Honey: The Female Gaze
Honey: The Female Gaze
Honey: The Female Gaze
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these stories or these faces dominate. You’ll find that it’s pretty hard to do so -- if not
impossible. The diaspora of South Asian women rarely has their stories told authentically,
Having been raised on a fairly mediocre diet of primetime American television and movies that
dominated pop culture, I think I can confidently count on a single hand, the number of
characters I saw that accurately portrayed my experience as a South Asian woman. I found
myself being okay with the bare minimum, which would be a repetition of the same thing over
and over again: a palette of Caucasian actors with a token brown character created to be
inferior to their white counterparts. Whether it was to add diversity or comedy, I was growing
more complacent in any way my community was portrayed because of the ideology that at
Even within South Asian films, women have only recently been
and was only changed in the way we consumed it. The film and
television industry are not the only perpetrators here. Media in general
This reality has created the inception of this magazine; it comes from a
void I’ve been trying to fill for my entire life. This magazine is my love
letter to South Asian women around the world where brown women
of the word honey ranges from prosperity and sweetness to rebirth and
grow.
silenced for far too long. Today is a great time to be a brown woman.
Today is about celebrating our culture, our stories, and our existence
forced into and into the golden light. Thank you to every single woman
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as sweetas honey
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source of power and freedom. Through
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You started off as an actress, and while
you still continue to act, what drove you to
also pursue writing?
I’ve kept a journal since I was nine or ten, and had a
bravery, even if it doesn’t feel like one for them, but just
It actually didn't feel like an act of bravery. It just felt like this is very natural to
who I am and in one of the closing chapters of I Am Yours, I talk about how
from Pakistan, not out of differing religions or desire for natural resources, but
wanted the right to speak our own language, to be formally acknowledged and
call ourselves our own country. So that is how I live as an artist, woman and
human being. I claimed my right to speak my own truth and I will not be
punished or shamed for it. I don’t think any human being should be for speaking
their own language and in a figurative way and tangible way, those are my
my family is like my biggest fan but I never had the social or familial
of all genres, a memoir. My family was like why don’t you just do fiction
My entire life I’ve done these kinds of things. I had eight piercings in my
ears by the time I was in seventh grade and I got my first tattoo when I
was 17. I just went after school one day to a tattoo parlor in Thailand
and I just didn't tell my parents and I got it. By that time, I had already
chopped off my hair when I was 15 and it was purple and bleached so I
parent’s rules. At the same time, I made sure to get straight A’s so I
was always arguing and pushing the boundaries and while doing so, I
and debate calmly like no I’m not going to destroy the family and no
person about the book without writing it so I was like I’m just going to
go ahead and write the book and you can see what it is about by the
five years. I’ll have my family be angry at me for five years but that's
The book came out and everyone’s been reading it. It validated the "I Am Yours" by Reema Zaman
usefulness of my voice in a public sphere. That’s when my parents and Photo Source: Reema Zaman
siblings had their aha moment. Being South Asian, they had to see the
results before they believed but that's also how most human beings
work and so now they’re so proud and they love my work. My sister
finished reading the book and she said it's a love letter. It's helped so
many people.
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What was your main driving force It’s very true. In our community, we are so caught
through the entire process, even up with seeking approval that sometimes it
when things became more difficult becomes easier to just do what feels comfortable
with your family? and get by instead of disappointing our parents.
pain of being not accepted by parent disapproval. That’s actually the deeper work. If you know
my family for a while. you have that phantom on your shoulder all the time, tackle that
first by pursuing the thing you know that you're pursuing for your
drive you. If you identify the deeper service you I feel that so often a parent's disapproval usually traces back to
will be doing for the world, should you pursue fear that they really believe that if you go down that path or you
the dream that other people don't see the value don't go down a particular path, it will cause you pain. So try to
in yet, commit to the deeper service, keep that understand that, have compassion for that and then initiate a
in your sideline as opposed to getting social conversation with your parents or siblings and say why you
validation and the service will override fear. The believe the opposite and give your argument in a very loving
promise of service and the knowledge that you way. Understand that another person's fear, when projected
will be of service to others will help you override upon you, is nothing personal. It has nothing to do with your skills
the momentary fear or pain. for success or their beliefs that you will fail. It has everything to
do with their underlying fear. The best way to break a cycle is just
to do it.
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Ramya Rajagopal Adorning Traditional Jewelry
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Udaipur Collection By Sabyasachi
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between
tradition
and
modernity.
The same region that boasts women like Indira Gandhi, the their possible old roles of housewife, child bride, and the victim of
former prime minister of India, Benazir Bhutto, the first female male abuse, privilege and objectification. By renouncing each
prime minister of Pakistan, Sheikh Hasina, the longest-serving role, they leave behind a culture once dominated by a
prime minister of Bangladesh and more women occupying heightened reliance on patriarchy. As blasphemous as the elders
places in the government, also is the same region to lack and the men of the community found it, women did not hesitate
universal equality. Many women in South Asia have been to continue their migration towards modernity. With every woman
confined between four walls serving their husbands until their that escapes tradition and finds herself paving a new path, the
dying breath. This dichotomy has defined the South Asian patriarchy begins to crumble.
Namrata Tripathi
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Source: JADE by Monica & Karishma
Women obtaining jobs is only the first aspect of bridging the gap between tradition
and modernization. The fact is that more than ever, South Asian women are
becoming visible in fields that are traditionally all male. Finally, it is making its way
towards normalization as more and more women join the workforce and assimilate in
fields that were exclusively for men. The rules for women are changing through
education, economic aid, jobs and giving women the tools they’ve been denied for
years.
With that being said, women are still forced to stay within the bounds of this limbo
through the laws and restrictions years of patriarchy have created. The recent
incident of gender-based violence of which Priyanka Reddy fell victim is just one
case of thousands that sweep across the South Asian diaspora and go unnoticed.
The taboo behind rape culture shames women to such a degree that they fear being
ostracized by their loved ones and looked at as a burden by all of society. That is
why men continue to get away with it. This is how perpetrators of gender-based
violence in the South Asian community have chosen to “punish” women who
supposedly leave tradition behind. This culture has become so prevalent that before
we have the chance to mourn a loss, we see headlines for yet another attack
against women, including sexual assault, domestic violence, acid attacks, and honor
killings.
For women who reside in more rural areas of South Asia and have little to no
into a public space that they may never have had the chance or way to enter
before. This gives them leverage and enables them to be independent and start a
business of their own. With that, more women going to college, and more women
taking over male-dominated fields, the rules are changing. Modernity is transitioning
to become the new norm and traditional ways are in the past. With every South
Asian female soldier, police officer, lawyer, doctor, executive or engineer-- women
are bridging the gap and carving their rightful place in the world.
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Rida Islam
Mandavia
Rida I. Mandavia
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If we should look to someone to learn how to be a
Clinical Psychology
female hustler that wears many hats and still has
time to pursue her passions, I nominate Rida Islam Despite her passion for the creative world, Mandavia
Mandavia. Based in Dallas, Mandavia works as a knew she wanted to enter the medical field. As a high
digital strategist for Children’s Health, after having school student, she found herself working as a patient
made the switch over from behavioral therapy. In tech at a rehab center and that formed her interest in
addition to her full-time career, Mandavia also the clinical side of things. It wasn’t until undergrad
runs Dallas Intuitive, a style-centric culture platform where she recognized her love for psychology.
that highlights her Indian heritage and elevates the Recognizing the lack of mental health treatments for
South Asian voice. She also runs Rida’s Pop Up the patients she worked with and also the lack of
and energy,” Mandavia said. calling, her community was still trying to understand it.
Since childhood, Mandavia remembers constantly about as it is today so it was a challenge for most
being in and out of hospital rooms and doctor’s people to grasp the concept. One of the biggest ways,
offices, which made playing sports out of the for Mandavia, that helped them bridge that disconnect
question. All she would have is a pen and paper on was by the understanding that therapy is just like
hand most of the time, and naturally, curiosity medicine. Similar to how you would go to the doctor for
child have a relapse and go back to square one Anytime someone is going through something,
after countless months of work and progress. It has Mandavia mentions that her mom would tell them to
made her step away and cry on various occasions maybe see a therapist to talk to them and she would
and in those moments, she finds it best to use her continue to give them helpful advice that she had
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“By having someone in their peripherals that can give some kind of insight has been so helpful. If
you continue pursuing mental health, if you continue talking about it and if you have advocates in
your social groups, it will have a ripple effect. It’ll change their thinking on what mental health is.”
After working with children for a while, Mandavia had to make a difficult decision in regards to her
career. Realizing that children tend to get sick more often and
carry more germs, she knew it would only exacerbate her own health issues that
she has dealt with her whole life. She had to make the heartbreaking
decision to step away from working with children and starting her
digital career. She knew continuing would risk her own health, but
therapy.
Fashion
“If you turn it into work, then you’re just kind of like
‘Oh I have to post this and I have to meet this
deadline for this brand.' It just is not fun anymore Rida I. Mandavia
it will always be for someone else and that is not why I Photo Courtesy of Rida
The world of fashion blogging has also seen a surge in South Asian bloggers more
and each person is able to do different things and do what they’re passionate about.
Mandavia says that anytime people claim it is overdone, she believes that is the complete opposite of what
we have always asked for. We cannot ask to be involved and make it exclusive again. For her, it is about being
of the shopping was done in India from local bazaars, it was not something that could be bought online or in
retail. South Asian fashion still has a long way to go in terms of thrift shopping and e-commerce. Not only that, but
Mandavia found herself wearing desi clothes only a few times before they just sat there, and
even the mosque wouldn’t take her clothes as donations because they were too heavy and
fancy.
Rida I. Mandavia
Photo Courtesy of Rida Mandavia
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Digital Platform
Dallas Intuitive began as a center of style, culture and thoughts for Mandavia, before it expanded into a
platform.
“Dallas Intuitive works with the local fashion scene, Dallas film festival, and Fashion Week Dallas.
My team is reporting and doing media coverage alongside bigger platforms. It has been amazing
to see it grow. I love that it is still a small operation where I feel like my voice can be heard and
can provide a platform to South Asian brands that need it, but I also hope that it continues to
grow. It has been heartwarming to see people reach out from my community and hear about how
happy they were to see desi women being represented.”
Dallas is so diverse and Mandavia speaks from first hand experience when she says that there is a
lot of culture here and people are open minded. She wishes these voices were uplifted a while ago
but the hesitation may have come from not understanding the necessity to do so.
still managed to find that common thread that holds it all together.
Rida I. Mandavia
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PANTONE Graphic Depicting Colorism
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The
Curse
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of
Colorism
Fighting for an accurate representation of the South Asian
battle. For every Mindy Kaling, there are five Apus. Every
It did not take long for a pattern to rise. In the quest for
standards of representation.
discriminations it perpetuates.
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The disturbing part about it all is the fact that none of this was even
my parents would watch Indian television shows for products like skin
lightening creams. The model would put on this magical cream, and
her skin would be shown gradually lightening until she looked almost
formed on her face and her confidence exuded. It hit closer to home
reinforcing the notion that dark skin is wrong and must be defeated.
this notion, “The unhealthy obsession with light skin has continued
able to identify with someone on the big screen, but to feel excluded
by the divine as well? All it does is heighten the notion that fair skin is
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The number of television shows and movies that show dark-skinned women as less beautiful,
self-hating, and inferior were part of the reason so many young South Asian girls grew up
wanting to hide beneath the shadows. From a community that has much experience with
underrepresentation, we still seem to continue the marginalization, but this time on our own
accords. How do we continue to perpetuate internal racism when we already feel how
The unfortunate part is that this prejudice is nothing new. It is steadily ingrained in South
Asian culture today and has been prevalent since my childhood and my mother’s. This
ideology passed down for generations, dates back to even before the colonization of the
Indian subcontinent. The Hindu caste system, in particular, reigned and it left Indian society
heavily divided. This social hierarchy allowed the most wealthy and privileged members, the
Brahmin, to have the power to stay away from the sun and remain indoors. The Sudras on
the other hand, the lowest caste, were the manual laborers who were less fortunate and
thus forced to work outside in the heat and sun. Through generations of this classist
repetition, light skin became a dominant feature in the affluent, upper class and dark skin
became synonymous with the lower class individuals. Then, this mixed in with the effects of
colonization which left India desiring western ways of life, particularly their appearance.
Merge the two together and it makes for a heavy influence on South Asian society that
Prejudice and discrimination against dark skin are not just a habit or opinion. It is a deeply rooted
fact that society was conditioned to believe and accept. It will take generations to reverse the
effects but thankfully, the work has already begun. With trailblazing work like the ‘Dark is Divine’
project, the ‘Dark is Beautiful’ campaign or the #unfairandlovely campaign, our community has
already set out on its path to reclaiming our melanin. We will no longer remain hidden, forced to
hate our skin, and think poorly of ourselves because society wants us to resemble our colonizers.
Dark-skinned models are finally claiming their rightful place on magazine covers and on the
runway. South Asian makeup artists have started gearing makeup towards all shades of brown
instead of just the lighter tone. Skin lightening cream is finally becoming something that we frown
at instead of idolizing.
Anti-melanin notions have haunted each generation from childhood until old age. It never goes
away. Somehow we can be everything, but if we are cursed with dark skin, then we are nothing.
Countless South Asian women are put down in all parts of society, especially the media, because
of the community’s unreasonable and Eurocentric beauty standards. These members who are not
to diminish a large part of the diaspora. That just makes them part of the problem, not the
solution.
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South Asian Woman of Darker Skin Putting on Traditional Makeup
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QUEEN
QUEEN
QUEEN
QUEEN
QUEEN
RANI
RANI
RANI
RANI
RANI
Actress from the Golden Era of Bollywood, Rekha,
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THE FUTURE IS FEMALE THE FUTURE IS FEMALE THE FUTURE IS FEMALE
The
taken
Aurat
place 2
The Aurat March
on
or Women’s
International
Women’s
has
still a conservative country, women often have women vigilante group, deserves every
their voices distorted or silenced. In South article and movie praising them. India is a
Asia, women have historically been told to country with some of the most brutal and
keep their head down and stay within four extreme cases of violence against women.
march addresses issues ranging from selective faced for generations, 400,000 stick-
feminism, to the taxing of menstrual products, wielding women in bright pink saris are
men towards women, and the patriarchy. The commit heinous crimes of gender-based
2020 Aurat March had a particular rallying violence. The Gulabi Gang, translated to
cry that resonated with every woman the Pink Gang, was founded by Sampat
march, ‘Mera jism, meri marzi,’ which roughly serving justice since India’s justice system
to BBC News , the phrase was deemed as rarely siding with women. The group spans
obscene by some critics because it gave off a across 11 districts of India where every
sexual connotation and went against woman fights to protect the powerless.
standards women are upheld to in terms of ‘“Yes, we fight rapists with lathis [sticks]. If
common and used to support issues like and blue so he dare not attempt to do
women’s rights to their autonomy, the direct wrong to any girl or a woman again,” Devi
Urdu translation was given meanings Pal said, Al Jazeera reported. According to
unrelated to his context. The movement, while the newsoutlet, the group aims to fight
formed following a popular Supreme Court violence against women, prevent child
case in which a woman was forced into marriages, arrange weddings for couples
conceiving, was downplayed by critics in love despite local resistance and ensure
workplace. Since then, various other well-known pushing away her Indian roots in an attempt to fit
names in the film industry have also come forward in with her peers, she realized leaving her culture
and become part of the #metoo movement as it behind and dissociating with her identity wasn’t
have been enforced that work to reduce incidents of India. “It is more important than ever to be proud
of harassment in work environments. Bollywood is of my culture when racist sentiments are floating
also enforcing more ‘no tolerance’ policies towards around society,” Randhawa said in an interview
social impact can be seen in all industries and into action, the #ReclaimTheBindi movement. It was
through various platforms such as social media, created by South Asian women to reignite and
politics and entertainment. Considering victim educate on the importance and significance of the
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the community of women finally speaking out.
of racial and cultural discrimination when they
wore a bindi.
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THE FUTURE IS FEMALE THE FUTURE IS FEMALE THE FUTURE IS FEMALE
Inclusive Makeup
While this was not an outright movement, it did spur a giant change in the makeup and beauty
industry. There was a large gap in the market that catered to women who looked like us. Often,
brands would cover the two extremes in terms of skin shades but would never market towards the
middle tones, which is where many South Asian women fall. When this finally started being
discussed and made known, it created a giant change in the makeup industry. Deepica Mutyala,
the founder and CEO of Live Tinted, started making YouTube videos years ago, her video on how
immediately increase her follower count and her fame as a blogger, but it also addressed a really
big gap in the makeup sphere. With that in mind, she went on to create Live Tinted which started
off as a digital community that focused on inclusive, diverse beauty. It was a multicultural
community that offered a place to discuss beauty and culture for underrepresented groups.
Through creating products that work for all skin tones and celebrate diversity and culture, a
movement was started that finally normalized our differences and celebrated them.
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Jasmin
Jasmin Rahman
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Rahman
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Jasmin Rahman epitomizes what it means to be a slashie: Being the in-house makeup artist at Brown Girl
someone who juggles multiple careers. She is a full-time Magazine, Rahman has been introduced to how
therapist who also balances her career as a makeup artist. powerful an inclusive space can be in terms of
By working in a private practice, she is able to be her own having a diverse media platform for South Asians.
boss and be flexible to accommodate her clients and their It applies to everyone from the younger
needs. The stark difference in having a career that is more generations to mothers to even men in the
creative, balanced with a career that tends to be more community. It has changed the way representation
clinical, allows her to utilize the full range of her skills and presents itself by directly providing a space where
cater to all her passions without sacrificing either. Rahman we can authentically be ourselves. Rahman has
continues to push barriers by proving that South Asian done makeup for various shoots for Brown Girl
women can not only manage their own business, but can Magazine that continue to spread the message
juggle multiple ‘nontraditional jobs’ and be successful at and impact the community.
each one. For a group that was told their place is in the
kitchen, women have truly proved the world wrong by seizing That is just one of the many opportunities that
every opportunity to show their resilience and work ethic. have boosted Rahman’s makeup career. Her
Both therapy and makeup found their way into Rahman’s life editorial work has also led to her being able to
naturally and have stuck with her since after she developed work on a shoot for Harper’s Bazaar India with four
a genuine interest and passion for both. powerhouse women in the community: Payal
love. Hearing her passion for both her careers makes it hard
are safe for them to enter and what they are simply not
that she was on a mission to carve a path out for herself and
lack of diversity in spaces like editorial fashion. There have been multiple occasions of her being the only person of
color on set but that isn’t just limited to this space. Entertainment, media, fashion, there's a recurring pattern of
underrepresentation.
“Representation can definitely be taken a step further to make all the difference. On clothing websites,
having more South Asian models, and within that, having size and color diversity, and actually accurately
representing the entire region is still yet to be done. Having people like Lilly Singh and Mindy Kaling in
popular media is helping but there could always be more diversity. Makeup brands are also expanding their
lines and including more colors to be more inclusive.”
Makeup has seen it’s own growth in terms of inclusivity in recent years. From having brands join the scene that are
dedicated to authentically representing people of color to older brands that have recently started including a wider
skin shade variety, there is progress being made in the right direction.
As someone that has amassed a large social media following through her work, Rahman recognized the importance of
using a platform to raise concerns and be an advocate for things that matter. While she constantly empower women
through makeup services and mental health advocacy, that is not all she has limited her space to. Rahman has written
a lot about, and has spoken about, her experience with domestic violence and pushes for the community to help
women and not allow them to suffer in silence. Mental health has always had a bad reputation in the community
because it is often confused with being “crazy,” which is an incredibly toxic and incorrect representation of it. They
find seeking help shameful and believe depression and anxiety are all things that can go away with better sleeping
and eating habits. It is an incredibly taboo subject with a lot of negative connotations attached to it that the
Having a community that doesn’t have these open conversations and is so concerned with the thoughts of others
leaves a lot of important issues silenced and pushed away. One of these is the idea of choosing a safe career that
benefits yourself and your family. The stigma behind following our passions or choosing something creative and
untraditional is immense. It presents us as not caring about our future, when in reality, we chose happiness.
Amidst her hectic schedules and the tremendous work she does, Rahman credits time
management and focusing on taking the time to do what she wants and taking care of
herself as her main facets of striking a work life balance. Self-care is essential and an
aspect of health often overlooked or given little importance, especially in culture’s where
To Rahman, a modern South Asian woman is one that breaks barriers and
isn’t afraid to do what she wants. She perseveres and continues forward.
To pursue your dreams and to live without letting others' judgment cloud
your vision is how to be a modern South Asian woman, she says. Let go of
you.
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South Asian Women in the Past/Tradition meets Modernity
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South Asian Women in the Present/Tradition Meets Modernity 35
OUR CULTURE IS
The debate behind cultural appropriation has been a long, drawn-out battle
that has lasted for decades. According to The Guardian, one of the defining
facets of the issue was during the Harlem Renaissance when writers voiced
modernist work. In 1976, Kenneth Coutts-Smith wrote one of the first essays
that spoke about class appropriation and cultural colonialism where western
culture takes credit for art forms that belong to racially oppressed, colonized
voices and instead turned into a live grenade that different groups would use
The truth is, despite what anyone says, cultural appropriation has a real
many people. For some, seeing someone who does not identify as South Asian
“personal style.” Regardless of how one perceives or how they react to it, the
sentiment is the same. It is all the idea that the dominant culture is benefiting
society’s fashion. Seeing the costumes of the “Indian Princess,” fully equipped
with a bindi, bangles, traditional South Asian lehenga or sari, and other
accessories fitting the outfit was not uncommon at all. It was confusing and
just didn’t feel right. While I was trying so hard to assimilate with my Party City
costume that could taken on and off. This was followed by the fateful summer
Coachella was a popular topic, especially the fashion statements being made
at this widely recognized music festival. Of the attire worn, much of it was
completely ripped off from traditional South Asian wear. This is one of those
lookers fawn over the trends through Instagram photos, what they fail to
realize is the blatant racism at play as some of these looks are snatched from
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NOT YOUR COSTUME
These actions of cultural appropriation are seen as “festival trends” that circulate around
the Internet, reposted on blogs and in articles, and soon after, become a victim of fast
fashion. Something that held deep religious and cultural importance for one group is
now being worn to parties to fit in with the trend. The bindi was at the forefront of the
festival trend as attendees adorned their faces with colorful bindis that they purchased
for a few dollars off of a fast-fashion website. What they failed to acknowledge is that it
is called a bindi, not a face jewel and that it is a religious symbol worn by women in
South Asia, often symbolizing the third eye. That only scratches the surface. Naths, tikkas,
bangles, and outright traditional outfits have been worn to these festivals to make a
statement without understanding the origin or respecting the deep significance behind
each item.
It is easy to say, “What’s the issue? We are celebrating cultures by wearing their
accessories and appreciating them.” However, it is not so easy to hear that after South
Asians have suffered years upon years of taunting, teasing, bullying, racism,
discrimination and blatant hatred for showcasing our culture. Women have been spat at
for wearing saris in public or speaking their native language. Indian food is often called
disgusting, smelly, and awful tasting. South Asian people are stereotyped as being
South Asian community members are characterized as being inferior humans who are
incapable of being attractive. After suffering from years of emotional and physical
abuse from others, we are now seeing parts of our culture that others deem acceptable
being stolen and passed off as “western beauty trends.” That crosses the line. It is not
towards minority groups that have suffered pure racism for embracing their cultures who
now have to watch parts of their identity, that they were made fun of for, being turned
into a privileged fashion statement. Be innovative and fashion-forward, but not at the
our daily lives but it becomes more harmful when it is done by celebrities that people
idolize. I remember the day I wore a kurta to class for picture day in fourth grade. It was
new and I loved it and felt so pretty wearing it. Confidently, I walked into class wearing
it only to feel eyes staring and judging. I had never felt that type of embarrassment or
self-esteem reduction until I was mocked for wearing a traditional outfit. The days of
bringing homemade Indian food my mom packed for lunch were minimal as peers made
fun of the texture, smell and the fact that it was something unknown to them. They called
Years later, I saw the same people replicating the South Asian trends they saw on their
favorite celebrities like Vanessa Huygens, Beyoncé, Selena Gomez, or Kim Kardashian
West, who recently came under fire for posting photos with a tikka and bangles when not
long ago she claimed that “Indian food was disgusting.” Just like the rest of the world,
celebrities continue to perpetuate the notion that it is ok to pick and choose which part
of a minority culture to celebrate and which part is ok to bash and humiliate. It continues
to perpetuate the notion that only once something is Westernized, that it becomes
acceptable. It also claims the idea that other cultures are disposable and meant to be
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Simran Randhawa, a journalist with a large social
media following, posts photos integrating her
usual clothing with South Asian pieces
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Thankfully, this isn’t a sentiment I share alone. South Asian women from
around the world are doing their part to reclaim their identity, without the
London’s Coolest Crop of South Asian Women are Reclaiming the Bindi,”
into their clothing from a simple tank top with “salwar” pants-pleated
reclaiming the identity that was stolen from us, subtly erasing us and
through social media, brown women are embracing the roots they were
erase its memory. Destroy
once mocked for. They are reclaiming the culture that has been stolen its books, its culture, its
history. Then have
from them time after time. They refuse to be bystanders to cultural
oppression and colonization. They are taking a stand and saying that our
appropriation. Cultural appreciation is when parts of a culture are Before long that nation will
begin to forget what it is
honored and respected while being worn and used. Respect is given to
the origin and culture. Rather than profiting from it to gain followers,
money, sales or fame, a culture is showcased for its diversity and richness
around and seeing brown women incorporate South Asian pieces into
so powerful today. Looking
author of The Book of
everyday wear or seeing them be proud of the food they eat, the Laughter and Forgetting,
Milan Kundera
language they speak, traditions they follow is finally the pushback
South Asian culture has been subject to erasure ever since the days of
dominant race stealing parts of our culture; that is simply a surface level
external force--a force that deems itself superior and feels that it can
So forgive me if I’m vocal about this topic that many have written off as
“overreacting.” To me, I’m not overreacting, I’m just holding onto the
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Vaidehi Gajjar
Vaidehi Gajjar
Vaidehi Gajjar
Vaidehi Gajjar
Vaidehi Gajjar
Vaidehi Gajjar
Gajjar is a writer and editor at Brown Girl Magazine. She uses her platform to bring light
to issues like mental health, sexual assault and women’s rights overall by constantly
fighting to break the stigma and taboo around these subjects. Her passion for writing
came at a time when it served as her outlet to get her through more trying times. This
passion has led to her originally being published on the Odyssey Online being featured
on other platforms like The Washington Post. I had the opportunity to speak to her a bit
about the work she has done for the diaspora and also about her experiences dealing
When writing about your own personal experiences What was your experience at MannMukti (a mental
that tend to be more raw and honest, it may leave you health resource platform dedicated to sharing
in a very vulnerable place. How do you find the stories and removing the stigma surrounding South
courage to do that, considering how difficult it is? Was Asian mental health) like? It’s a platform that so
there hesitation, in the beginning, to not want to share openly and honestly discusses mental health,
your story? serving as a sanctuary in a way for our community.
Tell us about your work with them.
In the beginning, there was a lot of hesitation and even still
there is sometimes. Even though it has been so many years, When I used to work at MannMukti, for me, it was the
you still feel that hesitation. I didn’t realize the impact of first space that was dedicated to mental health for
what I was doing until I got that outside support. At first, it South Asians. It was a really good experience in the
wasn’t like I shared my writing with other people. It was sense that for me, it gave me a place to share my
something I was keeping to myself and then slowly as time experiences and learn from other people and get a
went on, maybe after a year or so of writing on my own, I sense of what others are going through. At that point,
started posting on my Instagram. That was just me my journey was very closed off from the world. I didn’t
screenshotting the notes section of my phone and putting understand necessarily that other people go through
that on social media. There wasn't a lot of support in the things and it's normal. When I joined, that changed for
beginning but as time went on, as I improved, I did start me and I was surrounded by people that had similar
seeing that sort of support from other people and it has stories. It was really good to be in a space where this
grown since then. was talked about all the time. There were also days
I think one of the biggest problems with our community is was a great experience and it definitely gave me a lot
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How was the challenge of not being able to Your experience with sexual assault is something
discuss these experiences with your parents? you have openly and bravely discussed in the past
Were you ever able to bridge that gap of few years. You’re a voice for other girls in the
disconnect with them? How do you cope? community who fear breaking their silence due to
the shame and stigma. As a community, what can
It really is a case by case basis for me. Some days are
we do better to help those girls that remain fearful?
better than others. Overall, there is a lack of
Do you feel like #MeToo helped our community? Are we moving forward, in the right direction, when
Has it taken away that shame or victimization we it comes to representing South Asian women
have faced in the past? accurately in media, entertainment, politics, etc.?
abuse towards women and it still showed that he got represented on such a high level is a step in the right
the girl in the end. It romanticized the abuse. In that direction. For example, I remember when Deepica, CEO of
sense, I do think that more people have been able to Live Tinted, came out with her makeup line it was a huge
talk about it but when mainstream media still puts win for brown women. This woman is representing her skin
stuff like that out there, I feel like it’s tone, she’s catering to our needs and that is something we
counterproductive. On one hand, everyone builds aren’t used to. For lack of a better term, this is a white
each other up and then something like that comes man's world, especially in America. Our identities are really
out and all the knowledge we gained is gone. minimalist when it comes down to representation and
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Trisha
Sakhuja-Walia
Trisha-Sakhuja Walia
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Representation has been a hot topic in all genres of life - Acquainting herself with a South Asian focused organization was
media, entertainment, politics and sports. The need to nothing new for this New Yorker. Even in high school, she co-
showcase historically marginalized communities and give them founded her school’s desi club and found ways to get her
a space to tell their stories is something we have seen pop up classmates excited about South Asian culture and Bollywood. In
all over the place for so many groups. One particular individual college, she was involved with panel curation and events for the
who carved out one of the biggest South Asian digital South Asian Student Alliance at Stony Brook. All in all, her
stomping grounds is Trisha Sakhuja-Walia. leadership roles and advocacy for South Asian culture molded
her and laid the building blocks for her future career as a
Amid a global pandemic, she was still hard at work, juggling trailblazer in the community.
on a call with Trisha, CEO of Brown Girl Magazine. Alongside writing various articles, she constantly found ways to
Considering she manages 175 editors and contributors and help Brown Girl grow on more platforms. The digital age was
oversees the many developments of Brown Girl, I wanted to becoming more influential than ever before, so she took the
get right into it and talk about her journey with the magazine limitless opportunities of the brand and brought them into a new
and what the future holds. space. The empowerment of South Asian women was always the
Brown Girl Magazine, founded in 2008 by Aditi Mehta, was broaden its reach after realizing that the magazine was
created to give a space to South Asian women living in the reaching a wider audience than ever imagined. When Instagram
diaspora. As a political science and journalism student at and Facebook came out, she created accounts on both. Her
Stonybrook University, Trisha stumbled upon the website while work, early on, for Brown Girl provided the leverage to turn it into
doing an assignment for a class. She reached out to the the massive platform that it is today, sprouting with endless
founder and decided to extend her time at Brown Girl even possibilities.
developed a love for the platform and recognized all the Initially, what started off as a platform for South Asian women
potential it had. has grown into a digital content website that spans across
genders, age groups and time zones. For Trisha, while this
“Little by little I started recruiting some writers who were growth was something she would never have been able to
my friends during college, and at this time I didn’t realize I imagine when she began her journey with the company, she
was recruiting. I never looked at it that way. We would knows now that this is just the beginning for Brown Girl. Her
contact vendors and we would write profiles on them. For constant mindest is that Brown Girl can do more and be better.
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After years of being with Brown Girl and leading it to new heights, “Compared to 10 years ago, it is like day and
Trisha did something unprecedented within the company. After night. I’m really excited about the growth we
graduating, she entered the work-force with an editorial content have seen as a community. We’ve definitely
management position at Zee TV. However, after dedicating imprinted ourselves in all sectors across media
continuous time and energy over the years to Brown Girl, she knew and entertainment. I’m optimistic about the
what she truly wanted to pursue. She quit her full-time position and future and the growth we will see in
went full-time with Brown Girl Magazine. After buying out all the representation.”
shares from the original founder, going through two full years of
league work and large payments, Trisha became the CEO of the
Even despite the success Brown Girl has seen thus
company. There were moments of doubt, hesitation, and fear but
far, Trisha is not one to stop at just one
overall, seeing her vision come to life made it worth it. Mentally,
accomplishment. She looks forward to how Brown
financially and emotionally, she took a huge risk going full time,
Girl will expand in various ways through different
especially the month after she got married. It was a huge leap of
projects. There is an anthology in the works behind
faith that came with the risk of failure yet here we are with visual
the scenes which will consist of over 40 short, non-
proof that it did anything but.
fiction stories. There is also a podcast in the works
happens with my career or with the company, I know that I made the
The power of storytelling and how it resonates
choice to take this leap and go full-time and give Brown Girl my all.
through the work of Brown Girl is empowering for the
If for some reason, it doesn’t work out, which I don’t think will
individual as it is for the community as a whole.
happen, I know that I truly gave it my all and did everything
Despite social media being such a powerful platform,
possible.”
the mission of Brown Girl stands tall.
developments. For one, she introduced the clothing line, Ladki Power
It is evident that her hands are full as she is
in partnership with Roots Gear Clothing Co. She also helped create
constantly on the mission to expand Brown Girl and
the first ever of its kind, Slashie Summit. This conference hosts South
provide more representation for South Asians. The
Asian creatives juggling their full-time careers with their creative
power of storytelling fuels her work as does the
passions on the side. Until her introduction to the term, being a
knowledge that content is king and no matter what,
slashie, or people who do more than one thing to earn a living, was
that will be the driving force. Despite focusing on
something she didn’t realize she has been doing.
various projects at once, to Trisha, time is of the
to honor that and honor the community that we are part of. All of us
“There’s no better time than now. If you want to have
are thriving in our side hustles but we are also keeping consistent
a full-blown full-time job and pursue XYZ , why not?
with our day jobs. … The Slashie Summit is a beautiful extension of
If you have the time to do it, there's nothing stopping
who we are a Brown Girl and I think it just falls beautifully within the
you. As long as the passion is there and you find the
ethos of our brand.”
time to do it, you should.”
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