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    Living on the Edge: Risky Advice from a Senior Millennial
    Living on the Edge: Risky Advice from a Senior Millennial
    Living on the Edge: Risky Advice from a Senior Millennial
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    Living on the Edge: Risky Advice from a Senior Millennial

    By Thomas N. Wisley

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    Living on the Edge is risky advice for living an adventurous life. I begin with a brief sketch about my life and the influences that took me in the direction it did. I discuss communication models and paradigms that have helped me live in cross-cultural risky environments. I learned to validate people without endorsing values that are counter to my own. I’ve learned how to create a space to put things I haven’t understood or about which I didn’t yet have enough information to make an informed decision. I’ve learned that it’s not a bad thing to be a “child of the light” in times of darkness. These and more comprise advice, some of it risky, I’d like to give my millennial friends.

    I suggest that God is the great Recycler and that he doesn’t make junk, and there’s more.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherWestBow Press
    Release dateJul 10, 2019
    ISBN9781973666578
    Living on the Edge: Risky Advice from a Senior Millennial
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    Thomas N. Wisley

    Tom lived extensively in Southeast Asia with his family in Thailand, Cambodia, the Philippines and Japan. He and his wife Sandi started this adventure in cross cultural living and teaching in Thailand on the Thai/Lao/Cambodia border during the Vietnam war in 1966. They ended their journey in Japan teaching at Tokyo Christian University and Seminary. He has facilitated graduate level leadership development courses in Africa and India. In what he calls his most exciting adventure is their involvement mentoring Millennials. I love being one of them, in a sense, a Senior Millennial. Tom and Sandi have been married 56 years and live in Tucson Arizona. They served as missionaries under the Christian & Missionary Alliance in Thailand and Cambodia in public health among people with Hanson’s disease, theological education, and refugee resettlement. He served as administrator and as faculty professor at the Alliance Biblical seminary in the Philippines. He held faculty positions at Biola University, Simpson University, Seattle Pacific University and at Tokyo Christian University. After retirement he and his wife facilitated courses under Development Associates International. Blessed with 4 children (Daniel, Scott, Tami and Mike) they have 11 grandchildren, and 6 great grandchildren. Tom holds a BA in Missions/Theology from Simpson University, an MA in Missiology and PhD in Intercultural Studies from Fuller Theological Seminary. Being the most senior members at Redemption Tucson we enjoy an active serving community with many Millennials. Most every Sunday is an exciting ride in relevant contextual preaching through the relevant theological sand and surf and refreshing authentic worship.

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      Living on the Edge - Thomas N. Wisley

      Copyright © 2019 Thomas N. Wisley.

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      This book is a work of non-fiction. Unless otherwise noted, the author and the publisher make no explicit guarantees as to the accuracy of the information contained in this book and in some cases, names of people and places have been altered to protect their privacy.

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      WestBow Press rev. date: 07/05/2019

      CONTENTS

      Foreword

      A few Disclaimers

      Introduction

      A Survivor, A Fiddler on the Roof!

      Chapter 1   Who am I?

      1.1 Introduction to Cross-culturalism.

      1.2 Calling

      1.3 Training

      Chapter 2   Intergenerational Understandings

      2.1 These Millennials

      2.2 Communications

      2.3 Learning from Millennials

      2.4 Worldview

      Chapter 3   Risky Advice

      3.1 Live on the Edge!

      3.2 Be Receptor Oriented

      3.3 Validate others but don’t endorse everything you see.

      3.4 Be Discerning

      3.5 Don’t let education get in the way of learning.

      3.6 Expect the Unexpected.

      3.7 Take the bitter with the sweet.

      3.8 Build a shelf in your mind on which you place things you don’t understand.

      3.9 Learn to live with paradox.

      3.10 God doesn’t make junk and in fact He is the Great Recycler.

      3.11 Avoid engaging people who are closed.

      3.12 Questions are better than statements.

      3.13 Receptor oriented communication is better than me-centered.

      3.14 Don’t burn your bridges; you might have to cross them again.

      3.15 Don’t let lack of planning create an emergency for others.

      3.16 Life isn’t about how often you fall.

      3.17 Trust God, love people, use things.

      Conclusion

      Be a child of the light.

      FOREWORD

      I hope the title of this book is more of a challenge than a turn-off. I mean, who really wants to listen to the advice of another? Fortunately, there are some who do, at least some who want the input of others who’ve been there, done that. It’s to those people I’m writing.

      So, what do I mean by risky advice?

      The Cambridge Dictionary defines advice as an opinion that someone offers about what you should do or how you should act in a particular situation. The word risky suggests danger, fraught with the threat of failure or loss. Putting these words together I hope to convey the idea that the danger of failure or loss might ensue if you follow any advice I might give. I say this tongue in cheek. I find many who seek it.

      A FEW DISCLAIMERS

      First, there are good books that delve deeply and strategically into the Millennial worldview. I’ve attempted to summarize some of those sources so that I can focus primarily on the advice section. In that regard I don’t profess to be an expert on the nuances of Millennial worldview.

      Second the reason I’m writing with Millennials in mind is because I like this generation. I’ll say more about that below but want to clarify some of the bad press the Millennial generation has gotten. However I distinguish between Millennials who share the Christian or Biblical worldview from a non-Christian or secular worldview.

      Third, I’m accustomed to this age group. I like their unique generational characteristics; their freshness, aliveness, alert minds and eagerness for new experiences.

      Fourth I’ve observed that many Christian Millennials are not only open to mentorship but also desirous for it. Much of the content for this book has been gleaned from my interactions with Christian Millennials both at the Church where my wife and I attend and in private mentoring sessions we have had with Christian Millennials.

      Finally, my cross-cultural training in culture and communications contribute heavily to my interest in cultural differences, including generational differences. Insights from cultural Anthropology and Intercultural Communications help me to understand people from within their cultural world. I learn about their worldview, their values, language, social structure, religious orientation and the like. I have learned to respect people within their culture without endorsing everything I see or experience there.

      For example I value many African cultural features. But female mutilation is not one of them. The same is true of the traditional practice among many Indian cultures of the Suttee (widow burning). By Christian standards these cultural practices are inhumane and immoral. There may have been rational and socioeconomic reasons for these practices at one time but they do not supersede the humane reasons for banning them. I will maintain throughout that there is much to be respected in all cultures. That does not mean that everything practiced in a culture is ok. Extreme individualism in Western culture can be as dehumanizing as are honor killings in Middle Eastern cultures. Behind all cultural practices is a prophetic voice from a Christian perspective that measures all cultural forms and practices in a more Godly and human way.

      INTRODUCTION

      A Survivor, A Fiddler on the Roof!

      There he sits, perched precariously on a rooftop, violin in hand, playing a haunting tune introducing the theme of the Fiddler on the Roof. It’s one of my favorite scenes describing a life full of risk and adventure as he watches life.

      Would you agree that this illustrates reality for most of us? Is not life full of calculated risks? Boarding an airplane for an extended flight; driving 75 mph on a crowded freeway; embarking on an academic program; marriage? Birthing children? Starting out on a new job?

      The TV program Survivor is a metaphor describing what I mean. It was wildly popular for a time and exemplified a lust for danger and adventure. People were portrayed as survivors in supposed primitive and dangerous environments. Young strong bodies and minds were pitted against the forces of nature. Members of the team had as one of their goals to discredit other members, the idea being to vote people out of the community one by one. Intrigue and entrapment were common to eliminate members until only one remained, the sole survivor.

      I like to think of Christian Millennials in this way, but as Survivors in Reverse. Whereas Survivor sought to expel the weak person in the group and eliminate him or her, Christian Millennials look for ways to include the weak link and seek to help that person become stronger, thereby contributing to a community of committed strong collaborating individuals, a value wonderfully consistent with one of the core values of Millennials in general.

      This is one of the things that attract me

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