression and resignation will begin to dissolve and be replaced by understanding, confidence and a sense of possibility in your relationships.

      The way you are related to relationships will be transformed!

      Chapter One

      Your relationship with relationships

      If you are in any way similar to most human beings, your relationships – whether romantic, family, work, friendships, etc. – are a fundamental concern for you. We don’t necessarily mean a concern as a worry. We mean that your relationships are important to you. In fact, we think that if you tell the truth, your relationships are ultimately the most important aspect of your life.

      Even if you were to say your life’s work is the most important thing in your life, your work is good for nothing if it makes no difference, if it isn’t shared with others and acknowledged by them. Just imagine doing your work in solitary confinement for the rest of your life; and imagine that everything you accomplish goes into your grave with you and remains unseen and unavailable to the world. Now, if you say that you would be satisfied with that, then put this book down and go to work, because this book is part of an ongoing exploration into the phenomenon called relationship.

      As an exploration, this book is not the analysis of the problems in relationships. Nor is it an examination for flaws and faults. It is also not an investigation to find the culprits or villains in relationship breakdowns. The purpose of exploration is to discover something new (and maybe even useful). In fact, a definition of explore is "to travel in a region previously unknown or little known in order to learn about its natural features, inhabitants, etc."

      This exploration starts with the beginning of relationships and goes through all of the ups and downs to the end. Most of us try to begin our relationships at the end – at the happily-ever-after part; and the rest remains a mystery – especially the stuff that keeps the happily-ever-after from happening.

      You have probably been slumbering blissfully in the fantasy that someday your relationships will turn out like your dreams. You hope that if this one doesn’t work out, the next one will. The real prince or princess will finally ride in and fulfill your dreams.

      Sorry. We are not the fairy godmother and godfather that will make your dreams come true. We don’t have the mystical fairy dust that will have everything magically turn out. We don’t even have a new and unique set of instructions for what to do or how to behave.

      Over the years we have observed that the most effective actions people take are the ones that they come up with themselves when they are awake. So our purpose is simply to help you wake up to what is having your relationships turn out the way they do.

      This book is intended to open your eyes to what you are really getting yourself into – or have gotten yourself into – when you get into a relationship of any kind.

      We suggest that you are stuck in old, historically-based ideas, beliefs and points of view that are shaping your relationships today. Furthermore, we suggest that you are unaware of what those ideas, points of view and beliefs are. It’s about time that you become aware of them.

      We are going to challenge you with some straight questions and straight talk, designed to reveal and inspire thinking that will result in renewed and lasting experiences of affinity, ease, spontaneity and fulfillment in your relationships.

      All forms of relationships – family, business, friendships, etc. – are included in our exploration because all relationships are rooted in the same fundamental design. However, in this book, you will probably see a tendency to address relationships of the romantic kind – the relationships that have you singing in the shower with joy, and the ones that keep you up at night, crying yourself to sleep.

      Your relationship with this book

      Let’s begin our exploration of relationship by looking at your relationship with this book.

      It could be said that in buying this book and then beginning to read it, you put yourself into a relationship with the book; and just as in any other relationship you have, you are looking for something that will benefit you. In your relationship with this book you are likely expecting to find something that will be useful to you in your relationships.

      You probably selected this book in much the same way that you began many of your relationships. Maybe you were intrigued by the cover (attraction), or you related to the title (interest/chemistry), or you simply had a feeling that this book and you belong together (soul mates’ kismet).

      But it’s possible you won’t make it to the end of the book, just as people don’t make it through to the end in many

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