'Don't tell the
grievers to be strong as grief is not a sign of weakness; it is a normal and natural reaction,' Kioko says.
The privileging of intersubjectivity-based therapy allows the
griever's expectations in bereavement to expand and make way for new possibilities, freeing them from the need to let go and measure their bereavement by a societal norm or psychological model.
Luke quickly noticed a common desire among the
grievers.
Hirsch even looks at the
griever who does not believe, like himself, but wishes he could in order to find peace or relief from grief:
A small voice inside of me says, You'll never get to be a Maze Runner, Katarina--you're blind and you'll get eaten by the
Grievers for sure.
According to the DPM,
grievers should oscillate between the loss-oriented and restoration-oriented dimensions; problems can occur when they do not (Stroebe & Schut, 2001).
It is aptly described as a "roadmap through grief," featuring four stories of different losses, and 40 separate suggested activities to help the
griever get in touch with his/her reaction and work through the process.
(6) For additional background information on the surveys, see
Griever, Lee, and Warnock (2001); Bertaut,
Griever, and Tryon (2006); and the annual survey reports released by the Treasury Department available at www .treasury.gov/resource-center/data-chart-center/tic/Pages/fpis.aspx.
Disenfranchised grief occurs when a relationship is not recognized, a loss is not recognized, and a
griever is not recognized (Doka, 1989).
Grief typically occurs around the experience of a loss and abates as the
griever processes and accommodates to that loss.
Madsen moves on to discuss
Griever: An American Monkey King in China, in which Vizenor highlights the parallels between the Anishinaabe trickster and the Chinese Monkey King.
Once he died, she wanted to love him more than anyone, to be his only
griever, and it made her jealous to think of people knowing him in ways she might have had he lived longer.