The 10 Minute Pull

The Most Effective Method Ever Created

For Pulling -- Anytime, Anywhere.

By Mark Chang
 Chapter 1: The Truth About Pulling

The following pages contain the single most powerful and

effective secret for getting laid.

Period.

And the crazy part is that once you learn it, you’ll be able
to pull a girl from a club or bar within 10 minutes of
meeting her.

In teaching this method, I’ve seen some of the craziest shit

Guys hooking up in the broom closet...

Bathroom bangs...

A couple guys pulling in under 6 minutes…

And multiple pulls in a night.

And it was crafted from my countless nights of going out

and talking with thousands of girls and hundreds of pulls.

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But before we get into the details, just a little bit about
myself…

I used to be a nightclub promoter in Las Vegas and a coach

for Real Social Dynamics

And now I’m revealing all of the secrets that I learned from
my 3 years in Vegas going out 5-7 nights a week and
staying out until 6am in this program

Literally how I used to teach it, word for word.

And this method, no exaggeration, would get almost every

guy to pull--within 10 minutes of meeting a girl.

About 80% of the guys I taught the method to would pull

the first night they learned this method

I know, that sounds like an exaggeration...

But it’s the truth.

During my time in Vegas, I was obsessed with learning the

most efficient strategy and method for pulling...

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And it took me 2 years of going out 5-7 nights a week,
usually staying out until 6am even at Drais After Hours
and strip clubs, and literally speaking with thousands of
girls, and pulling hundreds of times, to figure this out.

I still remember my first 10 minute pull, I was at Drais

Nightclub at the Cromwell Hotel in Las Vegas…

I saw a girl who caught my eye.

It was a nightswim night, so she was wearing a sexy blue

bikini, and I went over to talk to her.

“You’re fucking gorgeous”

Her eyes locked with mine.

I stood tall, standing my ground, and closed the distance

in one smooth step forward.

“What’s your name”

I asked, holding steady eye contact.

When she told me her name, I took a step closer. Now my

face was inches away from hers.
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After 3 minutes of sensual dancing, I took her hand and
walked for the exit.

Less than 10 minutes later, we were back at my apartment

complex having sex in the hot tub.

What did I say to her to make her want to go home with

me?

This is where most guys get it wrong.

It wasn’t what I said, it’s what I ​did.

Once I understood the dynamics of physicality and

logistics, I had the confidence to know that whenever I
went out to the nightclub, I wouldn’t be going home
alone…

Then 9 months later, I wrote down everything that I had

discovered and put it into a system.

And as soon as I started teaching it, it changed everything.

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The first guy I taught this to, Mark, was 5’3”, insecure
about his height, HATED nightclubs, and had only had sex
with one girl in his entire life.

We met at my apartment, and I told him the steps of the 10

Minute Method.

“It’s not what you say, it’s what you do” I reminded him.
“Remember, LEAD PHYSICALLY FIRST. And when I tell
you to, take her hand and go for the exit. It’s that simple.”

After our pre-brief, we first went to Marquee Nightclub at

the Cosmopolitan.

Mark approached, then approached again, then

approached again…

Nothing.

“Mark!” I shouted over the loud EDM music. “Let’s go

outside for a bit!”

We went to the bar just outside the club.

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“Hey man, don’t worry about it,” I comforted him.
“Remember, LEAD PHYSICALLY FIRST. Trust me, when
I signal, take her hand and go for the exit.”

He nodded, and we decided to switch things up, so we

headed to XS Nightclub at the Encore Hotel.

Mark was visibly nervous.

“Dude, just have a good time. Trust the process. And just
lead when I tell you to.”

He nodded again.

We headed into the club, and I pointed at a cute girl in a

short, tan dress.

“Go talk to her”

Mark went over to talk to her.

I couldn’t hear what they were saying, but I could tell by

her enthusiastic body language that things were going
well.

I signaled to Mark.
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5 minutes later, they were leaving the club together...

And less than 10 minutes later, they were on his

motorcycle heading back to his place.

Here was his text the next day…

To be honest, I was almost shocked at how quickly Mark

was able to learn this method.

So the next night, I went out with another guy, Carl, who
also wanted to learn the method.

Carl was a tall military dude from the South who was
usually pretty decent with women, but he was on a dry
spell.

Having heard about Mark’s success, he asked for my help.

As we headed to Surrender Nightclub at the Encore Hotel,

Carl looked a bit nervous.

“You’ll do fine man,” I said. “Don’t worry about it.

Remember, just enjoy yourself, and when I signal, then
move it forward.”
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He nodded.

When we entered the club, I sent him in to talk to girl after

girl, but nothing was really sticking.

Until Carl sat down to talk with a gorgeous Indian girl.

Although I couldn’t hear the conversation, I could tell they

were hitting it off, so I made the signal.

Carl saw it, and made the move.

Minutes later, they were outside.

Only one problem, she couldn’t leave the hotel…

So I texted Carl and signalled to him to check his

messages.

“Go for the hotel lobby bathroom”

Seeing the message, Carl took action.

He took her towards the bathroom, realized that it was

packed, and slid into the janitor’s closet next to it.
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When he came out a few minutes later, he looked a bit
dazed.

Him and the girl headed back towards the club, she left
him with a brief kiss, and headed off

I ran over to Carl.

“Dude, what happened?”

“She scratched the hell out of me…”

“What do you mean? Are you ok?”

“Yeah, she’s a wild one…”

“So you got it in?”

“Yep”

Then a smile came over his face.

As I felt the relief come over me, that’s when I recognized

that this method is POWERFUL.

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We went back into the club, and about an hour and a half
later, Carl was walking out with ANOTHER girl back to his
car.

Unbelievable.

The next day, I had another guy, Bob, who was eager to
learn this method after hearing about Carl and Mark.

He was Australian guy with a shaved head and a hearty

laugh.

We headed to the newest club on the Vegas Strip at the

time, Omnia, so that I could guide him through the
process.

“Remember, when I signal, just go for the exit, no matter

what. Got it?”

“Sure.”

We headed into the club.

Bob had a knack for ballsy approaches and went up to a

beautiful brunette at a VIP table.

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I watched from a distance.

In less than a minute, I signalled.

Bob had an incredulous look on his face.

After the conversation ended, I asked him…

“What happened man?”

“Mate, I’d only been talking to her for a minute...did you

want me to go for the exit?”

“Yes.”

“That’s crazy mate…”

“Look, just trust me, it’ll work.”

“Alright man, I’ll try it…”

He seemed it bit hesitant, but he went back in to speak

with a blonde beauty.

This time, on my signal, he took her hand and started

heading for the exit.
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Surprisingly, they didn’t stop, and off they went.

Although they didn’t end up leaving the club, Bob came up

to me afterwards…

“Mate, that was insane! She just went with it!”

“I know man. Now let’s do it again.”

Throughout the night, Bob had 2 more pull attempts, and

he was getting closer each time.

Finally, as the night was nearing its end, Bob spotted a

gorgeous girl in a blue dress.

“Hold on mate, let me go talk to this one.”

Bob briskly strode over to her, walked her out the exit, into
his car, and back to his place.

Boom. From introduction to the car in less than 10

minutes.

3 for 3.

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In the following week, word of the method spread like
wildfire.

In the next 10 days, 6 more guys paid me to teach them the

10 Minute Pull Method.

One by one, I would take these guys to the club…

And every single one of them would pull.

Word of the method caught fire, and I continued to teach it

to guys throughout the summer.

And it is still, to this date, the most effective method I’ve

ever seen for pulling from a nightclub.

Actually, even after teaching guys how to do this in the

club, I had a guy come to me who wanted to learn how to
pull during the daytime.

I was a bit hesitant because I’d only ever taught it at night.

And, by the way, this guy was a successful dating coach

himself...

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I won’t disclose his identity to protect his privacy, but
chances are you’d recognize the name.

Anyway, I taught him the steps, then we went out to 3rd

Street Promenade in Santa Monica…

And within an hour he had a stunning blonde (who was

also an engineer) back at his place.

As a veteran dating coach himself, his mind was blown.

And even I was amazed at how easily this transferred to

the daytime environment.

So this works anytime, anywhere.

And, to date, it’s the most effective method I’ve seen to

pull girls.

And I know it sounds crazy, but almost all of these guys

who learned the method would pull within 10 minutes,
and once you see it and once I explain the reasoning
behind it, you’ll understand why.

So I’m excited to teach this to you, because if you’ve been

struggling to pull consistently...
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Or you’ve never pulled before...

Or maybe you do pull consistently, but only after an hour

or two of conversation...

Then this will BLOW YOUR FUCKING MIND.

And one last thing about this method that makes it

amazing, especially if you’re an introvert, is that it requires
little to no talking.

My wings would ask me, “how are you pulling without

talking?”

Because for me, I’m actually an introvert, and I hate small

talk.

Or talking in general.

And since we know each other now, I want to confess

something that might shock you…

I never liked going to the club.

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Wait, you’re a nightclub promoter, a coach for Real Social
Dynamics, and you didn’t like going to the club?

How is that possible?

Because once I discovered that I didn’t even have to talk to

hook up with hot girls, that totally changed everything for
me!

I would literally do about 10-20% of the talking while I let

the girl do 80-90% of the talking...

And she would want to go home with me within minutes of

introducing myself.

So yeah, if you’re an introvert, then keep reading.

And why did I wait until now to reveal this?

Because, honestly, I’m a private person, and I have a

girlfriend now...

And if she knew the full extent of the savagery that I was
involved in, then it could be a bit unsettling for her.

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But I also don’t want this knowledge to go to waste, so I
feel OBLIGATED to reveal this…

Because before now, it’s only been stuff of legend among a

few guys and past RSD coaches, and only a handful of guys
in the world know about this...

Until now.

But before you learn about the method. I have to warn

you, there’s a catch...

This method requires a big set of balls.

Even though this method is simple, there are some parts of

this method that are ridiculously ballsy...

But that’s also why it’s so effective.

Because when the girl sees how much of a fucking boss you
are, she won’t be able to wait until you take her home...

Or to the bathroom...

Or to your car...

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I’ll leave it up to you.

Because no matter where you take her, all she’ll have on

her mind is one thing...

Your cock.

So as long as you’re the kind of guy who isn’t afraid of

being ballsy, then feel free to keep watching.

So without further ado, let’s get into it.

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 Chapter 2: How To Pull Like A
Savage

I need to write this disclaimer before we dive in…

The tactics in this book are ​powerful​, so I urge you to

please use them ethically!

They are meant for someone with good intentions, and not
to be used for manipulation.

So if you have intentions to take advantage of or

manipulate anyone in any way, then I urge you to STOP
READING THIS BOOK NOW.

Seriously, if this content gets in the wrong hands, then the

consequences could be very bad....

So please pull responsibly.

Alright, now let’s get into it.

So there are a few concepts to cover so that you can

understand and internalize the tactics and strategies that
you’ll learn in later chapters. So let’s go over them.
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So here’s the first principle…

“The Arousal Principle” - The more turned on or aroused a

girl is, the more open she is to doing things with you.

So whether that’s getting a drink, going to the dancefloor,

making out, leaving the club with you, or having sex, if
she’s more aroused, then she’ll be more open to doing
things.

For example, if you meet a girl who just got into town and
is exhausted from her plane ride over and maybe she’s
hungry, a bit cranky, and you meet her in the hotel lobby,
chances are that she’s not very aroused, and she wouldn’t
even want to talk to you for more than a few minutes. And
keep in mind that it’s not just you, it’s because she’s not in
the mood. That being said, there are ways to turn her on,
which we’ll talk about in later chapters.

But let’s say that same girl checks into her room, grabs a
quick bite to eat, goes down to the bar to have a couple of
drinks, and is starting to feel “in the mood,” then she’s .
She’s feeling more open to meeting some charming,
attractive dude and possibly going home with him.

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So the more aroused she is, the more down she is to do
something with you, whether that’s dancing, getting a
drink, or hooking up.

And here’s the crazy part…

Even if it wasn’t ​you​ who aroused her first, the principle

still applies.

What does that mean?

So even if a guy was dancing with her, got her turned on,
but then the guy went home and she’s still at the club, then
she’ll still be more open than she usually is to doing things
with you.

Think about it this way...

If you’re at the club with some friends, you all get lit, and
your friends leave, you still might hang around because
you’re out anyway and you’re in a great mood.

So now that we’ve gone over the arousal principle, let me

unveil the key concept behind the 10 Minute Pull Method,
and what makes this method so much more effective than
anything you’ll ever see…
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Most guys think that a girl has to be ​very aroused​ before
she decides to go home with you.

That sounds reasonable...

Because if a girl is horny and into you, then she'll sleep

with you, right?

But here’s the thing: having a high arousal level is ​not ​the
most important thing for pulling...

We'll talk more about that in a minute.

For now, let’s move on to the next concept--​compliance

testing.​

Once again, this might be a familiar term to you, but in

this book, we’re going to define it in a specific way:
compliance testing​ is taking an action to see where a girl’s
arousal level is.

Here’s an example.

Let’s say you meet Susie at the nightclub. She’s all alone at
the bar waiting for her friends, and you start talking to her.
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After a minute of talking, she gets a little more touchy, and
her eyes start to glow. You’re not sure if she’s just being
friendly and loose from the alcohol, or if she’s actually into
you.

Most guys would think, “she’s probably just being friendly,

we just met a minute ago…”

But there’s no way of knowing, unless you take a specific

action and see how she responds.

So if you say to Susie, “Wanna go dance?” and she says,

“Sure!” then you know that she is aroused enough to go
dance with you.

If she says, “I don’t know, I should wait for my friends…”

then you can see that her arousal level is lower.

Now let’s say that instead of asking her to dance, you lean
in for a kiss.

Remember, that you barely met Susie just a minute ago, so

if she kisses you back, then she’s likely very aroused!

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If she doesn’t, then you know that she’s not turned on
enough to kiss you.

And here’s the third level. If you tried kissing her, and she
doesn’t make an excuse to leave, then her arousal level is
somewhere in the middle, and you’re still in a great
position. We’ll talk about that in more detail in later
chapters.

Ok, so we’ve covered the arousal principle and compliance

testing, what’s next?

So when Susie goes to dance with you or kisses you back,

that means her arousal level is above the ​action threshold.
The action threshold is how aroused Susie has to be in
order to do something with you, whether that's going to
the dancefloor, kissing, or leaving the club with you.

And here's what sets the 10 Minute Pull Method apart

from anything else that is being taught in the industry...

We’re constantly compliance testing to see where the

action threshold is so that we can pull in the shortest time
possible.

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But it's not always that simple. Even if a girl's arousal level
is above the action threshold, that doesn't mean that she's
automatically going to go home with you. This isn't like a
video game, where you just keep tapping "B" until your
green bar moves past the red line (although it's kinda
similar actually...)

So what else do we have to consider?

There's another factor aside from how turned on a girl is to

determine whether she's going to go home with you...

It's called the ​shame factor​.

If you went to a nightclub with 3 of your guy friends, and a

girl started talking with you, and you went home with her,
your friends the next day would probably say...

"Dude, did you get laid last night?! Right on!"

...followed by a fist bump.

Now if you're a girl and you were at the club with 3 of your
girl friends, and some random guy started talking to you
and you went home with him, your friends probably

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wouldn't have the same response. It would be more along
the lines of…

"OMG, did you really go home with him?? Seriously, what

were you thinking??"

...then you start crying and saying…

"I don't know! I was drunk!"

Ok, I might be exaggerating a bit, but you get the idea.

For guys, getting laid is a feat to celebrate.

For girls, getting laid could be met with humiliation and

embarrassment, depending on who the guy is and what
your friends' personalities are like. But let's face it, if the
guy is Brad Pitt, then your girl friends would be giving you
fist bumps too.

Ok, just one last concept to cover before we move on to the

knitty-gritty details of how to pull...

The final concept is escalation, which you might be

familiar with. But just so we’re on the same page,

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escalation is any action that has the intention of moving
things forward towards sex.

So let’s say you're talking with Susie, and it's just platonic
and friendly at first. Then you take her hand, go to the
dancefloor, and she starts grinding on you, that's an
example of escalation.

Or if you're just having a friendly chat with her at first,

then you lean in for a kiss, that's also a form of escalation.

It's basically any action that you take to move things

forward with her, whether that's hand holding, kissing,
going to the dance floor, or even talking about more sexual
topics.

So, as you can see, there are different types of escalation,

and it's important to understand the differences between
each of them.

Overall, there are 3 fundamental types of escalation:

1) Verbal
2) Physical
3) Logistical

Now here's the key question for you...

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Which of these 3 channels is the most important for
pulling?

This is a bit of a trick question because you might've said

"physical," or even "verbal"...

But the answer is "logistical."

Why?

Well, is it possible to "pull" (leaving the nightclub with a

girl) without touching her or saying anything?

It might seem crazy, but yes.

But is it possible to pull without moving?

By definition, we would have to move in order to leave the

club with her, so no.

And that isn't to say that verbal and physical aren't

important, but logistical is the only one that you actually
need to ​pull​.

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But that doesn't mean we're going to ignore verbal and
physical altogether, because our goal isn't just to pull...

It's to get laid.

Because what is the most important channel of escalation

for getting laid?

You guessed it...​physical​.

Is it possible to have sex without getting physical?

Unless you're Houdini or some kind of ghost, then no.

And what's the use of pulling if you're not even going to get
laid?

So verbal escalation can get us off the tee, logistical

escalation can get us on the green, and physical escalation
can get the "ball" in the hole.

So remember this:
The goal isn't to have ​verbal​ sex, there's plenty of
late-night hotlines for that...

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What you want is to have a hot, horny girl in your bed in
the shortest possible time.

And this is one of the defining ideas behind the 10 Minute

Pull Method.

Instead of focusing on ​what to say​, which is what 99% of

guys do...

Be the 1% and focus on getting out of the club and into the
bedroom (or someplace else depending on how
adventurous you are...we'll talk more about that later).

So you can let the other guys brag about getting numbers
and make-outs, while you can pull like a savage.

In the next chapter, we'll talk about how to do exactly that,

step-by-step.

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 Chapter 3: Getting The Ball Rolling

Let me start this chapter by saying that what you're about

to learn will make you unstoppable...

You'll be able to see a hot girl, follow the process

step-by-step, and be on your way to pulling her...

Anytime, anywhere.

Once you understand and master these 4 simple steps,

pulling will become your superpower.

So now let's get into the steps of the 10 Minute Pull

Method.

The method consists of 4 steps:

1) Open
2) Move
3) Kiss
4) Pull

In this chapter, we're going to talk about the first step,

which is what most guys tend to focus on and can get hung
up on--how to open.

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But before we start, always remember that opening is just
the first step in the process--it can get the ball rolling, but
what we do afterwards, the rest of the steps, is what gets
the ball in the hole.

That being said, we still need to start the conversation, so

let's talk about how to open.

When it comes to opening, there's something that most

guys don't realize...

That if we want to pull, then opening is not just starting a

single conversation…

Opening is the process of opening ourselves up to the first

part of the night.

I know that sounds kinda gay, so let me explain.

At the beginning of the night, you might walk into the club
feeling a bit nervous. You just waited an hour in the
guestlist line, had to deal with the bouncer who looked like
he wanted to crush you like a toothpick, and even just
getting into the club felt like the journey to Mordor.

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Now here you are in the club, telling yourself, "I need to
find some girls to talk to...I don't want to stand here and
look like a chode..." Meanwhile, your heart is racing
because everyone seems to be drinking, yelling,
dancing...all with loud EDM music blaring in the
background.

You nod your head and tap your foot slightly off-beat,
trying to look cool and feel like you belong, but you get the
sense that everyone knows...

After a few minutes of feeling awkward and not knowing

what to do, you're faced with two choices, either going
home with your tail between your legs, or talking to some
girls.

So you after a few minutes of just standing around and

muttering to yourself, you finally work up the courage to
walk up to a pretty brunette in a blue dress standing alone
next to the bar, and you ask, "how's your night going?"

"What?" she responds confused.

"How's...your...night...going?"

"Oh, good." Then she turns away.

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You tap her on the shoulder to get her attention again, but
then she starts talking to the bartender. After a few
seconds, it’s clear that she’s trying to avoid you.

You walk away meekly.

Ouch.

If any part of that resembles how you feel in the nightclub,

don't worry...you're not alone.

Even as an RSD coach and a nightclub promoter, I would

still feel that way sometimes.

But let me ask you this...

Wouldn’t it be amazing if instead of seeing an attractive

girl and being nervous and hesitant, you see her and
immediately feel compelled to stride over and introduce
yourself?

I’m no different from most guys. I was a World of

Warcraft nerd in high school, and I’ve been an introvert all
my life. The difference between me and the other guys is

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that I know a process for getting myself immediately into a
​ here I feel compelled to talk to hot girls.
state of arousal w

So instead of forcing yourself to awkwardly talk to a girl,

until she tells you...

“I have to go find my friends”

or

“I need to go to the bathroom”

...and just walks away, then waiting a few minutes to

recover, then doing it again…

There's a better way to get into a state of arousal within

minutes.

Imagine feeling like you can freely talk to anyone,

including the hottest girls at the club without feeling an
ounce of anxiety. You feel like you own the place, and the
club is your kingdom.

For those who have heard of or have experienced

“approach anxiety,” this is the exact opposite...

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Have you ever felt that before?

If not, how does that sound to you?

It actually has a name…

It’s called “approach arousal.”

So if you want to get into “approach arousal,” there's one

simple thing that you could do that will get you there in
minutes, and it's not what you'd expect...

Here's the key...

Start with the situation that you’re afraid of the most.

For some guys, that would be talking to a couple. For

other guys, it would be talking to a bachelorette party.

And you're probably asking yourself, "if I'm trying to pull,

why would I talk to a couple?"

Remember what I mentioned at the beginning of the

chapter: opening is a process, not a single conversation.

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By throwing yourself in the deep end at the beginning of
the night, it does two things.
1) There is no other person in the club, including the hot
girls at the VIP tables, that you'd be afraid to talk to,
2) You become fully outcome independent, meaning that
you're not thinking about pulling, you're just living in the
moment (or more like trying to just survive the situation…)

The first point is pretty self-explanatory, but let me explain

the second point.

If you’re talking to, let’s say, a couple making out on the

dancefloor (those are my favorites, but try at your own
risk…), then you’re usually not thinking about pulling the
girl, especially if it’s at the beginning of the night. You’re
just thinking about surviving without getting your teeth
knocked out.

That makes you very present because you’re not thinking

about the outcome (pulling).

So what does that mean?

Well, when you’re not thinking about the outcome, you’re

just socializing for the sake of socializing. And you’d be
surprised, most people can feel that you’re not there to get
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anything from them, and you’re not talking them for a
specific purpose. You’re just enjoying talking to them.

And this energy is magnetic. Once you fully let go of the

outcome, you start acting “in flow.” So when you see that
hot girl, your first reaction is to step up and talk to her
from a place of arousal, not anxiety.

Once again, this is “approach arousal.” It’s when you’ve

crossed the threshold from fear to excitement, and talking
to hot girls actually ​turns you on​.

Getting turned on talking to girls? What a concept!

Anyway, remember the arousal principle from the last

chapter?

The more turned on or aroused a girl is, the more open she
is to doing things with you.

Now here’s where it all connects…

Because when you’re in a state of approach arousal and

you start talking with a girl, she can feel it…

Then she becomes aroused…

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And she’s opens herself up to doing things with you.

Boom.

So that’s the power of this process…

First you let go of the outcome, then you step into

approach arousal, and you pass that onto her.

Now what happens next will change the way you look at
these interactions because I’m going to share with you a
body language secret that is the starting point for the 10
Minute Pull…

This one simple sign is how I’m able to tell guys when she’s
ready for the next step without even having to listen to
their conversation.

What is it?

I’ll share it with you in the next chapter. Stay tuned.

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 Chapter 4: How To Get A Girl To Go
With You Anytime, Anywhere (Even
If She’s With Her Friends)

So now that we’ve opened and got her attention,

remember the next step in the process?

Move.

But how do you know when she’s aroused enough to

move?

I’ve done enough teasing at the end of the last chapter, so

it’s time to share this tip with you…

It’s simple.

When she squares up her hips to you.

This is a little known secret of body language that

psychologists use to tell where someone’s interest is.

When you square up your hips to either something or

someone, that object or person has the majority of your
focus.
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So let’s say you’re talking with a girl and she’s with her
friends. During your conversation, you can feel that she’s
into it. She’s playing with her hair, listening intently, and
her eyes are big. But just one thing, her hips are squared
up towards her friends and at a 45 degree angle away from
you.

What does that mean?

First off, it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t like you. Most
likely, based on most of her body language signs, she’s
probably into you.

But if her hips are squared up towards you, it just means

that she’s more concerned about what her friends are
thinking about your conversation. Maybe her friends are
judgmental or she’s self-conscious about what her friends
think. It’s not a bad thing though, and I’ll talk more about
how to handle that situation in a minute.

But let’s first talk about the alternative situation--if she’s

playing with her hair, has big eyes, and her hips ​are
squared up towards you.

Then it’s go time.

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That means it’s time to make a move.

And by move, I just mean to take her somewhere else,

ideally someplace more private where you can get a bit
more intimate without being judged. Usually the best spot
in the club is the dancefloor, even though if you have no
clue how to dance.

Why?

Because it’s more natural to get physical on the dancefloor

than most other places. And if you don’t know how to
dance, then I’ll tell you the exact move to do so that you
can move things forward with her without making a fool of
yourself. I’ll share that with you in the next chapter.

For now, let’s talk about the move itself.

So she’s squared up with you, and you know that it’s time
to move.

When do you actually make the move?

Immediately.

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Don’t hesitate on this. Strike when the iron is hot.

And I cannot emphasize this enough…

Even if she squares up within 30 seconds or the first 5

seconds of the interaction, just go for it.

Remember how we talked about compliance testing?

When you make the move, it gives you instant feedback on

where she’s at.

So just because she’s squared up, does that mean she’ll go

with you 100% of the time?

No.

Remember, when she squares up, it just means that you’re

her main focus, but there still might be something holding
her back from going with you. But the only way to tell
whether she’s willing to do so or not is to actually make the
move.

Plus, if she doesn’t want to go with you for some reason,

then will give you feedback on whether she’s ready to move
forward or not.
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But now let’s get into the details. Let me share with you,
step-by-step, exactly how to make the move for every
possible scenario.

If she’s alone…

This is the most straightforward situation.

And here’s the fundamental concept behind moving…

Lead physically first.

So when you want to go to the dancefloor, you don’t ask

“hey, wanna go dance?” and just stand there.

Instead, you take her hand, take a step towards the

dancefloor, and say “let’s go.” So in this case, you’re
leading physically first before saying anything.

Think about it this way.

Think about some event that you’d love to go to, like a

sports game for a specific team, or the Academy Awards,
or a Justin Bieber concert...whatever floats your boat.

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And let’s say you and your friend scored 2 front row tickets
to go to that event.

You and your friend are at your house, and you’re already
ready, but you’re waiting for your friend to get ready and
he’s running late.

Would you just say, “hey, do you want to go to that Justin

Bieber concert?”

No, you’d be like, “Come on, let’s go!” as you’re waiting by

the door. Maybe you even open the door hoping that the
sound of the door opening will create greater urgency for
your friend.

The same for going to the dancefloor.

If you stand around just asking for permission, then

anyone is going to be less willing to go with you. But if
instead, you take her hand, start walking, and say, “let’s
go,” now all the momentum is heading towards the
dancefloor.

Another principle of psychology to support this is the idea

that your psychology matches your physiology.

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So if her feet are already moving, then she’s more likely to
say “yes.”

But she’s standing still, then she’s more likely to say, “no.”

So get her feet moving.

Now here’s the next logical question: what if she asks

“where are we going?”

Good question.

Answer?

“Let’s go dance.”

Remember this: less is more.

If you over-explain yourself and make the question a big

deal, she’s going to feel like something is wrong.

So give the simplest answer possible, and keep moving.

Also, here’s a BIG mistake guys make when she asks you a
question...

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Most guys stop walking.

They either have to think of the response or they think that

they have to stop to answer her question.

Don’t do that.

If she doesn’t stop walking when she asks you the

question, then there’s no reason to stop. Remember, what
you’re doing with your body is more important than what
you’re doing with your words. If she’s still walking, then
keep moving your feet as you give your answer!

But what if she does stop her feet and ask, “where are we
going?”

In this scenario, you do have to stop, square up to her, and

answer the question.

So how do you respond?

“To the dancefloor.”

Then what do you do?

Start walking again!

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And continue the conversation from where it left off, as if
she’d never interrupted.

But here’s where the spanner gets thrown in the works.

Now she stops dead in her tracks and says, “Oh, I can’t”

“I have to wait for my friends”

“I should stay here”

“I don’t feel like dancing”

Now what do you do?

2 things: time constraint and location constraint.

For a time constraint, let her know that you’ll just go for 5
minutes and you’ll be right back.

For a location constraint, you can let her know that you’re
just going to go right over here, it’s not too far.

Or if you put the two of these together:

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“We’re just gonna go right over here, and we’ll just be 5
minutes. I’ll bring you right back, promise.”

You can even throw in a little pinky promise.

Then as soon as you give your response, what do you do?

Start walking again!

I hope you see a pattern here…

Always remember, lead physically first!

And also remember: less is more! Just give the simplest

answer you can, and don’t over-explain yourself.

Now let me break down why having a time and/or location

constraint is important because this will give you an idea
of what she’s thinking...

Remember, as a female in a nightclub, she’s worried about

three things: her physical, social, and emotional safety.

She’s obviously worried for her physical safety because

there are a lot of crazy guys out there, or guys who become
aggressive when they’re drunk, and she doesn’t want to
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put herself in a situation where she can get hurt or taken
advantage of.

She’s also worried for her social safety because if she loses
her friends or her friends worry about her, then they might
look down on her or get mad at her, especially if they find
out that she went off with some guy she just met.

And she’s also worried for her emotional safety because

she’s afraid that you might hurt her emotionally if you’re a
player.

In this scenario though, social safety is usually her main

concern, so you have to address that. The time and
location constraints reassure her that you guys won’t be far
and won’t be gone for too long so that her friends don’t
have to worry. You’re showing her that you’re empathetic
for her situation, so she doesn’t have to worry.

Now if she still says, “look, I just don’t want to dance right
now. Let’s just stay here.”

Then you can say “cool, no worries” and continue the

conversation, and you can try again later.

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The worst thing you can do is to be too attached and pushy
and force her to go anywhere or do anything with you.
Instead of using force, you can be playfully persistent. So
when she says “no,” Just keep it light, nonchalant,
maintain composure, let it go, and try again later.

Dealing with groups

This is where most guys get hung up.

They can pull just fine when a girl is alone, but when she’s
with her friends, it’s always the same objections…

“I can’t leave my friends…”

“Wait, but my friends…”

“I don’t know if I can, my friends…”

This can be a killer for guys who don’t understand group

dynamics.

And this is what sets the 10 Minute Pull Method apart.

Because once you understand, internalize, and master

group dynamics, you’ll be able to pull anytime, anywhere.
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In this section, we’ll go through each possible situation
step-by-step, so you’ll know how to deal with every
possible scenario that comes up, from handling a
bachelorette party to handling a situation where she’s with
her guy friend.

But before getting into specifics, let me ask you this…

If a girl is with her friends, whose opinion do you think

matters more, the girl’s or her friends’?

You might be surprised to hear…

...that it’s actually her friends’ opinions that matter more!

Think about it this way.

Let’s say you went out with a female friend of yours, or

even your sister…

(And I know what you might be saying...I would never go

to the club with my sister! Or “I don’t have a sister!” Come
on, just humor me here…)

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Ok, so you’re at the club with your sister, and some
random guy walks up without introducing himself and
starts talking to her.

The whole time, he is ignoring you and it’s clear that he’s
making moves on your sister. Five minutes pass, and he
still hasn’t acknowledged you. Then all of the sudden, he
grabs her hand and walks off with her.

What’s going through your head?

“Where did that guy take her?”

“Who is that guy?”

“What’s wrong with my sister?”

Most likely, you’re not happy. First of all, you might be

annoyed that your sister would just walk off without saying
anything. Secondly, you might be a bit worried for her. Or
if neither of those apply, you’re probably at the very least
curious as to who the heck that guy was…

But you could probably see how if you were to walk up to a

girl whose friends were standing there, and you never
acknowledge them, introduce yourself, or let them know
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where you’re headed with their friend, then it might be
alarming for them.

So there’s actually a fundamental concept of the 10 Minute

Pull Method that is an essential rule for it to work
properly…

And once you understand this rule, you’ll be able to master

group dynamics.

So you’ll be able to navigate any situation involving her

friends like magic...

Ready?

Here it is:
When moving from a group, the opinions of the friends
matter more than the girl’s opinion--they are the
gatekeepers!

Believe me, there have been countless occasions when this

rule has worked like a charm, even when the girl isn’t
interested!

What does that mean?

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Here’s an example…

There was one night at Surrender Nightclub in Las Vegas

when I was talking with a girl in the table area. We were
hitting it off and I noticed she squared up to me, so I
decided to take things a step forward.

I took her hand and said, “let’s go…”

“Where are we going?” she asked.

“Let’s go dance.”

“I don’t really want to…”

Instead of accepting that answer, I went to the friends…

“Hey, is it cool if I steal your friend for a moment to

dance?”

“Of course, go ahead! Enjoy yourselves!”

“Awesome, we’ll be back in a bit.”

Then off I went with her.

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Wait, but I thought she didn’t want to dance?

This is the power of group influence.

When you talk to her friends and actually get them on your
side, she feels more compelled to go along with your
suggestion, ​even if she didn’t even want to dance in the
first place.

For most guys that learn this, including myself, this is a

mind-blowing moment.

Because once I understood this, I realized that having the

friends on my side can actually be an asset rather than
something to worry about.

So without further ado, let’s get into it.

Small Group (with 2-3 friends)

This is the most common group scenario.

If she’s with 2 or 3 friends, then they usually move as a

pack of 3 or 4 girls.

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Now here’s the beauty of this situation…

If one girl gets separated from the rest, then the other 2 or
3 girls don’t feel alone because they have each other for
company.

It’s different than if she is just with 1 friend because that

friend might feel left out if you just ditch her (I’ll talk more
about how to handle that situation in a minute…)

So typically if she’s with 2 or 3 friends, you can start the

conversation with the girl you’re interested in, and after
some moments with her, you can introduce yourself to her
friends and ask them if they’re cool if you take her to dance
(or go to the bar, or show her around, etc.) as long as you
acknowledge them and let them know where you’re
headed.

So basically, when you want to take her to dance, go to her

friends and say…

“Hey, is it cool if I take Susie to go dance for a few

minutes? I’m Matt by the way, good to meet you.”

Remember, the friends are just concerned for her safety,

and it’s your responsibility to ease their mind. So just keep
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your vibe cool, let them know where you’re going, make
eye contact, and introduce yourself.

Also remember, just give the simplest answer possible.

If they’re a bit reluctant, you can resort to time and

location restraints like we discussed before.

So if they ask, “umm...where are you going exactly?”

“We’re just going to head over to the dance floor for 10

minutes, we’ll be right back.”

The biggest thing that the friends are looking for is to see if
you’re needy or if there’s “something off” about you.

So just stay calm, be cool, and nothing is a big deal.

Now let’s say they’re still hesitant, then what do you do?

“If you want to, you can come with.”

Why would I invite them if you’re trying to have some

alone time with your girl?

A couple of reasons.
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First of all, if you say this, then it shows that you’re not up
to anything. It shows enough empathy and consideration
to invite them along, and it also shows that you’re not up
to anything suspicious, you have nothing to hide.

Most of the time, they’ll just let you to go.

In the event that they do tag along, it’s all good. Once you
get to the dancefloor, they might still keep an eye on you,
but they’ll often give you enough space to hang out with
your girl. And usually after a few minutes and seeing that
you’re just dancing together, they’ll give you some alone
time.

Even if they choose to keep an eagle eye on you two,

remember, nothing is a big deal. Just keep hanging in
there, and we’ll talk about how to handle the pull itself in a
couple of chapters.

Big Group (4 or more friends)

This is a very common situation in Vegas.

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This is typically a bachelorette party, a birthday party, or
some kind of celebration with a large group of people.

The group dynamics can be a bit chaotic in a larger group

because there are more variables at play and it’s more
unpredictable.

As you’re pulling, you might have some person from the

group who has been keeping her eye on you try to
cockblock you in the redzone. There’s a lot of factors that
come into play, but at the same time, if you have an
understanding of what to do in this situation, you’ll find
that it’s not too difficult to handle.

There are two main fundamentals to keep in mind:

anticipation and speed.

Anticipation in the sense that if you know the lay of the

land as the situation is unfolding, then you’re going to
have a higher chance of succeeding.

If you’ve ever played an RTS (real-time strategy) game like

Starcraft or Warcraft, think of how the map unfolds.
When you start the game, there’s a fog of war that covers
most of the map. Now if you send scouts out to uncover
the map, you have a better idea of how things will play out.
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Same thing here. By asking your girl questions like

“What’s the occasion?”

“Who organized all this?”

“Who are you closest with here?”

Now you have a great idea of what they’re there for, who
the group leader is, and the person closest to your girl,
who is the person you should eventually get on your side.

Speed is also of the essence because, especially when the

group is large, there are a number of things that can get in
the way of any logistical move. Maybe the group leader
wants to keep track of anyone and has her eye on you. Or
maybe another friend wants to be saved by some creepy
guy who keeps hitting on her, and she uses your girl as her
haven. Whatever the case may be, being able to read and
react quickly to the situation will greatly increase your
chances of pulling.

Now let me walk you through the process, step-by-step, for

large groups.

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Honestly, it can be more straightforward than the small
group situation because in a small group, it’s quite obvious
when someone is missing, whereas in a large group, you
can separate from the group and everyone else might be
having too good of a time to notice.

That’s why it is imperative to know who the girl’s best

friend is and who the group leader is, because those are
the two people who will see if someone is leaving the
group. And it’s especially important to befriend her best
friend because she can make a case to the group leader
that you’re cool.

So here’s how this situation typically goes down…

You approach your girl and hit it off with her. Meanwhile,
during that conversation, you get a sense of what the
occasion is, who the group leader is, and who she’s closest
with. Then you meet her best friend.

After chopping it up with her best friend, you let him or

her know, “hey, is it cool if I take Susie to dance for a few?”

Most likely, if you’re cool with her friend, she’ll say “yes,”
at which point you won’t have to deal with the rest of the

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group, unless the group leader is overly protective and
comes over to confront you.

If that happens, then the best friend will defend you, and
you can also introduce yourself and put a location and
time constraint as you did before in the other scenario.

“Hey, great to meet you. I’m Matt. I wanted to take Susie

to go dance for a few minutes, is that cool with you?”

Usually, she will say “yes.” If not, then you can just leave it
for now and try again later.

If you follow this sequence, you’ll be able to take your girl

to the dance floor or to another location 80-90% of the
time. In the rare event that doesn’t happen, there’s
nothing to worry about. Just say, “Ok cool, no worries.
We’ll just hang out here” and try again later.

A Couple (with 1 friend)

Logistically, this is the one that most guys trip up on and

struggle the most with.

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Honestly, it’s because most guys are idiots when it comes
to this.

But we aren’t most guys.

Let me share with you how to handle the situation when

your girl is with only one other friend at the club, male or
female.

And once you see how this goes down, you’ll be shocked…

And you’ll also see how simple the solution it is.

Ready?

So if she’s with her guy friend, this is usually the easier

situation. Just invite him along to whatever you’re doing.

Almost always, he will either feel awkward as the third

wheel and say, “no it’s ok, you guys enjoy yourselves.”
Then he’ll leave you two alone.

Or, if he does tag along, he’ll typically find another girl to

hang with, or he’ll feel awkward over time and leave.

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Now if you’re dealing with an orbiter (a dude who’s in love
with your girl and won’t leave you two alone), then you
just have to play the war of attrition. What typically
happens in that situation is he will hang around until the
very end of the night, you grab your girl’s number at some
point in the interaction, then you set up plans to meet up
with her once he’s gone to sleep.

That’s usually the most annoying situation to deal with,

but the strategy works like a charm.

Now let’s say your girl is with her girlfriend.

What’s the main obstacle here?

Remember that the other girl is afraid of feeling left out,

and she fears that you two might ditch her.

So what’s the solution?

This is going to shock you…

Go for the threesome.

You might’ve read that and thought to yourself…

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“I don’t have the balls to do that.”

Remember what I said at the beginning of this book?

Some of these moves are going to require a massive pair of

balls…

And it only gets ballsier from here.

So why do you go for the threesome?

First of all, both girls are getting enough attention, so that

fear of being left out goes away.

And also because there is one of two things that happens

when you do so…

1) Either you have a threesome, or

2)Your girl’s friend gets tired and says “I’ll leave you two
alone, just take care of her, ok?”

Why does she give you that response?

Because she sees that you’re cool, you’ve given her enough
attention, and she trusts you.

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Believe me, when I first learned this, I was skeptical too.

Until one night, I tried it.

And guess what?

I pulled in about 7 minutes…

And I had a threesome.

So even if you’re feeling a bit hesitant about this…

I invite you to give it a shot.

What have you got to lose?

So overall, those are the strategies and tactics of moving. I

know it might sound like a lot, but once you’re going out
there and applying it, it’ll become like situation. Just go
back and re-read through this chapter again to brush up
on these scenarios. Keep practicing each time you go out.
Remember that you should be making the move
immediately ​when you see your girl square up to you.
Even if that’s 10 seconds into the interaction, just go for it!

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I guarantee you that if you master the concepts from this
chapter, especially if you learn to make the move as soon
as you see her square up, you’ll be changing locations
within 5 minutes or less consistently...anytime, anywhere.

In the next chapter, we’re going to go over how to kiss

within minutes, even seconds, of the move...

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 Chapter 5: How To Kiss A Girl
Effortlessly

This is where a lot of guys get stuck…

The kiss.

“When do I go for it?”

“How do I go for it?”

“How do I know when she’s ready?”

All of those questions will be answered in this chapter, and

the answers are simpler than you’d think.

The reason why we move to the dancefloor by default is

because it is more natural to get physical on the
dancefloor. This means that it will be more natural to kiss
in that environment.

And if you don’t know how to dance, you need not worry!

Believe me, if I had to know how to dance for this to work,

I’d still be a kissing virgin.
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The move is easy, and will allow you to quickly tell, within
a few seconds, when she’s ready to kiss…

What is it?

Once you’re at the dancefloor, or wherever you’ve moved

to, just simply take hands and wrap them around your
neck.

She’s either going to get close to you, place her hands

neutrally, or take her hands away.

If she gets close to you, then kiss her immediately!

If she’s neutral, then be patient. You can use pressure on,

pressure off to gradually get closer to her.

What is pressure on, pressure off?

Basically, you move a few inches closer to her, and see how
she responds. If she backs away, then you can also back
away a couple of inches (pressure off). If she doesn’t back
away, then just stay where you are, and you can move in
closer after another few seconds. Whenever you sense she

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feels uncomfortable or she backs away, then take a step
back yourself.

Along with pressure on, pressure off, you can also use the
pendulum.

Let me explain.

Let’s say you’re 10 inches away from her face. The

pendulum happens when you talk in her ear, where your
lips are either touching her ear or her neck. Then you pull
back, but you close the distance a bit, so now you’re 7-8
inches away from her face. If she backs away, then you can
back away yourself. If she doesn’t, then stand your
ground.

Now, you can talk into her ear again. When you pull back,
you can pull back less so that you’re only 5 inches from her
face now. If you hold that distance, and she doesn’t back
away, kiss her. If she backs away, then you can back away
yourself, and continually use this process to gauge when
she’s ready to kiss.

One other “tell” is if you embrace her, and her cheek

touches yours. Almost always, when her cheek touches
yours, she’s physically comfortable enough with you to
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kiss. I do have to admit though, there was a time very
early in a conversation with a girl (within the first minute)
when her cheek was touching mine while we were talking,
so I went in for a kiss. She kind of gave me a weird look,
then went off. I just laughed and moved on. That’s more
of the exception than the norm, but it does happen.

At this point, 80% of the time, you’ll have kissed. But for
the other 20%, no worries. Another way to escalate things
is to look down at her lips. This will increase the tension
and show more intention. You can also brush her hair
back behind her ear.

If she won’t kiss you on the lips, then you can kiss her
neck.

Also, keep this in mind:

Sometimes she doesn’t kiss you because she’s afraid of
being judged or she just doesn’t like PDA. So especially if
you go in for a kiss, she’s going to see that you’re the type
of guy to make a move, especially if you took her to the
dancefloor after a few minutes of talking, and you
immediately go in for a kiss. You’ll often get to this point
in the interaction within 5 minutes.

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Now, even when you go in for a kiss and she doesn’t kiss
you, if she still chooses to stay with you, then she’s
accepting that now she’s in an intimate interaction and
you’re not just going to be some friendly platonic guy who
doesn’t have the nerve to make a move.

Showing that you’re bold enough to do this takes you

immediately out of the “this is just a nice guy” into the
“this guy has some balls” frame. So would you rather
spend an hour of chatting and just end up as a “friendly,
nice guy” in her eyes, or would you rather be the ballsy guy
who she might reject, but she respects for your boldness?

And think of it this way, if she is into you, then it’s much
faster to just go in for it immediately rather than to wait
around.

Remember, we’re playing to win, not playing not to lose.

Ok, so if you’ve read this far, then there most likely there
have been a few parts of this book that have surprised you,
but that have also blown your mind.

Everything up to this point has been leading up to this

moment…

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Are you ready for the mind-blowing part of the method?

This is where the guys who learn this method get results…

And this is what determines whether you have the balls to

make this method work…

Ready?

So here it is…

AS SOON AS YOU KISS, IMMEDIATELY TAKE HER

HAND AND GO FOR THE EXIT!

You might be asking yourself…

WTF?

Believe me…

JUST DO IT.

This is the most important part of this method.

As soon as you kiss, take her hand and start walking.

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No seeding, no need to convince her with words…

Don’t over-analyze it…

Just walk.

“What if she says this or that…”

I’ll talk about that in a second, but for now, trust me. Just
walk.

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 Chapter 6: The Art Of The Pull

So now we’re finally at the part you’ve been waiting for…

Pulling.

Once you learn and master this part, you’ll have a

superpower…

And this will separate you from the rest of the chodes at
the club…

Ready?

Let’s dive in.

So here’s the biggest principle when it comes to pulling…

Go for the biggest pull first.

What does that mean?

Simple.

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As soon as you kiss, take the quickest and most direct
route straight back to your bed (or your preferred place to
smash).

And let’s say you live far away, then it’s time to improvise.

A car is a good second option, or to the bathroom if those

aren’t feasible, or you’re just a filthy degenerate (I say that
with love).

I’ve even pulled to a beach before…

Or even the nearest bush.

(That’s actually not a joke. I’ve done that before.)

Just any place with even a bit of privacy.

Just be resourceful.

No fucking excuses.

Now when it comes to the pull itself, half the time she’ll go
with you without even bringing up where you’re going.

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There was one time at Drais Nightswim when I walked up
to a cute girl in a bikini, started talking to her, and just
went straight for the pull after a few minutes of talking…

And she just went with it.

We walked straight out the exit, into the cab, no

complaints.

We went back to my place and had sex in the hot tub.

It’s amazing that most guys either wait for a couple hours
before even attempting to pull, or they have to deal with a
million objections when trying to leave with her.

Here’s the crazy truth of what I’ve found with fast pulling…

When you just man up and go straight for the pull

immediately after the kiss…

A girl will feel your confidence and allow you to take the
lead.

Do you ever wonder what a girl means when she says that
“you should be more confident?”

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She’s telling you that instead of dawdling around with
debating whether she wants to leave with you or not, just
take initiative and lead from the start.

That being said, there are sometimes when questions do

come up.

And when they do arise, the key concept is this…

What you say isn’t as important as how you say it.

Treat her concern like an afterthought--no matter what,

it’s not a big deal.

Just address it, continue walking, and resume the

conversation you were having before.

Think about it this way…

When a child is supposed to go to school, but let’s say they

say that they want to get ice cream instead, what do you
say?

“Sure, let’s just skip school and get ice cream.”

No.
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You’d probably say…

“Ok, I understand you want ice cream. We’ll get that after
school, ok?”

That’s the tonality you take. It’s not a big deal, we can take
care of it later, I have everything under control. For now,
we’re just going to leave for a few minutes and be right
back.

Don’t just amp up where you’re going. Instead make it

lower investment.

What does that mean?

So instead of saying…

“I want to show you an amazing place. It has crazy music,

all these lights, etc….”

You also need to reassure her that she’s going to be safe,

and she’s going to be back in a reasonable timeframe so
her friends won’t worry about her, or they won’t think
she’s slutty for leaving with you and ditching them.

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There are 3 types of resistance that you’ll encounter when
trying to pull:

1) She asks you a question, but she’s still walking

2)She’s slowing down and seems really hesitant
3)She stops dead in her tracks and is says something
like, “NO, I DON’T KNOW WHO YOU ARE AND WE
CAN’T LEAVE.”

For #1, do you remember what to do when she asks you a

question but she’s still walking?

Don’t stop walking!

Keep walking and just answer the question.

For example, if she asks “where are we going?”

You can just say, “let’s just go outside,” keep walking, and
keep talking about what you were before she asked the
question.

So it might look like this…

“Where are we going?”

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“Let’s just go outside for a bit and we’ll come right back.
So you were saying you’re from San Francisco?”

Don’t overcomplicate it. Just keep it simple, stay calm,

and treat her question like an afterthought.

For #2, if she slows down and stops and seems hesitant,
then just stop, turn to her, answer her question, and then…

You guessed it…

Keep walking!

But if she stops dead in her tracks and demands an

answer, then it’s probably for one of a few reasons…

1) She’s concerned for her physical safety

2)She’s afraid of being judged
3)She’s concerned about whether her friends will worry
about her
4)She’s not ready to leave the nightclub, maybe because
she actually wants to see the DJ or enjoy the club
(especially if she just got there).

If she’s concerned for her physical safety, then she most

likely just wants more specifics on where you’re headed
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and for how long, even if she really likes you. Remember,
you’re still a stranger she just met from the club, so it’s up
to you to make sure that she feels at ease with the
situation.

Think about it this way.

Imagine for a second that you were in her shoes, you just
met this guy, he’s cute and you’re hitting it off, but
suddenly he just wants you to leave with him. You’re
probably thinking...

“Where are we going?”

That’s a natural question. What would ease your mind?

When you’re pulling and you run into that situation, you
can do several things:

1) Make a joke
2)Show her on Google maps where you’re headed
3)Set a timer for 30 minutes and say you’ll be right
back, you just want to show her x.

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Aside from her physical safety, she might also be afraid of
being judged by her friends when they find out that she left
with some guy she just met.

If that’s the case, then you can say, “I understand. Do you

have your phone? Perfect. Text your friends, let them
know that we’re going outside to get some air (or insert
another location here), and we’ll be back in a few
minutes.”

If she’s afraid that her friends will worry about her

physical safety, then you could even take it a step further
and allow your girl to take a picture of your ID in case she
wants to send it to her friends. That way, she knows who
you are in case anything happens.

And to give even more reassurance, you can tell her “do
you have your stamp? Perfect. Don’t wash it off because
we’re coming right back.”

Now by this point, most girls will leave with you. But if she
still is hesitant and won’t leave, you can say, “Do you think
your friends will worry? It looks like they’re having a
pretty good time.”

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Now if she really wants to leave with you, but she’s mad at
her friends because they’re overly protective, then you can
create a conspiracy. Just ask her, “What’s up with your
friends?”

If she says, “yeah, they’re not friendly” or “yeah, I hate

them…” then you can use that to convince her to leave with
you.

Just say something like “that’s not cool. Wanna just go

somewhere else?”

If she agrees, then great. Just take her hand and leave.
But if she still says, “I can’t,” then just say “I understand,
how about we just go right outside and we’ll come right
back.”

“I’ll set a timer, and we’ll be back in x minutes, that way

you don’t have to worry.”

Then just cancel the timer and put the phone back in your
pocket.

Remember, she just needs a logical reason to go with you.

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And if at any point, she asks “why,” then just let her know,
“we don’t have to if you don’t want to, I just wanted to
spend more time with you in someplace more quiet.”

Always keep this in mind: although you’re being

persistent, you don’t want to be pushy. So if she’s giving
you a strong “no” and she’s saying “NO, I DON’T KNOW
WHO YOU ARE AND WE CAN’T LEAVE,” then just stay
calm, square up to her, look her in the eyes, and be
empathetic. Just say, “I understand we just met, I just
wanted to spend some time with you some place more
quiet. Are you not having a good time?”

Then just give her a logical reason and say, “Ok? We’ll be
right back, no more than x minutes. Here, I’ll even set a
timer. And if you totally hate it, we’ll come right back.”

The Magic Words

There are a few words that you can say to instantly

reassure her in 20 seconds that she’ll be able to return
safely and quickly.

These words will erase all of your pulling issues forever.

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But remember, they must be delivered in the right way too,
otherwise she won’t believe you.

So here are the magic words…

“Look, I don’t want to do anything you don’t want to do. If

you totally hate it, we can come right back.”

And if at any point, you feel that you’re being too pushy or
she’s feeling overly uncomfortable, just say, “Ok cool, no
problem. We can just hang out here then.” Then just go
back to dancing or where you were before and try again
later.

If all else fails, here are a couple of last resorts if you aren’t
able to pull straight away:

If she’s overly concerned about her friends, and you’ve

already tried a couple of times to pull, but she won’t budge,
then you can try inviting her friends back to your place too.
You will appear less sketchy to her friends because you’re
willing to consider them too.

If that still doesn’t work, then just be the last dick

standing.

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Basically, just stick it out (no, not your dick…) and tag
along with her and her friends and keep hanging out until
you have an opportunity to hook up with her. Just be
persistent, hang in there, and 90% of the time there will be
an opportunity that comes up to make something happen.

At this point, I’m sure you see how many possible

scenarios there are, and believe me, between me and my
students, I’ve been through all of them HUNDREDS of
times. But now you literally have the entire playbook that
has allowed the guys who have learned this to pull
consistently every single night within 10 minutes of
meeting a girl.

The key thing is, you MUST make a move as soon as you
see each of the “tells.”

Remember, when she squares up, she’s hooked. Go for the

move immediately!

And when you wrap her hands around your neck and she
does the same, then go for the kiss immediately!

And as soon as you kiss, go for the pull!

That’s it, plain and simple.

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And I guarantee that once you master these steps, which
can happen almost overnight, you’ll be able to pull girls
within 10 minutes or less, anytime, anywhere.

Congratulations, you have just learned the most effective

ever created for pulling!

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 Bonus #1: What To Do Once You’re Back At The
Place...

Ok, so now you’ve pulled.

Then what?

Here’s the great part of the 10 Minute Pull…

This method will get you plenty of chances back at your

place…

And each time you pull, you’ll get more comfortable with
escalating.

But let me walk you through a few tips if you feel

uncomfortable with escalating, or you get stuck
sometimes.

Tip #1: Proximity is power

Let’s say you’re back at your place with a beautiful girl, but
you don’t want to just jump on her right away. So how can
you escalate?

Use proximity.
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Just because it’s “physical” escalation doesn’t mean you
always have to be touching her. If you want to create some
tension, then just stand or sit near her. If she backs away,
then you can back away slightly. But if she doesn’t back
away, then it’s on.

Tip #2: Stare at her lips

If you start to feel the sexual tension rise and you want to
kiss her, just stare at her lips and nod as she’s talking.
Now you’re showing intent, which means that you’re not
just going to friendzone yourself.

That’s always the worst move: friendzoning yourself once

you’ve pulled. You might find yourself playing it too safe if
you start using this method because you think to yourself:
“I pulled in 10 minutes, I need more time to escalate…”

Not true.

Escalation is a sequence, not a timeline. It’s like the Tube

map in London. You don’t have to wait a certain number
of seconds to proceed to the next step in the process. You
simply need to hit each step sequentially and you’re good
to go, regardless of how much time each step takes.
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So here’s the point: if you’ve pulled, then you don’t need to
wait that long to escalate further. Just take a step back if
she does, and make your move when you go in and she
doesn’t back away.

Tip #3: Lay your head on her lap

This is another great way to escalate. Just lay your head

on her lap, and she’ll almost always start stroking it. This
is a playful move that appears innocent enough, yet it
moves things forward physically.

Tip #4: Don’t try to make it smooth, just make it happen.

Instead of trying to be smooth with your escalation, just

get it done. If you go in for a quick kiss, that’s better than
waiting too long because you’re just waiting for the perfect
moment. Learn to go with your gut. If you feel like going
for it, just go for it. Don’t try to make it smooth, just make
it happen.

Tip #5: Help her to escalate on you.

So instead of being the one making all the moves, you can
take her hand and rest it on your lap, or wrap it around
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your neck. It comes off as less predatory and more
affectionate. The most common move is the “hand on
dick” move, where, if you’re making out, you take her hand
and put it on your dick. She’ll usually start playing with it,
and you’re good to go from there.

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 Bonus #2: How To Guarantee Results With This
Method

So now that you’ve learned all of the steps of what to do

and say for the 10 Minute Pull, there are a couple of best
practices that can ensure that you’ll get results with this
method.

1) Volume

Volume is vital. The more women you talk to and go

through this process with, the better chance you’ll have of
going home with a girl that night.

Just remember: your goal isn’t to maximize your “batting

average,” your goal is simply to take as many women
through this process as possible.

The problem for most guys is that they hit it off with a girl
and talk to her for 2 hours. Then, near the end of the
night, he’ll try to take her home, but she has to go with her
friends. Then your night is over and you go home
empty-handed.

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That’s the beauty of the 10 Minute Pull--because pulling
only takes 10 minutes, you’ll have multiple opportunities
throughout the night to pull.

So instead of relying on a single 2-hour conversation, you

can have at least 4 pull attempts in that period of time, and
you’re very likely to pull at least one of those.

With the 10 Minute Pull, you’re no longer a leaf in the

wind. Instead, you’re the one leading and determining the
pace of how quickly you want your night to go.

And the other amazing part of this is that as you continue

to go out, you’ll only become more efficient. So instead of
talking with 4 girls in order to pull, over time, you’ll get to
the point where you only have to talk to 2, or even just 1, to
go home with a girl.

So remember, when executing this method, volume is key.

2)Honestly, I was a bit hesitant to include this second

practice because it might seem too eccentric for a lot
of guys. However, this is the number 1 thing that has
led to my success with this method.

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In fact, I owe my 6 minute bathroom pull and my
threesome to this practice.

What is it?

Visualization.

Before you throw this book in the bin and light it on

fire, hang with me here. You’ve gotten this far, so put
that lighter down and let’s talk about this one, because
this has been, by far, the most important factor to my
success.

Believe it or not, every night before going out, I would

lay on the floor, close my eyes, and visualize my ideal
girl in the club I’d be at, walking up to her, talking to
her, kissing her, and pulling her.

I would imagine exactly what I’d say and do in that

situation.

And the weird part is that this was actually extremely

difficult the first time I did it…

I kept imagining the conversation going stale or her

just walking off to find her friends.
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Isn’t that crazy?

This is my imagination, and I get to choose what

happens.

Yet, I still couldn’t get the outcome I wanted, even in

my own imagination…

How could that be?

Something I was surprised to discover was that I’d

become so accustomed to rejection, that even when I
would play through the scenario in my head, I’d still
imagine myself getting rejected.

So I kept working on this and would visualize for

10-15 minutes every night before going out.

Then something insane happened.

A little over 30 days later, I went to Drai’s and

experienced my first 10 minute pull.

And it was well worth it.

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 Even just 10 minutes a day for a month will literally
skyrocket results.

Then I started imagining even crazier shit, like a

bathroom pull.

The next night, I went to Surrender, and started

talking with this adorable Filipina girl at the bar next to
the dancefloor.

After introducing myself and talking for less than a

minute, I took her to the dancefloor.

Then after about 60 seconds of dancing, I kissed her, and

we started making out.

I immediately took her hand and went for the exit…

And I was about to head to the taxi line, but for some
reason, I headed into the handicapped bathroom in the
hotel lobby instead.

I locked the door, grabbed her hair, and we started making

out again.

Then I turned her around, bent her over, and entered her.
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From meet to fuck, less than 6 minutes.

All from visualization.

So maybe you’re thinking that this is just some spiritual

nonsense.

But if this got you laid in less than 6 minutes, is it worth a

shot?

I challenge you to do it for 30 days, and see what happens.

The results might shock you.

And one final note when it comes to visualization…

It’s not just about imagining the picture of what’s

happening, it’s also important to actually ​feel ​it too.

Imagine how it would feel, and also imagine yourself in the

first person.

It might take some practice at first, but after 30 days,

you’ll be pulling like a beast.

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Once again, congratulations on learning the 10 Minute
Pull Method. I guarantee you that once you go out and
practice these principles, you’re going to be pulling in
record time, and all of your friends are going to wonder
what happened to you as you pull stunners left and right.

Let’s get it.

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