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the Boss
By Bo Sanchez
A long time ago, I didnt feel my feelings. I didnt bother
with them. If they became intense, I shunned them.
To me, all desires were sinful. And all emotions were
just part of the flesh, not of the spirit. Feelings were the
enemies of God. At the very least, they were bothersome
things that distracted me from doing Gods will.
No wonder I was in such an internal mess.
Because when we dont feel our feelings, we treat
ourselves with disrespect.
I was acting very rudely towards myself.
My love tank was empty because I was not loving myself
enough to even listen to my feelings. Remember: Feelings
are thewindows of the soul.When I wasnt feeling my
feelings, I didnt have a clue to what was happening inside
me.
Again, the self was an enemy of God, so why bother?
Just focus on Gods Word, and voila, everything will be
solved, right?
How wrong I was.
Because God was speaking to methrough my most
negative emotions and I wasnt listening.
Sometimes, I could not even identify what I was feeling.
I just knew it was a bad feeling, thats why I was running
away from it. I didnt know if it was sadness or fear or worry
or anger.
But today, I know that when I run away from my bad
feelings, I run away from myself.
Now, I know what to do.
I sit down, stay quiet for a while, andidentifywhat I feel. I
dont just go rushing about in my busy day.
When I identify it, then I feel the feeling. I feel it before
Gods presence.
I also try to identify the source of these feelings.
Why am I feeling this way?
Is there any action that I need to do?
Sometimes, this first step of feeling my feelings is all
thats needed. I dont have to do anything else.
By feeling what I feel, I respect myself.
By feeling what I feel, I heal myself.
It may take time for the painful feelings to pass, but
ultimately, I rise from it whole and peaceful.
Sometimes, I have to do something else. Perhaps I
need to surrender to God.Perhaps I need to do something
concrete, like talk to someone or solve a problem.
No, Im not supposed to follow my feelings blindly.
Thats from the guys who preach, Do what you feel.
If you feel like punching someone, then punch a pillow or
wall. If you feel like screaming, then go inside your room and
scream like hell. If you want to get drunk, then drink
I dont buy that strategy.
I didnt say, DO what you feel.
FEEL
YOUR
FEELINGS
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The Boss
FEEL YOUR FEELINGS
Point of Contact
Columns
3
Whats
Inside
Y
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Seasons
WHAT KIDS KNOW ABOUT
LOVE AND SEX (THAT
PARENTS WONT TELL
THEM)
35
Catholic Soul
THE CONFUSION OVER
FRANCIS I
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K Preacher
BUS RIDE
Departments
2
Mailroom
New You
Real Stuff
10
Dear K
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Kfam Insider
MERCY MINISTRIES OF
the light of jesus
family
15
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Just Breathe
GODS LOVE IS THERAPY
FEBRUARY 2015
Special Section
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It Happened
THE LIFE AND TIMES
OF A CALESA DRIVER
One Last Story
A BIRTHDAY LIKE NO
OTHER
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Testimonies:
FINDING MY WAY BACK
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Welcome
to the
Cool Church!
THE
NUMBERS
ON
FRANCIS
Esquire.com
Ro
lling
Ston
e
3 million
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Sources:
http://www.catholicherald.co.uk/news/2013/03/13/cardinal-bergoglio-profile/
http://www.latina.com/our-issues/pope-francis-facts-bio-trivia#1
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/the-pope/9931413/Pope-Francis-20-things-you-didnt-know.html
A Harley-Davidson motorcycle
previously owned by Pope
Francis was auctioned for
$327,000. The Dyna Super Glide
bike had an estimated value of
just $16,000. Proceeds of the sale
were donated to a hostel and
soup kitchen for
the homeless
people in Rome.
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Cardinal Jorge
Bergoglios age
when he was
elected pope on
March 13, 2013.
He is among the
top 10 oldest
popes to be
elected after
1295.
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Dhananjay Khadilkar
Neneo | Dreamstime.com
9 Fascinating
Facts About
Pope Francis
He had a girlfriend! In
his official biography
entitled El Jesuita,
written by Sergio
Rubin and Francesca
Ambrogetti, Pope
Francis spoke of his
ex-girlfriend as one
of a group of friends I
went dancing with.
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Prior to
entering
the
seminary,
Pope
Francis had
a Masters degree
in Chemistry, which
he received from the
University of Buenos
Aires.
new you
Personality Development
Source: http://www.movenourishbelieve.com
real stuff
On October
26, 2014, Joe
Icaro, Feast
builder of
Binangonan
and Talim
Island,
accepted
the Gawad
Paglilingkod
Award from the CBCP-Episcopal
Commission on Prison Pastoral Care.
The Commission gives the award
to people and organizations that
provide exemplary and valuable
work in the prison ministry.
Joe learned about the ministry
from Woody Quiroz through
Maureen Reyes of the Angels
of Mercy Community. He then
committed to Maureen a twice a
month visit to Antipolo City Jail
(ACJ), one each for the male and
female ward. Joe has been visiting
the male and female inmates every
last Wednesday and second Monday
of the month, respectively, for five
years now.
Joe uses the Katesismong
Pampamilya during the first part
of their gathering, followed by any
significant topic he sees fit. The
inmates find every session enjoyable
and exciting. Joe, appreciating this
monthly experience as a way of
serving God, enjoys it more.
Humbled and grateful to the
people who support him in his
mission, Joe can only offer the award
back to God. No turning back now,
he says.
Binangonan
and Talim Island
Feast Builder
Receives Gawad
Paglilingkod
Award
Saints-at-a-Glance
Saint Philip of Jesus, whose real name was
Philip de las Casas, was born in Mexico City.
Although as a child he had not shown great
interest in the religious teachings given by his
parents, he entered the Reformed Franciscan
Convent of Santa Barbara at Pueblo. Soon, he
left the congregation, went to the Philippines
where he established mercantile career, and
spent his time enjoying worldly pleasure. But still his heart was not satisfied.
He later re-entered the Franciscans in Manila and was again admitted in
1590. He, along with other friars, sailed back to Mexico in 1596 for ordination.
A storm drove their ship to Japan where they were arrested. Saint Philip of
Jesus was crucified at Nagasaki the following year. He was beatified in 1627 and
canonized in 1862. He is the patron saint of Mexico City
Sources: http://www.newadvent.org ; http://www.catholic.org
dear K
My brother has been married
for almost 13 years and
recently we found out that
he is having an affair with his
childhood girlfriend. He has
three kids and he is planning
to file for annulment because
he wants to be with the girl.
I dont know how to
comfort my sister-in-law. I
dont know what to tell her
since Im still single and
my point of view might be
different from a married
person.
What can you advise me?
How do we talk to my brother
and what should we tell him?
I dont know how to confront
him in such a way that he will
realize his mistake.
Nellie
Dear Nellie,
I admire you for being concerned about the marriage of your brother
and for having its preservation utmost in your mind.
I do not know the circumstances behind the falling out of your
brother and his wife. But the fact that he is already planning to file for an
annulment means that their situation has become serious.
You may not be the right person to confront him about this. A third
party or someone not related to either of them may be in a better
position to handle their situation. The third party will be able to address
their situation from a very objective and non-judgmental point of view.
It may not be right to cast the entire blame over what happened to
your brother alone. It may be good for your sister-in-law to reflect also on
what she has contributed to their failed marriage.
They have been married for 13 years. I am sure your brother loved
his wife when he married her that time. Something may have happened
along the way that made him lose his interest in the relationship and
drove him to the other woman.
The best thing that you can do is to pray for them. Pray that the Holy
Spirit will enlighten their minds and touch their hearts. Pray that they
may still have the desire to give their marriage another chance.
If your brother-in-law still wants to save their marriage, I suggest they
seek a marriage counselor. They may contact the Light of Jesus Pastoral
Care Center (contact info on the opposite page).
I just prayed for them.
Vic
my brother is cheating
on my sister-in-law
Vic Espaol is one of the elders of the Light
of Jesus Family. At present, he is the Feast
Builder and preacher in the Ortigas Feast
every Monday at 7:30 p.m. at Cinema 4,
Robinsons Galleria, Ortigas Center, as well
as the Sunday Ortigas Feast at 10:00 a.m. in
the same venue. Vic and his wife, Ditas, train
the counselors of the Light of Jesus Pastoral
Care Center. Vic is a retired executive of a
multinational life insurance company.
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Dear Queenie,
Thank you for your letter. Writing us, asking for help,
and being honest about your situation is a positive
step forward. It helps a lot to accept and face what
were going through.
You can use ask yourself the following
questions:
1. Can you remember an event or situation
early in your life that made you feel
worthless or below par with others?
2. Would you recall circumstances or
experiences that made you distrust
other people?
3. How well do you know yourself?
4. Do you believe that you can make your
life worthwhile in spite of it all?
All these questions and more are best shared
with a knowledgeable person who can help you
process yourself.
I suggest you take another step forward and see
a counselor. Talk it out and seek guidance. You owe
it to yourself to prioritize your issues and be who
God wants you to be.
If you want to see me, you may reach me
through Shepherds Voice (725-9999), or you may
contact the Light of Jesus Pastoral Care Center (info
details below).
Cristy
Email your questions to editsvp@shepherdsvoice.com.ph. Or if you need to talk to someone, call (632)
726-4709 or 726-6728 to contact a Light of Jesus Pastoral Care Center counselor. Pastoral counseling by
telephone is 24 hours from Monday to Friday, and 8 a.m. to 5 p.m. on Saturdays. Face-to-face pastoral
counseling is by appointment. For correspondence pastoral counseling, email lojcounseling@yahoo.com or
go to www.kerygmafamily.com.
Or Call
(632) 725-9999
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email reylindo.ortega@gmail.com. You may also contact Pro-life Philippines at (632) 733-7027.
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until it no longer hurts.
Take your giving a step further.
Love like youve never loved before.
Give selflessly to the mercy ministries
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it Happened
Young Tony sweating it out on the streets of Manila
in the 60s.
it Happened
Indeed, as in Tonys case, success comes to those who
persevere despite lifes odds.
I told my
father that I
would work
for it. And
driving the
calesa was
the only way I
knew. I could
not afford
to take a full
load every
semester,
so it took
me seven
years to finish Banking and Finance, a four-year course. Still,
I managed to remain on the deans list. And after college, I
pursued my dream for my siblings.
My father then realized that I made the right decision.
After college, I was able to send my younger siblings to
school.
Aim High Even If Youre Belittled
Hoy, kutsero, alis dyan! Go away! Im in a hurry! Youre getting
in my way!
As a kutsero (Filipino term for calesa driver), I felt belittled
when people policemen, drivers, pedestrians would
shoo me away like that whenever I waited for passengers.
Although ridiculed, I continued to believe that life is a wheel
it turns so I would rise one day.
I worked really hard. I did not waste precious time to
be able to earn well. Even when I was already employed as
a purchasing clerk in a big clothing company, I was still a
kutsero on the side.
While most people would prefer to wear ties and clean
suits in air-conditioned rooms, I did not mind driving my
calesa along dusty streets. I was focused on fulfilling my
ambition to have a better life.
Believe That God Has a Divine Plan
In December 1977, a friend invited me to the Christmas
party in the company where his girlfriend worked. They
introduced me to Nora who, I learned, just broke up with her
boyfriend. I fell in love with her at first sight. On September 17,
1978, we got married. And weve been happy.
As a family man, I continued to work hard. I drove a
jeepney at night and on days when I had no office work.
And then a business opportunity came in the form of a
small grocery store. We grabbed it and I was able to manage it
well. But when I had expanded it and it was already earning
quite good, the owner decided to take over the business.
I was dejected. We moved to another city. At that time, I
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it Happened
third month of her second
pregnancy. By Gods grace, we
were able to accept His holy
will and moved on with life.
When anyone in our family
gets sick, many good friends
and co-servants in church pray
for us. This is enough reason
for us to be happy where we
are, and we always give thanks
to God for all that we have.
No to Vices
One of the virtues I can be proud of is that I have never had
any vices gambling, alcohol, cigarettes, or barkada (gang).
Id rather work and save money than waste a single
centavo on things that dont guarantee any real benefit in life.
My father was a hardworking man. While waiting for
harvest time in Bulacan, he would drive a calesa in Manila
to earn our keep the whole year round. Through hard work,
he was able to acquire properties for our family. But all these
slipped from our hands because he gambled.
When I was about six years old, I remember seeing my
mother cry while the hog we were raising was taken away as
payment for our fathers losses. That scene stuck in my young
mind, so I vowed never to gamble.
Even as I grew up in Tondo, a very densely populated area
in Manila with many slum dwellers, I never joined the men
in their drinking sprees. I preferred to stay home after school
or work. At work, I did not join night outs meant to entertain
clients or to close business deals. I would just share in the
expenses and go home.
Serve in Gods Vineyard
I used to be a Sunday Mass goer only. While my wife attended
prayer meetings at night, I stayed home and watched old
movies.
But it seemed God had a plan to use me.
Tony and Nora together with Fr. Tony Navarette, Jr., parish priest of San
Juan Nepomuceno Parish in Malibay, Pasay City, Fr. Jesus Timajo, and
co-servants in the Family and Life Ministry.
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Introduction
Cool Church:
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Why People
Dont Like Church
Anymore
2. Rules or Relationships?
My friend named Karren once told me
that she used to think church is a matter
of dos and donts, of rules that absolutely
cannot be broken, otherwise shed be
thrown into hell. She shared about her
grade school religion teacher, who hung
up Manila papers and cartolinas all over
their classroom. Each Manila paper and
cartolina had lists of sins against the 10
Commandments. Every student had to
memorize all those sins, otherwise they
would fail the subject.
Why would you memorize sins? Is
heaven about not sinning? Or is heaven
about becoming Gods love in the world?
Friend, God doesnt look at your sins.
When He looks at you, He doesnt look at
what you did wrong but what you did right.
When He looks at you, He doesnt see a
sinner but His precious child.
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Testimonial
Lalas quest is finally over now that she has found her true home
in the Catholic Church.
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God knew what it was. Just then, as
I passed by the registrars office, my
Theology professor saw me and
waved at me, gesturing for me to
come to his office.
When he asked me how I was,
I threw him this question: Give me
one good reason why I should stay a
Catholic!
He wasnt surprised. He took
a deep breath and told me, Bago
ka umalis sa bahay na tinitirhan mo
ngayon, tiningnan mo na ba kung
naroon yung hinahanap mo bago ka
lumipat sa iba? (Before you leave
the house youre living in right now,
have you really looked if what youre
searching for is there before you
move out?)
He then gave me leaflets,
stampitas (prayer cards) and
short reading materials to help
me with my faith. That was all we
talked about. It was short but it
had a great impact on me.
Later that day, a friend
asked me to hang out with her
somewhere. It turned out to be
the Tanglaw community of Opus
Dei where one of her friends
served.
In the weeks that followed,
I found myself attending their
catechism classes. I became
a regular for maybe a month
before I went back to our home
for summer vacation.
I believe that God orchestrated
everything. In my heart I heard
Him speak, telling me to come back
home. I felt compelled to follow
His voice. I had no idea how deep
Catholicism was because I just saw it
from a superficial perspective before.
So, with eyes of faith, I heeded Gods
call, hoping that He had something
good in store for me.
Taken, Blessed, Broken, Shared
I was facing a lot of problems that
time. I had no one to care for me and
my needs when I had an experience
in one Sunday Mass that I attended.
During the Mass, a mysterious
Testimonial
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CHURCH IS COOL
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it as a holy place, a place of
worship.
Can I shatter that image and
give you a new one?
Do this. Think of the word
church. And then look in a
mirror.
That, my friend, is the
Church.
Its you and me!
We make up the Church!
Cool people like you and *ehem*
me (yes, Im cool, too!) make up
the Church that our even cooler
Savior has built.
Cool Church, Cool Jesus
Its sad that not many people
think going to church is cool. I
even have one friend who said
she had to bribe her children just
so theyd get up every Sunday
to go to church. I was shocked!
Scandalized! Outraged!
I told her that I had to bribe
my children to go home from
church, because they always
have so much fun spending
each Sunday celebrating Mass,
worshiping God, and partying
with the other 10,000-plus
attendees of The Feast PICC
(including all the angels and
saints who smile and party with
us).
I cant imagine not being
excited to go to church.
Another friend told me that
he stopped going to church
altogether because its boring.
I smiled at him and told him
to give it another chance and
invited him to come to The Feast.
A few months later, my friend
came up to me at The Feast and
proudly declared that he hadnt
missed a single Sunday since he
first attended! Amazing, right?
Im truly proud of The Feast.
Every time I talk about it, I
introduce it as The Happiest
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that stirred all sorts of trouble with the Pharisees and
Scribes of their time He dined with sinners, He healed
the sick, defended prostitutes, brought people back
to life, drove demons away, and defied the rigid rules
that the spiritual leaders were so bent on enforcing. I
can just imagine the migraines and ulcers He caused
everyone by His unconventional way of preaching the
Gospel!
We also have a crazy Holy Spirit who gives us every
gift we need to fulfill the dreams God has placed in
our hearts. We have a crazy Mother, who, at the age of
14, said yes to carrying the Holy Child even if she was
engaged. Finally, we have a crazy legion of saints who
followed the life of the crazy God they worship.
Friends, are you crazy enough to live, love and
serve like Jesus?
2. Jesus Is Charming
Many people seem to think that Jesus is strict, serious
and solemn. I cant blame them! Many of the pictures
we have of Jesus portray Him as such. In most pictures,
he would have long, brown hair parted neatly in the
middle, reaching to his collar. He would have deep blue
eyes that seemed to pierce your soul (and eyes that
seem to know when youve been naughty or nice).
He would have a defined nose and a small smile that
softens the strong lines of His jaw.
The pictures scattered all over the Internet, the
books, the covers of different Bibles, and paintings
mostly show Him as someone who is nurturing,
kind and reliable, but somebody who is also
unapproachable.
I cant imagine Jesus as somebody whos
unapproachable if He always has a crowd following
Him, hungry and thirsty for His miracles and teachings.
If Jesus lived today in Hollywood, Im sure He would
always have a legion of paparazzi dogging His every
step. I imagine Him being the equivalent of Brad Pitt,
Tom Cruise, or John Lloyd Cruz during that time.
Jesus couldnt have had a following of a thousand
men, women and children if He werent a charming
young man. Jesus had a fans club. Id even go as far
as to say that many people might have had a crush on
Him!
My favorite picture of Jesus is the picture of The
Laughing Christ, originally created by Willis Wheatley. I
think it captures the essence of His character strong
but loving, serious but lighthearted.
Jesus welcomed everybody. He loved everybody.
Most of all, He allowed everybody to follow Him, too.
He never turned anyone away, not even the sinners. He
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An uncool church is where I dont learn anything from the homily because
some priests are not good homilists. They have a hard time communicating their
message to the church goers. I feel sad and frustrated whenever this happens.
What I do is just pray and converse with the Lord in the silence of my heart.
Rosana Pattugalan, workshop facilitator and financial advisor
For me, a cool church is one whose liturgy is more alive, appealing and
participative in nature. I appreciate our liturgical services for their meaning yet
I find the celebration so dry. I could feel that the people are just there to attend a
ritual because it is part of their tradition, and not to participate. The disconnect
between the priest ministering them, the liturgy and the people is just obvious.
Rituals become truly significant when it caters to the needs of the congregation,
and are transformative of their lives. It means more compassion, care and
sensitivity to those around them. We need to translate the rituals into more
pastoral efforts to forge real change.
I find a church likewise cool when it is more open to other cultures which the
Catholic Church truly is. I admire a Church where their ministers have the option
to marry. I would think married priests would become better ministers when they
have families of their own, for then they would understand what family life truly
is. Perhaps this too will help make of them better managers of their flock.
An uncool church is too ritual-bound that meaning is lost and does not
engender change. We need to bridge the gap between the hierarchy and the lay as
well. I wish we have more ministers and other leaders whose lifestyles people are
able to identify with.
Jeannie dela Cruz, caregiver for the mentally challenged
A church is cool if the priests homily is short and interesting. By interesting
I mean his homily is not highly theological and he uses simple words that lay
people can understand. The stories or examples he uses are practical: people
can easily relate to it and be able to apply it to their day-to-day lives. In contrast,
a church becomes uncool if the homily is too long that people get bored, and
when this happens, the message the priest wants to convey is lost in the process.
Manuel Villanueva, auditor
A cool church will typically be described as one that boasts an awesome worship
experience, high energy, great use of technology and Powerpoints, etc. All these
are good and may attract more new members but I am more naturally attracted
towards the basics that may include noisy kids, amateur music, poor sound
system, old liturgy (e.g.,the consequences of sin and the need for repentance;
why sexual sin is still unhealthy; or the fact that Jesus Christ is the only way to
salvation), etc.
Cool churches can be obsessed with the performance of their church
that they miss the important thing, which isto actually be the Church. One such
example was a story about a 12-year-old boy with cerebral palsy attending
Sunday church service. The news report said that after the opening prayer the
boy voiced out his own kind of Amen. He and his mother were abruptly escorted
out for being a distraction. Now thats totally uncool.
As such, Ill turn this around now and redefine what a cool church is.A cool
church is one that is welcoming and is a refuge for the lost soul, and where one
finds God.It is a community of imperfect people seeking tounderstand and live
out the teachings of Jesus Christ. It is a church that says, Come as you are.
How about you? Does your church fit your idea of whats cool and whats
not? Labeling a church as cool or uncool is a matter of personal opinion and
perception.
For me, the ultimate questions to ask are these: Do we experience Jesus in our
church? Do we grow in our faith and relationship with Jesus and become more
like Him? Do we become more loving and more forgiving of our brethren?
This, I think, is the true essence of a church. And thats cool.
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then fiscal, a staunch defender of those deprived of justice.
Alfonso and Juanita not only served the Church well.
They gave their whole family to serve the bigger Church
the Church of the poor.
Said Fr. Liberato, the couples son: As a priest, I have
come to realize that the home, not the seminary, is the first
formation house. Our parents taught us values that have
guided us in our journey towards reaching our God-given
potentials.
Serving the bigger Church is not an overnight
phenomenon learned by the Ortega children. Even as
young kids, they had been exposed to learning to live for
others outside the family.
Fr. Liber, as his students and friends call him,
continued, To build this other-oriented consciousness,
our parents used to send us to distribute part of our
harvest to as many neighbors as possible. Whenever
we had enough food to share, each of us children had
particular neighbors to bring some food to.
Their sharing family thus reflects the lives of the first
Christian communities as described in the Bible: The
community of believers was of one heart and mind, and no
one claimed that any of his possessions was his own, but
they had everything in common (Act 4:32-33).
Fr. Liber said that their parents taught them what an
unknown author once said: Nor can you pray the Lords
Prayer, and not pray for one another, and when you ask for
daily bread, you must include your brother.
That kind of loving orientation that Alfonso and
Juanita had inculcated in their children had produced
amazing results.
Their eldest son Cirilo grew up to become an SVD
missionary priest in northern Philippines, later on
assuming the role of president of the Divine Word College
of Bangued. He currently serves as president of Divine
Word College of Vigan.
Another son, Liberato, was also ordained as a priest,
and had taken post-graduate studies at the Gregorian
University in Rome. He served as rector of Saint Joseph
Seminary in Abra and is presently assigned as rector of San
Pablo Seminary in Baguio.
A daughter, Sr. Daria, joined the Daughters of Divine
Zeal and had served in various positions of awesome
responsibilities in her congregations missions in Italy,
India, Vietnam and Indonesia.
Another daughter, Celia, joined the Auxilliaries of the
Apostolate and had served in Lourdes, France and Uganda,
Africa. She currently serves in the Diocese of Bangued
and in the thriving local cooperative, in addition to her
volunteer work as Abra coordinator of Pag-asa ng Pamilya
Scholarship Foundation.
Fr. Liberato and Celia are published authors of deeply
inspiring books.
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WHAT KIDS
KNOW ABOUT
LOVE AND SEX
(THAT PARENTS
WONT TELL
THEM)
Michele S. Alignay, MA, RGC
I have a crush in class and Ill give her flowers
on Valentines day! quipped a four-year-old.
Mom, how does the baby get inside your
tummy? asked an inquisitive five-year-old.
Dad, what do you mean by three hours and
12 hours in a motel? What is a motel? asked our
very own eight-year-old.
I saw in the school rest room door the word
f*ck. What does it mean? asked another sevenyear-old.
But, Miss, what is sex and why do my parents
do it? asked my nine-year-old students.
These are just some direct and confrontational questions little ones
ask that put us ill at ease. If you have been in this sticky question-andanswer situation, how did you react and respond? How do you score
yourself?
Hungry for Knowledge
Honestly, most adults are at a loss on how to react and handle these
matters. In my sexuality forum for high school teens, only one out of 15
to 20 students have healthy relationship discussions with their parents.
Even older students, aged 12 years and up, are groping for knowledge to
satiate not only their curiosity but their search for facts.
Groping? Yes, because they end up putting together bits and pieces
of information they see on media, hear from friends, or pick up from
their Biology and Health classes. They are looking for the connections
between their puberty changes, crushes, love and intimacy including
sex! Some parents assume that school teaches all these to their kids.
Others put off discussions on the topics because they assume that their
young kids already know about it anyway.
When kids ask about sex, its not because they want to be lewd.
They are actually hungry for knowledge. Three- to nine-year-old
children are in the process of learning how things work and connecting
the information they gather in the world. Apart from these, they are also
picking up the attitude, behavior and beliefs about what they learn. The
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attitude and are not clear on our values about love and
sex, chances are, we will fail in discussing these matters
with our children.
You may say, But I learned about sex eventually,
and I grew up well. Yes, we all found our way out of the
sexuality tunnel. But during our time, we didnt have
the Internet, Google, and gadgets that made all these
information accessible to the young. Back then, we
accessed information through the grapevine. But today,
kids and teens can search about love and sex via the net
and such information does not carry the proper attitude
and values that we parents should be ingraining in them.
So we parents and caring adults need to do our part
fast! We cannot take this matter sitting down. If we want
our children and teens to have a deeper understanding
of Gods great plan for intimate relationships and sex,
then we need to equip ourselves and address our
own inhibitions to be able to discuss these matters
appropriately to our young kids and even teens.
We cannot wait for them to become teenagers and
young adults. They would have already asked their
friends, YouTube and Google, by the time we feel they
and we are ready!
The preschool age is the time to answer them as
needed. We can ask them what they know and why they
are asking.
catholic soul
The Confusion
Over Francis I
By Edgardo C. de Vera
Neneo/Dreamstime.com
There have countless speculations in media
following the pronouncements of Pope Francis
with regard to homosexuals and divorced
people who remarried. He had instructed the
bishops to study how these unfortunate souls
may gain access to the sacraments. It is sad
that in its wake, many have misinterpreted his
message and jumped to erroneously fast-tracked
conclusions.
Secular media hailed it as the Church finally
loosening her moral stance for acceptance
of aberrant lifestyles, whereas some ultraconservatives reacted in horror to what
they perceived as initial conformity to moral
aberrations.
Alarmists connect this with the purported
predictions of Saint Malachy, 12th century
Archbishop of Armagh, who is said to have
experienced a vision of future popes, which
he recorded in sequential cryptic messages.
These mention of anti-popes conclude with
the destruction of Rome during
the pontificate of Peter the
Roman who, they say, is
Pope Francis.
Early historians had
debunked this prophecy as
a late 16th-century forgery.
Recall at that time there
existed much animosity
against the Church
especially following
the Reformation.
The Church had
disregarded the
cryptic work
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BUS RIDE
By Jonathan Yogawin
Cabanatuan to go up to Baguio.
However, it takes a while since
they fill the seats first before
the van leaves.
My heart sank as I heard
those words, obliterating
my chances of ever getting
to Baguio in time for my
engagement.
Then suddenly, another bus came along the dusty road.
Written in front of it, in bold letters, was the word BAGUIO.
Stop the bus! Stop the bus! I shouted. I got out and
boarded the bus headed for Baguio, even if it was full of
chickens, potatoes, cabbage, etc.. Whew!
I reached Baguio by lunchtime. Fortunately, another
preacher was in Baguio that time and he pitched in for me in
the morning. What he shared worked very well with the rest
of the activities in the afternoon. In fact, it was one of the best
retreats I have ever facilitated.
Friends, heres what I learned from that experience:
When you get into a bus, check your ticket.
All of us are on a life journey. Before being comfortable
with your position, its perks and possibilities pause and see
if you are heading in the right direction. Are you sure of your
destination? Look around and read the signs. Ask for help
and communicate with the right people. Most of all, act and
follow Gods lead. Trust Him. Its never too late to get into the
right bus!
Remember, All things work together for good to those
who love God (Romans 8:28).
J Yogawin is builder of The Feast Alabangs fifth session on Sundays..
For more details, visit www.feastalabang.com.
Email J at jyogawin@gmail.com or visit www.jyogawin.com.
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Shhh!
Kinakausap ka
ni Lord
When I came back from my Hong Kong trip two weeks before
my birthday, I was worried because I had raised around S$300 only
(a little over P10,000). I prayed to God to bless my project with at
least P30,000, which would be enough to buy portable amplifiers,
which Anawim needed then, and food for the lolos and lolas). Then I
surrendered everything to Him.
A few days before my trip to Manila, my contact person for the
transportation backed out. I confidently prayed to God to provide
me with a driver and a car and He did. From then on, Gods
miracles started to unfold.
On the Sunday before my birthday, I flew to Manila and went
straight to The Feast PICC, where blessings overflowed. I personally
met Bo Sanchez and other significant people in my journey. After
that, minor hitches came, but as always, God solved everything.
My 30th birthday came. That day, Gods love was more manifest,
not only towards me, but also to the people who surrounded me.
I woke up early, went to church and met my friends who would go
with me to Anawim. I believe they were the people God planned to
be with in executing my Anawim Project.
It was raining that day, but we were confident that it was Gods
way of telling us that the abundance of rain is before us. And you
know what? I was only praying for P30,000 but the total amount
raised reached P90,000. We spent only P60,000 for the amplifiers,
food and goods, and gave the rest as cash donation.
I initially thought we were the ones who surprised the lolos
and lolas, but I was wrong. As they were putting up the banner
that said, Happy Birthday, Vea! I could not control my tears from
falling, especially when they sang a birthday song for me. I was
overwhelmed, stunned, loved! I felt like Jesus was embracing me
that moment.
Gods timing is never too late or too early; it is always right
on time even if it takes decades to fulfill one childs wish of a
birthday like no other!
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Jesus Name!
I pray that God lift your trials,
heal your diseases, bless your problems
and direct you to the path He wants you
to take. I pray that God remove your fears
and give you the courage to surrender
your burdens to Him.
So place your hand over my hand,
and lets pray with trust, together with our
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This page is our Point of Contact, our
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Say after me
In the Name of the Father, of the Son,
and of the Holy Spirit.
Lord, I surrender to You my worries
and anxieties. I surrender to You my
needs, my problems, my trials. I place
them all in Your big hands. And I open
myself to all that You want to give to
me. On this day, I say yes to Your love, to
Your blessings, to Your healing, to Your
miracles. And Lord, specifically, I ask for
the following miracles for my life...
I believe that You will answer my
prayer in the best way possible! And I
thank You in advance for the perfect
answers to my prayers. I also ask for the
special intercession of Mama Mary. I pray
all these in the Name of the Father, of the
Son and of the Holy Spirit, Amen!
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