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Casandra Lopez Espinosa Professor H English 114 December 6, 2013 Word Count: 1,520 Discover and Create Throughout life I've acquired responsibilities, fun, judgment, solutions, and many other aspects that had a great impact in the structure of my life. Many experiences have occurred, such as the creation of an unexpected friendship. I've come to know that you can create moments in life that throughout the process, without knowing, you reveal things you wouldn't expect. Unexpected moments can give you insights about new information that can impact your life. My perspective about life is you need confidence and sometimes judgment in a sense of good belief to maintain a healthy lifestyle I've come upon an unexpected occurrence in meeting a loser, annoying, and out of the ordinary friend. Back in my sophomore year, in English and Geography class, there stood a person. He was a multi-colored dresser. He would always wear unmatching clothing. One day he wore blue plants, a yellow shirt, orange socks, ripped red Nike's and a green hat. In my point of view, I didn't think he knew how to dress or have a sense of style and fashion. This person hung out with people who I thought were weird, and infuriating. This guy had friends who were creepy, weird, annoying, and lonely. His group had guys that thought they were "cool" when in reality they were creepy in ways where if a girl would talk to them they would get to over

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excited and start thinking and talking perverted. Everyone in my academy, who surrounded them would avoid them and label them to the extent where the whole academy would look at them weird and annoyed. They were annoying when it came to them trying to attract attention. I don't know what they were thinking, but they weren't funny and it just made their situation worse. They would always be disruptive, scandalous and never let the teacher teach. One time they were screaming and making noise every time the teacher tried to speak, the teacher would try and talk but then they would shout blah, blah, and blah every time he wanted to say something. It never stopped in the classroom, it continued into the hallways, the patio, the cafeteria and even afterschool. What was really interesting about his group was that not one single guy had a girlfriend or girls in their group. But yet they always stated they scored the best girl, or they were in a relationship, or how they did things with them. I never noticed his appearance, he only grabbed my attention when he would be super annoying and he would really get under my skin. It was a repetitive action, he would always aggravate and irritate me; he just wouldn't shut up. Just the sight of him would frustrate me, knowing how irritated I would get by hearing his voice; looking at him just as easily got me mad because he was plainly annoying. He would interrupt my lectures, would try so hard to get peoples attention, and would always look at me with this ugly facial expression, by raising his eyebrows, staring at me from head to toe, and grudging his nose. Every single feature about him irritated me but to an extent someone irritated me the most. Interestingly enough, I had myself in a situation where I was in an argument with this girl that would always run her mouth about people, this day she decided to talk about me. She was a girl that was so hypocritical and she would be such a bitch. I just wanted to punch her in the face every time I saw her running her mouth. We started arguing in class after I accidently heard her

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saying Im a bitch, conceited, fake and stupid. Right then in the middle of the argument, I heard somebody laughing. I turned and, sure enough, it was him, he was laughing and I turned and began to laugh as well. That must have been the first time he never got under my skin. Later, after noticing him in the middle of the argument, after a whole school year, I finally noticed his presence in class. Then I realized I had him in my class all this time, I just never bothered to pay attention. This specific incident made me realize that a friendship was hiding underneath the "annoying, lonely, loser" guy I knew. I never saw the possibility of ever establishing a friendship with someone who I thought was really infuriating. I dont know what changed my opinion about talking to him. I found myself engaging in a conversation with him after he messaged me saying "hey weirdo." When he sent me the message on Facebook, I asked myself, "Why the hell would he message me?" After that message I thought I should reply since I had already read it. I never told my friends I was talking to him, but I constantly questioned why I was talking to him. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and decided to give him a chance. This message created a person who is now known to be one of my closest friends. We began to converse and talk about moments in life and grew as friends. I confronted him about my perspective about him and he was shocked at how I saw him. He couldn't process in his mind that he was a loser, lonely and a weirdo; he was in denial. After talking with him for about 1 year he admitted he was scared to talk to me and he thought I wouldn't reply to his message. He thought I was out of his league. He mentioned how aggressive and scary I seemed and how Id always have a serious face when he looked at me. When he would frustrate me, I would return the look and roll my eyes back. When he actually got to know me little by little he told me how he didn't seem frightened to talk to me

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anymore and how it took him a few days to think about it twice before actually sending me a message. Then he realized that I was nice, sweet, humble, and an interesting girl. As time went by, I introduced him to my group of friends and within time they got comfortable with him. We engaged in a conversation and discussed how I never would have thought we would ever become close friends. But yet, for some reason I felt excited to have a new friend added to my group of friends I would hang out with. I didn't feel ashamed. He also stated he never pictured being part of a known group. All his life he thought he would remain the same old character and get through high school without building new friendships. Moments in life have determined the way I break things and provided me with new perspectives of people, things, and simple ideas that have given me the ability to create pure judgment that has been based upon the belief of good intentions and without the flaws of misinterpreting character. The situation I have been placed with in my life has given me great thought in interpreting the characters I meet in life. It has shaped my views and with great care, I acknowledge the aspects hidden within people. Sometimes my life is interfered with situations where I lack perspective, but it's really rare for me to act this way with people I meet or see. Due to meeting, who is now known to be my best friend, I developed an idea of confronting him with my first thoughts about him in the beginning of our friendship. I told him my views about him, and with great respect he was shocked and amused at the lack of judgment I had. He also admitted to me how he never thought he would build a friendship with me because of his thoughts about me which seemed to be aggressive, popular, and beautiful and out of his league. Engaging into the conversation, I discovered hidden aspects about him and I changed my thoughts about him, as did he for me. This specific friendship impacted my life in a sense of discovering and analyzing people before creating my own assumptions. My best friend and I

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both had different thoughts about each other, but in the end its hysterical how our assumptions created a new friendship. Life has placed a big amount of tough experiences throughout my years. I'm appreciative of this moment I faced. Why? Comprehending what this moment meant is a great honor to have figured out. The outcome was better judgment of character and alleviating the stress and pressure one carries that has to do with the fear of meeting someone or them meeting you. My experience made me change my views of judgment to a point where it has become a negative meaning, and instead it provided me with the discovery of new character, friendship, and self-judgment. Certain limitations are set when we quickly judge. We have to take the time to get to know people and figure out who they are before criticizing their intentions.