Empowered

EMPOWERED

Secrets of your inner child

Liberating childhood & adult time zones

Amazon.com #1 Best Selling author:

Louise L. Kallaway

EMPOWERED

Secrets of Your Inner Child

Second edition published by Sharanis Publishing House 2021

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© Louise L. Kallaway 2021

The moral rights of the author have been asserted.

Originally published in 2018 as ‘Making Friends with Yourself’

(ISBN: 9780648245599) by Animal Dreaming Publishing

Second edition published and printed in 2019 by Animal Dreaming Publishing.

ISBN (sc): 978-0-6450811-7-6

ISBN (e): 978-0-6450811-6-9

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Disclaimer: The information in this book is intended for spiritual and emotional guidance only. It is not intended to replace medical advice or treatment.

"On what do we base our adult lives, if not our childhood?

Where do our feelings about ourselves, our fears, attitudes, behaviours, beliefs and generational expectations have their origins? Where else did we learn to conform?

Separated from our foundations, we don’t make sense."

Liberating childhood and adult time zones is a celebration of our empowered lives.

I dedicate this book to you and your passion for life.

May your soon to be liberated personal power be an inspiration to others.

Acknowledgements

To my family: Paige and Simon, Suzie and Dean; and your children – my grandchildren: Ethan, Isabelle and Imogen, Sophia, Blake and Isaac, respectively. I love all your inner child differences and thank you for your hearty contributions to my life and this book.

To my mum and dad: thank you for my wonderful childhood memories and for initiating my curiosity and lifelong interest in time and repeated generational cycles. Respectfully and now amusingly, had it not been for my difficult teenage years, I doubt my ‘Life Education’ series of books would have been written. I wish to acknowledge your contribution and sincerely thank you. Much love.

To my delightful friends: thank you specifically to Medha for your psychic intuitive healing; to Monika for your passion and astrological insights; to Yolla for your beautician’s secrets and your wonderful support for this book; to Beverley and your magnificent eye for style and beauty, and our long lunches; and to my dear friend Joan: I salute your exquisite command of dignity and elegance. I would also like to sip to my neighbours and to all those people who make my life joyful! You have contributed in your own special ways. A big thank you.

To my new publishers, Sharanis Publishing House. Thank you Shar and Russ for your belief in my ‘Life Education’ series of books. To my editor, Brooke Lyons, thank you too, for your fabulous contribution to the editing processes in this series of books.

I wish to acknowledge and thank the Universe for its guidance, humour and wisdom. I trust this book has lived up to its expectations.

I would also like to acknowledge my late beautiful felines and devoted companions, Queenie and Duchess, who became my secretaries, personal assistants and sounding boards for the original version of this book. Your contribution is noted ladies. You will always be a huge part of the memories I attach to this book. Thank you. You were my feet on the ground; I love you and miss you so much!

Contents

Acknowledgements

Introduction1

Part 1 THE CHILDHOOD TIME ZONE

The gist9

Overview11

Your invitation13

Primitive programming16

How primitive programs affect us today19

Making sense of my life 21

Debriefing the childhood model27

Overview29

The foundations31

The childhood model34

Childhood model fundamentals38

The childhood maze43

Overview45

A world of differences47

Your inner child51

Carer concepts53

Child concepts57

Your emotional nature vs nuture59

Taming a child 62

You and your inner child today 70

Remaining ‘unconscious’73

Overview75

The benefits77

Living in your inner child’s comfort zone79

Part 2 THE TRANSITIONING ADULT TIME ZONE

Becoming ‘conscious’87

Overview89

The three major stages of your development91

Consciousness97

Transition 101

Your veiled personal power 104

Changing concepts 107

Part 3 THE ADULT TIME ZONE

Your emotional life119

Overview121

The brain124

Feelings127

Accessing your emotional life130

Defining moments136

Emotional pain 142

Anger 145

Emotional satisfaction 151

Your emotional relationship 154

Creating your new self-image 156

Your belief system163

Overview165

Your beliefs - your world 169

Your beliefs and you 175

Your beliefs and belonging -

the things we do for love 183

Your beliefs - your relationships 187

Your beliefs and words 193

Your adult beliefs about you 199

Your behaviours205

Overview207

Behaviour - internal and personal 209

Behaviour - coping strategies 212

Behaviour - avoidance 217

Behaviour - copied 223

Behaviour - character building 226

Liberating childhood patterns231

Overview233

Anger, resentments and regrets 237

Naming your offenders 242

‘No rules’ regulations 244

Unlocking your patterns 248

Exposing your regrets 255

Self-forgiveness - a clean slate 260

Becoming the impostor263

Overview265

Fear - an intellectual departure 267

Self-talk 281

You - the impostor 287

Personal success295

Overview297

Love and self-acceptance 299

Love and high sensitivity 301

Love and affirmation 305

Expanding horizons309

Overview313

Emotional maturity 314

Victorious 320

Creating a ‘real life’ adventure 324

Coda329

Thank you331

About the author333

References335

Introduction

Hello and a big welcome to the updated version of Empowered – Secrets of Your Inner Child.

I feel honoured and privileged to offer you this shift in adult awareness. I appreciate and thank you for your trust and support. Generally, little is known about our primitive programming, life processes and ‘the system’, and yet remarkably, these processes and programs sculpt our lives! Have no doubt, your curiosity into your inner child and the two time zones – childhood and maturing adult – will be well-rewarded. Empowered – Secrets of Your Inner Child has been written to liberate, honour and celebrate your predictable maturing needs.

I would like to add here that I am not a psychologist. My books offer ‘Life Education’, an alternative to the powerlessness endemic in traditional thinking. They are the result of my 30-year search in an endeavour to demystify the power behind the origins of primitive programming, life processes and ‘the system’ generally. It is my logical, analytical and reasoning value of the results of this epic investigation that will bring incredible clarity to your programmed development. Welcome to your survival intelligence and beyond. You will soon see how our primitive programming is dumbing you down today.

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Do you have any childhood photos of yourself at different ages? If possible, please locate them and perhaps use them as bookmarks. You will feel a lot closer to yourself when you are looking at your young, innocent face, sharing your inner child’s secrets.

This book is based on the understanding and meaning of Aristotle’s quotation:

Give me a child until he is seven and I will show you the man.

Aristotle was an Ancient Greek philosopher, C. 384 BC to 322 BC. He recognised that there were two time zones operating in adult lives. The origins of this system, therefore, had to go back even further in time. Yes … the origins of this system went back to primitive times.

My background

I have been intrigued by life processes since my difficult teenage years. Those years were confusing to me: why was I praised and encouraged as a child when I did things ‘all by myself’, but a decade later why, as a teenager – working fulltime and earning my keep – was my need to make some minor, independent decisions labelled as teenage rebellion? ‘Why do they still think of me as a child … as if time hasn’t changed anything?’ A giant question mark appeared.

Another decade or so later, as my former husband and I were thinking of starting our family, the question mark reappeared. ‘How can I avert history repeating itself?’ I wondered. Little did I know at the time, that my ambitious project to demystify the origins and the power behind these programs, hoping to explain why generational cycles repeat themselves, would take me more than 30 years in my leisure time.

I made three major discoveries in my search that helped me to understand and make sense of life processes, and how and why they go on impacting the adult today. Without this information, we eventually become Aristotle’s compliant and frustrated seven-year-old adult!

The first of my major discoveries was that we really do have an inner child!

The inner child is often dismissed as a mystical, angelic cute little angel with wings, but this interpretation could not be further from the truth!

From birth to seven years old, your inner child, my inner child, in fact, everyone’s inner child assembles a childhood model or a blueprint for life. The childhood model was the second of my important discoveries.

My third major discovery was that the beliefs contained in this model are brought forward into our adult lives via primitive, automatic subconscious responses. More on these responses as we progress.

Putting it all together: every time we, as adults, are in a similar previously experienced situation or a childhood belief that is contained in our model and stored in our subconscious mind: voila! We get an automatic subconscious reaction … we know exactly what to do, how to behave, what we believe and how we feel. We have been on autopilot!

The childhood model places enormous constrictions on the unaware adult. Childhood is about control and limits. Therefore, if we are still living vicariously through our childhood model – and most of us are – we will be controlled and limited too by its crude, outdated, idealistic beliefs and automatic subconscious responses. In other words, the childhood model interferes with today’s reality and our adult ‘conscious’ version of ourselves.

Would you like to take a few minutes to process this life-changing information? How are you feeling?

Knowledge of the childhood model and its likely contents represents a significant gift and shift to your adult understanding. It wasn’t until my life became completely unstuck that I realised my childhood had most of my answers – but not always, in ways I expected.

I wish to say thank you to the Universe. As I came across gaps in my understanding, the missing details were either channelled to me or I found myself in ‘real-life’ situations that enabled me to write with authenticity. It has been an interesting journey and may I say, the Universe has a very mischievous sense of humour. Consciousness seems to lead naturally to spirituality, hence the channelling.

This is your new, up-to-date adult time zone understanding, giving you an opportunity to create a ‘dream-team’ consciousness with your inner child and take the leadership role into your new and empowered life.

No longer will your seven-year-old inner child’s beliefs subconsciously direct your personal and business life! Excellent!

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A few notes before we begin.

You will need a journal to jot down extra personal notes and answers that are more expansive than the spaces I have allocated, and for specific journal exercises.

Sometimes I refer to ‘your inner child’ as ‘your child’ and vice versa. Those two expressions are interchangeable.

As usual, I try to remain as neutral as possible throughout this book too.

I tend to use the masculine ‘he’ or ‘him’ rather than ‘he/she’ or ‘him/her’. The masculine has always been accepted in this kind of situation. There is no gender bias. Trust me, it makes for a much easier read.

There is some repetition throughout this book. The repetition has the dual purpose of bringing important information back into your consciousness as we move forward, but also repetition is the way we learn.

The word ‘judgements’ is usually associated with intellectual judgements, but I am using the word ‘judgements’ to encompass suppositions, ideals, perceptions and presumptions. In this sense, they are all the judgements made by a literal, instinctual child.

The speed you choose to move through the sections and chapters is your choice. May I suggest you invest time in Section IX – Liberating childhood patterns. The ‘good riddance’ result and its ‘lightening’ effect will be well-worth your time and effort.

Lastly, should I mention anything that causes you concern, please consult a counsellor.

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From my heart to yours: I hope this book touches on something that is deeply personal to you; something you may not have allowed into the light or shared with anyone else, or perhaps you may not have fully understood its long-term implications. Big shifts and transforming changes are imminent in your adult time zone.

Please allow me to take you and your inner child by the hand and lead you to powerful new insights that will not only make sense of your life, but will give you an opportunity to power-up and expand your life, exponentially. Welcome to my world. Let’s find out what a handful you really can be! 

Part 1

The childhood time zone

Section I

The gist

Overview 11

Chapter 1 Your invitation 13

Chapter 2 Primitive programming 16

Chapter 3 How primitive programs

affect us today 19

Chapter 4 Making sense of my life 21

Overview

Firstly, may I suggest if you are one of those people, like me, who skips introductions because you can’t wait to get into the book, please make an exception this time and read this one, so you don’t miss the important and powerful basics. Thank you.

After the initial ‘getting to know you’ in Chapter 1: Your invitation, we are going back to primitive times, before Aristotle was born. I will introduce you to some of the primitive programs – our survival intelligence – we were born into that sculpt our lives but seem to be lost