Grief and Loss
Grief and Loss
Grief and Loss
ADL
Changes in appetite and the development of unhealthy eating habits, bedwetting, or alcohol or drug abuse.
Education/Work
Difficulty following directions or concentrating on schoolwork or changes in academic performance. and challenges assuming responsibility at internships or volunteer or paid opportunities.
Play/Leisure
Limited participation in activities of interest (Ayyash-Abdo, 2001).
Sleep/Rest
Altered sleeping patterns.
The stress associated with grieving may negatively affect health in the following ways:
Physical symptoms: headaches, stomachaches Emotional symptoms: anxiety, panic attacks, depression, irritability, absence of emotion These expressions of grief can manifest themselves in many areas of a childs life, including home, school, and community.
MILITARY FAMILIES
Because of issues unique to military families, all school personnel need education about how to support grief and loss particular to children in military families (Swank & Robinson, 2009). These children experience many challenges, including deployment and the potential death of a parent. Deployment may cause feelings of loss for children. Families may only have a short period of time to emotionally and physically prepare for the change. Experiences associated with the death of a parent in the military are unique because of the number of changes that occur following a funeral. If families live in military housing, they generally have a limited time to move, which reduces the time that children have to say good-bye to friends. Children may attend a new school that is not a Department of Defense School, resulting in the loss of support from other military children. Professionals in the new school may lack an awareness of issues specific to military families. Additional Resources: Educators Guide to the Military Child During Deploymenthttp://www2.ed.gov/about/offices/list/os/homefront/homefront.pdf Working with Military Children: A Primer for School Personnelhttp://nmfa.convio.net/site/DocServer?docID=642]
continued This information was prepared by AOTAs School Mental Health Work Group (2012).
This information sheet is part of a School Mental Health Toolkit at http://www.aota.org/Practitioners-Section/Children-and-Youth/Browse/School/Toolkit.aspx
OCCUPATION-BASED STRATEGIES
Help children get back to regular routines and activities, because these can have an organiz
ing effect on feelings of well-being. Consult with teachers to help modify assignments or learning environment if behavioral changes cause difficulty with completing homework or participating in class. Encourage participation in enjoyable but low-stress activities with close friends to minimize feelings of isolation. Provide creative activities such as art projects and journaling to foster self-expression, which can help with processing difficult feelings. Drawing, painting, craftwork, scrapbooking, making memory boards with photographs, and collages naturally lend to meeting the needs of the grieving child (Milliken, Goodman, & Bazyk, 2007). Provide activities that create memorials of those who have died (e.g., picture frame, potted plant, dipped candle) to help to preserve what was cherished in the relationship.
their feelings. Let them know its acceptable to cry and that crying may help them feel better. feel and process their emotions. This validates their feelings.
TIER 1: SCHOOL-WIDE
Grief awareness training could be provided to all school staff in order to promote interactions that support the grieving process. School staff also need to be educated on what not to do, such as acting as if nothing happened, making comments that minimize the loss (e.g., Youll be stronger for this), or telling the student that its time to move on (McGlauflin, 2003).
TIER 2: TARGETED
Services provided to small groups of children experiencing loss provide opportunities to offer and receive support while participating in meaningful activities. Such groups can be co-led by staff with expertise in mental health, such as school nurses, occupational therapists, school psychologists, and social workers.
crying if that seems best. Provide support and comfort. Plan to continue the talk another time soon. can be difficult. Let the child know that talking about feelings helps to process them.
Maintain an emotional and physical presence with the child in order to support their needs.
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