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    Love or Addiction ? ? - Characteristics: Breakups

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    Love is characterized by mutual growth, trust, and independence, while addiction involves total dependence, control, and loss of self. Love allows for separate interests and encourages individual growth, whereas addiction isolates one from outside relationships and interests. Breakups differ as well, with love accepting separation without loss of self-worth and addiction resulting in violent endings and attempts to manipulate the other person back.

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    Love is characterized by mutual growth, trust, and independence, while addiction involves total dependence, control, and loss of self. Love allows for separate interests and encourages individual growth, whereas addiction isolates one from outside relationships and interests. Breakups differ as well, with love accepting separation without loss of self-worth and addiction resulting in violent endings and attempts to manipulate the other person back.

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    Love is characterized by mutual growth, trust, and independence, while addiction involves total dependence, control, and loss of self. Love allows for separate interests and encourages individual growth, whereas addiction isolates one from outside relationships and interests. Breakups differ as well, with love accepting separation without loss of self-worth and addiction resulting in violent endings and attempts to manipulate the other person back.

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    YOU MAY PRINT AND COPY AND USE THIS HANDOUT FOR YOUR PERSONAL OR PROFESSIONAL USE AS IS AS FREELY

    LY AS YOU WISH

    LOVE OR ADDICTION ? ? -- CHARACTERISTICS

    some excerpts from material supplied by Tice Elkins, L.C.S.W., Roseville, CA

    LOVE

    (OPEN SYSTEM)

    ADDICTION

    (CLOSED SYSTEM)

    Room to grow, expand; desire for the other to grow

    Dependent, based on security and comfort; use


    intensity of need and infatuation as proof of love (may
    really be fear, insecurity, loneliness)

    Separate interests; other friends;


    keep other meaningful relationships

    Total involvement; limited social life; neglect old


    friends, and interests, isolate from all except
    relationship

    Encouragement of each others expanding;


    secure in own self worth

    Preocupation with others behavior; dependent on


    others approval for own identity, self worth and self
    esteem

    Trust; openness

    Jealousy, possessiveness, fears of competition,


    protects supply

    Mutual integrity preserved

    One partners needs suspended for the others comfort

    Willingness to risk and be authentic

    Search
    for perfect invulnerability -- eliminates
    possible risks

    Room for exploration of feelings


    in and out of relationship

    Reassurance through repeated and ritualized activities


    and behavior

    Ability to enjoy being alone and enjoy


    doing things alone

    Intolerance for enduring separations even in conflict;


    hang-on even tighter. Undergo withdrawal, loss of
    appetite, restless, leathargic, dissoriented agony

    BREAKUPS
    Accept break up without feeling a
    loss of own adequacy and self worth

    Feel inadequate, worthless, often one-sided dicision

    Wants best for partner, though apart;


    may become friends eventually

    Violent ending - often hate the other; try to inflict pain;


    manipulation to get the other back.

    ONE- SIDED ADDICTION


    Denial, fantasy; over-estimaation of others
    commitment. Seeks solutions outside of self - drugs,
    alcohol, new lover(s), change of job or situation

    OPINIONS

    AND FEELINGS ARE FREQUENTLY A

    PERSONAL TRIUMPH

    OVER

    GOOD

    THINKING

    YOU DEFINE REALITY BY WHAT YOU KNOW, WHAT YOU BELIEVE, AND WHAT YOU DO ABOUT IT.

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