Emotional Intelligence Quotient

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What Is Your Emotional Intelligence Quotient?

by Julie B. Thibodeaux, M.C.P. and D. Stephenson Bond, L.M.H.C For many years, we have been led to believe that a person's intellectual intelligence (measured as IQ, or intelligence quotient) is the greatest predictor of success. Society assumes that people with high IQs will naturally accomplish more in life. Schools often use IQ test results to choose children for gifted programs and advanced placement courses. Some companies even use the results as a criterion for hiring employees. We have been conditioned to judge intelligence with these numbers. In the past 10 years, however, researchers have found that this isn't necessarily the case -- that in actuality, a person's emotional intelligence (EQ) might be a greater predictor of success than his or her IQ. What is emotional intelligence? In the early 1990s, Dr. John Mayer, Ph.D., and Dr. Peter Salovey, Ph.D., introduced the term "emotional intelligence" in the Journal of Personality Assessment. They used this term to describe a person's ability to understand his or her own emotions and the emotions of others and to act appropriately based on this understanding. Then in 1995, psychologist Daniel Goleman popularized this term with his book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ.Emotional Intelligence is about having empathy for others. It is about standing up for what you believe in a tactful and respectful way. It is about not jumping to conclusions, but getting the whole picture before you react. The key to emotional intelligence is an understanding of your emotions and the emotions of others, and acting in the most appropriate way based on that understanding. Having a healthy emotional intelligence is very important in order for human beings to live happy and successful lives. Healthy emotional intelligence helps us set our personal boundaries, make decisions about our lives, and communicate with the people we love. Keep in mind that your emotional intelligence can change. People are always evolving. You can increase your EQ at any point in your life by learning to identify your emotions and taking responsibility for those emotions. And just as easily as you can increase your EQ, you can also decrease it. You must continue to identify and work on areas within yourself that need work. Regardless of your emotional intelligence level, you could benefit from some of these tips to increase emotional intelligence: Go to the gym, take an exercise class or participate in activities that reduce your stress level. Take up a new hobby or sport that involves interacting with other people. Take a class at your local community college. Join a support group. Keep a feelings journal. See a counselor to help you deal with your emotions. Take an anger management course. Enroll in a communication skills course. Read books about emotional intelligence and social skills. Do emotional intelligence workbooks.

Ask your friends and family to help you recognize the things about yourself that may need correcting. Take this quiz - http://quiz.ivillage.com/health/tests/eqtest2.htm

Sources: Goleman, D. (1995). Emotional Intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ. New York: Bantam Books. Mayer, J.D., DiPaolo, M.T., and Salovey, P. (1990). "Perceiving affective content in ambiguous visual stimuli: A component of emotional intelligence." Journal of Personality Assessment, 54, 772-781.

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