Milton Model
Milton Model
Milton Model
The use of language is essential in directing a person's experience and focus of attention. The Milton model, named after Milton Erickson, lists the key parts of speech and key patterns that are useful in subtly and effectively directing another person's line of thinking. Useful in sales, therapy, family relations and in gaining rapport in general, the principles of the Milton Model basically state that larger chunks (more general use of language) can lead to more rapport, which smaller chunks, (more specific language) is more limiting and has a greater chance of excluding concepts from a person's experience. (Thanks to Robert Dilts for permission to use his drawing of Milton Erickson.)
Conjunctions
Conversational Postulates
Connections in Time
Presuppositions
Causality (Cause/Effect)
Other Patterns
Key Concepts
Nominalizations
If I was to say "you know that you can feel confident about some learnings from last weekend . . . " it is much easier for you to agree than If I was to say "you know that you can feel confident about unspecified noun structures from last weekend . . . " Learnings is an example of a nominalization. To nominalize something means to make a noun out of something intangible, which doesn't exist in a concrete sense (in NLP, we say any noun that you can't put in a wheel barrow is a nominalization). In this example, the process of learning something is turned into a noun, learnings. Being happy becomes happiness. Being curious becomes curiosity. Being depressed becomes depression. A state like depression becomes an enormous and sometimes insurmountable, overwhelming state of being, for example, whereas being depressed to most people is more likely to imply a state that has a beginning, and more importantly an end. A blockis something much more insurmountable than something that is merely blocking your progress. "So close your eyes and think for a moment about some recent learning, one that may have given you much surprise and enjoyment." Notice in the previous sentence the speaker doesn't say how or where, but allows the listener to fill in with his or her own details.
"So take a moment and enjoy remembering some of the things you learned and did at the seminar." What were your thoughts after hearing that sentence? Did you have a specific representation? What did you learn and do, and which seminar did you learn them at? Nominalizations are one type of unspecified noun.
Comparable "As"
are another type of connection: "If anyone can learn as methodically as you do, they must be extremely motivated and thorough." Semantic Ill-formedness
Linkages
imply a cause effect relationship between two things. There are three kinds of linkages:
Conjunctions:
"You are sitting here right now, and you can begin to relax." These include and and but.
Connections in time:
"As you listen to the sound of my voice, you are becoming curious." These include as, while, during and when.
Mind Reading
means acting as if the speaker is doing exactly that. By making use of the art of speaking generally, a speaker can make an educated guess about the listener's internal experience to build credibility and deepen rapport.
"I know you are wondering how much you will learn from this training." "You may be curious about how you will use these patterns." We must be cautious to keep our references as general as possible. If specific details clash with the listener's thoughts, it will disrupt his or her attention.
Lost Performatives.
It's important to know about these structures, because it's often necessary to deliver presuppositions indirectly. These types of phrases contain at least one judgement or evaluation of which we can't identify the source. It's important to learn language patterns. It's essential to have fun learning all this stuff. It's good that we are all here tonight. The speaker doesn't state exactly who thinks these things are good, necessary or important.
Modal Operators
can be used to direct the listeners experience in a certain direction. "How fortunate you are to be able to learn so easily. It can happen with your conscious mind reading to know how quickly it may happen."
Conversational Postulates
are requests for action or information masquerading as yes/no questions. "Can you tell me what time it is?" "Do you know what today's date is?" "Can you lend me a pen?"
Presuppositions
are ways of indirectly getting agreement from a listener. There are several types of presuppositions: Existence: "She saw the ice cream in the freezer." Implies is, was. may be.
Time:
Before, after, during, continue, yet, already, begin, stop, start, still, while, since, as, and when. "You may hear noises in the room while you are entering a state of deep relaxation."
Ordinals:
These assume action will be taken, the question is, in what order, 1st, 2nd, 3rd, etc. "Do you want to take a deep breath or would you like to settle down into your chair first?"
"Or":
"Would you prefer a silk blouse or one in cotton?" This presupposes that the listener wants a blouse. The question is which.
Awareness:
These assume the statement is true, all that may be questioned is whether the listener is aware. "Have you realized how common it is to be in a trance?" "Have you noticed how often you go into a trance, even by yourself?"
presuppose that something is going to happen. The issue is how will the experience be? "What have you enjoyed the most about driving the new RX-7?" "Are you excited about makingthis purchase?" "How easily can you begin to relax?" "Fortunately we have plenty of opportunity to practice this material."
Other Patterns
Embedded Suggestions Negative Commands Ambiguity Tag Questions Organ Language The More, The More Oxymorons
Other Patterns:
Embedded Suggestions
are suggestions or directives buried within a larger sentence. They allow the speaker to ask more subtly and in a way that the listener can respond sometimes without consciously knowing he or she has been asked. (We do this all the time without realizing it). "I don't know how soon you'll feel better." "You can learn these patterns easily." "Well, now . . . "
Negative Commands
use the inability of your unconscious to comprehend language constructions that use negatives (No, Not, Don't, etc.). For instance, if someone were to say, "Don't think about pink elephants," what happens? Using negative commands can be thought of as sending subliminal messages to the brain. Since the unconscious cannot process the negative, only the positive message registers. "Don't relax too quickly . . . "
"It's important that you don't make this purchase any sooner than you feel comfortable doing so." "Don't go into a trance too soon . . . "
Ambiguity
When words have double meaning, the unconscious mind must process all meanings. Words like down, left, duck, hand, back all have double meanings. Then there are words spelled differently and pronounced the same. Hear/here, your/you're, nose/knows are examples. These can be extremely helpful in helping us produce embedded suggestions. "One of the things that's most interesting about you're unconscious mind is its ability to scan for hidden meanings."
Tag Questions
According to Milton H. Erickson, "Tag Questions displace resistance to the end of a sentence," don't they? In addition, they set up a place to create an agreement frame, as well as to strengthen agreement in a pacing situation. It's a fairly effective concept to utilize, isn't it?
Oxymoron
means using a combination of words that are a contradiction in terms. "Try in vain."
"Notice those memories whose joyful pain are as vivid as those whose pleasant sadness can remind you of important lessons from the past."
Organ Language
is often used in day to day language, referring to parts of the body as part of a metaphor, such as, "he was a real pain in the neck,." or "I'm not sure if he's ready to face that possibility." "As you develop more and more confidence, it is possible to reach up to face many different situations that would have been impossible before." "We are only beginning to scratch the surface of this topic. Who knows what we might discover as we study further."