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    Self-harm develops as a coping mechanism for stressful events or situations when a vulnerable person lacks coping skills. Common signs of self-harm include cuts, scratches, burns and minor overdosing. Treatment focuses on identifying triggers, improving problem solving, managing emotions, and finding healthier coping strategies through talk therapy. Parents can help by showing care, acknowledging feelings, learning first aid, building trust, suggesting distractions, and understanding treatment takes time. In the long term, parents can help by asking about stresses, finding solutions, evaluating solutions, and practicing positive parenting with reasonable rules and open communication.

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    Self-harm develops as a coping mechanism for stressful events or situations when a vulnerable person lacks coping skills. Common signs of self-harm include cuts, scratches, burns and minor overdosing. Treatment focuses on identifying triggers, improving problem solving, managing emotions, and finding healthier coping strategies through talk therapy. Parents can help by showing care, acknowledging feelings, learning first aid, building trust, suggesting distractions, and understanding treatment takes time. In the long term, parents can help by asking about stresses, finding solutions, evaluating solutions, and practicing positive parenting with reasonable rules and open communication.

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    Self-harm develops as a coping mechanism for stressful events or situations when a vulnerable person lacks coping skills. Common signs of self-harm include cuts, scratches, burns and minor overdosing. Treatment focuses on identifying triggers, improving problem solving, managing emotions, and finding healthier coping strategies through talk therapy. Parents can help by showing care, acknowledging feelings, learning first aid, building trust, suggesting distractions, and understanding treatment takes time. In the long term, parents can help by asking about stresses, finding solutions, evaluating solutions, and practicing positive parenting with reasonable rules and open communication.

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    Self-harm develops as a coping mechanism for stressful events or situations when a vulnerable person lacks coping skills. Common signs of self-harm include cuts, scratches, burns and minor overdosing. Treatment focuses on identifying triggers, improving problem solving, managing emotions, and finding healthier coping strategies through talk therapy. Parents can help by showing care, acknowledging feelings, learning first aid, building trust, suggesting distractions, and understanding treatment takes time. In the long term, parents can help by asking about stresses, finding solutions, evaluating solutions, and practicing positive parenting with reasonable rules and open communication.

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    The key takeaways are that self-harm is a coping mechanism for stress, it is most common in teens and young adults, and parents can help by understanding triggers, coming up with solutions together, and providing a supportive environment.

    Self-harm is intentionally hurting oneself, like cutting or burning, as a way to cope with stress or painful feelings without intending to commit suicide. Common signs are cuts, burns or bruises on the skin or taking too much medication.

    Self-harm is most common in youth aged 13-21 and occurs twice as often in girls. Those who are shy, withdrawn or have a family history are more vulnerable. Stressful life events can trigger self-harming behaviors.

    HELPING CHILDREN

    AND YOUTH WHO


    SELF-HARM

    As a parent or guardian, it’s normal to feel overwhelmed, scared and confused if you see signs of self-
    harm in your youth. This fact sheet will help you understand what self-harm is, and how it develops.
    You’ll learn strategies to help your youth right now and in the long-term.

    What is self-harm?
    Self-harm is when someone tries to hurt themselves on purpose but doesn’t intend to commit suicide.
    Self-harm is mostly your youth’s way of coping with stress, and is not the same as trying to end their
    life. But these behaviours can continue over time if the underlying stresses are not properly handled.

    Some of the most common signs that your youth might be self-harming include:
    • cuts or scratches on the surfaces of the skin
    • burn marks on the skin, like from a cigarette
    • taking too much medication, but not enough to kill themselves (“minor overdosing”)
    • hitting their head, like against a wall

    Why do people self-harm?


    Many mental health professionals believe that most youth use self-harm behaviours as a way to cope
    with stress. Some of the goals behind self-harm include:
    • to get relief from painful or distressing feelings
    • to deal with feeling numb
    • to communicate pain or distress to others
    All of these underlying reasons are actually quite healthy, but self-harm is an unhealthy way to achieve
    these goals.

    Who is at risk?
    Self-injury behaviours usually start between 13 and 15 years of age and happen most often in youth
    and young adults. One study of Canadian youth found that almost two out of every 10 youth, aged 14-
    21 had hurt themselves on purpose at one time or another. Self-harm behaviours are twice as common
    in girls and young women, compared to males.

    This reference is for educational purposes only.


    If you have any questions, ask your health-care provider.
    #BestLife for every child and youth
    October 2019| Form P4926E | www.cheo.on.ca
    HELPING CHILDREN AND YOUTH WHO SELF HARM

    Self harm develops when a vulnerable person experiences a stressful event or situation and doesn't
    know how to cope.

    Vulnerable person Stressful event or situation Coping


    Mariam has always been a bit Mariam recently came out to her She doesn’t know how to
    shy and reserved. She’s also had friends and family and now gets manage the situation and tells
    some family members who have made fun of by kids at school. herself “I hate myself. I wish I
    self-harmed. never said anything.”

    As youth harm themselves more often, their thoughts alone can become a trigger for self-harm. For
    example, Mariam might engage in self-harm just by thinking “I wish I never said anything,” without any
    stressful event at all.

    How is self-harm treated?


    Self-harm behaviours are usually treated through ‘talk therapy’. Effective treatments for self-harm will
    help your youth:
    • identify what triggers cause them to self-harm
    • improve problem solving so they can manage stressful situations more effectively
    • learn to control their emotions and find healthier ways to handle them
    • change unhealthy thoughts and replace them with more positive ones
    • boost their people skills to help resolve conflicts and get support from others

    How can I help right now?


    Effective treatment can take a while, but there are many things you can do to help your youth right
    now:
    • Show you care. Let your youth know that you care. Tell them you love them and are concerned for
    them.
    • Acknowledge their feelings. Remember that they may be very stressed or upset. Ask them how you
    can help or support them.
    • Learn basic first aid. Take care of any minor cuts or self-injuries. If your youth needs medical care
    like stitches, offer to take them to the nearest hospital or doctor’s office.
    • Build trust. Showing disgust or making your youth feel guilty about self-harming will make them feel
    worse, and could cause them to lose trust. Tell them you love them no matter what, and you are

    This reference is for educational purposes only.


    If you have any questions, ask your health-care provider.
    #BestLife for every child and youth
    October 2019| Form P4926E | www.cheo.on.ca
    HELPING CHILDREN AND YOUTH WHO SELF HARM

    willing to listen without getting angry or upset.


    • Suggest self-soothing techniques and other distractions like listening to soothing music, reading,
    scented candles or working out.
    • Understand that treatment takes time. You can’t ask your youth to “just stop” self-harming. For
    now, it’s their way of coping and, without it, your youth might act on impulses to end their life.

    In case of emergencies, contact a telephone crisis line, or call 911

    How can I help over the long-term?

    1. Ask your youth about stresses. “What makes you feel like hurting yourself?”
    2. Find goals or solutions. “What do you wish we could change about your stress or trigger?”
    3. Come up with possible solutions to try. “What could we try together? What could you try?”
    4. Try out a solution. “What would you like to try first?”
    5. Evaluate whether or not the solution helped. “How do you think that worked out?”
    6. If it didn’t work, try something different. “What other things could we try instead?”
    7. If it helped, keep on doing it. “It looks like that worked-what shall we keep on doing, then?”

    Positive parenting and guardianship


    Children and youth do best when parents and guardians try to find an “authoritative” balance. Parent
    educator Barbara Coloroso uses the analogy of a jellyfish, a brick wall, and a backbone to illustrate
    what finding this balance looks like:
    Authoritative

    Too permissive "Backbone" Too authoritatarian


    "Jellyfish" "Brick wall"

    This reference is for educational purposes only.


    If you have any questions, ask your health-care provider.
    #BestLife for every child and youth
    October 2019| Form P4926E | www.cheo.on.ca
    HELPING CHILDREN AND YOUTH WHO SELF HARM

    Too permissive "Jellyfish" Authoritative "Backbone" Too authoritative "Brick wall"


    • doesn’t give enough rules • gives guidance and • gives too many rules
    • doesn’t display concern reasonable rules • is too concerned
    • doesn’t take problem • gives freedom as children and • takes behavior problems too
    behavior seriously youth show responsibility seriously
    • isn’t protective enough • spends time talking, doing • is over protective
    activities and building a
    • gives too much independence healthy relationship

    No matter what stresses led to your youth’s self-harm, positive parenting or guardianship can help.

    What should I do if my youth threatens self-harm?


    Some youth who self-harm may try to use it to get more privileges, or to escape consequences. For
    example, a youth may say, “If I can’t stay out late with my friends this weekend, I’ll feel depressed and
    cut myself.”
    If you are feeling manipulated or pressured into doing something unreasonable, then ask yourself what
    the rules and limits would be if your child didn’t self-harm. If you feel your rules are fair, then don’t give
    in. By giving in, you end up supporting the unhealthy part of your youth.
    As the responsible parent or guardian, you might say something like: “I’m sorry if you don’t agree,
    but it’s fair to expect you to be back by curfew time. It would be unhealthy for you if we didn’t have
    reasonable rules.”
    At the same time, if your child is truly feeling overwhelmed from having too many responsibilities, it
    makes sense to go easy for a bit. You might say, “I know that you’re a bit overwhelmed these days. So
    how about this: instead of having to take the dog out every day and do the dishes, you only have to do
    one of those things for the time being. You can choose which one you want to keep doing for now.”

    Need more information?


    Cheo.on.ca is the best place to find information on CHEO's programs and services
    and learn about a variety of health topics for children and youth. Visit our online
    resource section to access CHEO-recommended websites, books, apps, videos
    and more!

    This reference is for educational purposes only.


    If you have any questions, ask your health-care provider.
    #BestLife for every child and youth
    October 2019| Form P4926E | www.cheo.on.ca

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