What Is Compassionate Anarchy
What Is Compassionate Anarchy
What Is Compassionate Anarchy
By (I)An-ok Ta Chai
Compassionate anarchy is a newly emerging revolutionary tendency, and a
mode of relating that goes back to the dawn of humanity. Compassionate
anarchy is a practice that can be incredibly hard to learn and keep, while at
the same time, some of the most enjoyable moments of our lives have been
when we have practiced it.
Compassion is what keeps anarchy from degenerating into violent chaos and
individual autonomy from resulting in disrespect and disregard for others.
Anarchy is what keeps our compassion from becoming a hollow shell of the
real thing - its what keeps our love for others from becoming a commodity
that is sold back to us or a ploy to make us acquiescent to the dictates of
authority. Compassionate anarchy is about finding and appreciating the
genuine soul in human beings and keeping it free from all authority,
submission, moralism, and static roles.
This approach holds that there exist real-life processes and actions that can
be taken to create more compassion and anarchy in our lives in the here-andnow. Compassion and anarchy are not just vague feel-good poetic
phrases or proscriptions/descriptions of a future society they are interactive
relationships that human beings everywhere can and do take part in.
This approach eschews lifestylism and strives for far-reaching anarchist
social revolution. However, unlike many anarchist approaches to revolution,
compassionate anarchy seeks to avoid dehumanization, polarization, and
projecting enemy images onto others. The anarchist social revolution is seen
as the immense application and proliferation of anarchist ways of relating.
This approach is akin to Gustav Landauers sentiment when he said: The
State is a condition, a certain relationship between human beings, a mode of
human behavior; we destroy it by contracting other relationships, by
behaving differently.
I would like to tell you a story about myself. Ive been an anarchist for about
seven and a half years, and during this time Ive gone through about a year
So, to put these steps into the NVC model with the intention of expressing
ones own state of being, one would say something like: When I see
**observation** I feel **feelings** because I am needing **needs**, would
you be willing to **request**? Likewise, if one is to use the NVC model to
ourselves nor in those we are trying to change. Sooner or later, those with
more power will prevail, and we are left bitter and defeated. This cycle is a
major cause of burn-out among activists.(from the article No Enemies,
No Demands which can be found here:
http://www.cnvc.org/noenemies.htm )
This brings me back to the application of NVC to anarchism and activism. I
see a lot of in-fighting, controversies, splits, and general contention within
the anarchist/activist scene, and I think that a lot of this stems from how we
view and relate to one another and ourselves. For example, when we call
people selfish, reactionary, authoritarian, sexist, lazy, closed
minded, or bourgeois, we are not referring to a clear observation that we
are reacting to, nor are we referring to what we are personally feeling,
needing or what actions we would like to see. Labels such as these serve to
project enemy images on those we are referring to, it is the automatic
drawing up of sides with the implication being that the side that is labeled
such is the bad side that deserves to be punished somehow.
What I would like to see instead of this, is an empathic interplay. When
someone says or does something that you are triggered by, first you can
check in with yourself, see what you are reacting to, see what you are feeling
and needing, and what specific action you would like to see the other person
do. Then you can express this to the other person, and if they respond by
saying something that triggers you, you can repeat this process with this new
stimulus. Another option is to empathize with the other person who is doing
something that you do not enjoy. What is this other person feeling and what
are their underlying needs behind what they are doing? You can guess at this
and ask the other person for clarification on whether this is true. This can in
turn be another kind of dialogue that you can have to help resolve this
situation.
I tend to find it the most useful to engage in a mix of these two processes
both checking in with myself to see what is going on within myself as well
as empathizing with the other person to try to discover what is going on
within them and why they are doing what they are doing. It does not help to
jump into a situation with an immediate goal in mind that one wants to see
come about, I find it far more useful to make sure that a clear mutual
understanding is established about what feelings and needs are active for
everyone involved, and only once I am certain that we are all very much
aware of that, then going about a process of creatively strategizing to find
ways to meet the needs of all those involved.
I also see great potential for NVC to be used in community outreach and
organizing as well. Often-times anarchists and radical activists come from a
very unique and marginal sub-culture, which makes it hard for us to truly
understand those we regard as mainstream or non-political. NVC can be
used to help us dissect what exactly is going on with those whom we do not
understand, with those that we are alienated from for various cultural
reasons. Mainstream and non-political people all have feelings and
needs within them as well, and it is through the use of NVC that we can
bridge the gaps between us and help us bring about clear mutual
understanding.
Going back to my earlier story you may be wondering what was it about
NVC that led to me escaping my cynicism and pessimism about the
anarchist/activist scene? Ill tell you NVC helped me connect with my own
humanity and the humanity of those around me. I was able to stop viewing
other anarchists as reactionary, authoritarian, incompetent or any
other negating label, and instead was able to see them as actual human
beings, striving to meet various needs of theirs in the best way they know
how. The same goes with the mainstream and non-political people as
well, I stopped seeing them as clueless, consumerist and short-sighted
and was able to see them as the fragile, scared and fallible human beings that
they are, trying to get by in this world. Sure, all too often I lose the NVC
consciousness and go off on labeling and judging myself or others, but at
least now I know that a deeper understanding and way of authentically
relating to other people without domination and hierarchy is indeed possible
right now.
Empathy Groups
(By (I)An-ok Ta Chai, with pieces adapted from the work of Miki and Inbal Kashtan)
connected with the needs underlying the request and how this will
contribute to that person. This is because advice and discussion abound in
our society, whereas the genuine search for and appreciation of ones
subjective experience and underlying needs is very few and far between.
The goals of all of this are authentic connection and deep understanding,
not reading from scripts or abiding by a rule-book. Therefore it is always
a personal judgement call in the moment about what to say, when to say
it, and how to go about things exactly. If something(such as the classical
NVC model or verbal empathy guesses) is not helping you to establish
real connection and understanding, feel free to use another tactic for that
situation.
Staying with these simple guidelines is so different from our accustomed
ways of speaking and thinking that it may be very hard or uncomfortable
to do. However, many have experienced that there are many layers of
depth to be discovered through this very simple tool if one sticks with it
longer than one could before. Feel free to take the time to check in with
your OWN feelings and needs if your discomfort is making it hard to be
fully present with the other person.
In thinking about how to divide time in your group, you may want to
consider either dividing time equally each meeting, or giving one person
more time each meeting. If you choose the latter, it is suggested that you
still give each person at least a few minutes to check in with whats going
on for them at the moment, then proceed with focusing on one person for
the remainder of the time.
Take your time! Dont rush things. Pauses and moments of silence can be
very useful in having one reflect on and fully consider ones feelings and
needs. A barrage or rapid succession of empathy guesses can detract from
having one fully appreciate what is going on for them, internally.
Dont be attached to results. While empathy can indeed have a personally
healing or transformative effect on people, being attached to certain
outcomes can distract from being fully present and appreciating where
someone is at in the moment.
This is a collective and forum of people who are fairly committed to both
NVC and anarchism.
We request that before joining this group that you read the rest of this page,
on anarchism and NVC, plus the NVC book("Nonviolent Communication: A
Language of Life" by Marshall Rosenberg), to help you decide if you would
like to participate. We will be using NVC and anarchist practices and
language, and expect new participants to have at least some familiarity with
these.
We also request that you make a sincere effort to follow NVC principles in
your postings here. Two examples:
Include a request about what you want in response to your post (you're more
likely to get it). Do you want empathy? Strategy help? From whom? How?
Instead of from making judgments, diagnoses or evaluations (even
"positive" evaluations such as "you're very compassionate") of other persons
or groups under discussion, state what you're observing that leads you to
your evaluation, and what underlying needs of yours are "on-the-table."
== A Few Final Disclaimers ==
We do not see Nonviolent Communication and empathy *by themselves* as
being enough to bring about a transformative anarchist social revolution.
While we agree with the phrase "man does not live by bread alone", we also
turn it around and say "people do not live by empathy alone" as well. We
seek to have the whole diverse palette of universal human needs(check this
out for some examples of them: http://www.cnvc.org/needs.htm ) met
through direct action and cooperative means. Our focus, as a collective and a
forum, is on Nonviolent Communication and anarchism specifically. While
at the same time we do recognize that many other people and groups out
there are doing some very important work in other areas dealing with more
material and physical human needs.
Following the fundamental anarchist principle of "free association", this
collective and forum is a closed one. This means that not everyone can join
this group, and we can decide who we want to associate with, who we don't
want to associate with, and on what terms. There are no "rules" on how this
Compassionate Anarchy: