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    The document provides advice on various topics to help people overcome challenges and achieve goals. It consists of 12 tip cards addressing issues such as regaining confidence after being criticized, different types of procrastinators and how to stop procrastinating, changing habits, making the workplace better, relocating creative muscles, keeping an open mind, dealing with fear, and the importance of having a backup plan. The tip cards provide concrete strategies and recommendations to help people improve themselves and their situations.

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    BEST OF 2013

    A D VI C E

    www.unstuck.com/tip-cards

    TI PCA R D# 1

    TI PCA R D# 2

    REGAIN CONFIDENCE AFTER ITS BEEN CRUSHED


    DONT TAKE CRITICISM DONT RELY JUST AS A FINAL JUDGMENT ON OTHERS TO BOOST YOU UP See it as a moment in time that
    will pass, rather than an Olympic score. And remember that its not a judgment about your worth. Remind yourself of what has gone well, and nd soothing/positive ways to occupy yourself when bad feelings are overpowering.

    HOW TO ASK WITH CONFIDENCE


    1. QUESTION YOUR FEARS
    To lessen fear about the other persons reaction ++Whats the worst that can happen if I ask? ++Whats the likelihood of that happening? ++If the worst does result, how long will it take me to recover and come up with Plan B? To lessen fear about yourself ++What am I worried about doing or not doing when I ask? ++How can I avoid that? To build motivation ++What will my regret be if I dont ask? ++Do I want to live with that regret?

    DONT REVEL IN OTHERS SHORTCOMINGS DONT SEE THE TO FEEL BETTER SITUATION AS A CAN OR CANT Instead, ask yourself What
    do I want to do next? Perhaps discuss with a mentor or forward-thinking friend. Keep your mind open to learning and changing to prove to yourself that you have what it takes. Success is earned, not granted.

    2. PAINT YOURSELF THE BEST PICTURE POSSIBLE 3.  ONCE YOURE PSYCHED TO TAKE ACTION, SPEND TIME PREPARING 4. J  UST BEFORE YOU MAKE YOUR REQUEST, DO SOMETHING TO CALM YOURSELF

    www.unstuck.com /tip-cards/regain_condence

    www.unstuck.com /tip-cards/ask

    TI PCA R D# 3

    TI PCA R D# 4

    WHAT KIND OF PROCRASTINATOR ARE YOU?


    PINBALL:
    Youve got plenty of good ideas and lots to get done. If only you werent feeling so overwhelmed by it all. You bounce from one pursuit to another, but somehow you dont end up doing what needs to get done now. Whats really stopping you: Not knowing how to start or tackle the task.

    TIPS FOR PINBALL PROCRASTINATORS


    ORGANIZE BY IMPORTANCE
    Arrange all your tasks according to timeframe and urgency, such as High Alert!, Finish by Friday, Can Wait Till Tomorrow, When I Have Extra Time.

    MICROSIZE TASKS
    Completing something is one of the best motivators to complete something else so supercharge your motivation by breaking your tasks down into smaller, easier pieces.

    PARALYZED:

    You shy away from something you know will be hard. Or expect criticism and do-overs. Maybe you set the bar way too high. Any of these keep you waiting for the perfect moment to get it right until you run out of time. Whats really stopping you: Reluctance to be judged by others, yourself, or both.

    APPLY PRESSURE
    Create real consequences for unnished work.

    PARK YOUR BRAINSTORMS


    When inspiration strikes, record your thoughts in a place thats easy to return to then get back to work. Later on, add your new ideas to your to-do list.

    PUT-UPON:

    Youre one of the most productive people you know. But when you lift up your pile of accomplishments, you nd a persistent list of not-so-interesting items that arent getting done. Whats really stopping you: Boredom, and a belief that its not a good use of your time.

    www.unstuck.com /tip-cards/procrastinator

    www.unstuck.com /tip-cards/pinball

    TI PCA R D# 5

    TI PCA R D# 6

    TIPS FOR PARALYZED PROCRASTINATORS


    STOP THE PERFECTION
    The most important thing to remember is that nothing gets done perfectly on the rst try.

    TIPS FOR PUT-UPON PROCRASTINATORS


    HIGHLIGHT THE BENEFITS
    Draw a T-chart for the task youre putting off. Write the advantages of starting now on one side, the consequences of starting later on the other. Post it in a place you cant ignore.

    FIND OUT WHY YOURE FROZEN


    Ask a friend to probe you for the reason, listen to your answers, and play back to you what she hears.

    ASK FOR HELP


    Find someone who can get tasks done for you, or get you started. But dont make someone your personal calendar.

    PENCIL IN FEEDBACK
    Ask someone whose judgment you trust to check on your progress. This will push you to produce and make sure youre on the right track.

    CREATE TINY GOALS


    Even the teeniest completion can help motivate.

    COMMIT. COMPLAIN. REFLECT


    Complain all you want, as long as youre getting it done. With the task complete, compare how you feel now with how it felt before it was nished.

    TREAT YOURSELF STRATEGICALLY


    Dont allow yourself to do something you want to do until youve completed what you dont want to do.

    ADDRESS YOUR ANXIETY


    For every what if I do it wrong thought, come up with a what if I do it right one.

    www.unstuck.com /tip-cards/paralyzed

    www.unstuck.com /tip-cards/put-upon

    TI PCA R D# 7

    TI PCA R D# 8

    5 TRUTHS ABOUT CHANGE


    IT COMES FROM ASPIRATION.
     Change is hope for a better planet.
    Jim Fruchterman Founder and CEO of Benetech

    THERE IS NO PERFECT TIME.


    Changemakers dontwait for all the resources or the stars to be aligned. They get started and are willing to improve along the way.
    Dave Faulkner Director of Education Changemakers

    4 SYSTEMS AND 10 TOOLS TO CHANGE A HABIT


    THE STRING ON THE FINGER METHOD CREATES CUES T O RE MI NDY OU.
    Try these apps: Due (iOS), Checkmark (iOS), Walgreens (iOS and Android)

    SMALLER IS BETTER, AT FIRST.


     O ften times, people feel like they need to make big, drastic changes to make an impact. But bigger change gets done from a snowballing of smaller, progressive changes.
    Andre Ferrieira Founder and CEO of VuAir

    THE BUDDY SYSTEM PR OVIDES USWITH SUPP ORTA ND A C C OU NTABILITY FR O MOT HER PE OPLE.
    Try this app: Lift (iOS and web). Try this site: Sparkpeople.com

    DISCOURAGEMENT IS ENCOURAGEMENT.
     For any change that is worthwhile, there will always be resistance.
    Dave Faulkner

    THE GOLD STAR APPROACH RE WARDSOR PUNISHES BASEDON PERF OR MA NCE.


    Try this app: G  ympact (iOS and Android). Try this site: Stickk.com

    COLLABORATION RULES.
     Change is rarely brought about by a single person thinking about it in a room. Get together with a group of people and ask What if?
     Dennis Whittle, Founder of Global Giving and Leadership Group Member of Ashoka Changemakers

    EYE OPENERS ARE BIG A ND LITTLE R EVELATIO NS T HAT M OTIVATE Y OU T O CHA NGE.
    Try this site: Tinyhabits.com. Try this book: The Power of Habit. Try this device: Jawbone Up band.

    www.unstuck.com /tip-cards/truths

    www.unstuck.com /tip-cards/habit-changers

    TI PCA R D# 9

    TI PCA R D# 1 0

    HOW TO STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS


    IS IT IMPORTANT TO ME?
    The next time youre longing for an extravagance, ask: Why do I want it? Am I seeking status or approval? Does it match who I am as a person?

    HOW TO MAKE THE WORKPLACE A BETTER PLACE TO BE


    AVOID GOSSIP. PRACTICE EMPATHY FOR OTHERS.
    Imagine how the person under discussion would feel if she knew. That makes it difcult to pass along the information. If gossip lands in your lap, let it sit there.

    GIVE YOURSELF CREDIT. PRACTICE EMPATHY FOR YOURSELF .


    Every day, focus on your successes rather than your failures. It will help fend off cruel and thoughtless comments from others.

    WHERE DO I WANT TO GO?


    As hard as it may be to see a friends Tweets about all the new restaurants shes going to, remind yourself that if you spent your free time hobnobbing with her, you wouldnt have time to work on the new store you plan to open next summer.

    HOW FAR HAVE I COME?


    This is a great question because it gives us perspective on how much weve achieved (or not). Any resulting emotions are completely valid because they relate to ourselves. Your friend who made her rst million at age 30 wish her well, and stop worrying about it.

    INSIST ON ACCOUNTABILITY, ESPECIALLY FROM YOURSELF. PRACTICE EMPATHY FOR EVERYONE INVOLVED.
    Own up and move forward. Your example will show others how to focus on next steps rather than harping on past failings.

    www.unstuck.com /tip-cards/compare

    www.unstuck.com /tip-cards/workplace

    TI PCA R D# 1 1

    TI PCA R D# 1 2

    6 WAYS TO RELOCATE YOUR CREATIVE MUSCLES


    1. LOOK FOR SOMETHING TO SOLVE.
    It energizes and gives our brains permission to explore options and angles.

    HOW TO KEEP AN OPEN MIND SO YOU CAN FIND INSPIRATION


    DONT BE AN EXPERT
    Let yourself be vulnerable enough to know you could learn something new. This makes you a willing participant to different ideas.

    LISTEN MORE THAN YOU TALK


    You cant take in new information if you are the dominant voice in a conversation with others or in your head.

    2. TAKE VISUAL NOTES.


    Jot down words and phrases all over the page, then go back and connect them with circles and lines. Patterns will emerge.

    3. COLLECT IDEAS THAT FASCINATE YOU.


    This will stimulate your creative muscles and save you time, because youll always have a le of inspiration on hand.

    ASK WHAT IF...


    Grab a new idea and run with it. Youll nd that your straight line of belief has tentacles of possibilities that you can chase.

    4. RESEARCH RANDOMLY.
    Go to nonobvious places for inspiration. Zoos, galleries, bike rides, bookstores, parks, ball games, movies, swimming, cloud gazing.

    5. GIVE YOURSELF TIME.


    Allot at least 90 minutes to toy with an idea. Even better, nd a co-collaborator to play it out with you.

    6. TRY IT, TRY IT, TRY IT.


    It can be nerve-racking if your idea doesnt work, but by knowing what went wrong, you can go back and x it.
    www.unstuck.com /tip-cards/creative_muscles www.unstuck.com /tip-cards/open_mind

    TI PCA R D# 1 3

    TI PCA R D# 1 4

    IS FEAR GETTING IN YOUR WAY?


    With your stuck moment in mind, check yourself against these ve signs that fear may be holding you back:

    PREPARE FOR PLAN B


    WHY YOU NEED A PLAN B ASK YOURSELF
    ++Few

    DO YOU HAVE AN ALL-OR-NOTHING ATTITUDE? Ify ou cantmake itperfect, do you justify n ot trying atall? DO YOU PSYCH YOURSELF OUT by imagining all the stuffthatcould gowr ong, ignoring the possibilitiesofwhatmight go right? DO YOU RESIST WHATS NEW? What is your gut reaction t o changing a habitor r outine? DO YOU BUSY YOURSELF WITH SMALL STUFF as away to keep other, perhaps more valuableor important, tasks at the bottom of your to-do list? DO YOU LET NEGATIVE EMOTION SHUT YOU DOWN? Do you allo w residual guiltor shame fr om past f ailures do the decision-making f or y ou?
    To get to the root, ask yourself why youre not doing something. Then ask, why is that? Ask and answer why is that? three more times. Your last answer should be revealing.

    things in life are forever. Work on your Plan B before Plan A becomes intolerable. ++If youre coasting through life, devise a Plan B that excites and challenges you.
    ++How

    am I getting in my own way of setting up a Plan B? ++Who can help me see my situation more clearly? ++How can I break down my plan into do-able chunks so I dont get overwhelmed?
    ++The

    REMIND YOURSELF

    only direction is forward, and every inch is progress. ++Dont worry about perfection; focus on progress. ++Make sure you take a rest now and then.

    www.unstuck.com /tip-cards/fear

    www.unstuck.com /tip-cards/plan-B-tips

    TI PCA R D# 1 5

    TI PCA R D# 1 6

    MORGAN CALLAN ROGERS ON FINDING PURPOSE LATER IN LIFE


    LOOKING AT YOUR LIFE SO FAR RECOGNIZING YOUR PURPOSE GOING FOR IT
    Dont ever discount anything you do; the journey is imperative. Listen to that inner voice, no matter how ridiculous, impractical, or out-of-reach your hearts desire seems to be.

    4 PRINCIPLES ON PRODUCTIVITY
    WILLPOWER IS FINITE.
     We have a limited bucket of resources for activities like decision making and impulse control, and when we use these up, we dont have as much for the next activity.
     Dr. Roy Baumeister from Your Brain at Work

    CRE A TE ROUTINES TO FREE UP BRAIN POWER F OR CRITICAL THINKING.


     I dont want to make decisions about what Im eating or wearing. You need to routinize yourself. You cant be going through the day distracted by trivia.
    Barack Obama

    ANYTHING WOR TH DOING IS WOR TH SINGLE-T ASKING.


     When people do two cognitive tasks at once, their cognitive capacity can drop from that of a Harvard MBA to that of an eight-year-old. Its a phenomenon called dual-task interference If accuracy is important, dont divide your attention.
     David Rock from Your Brain at Work

    If youre reading this and youre thinking you have to go it alone, dont. Please chew up your shyness and spit it out. Youll be glad you did. Paying bills and health insurance are both good things.

    THE PRODUCTIVITY SWEET SPOT IS BETWEEN STRESS AND RELAXATION.


     A little of the mental and physical arousal caused by stress can energize and motivate. But when stress spirals out of control, it starts to hurt your performance.
    The Yerkes-Dodson Law of Psychology

    KEEPING IT REAL

    www.unstuck.com /tip-cards/purpose_quotes

    www.unstuck.com /tip-cards/productivity

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