Strangers and Villages
Strangers and Villages
Strangers and Villages
2. What does it mean to be part of the group encountering the unfamiliar--to be part of the
village?
4. What does it mean to be the unfamiliar one, the stranger?
5. As you read the following excerpt, mark the text for ways in which the two characters are
either strangers or part of a village. Be prepared to discuss your markings.
My daughter wanted to go to China for her second honeymoon, but now she is afraid.
“What if I blend in so well they think I’m one of them?” Waverly asked me. “What if they
“When you go to China,” I told her, “you don’t even need to open your mouth. They already
“What are you talking about?” she asked. My daughter likes to speak back. She likes to
“Aii-ya,” I said. “Even if you put on their clothes, even if you take off your makeup and hide
your fancy jewelry, they know. They know just watching the way you walk, the way you carry your
a sour American look on her face. Oh, maybe ten years ago, she would have clapped her
hands—hurray!—as if this were good news. But now she wants to be Chinese, it is so fashionable.
And I know it is too late. All those years I tried to teach her! She followed my Chinese ways only until
she learned how to walk out the door by herself and go to school. So now the only Chinese words she
can say are shsh, houche, chr fan, and gwan deng shweijyau. How can she talk to people in China
with these words? Pee-pee, choo-choo train, eat, close light sleep.
How can she think she can blend in? Only her skin and her hair are Chinese. Inside—she is
all American-made.
It’s my fault she is this way. I wanted my children to have the best combination: American
circumstances and Chinese character. How could I know these two things do not mix?
I taught her how American circumstances work. If you are born poor here, it’s no lasting
shame. You are first in line for a scholarship. If the roof crashes on your head, no need to cry over
this bad luck. You can sue anybody, make the landlord fix it. You do not have to sit like a Buddha
under a tree letting pigeons drop their dirty business on your head. You can buy an umbrella. Or go
inside a Catholic church. In America, nobody says you have to keep the circumstances somebody else
gives you.
She learned these things, but I couldn’t teach her about Chinese character. How to obey
parents and listen to your mother’s mind. How not to show your own thoughts, to put your feelings
behind your face so you can take advantage of hidden opportunities. Why easy things are not worth
pursuing. How to know your own worth and polish it, never flashing it around like a cheap ring. Why
No, this kind of thinking didn’t stick to her: She was too busy chewing gum, blowing bubbles
“Finish your coffee,” I told her yesterday. “Don’t throw your blessings away.”
“Don’t be so old-fashioned, Ma,” she told me, finishing her coffee down the sink. “I’m my
own person.”
And I think, How can she be her own person? When did I give her up?
6. In each of the following clips, how does the main character differ from the village around
him/her? How does the filmmaker set the “stranger” apart from the “village” in each clip
(consider clothing, dialogue/language, cinematic technique, music, etc.)?
Lawrence of Arabia
Mean Girls
7. Brainstorm a list of other films, TV shows, or novels that explore a related conflict (stranger in
the village). In each, who is the “stranger” and who or what is the “village”?
8. Why is this archetype (a story pattern that appears across cultures) so common in literature
and film?
8. Quickwrite: Think about a time when you were excluded or treated like a stranger. What
were your feelings at the time? How did you respond? In what ways did that event shape or
change you as an individual? Write about that time: examine the experience of being
treated like a stranger, explain how you responded or felt at that time, and reflect on the
ways in which that event has shaped your life.