The Biography of Bessie Head
The Biography of Bessie Head
The Biography of Bessie Head
Bessie Head, a mixed-race writer who fled her native South Africa to
spend much of her adult life in Botswana, was a feminist and advocate
for the poor and oppressed.
CHARACTER
Garesego:
Husband to Dikeledi
Garesego believed that everything had to be about sex.
He did not take care of his responsibilities as a man.
Head described him as the type of man who had sex with women like
dogs, out of canal lust.
Out of the four years that they were together, Garesego got Dikeledi
pregnant 3 times and left her.
He did not leave and go to another village, he stayed in the same village
and did not take care of the sons he helped bring in the world.
Garesego is A typical male, so when Dikeledi asked him for money to
take care of their children, he expected sex in return.
The narrator in the text blames this on both the colonial system and the code
of conduct amongst the ancestors. Because the colonial system never
prepared the people for independence and the administration of the country,
the post-colonial man becomes “a broken wreck with no inner resources” and
the women become “an inferior form of human life”
In pre-colonial societies women played an important role as “an agricultural
producer within her husband’s homestead; ‘fertility’ meant that she had to
produce children whose labour would, in time, be used for the benefit of the
homestead” (Guy, 1990:39). During the colonial period everything changed
and men often had to perform domestic chores in the colonial homes - tasks
that were usually that of the women. De Marigny (1990:18) finds that African
male writers often betray in their writing “a yearning for the pre-colonial
patriarchal past where he was definitely king as father, husband and ruler...”.
Within contemporary white society black women often play the role of
substitute mother and within their own communities the sons who are
supposed to fend for the household have either been killed in detention or are
in exile. De Marigny (1990:72) thus describes the role of modem African
women as follows: “Modem African women are thus obliged to take over
traditionally male roles in the present even when men do not credit them with
so doing”.
In post-colonial Botswana, the setting of Head’s short story, the men are
conftised because they are unfamiliar with the changes and responsibilities
they have to adhere to. That explains why Ngugi wa (1993:90-91) describes
postcolonial societies as perfect replicas of colonial practices. The new
govenmient is not used to a democratic culture and therefore only allows one
viewpoint, that of “the mling regime”.
Garesego’s life is to return home and have sexual intercourse with Dikeledi.
That explains the reason for his letter:
Dear Mother, I am coming home again so that we may settle our differences.
Will you prepare a meal for me and some hot water that I might take a bath.
Gare.
Not only does he try to be affectionate (he calls himself “Gare”) but he plays on
her emotions by calling her “Mother”. He immediately places her in the
inferior position of a caring and supporting wife who will look after his needs.
Dikeledi interprets the letter as an expression of his sexual desires, namely
that he is “coming home for some sex” (p. 101). The only way in which he feels
that he can manipulate Dikeledi is to act as if she is his maternal superior and
he is like the prodigal son returning home. Perhaps he tries to force her into
the position of an Oedipal mother; the strong maternal power.
In contrast to his “Mother” she opts for “Sir” when she answers his letter:
From her letter it seems as if Dikeledi accepts his demand without questioning
it. She is, however, aware of the real intention behind the words. “(P)repare”
is an ironic choice of words in this case, because she also plans her final act.
The patriarchal association of women with the preparers of food in the
kitchen is thus undermined. The castration of Garesego Mokopi was thus a
premeditated deed of vengeance. Kenalepe had seen Dikeledi sharpen the
knife on the afternoon prior to Garesego’s arrival (pp. 101-102) and she
detected “a final and tragic expression on the upturned face of her friend”.
Chetin (1989:135) comments on the reasons why Dikeledi had decided not to
leave her husband:
She couldn’t walk away from her husband for she had children to care for, and
the forced compromise she ends up with - a life in prison for murdering him -
hardly suggests a solution ... Dikeledi, named after her mother’s tears,
symbolizes the struggle of a people who have a long way to go before the cycle
of violence can be replaced by a spiral of peace.
The women suffer even more than the men in this new post-colonial society.
The change in society and its structure has also brought about a false sense of
liberation to the men. The new signs of masculine pride such as jobs in the
administration, money and power have resulted in fickle anarchy. Men are
like a proverbial pack of wolves on the prowl and women suffer because of
this. This attitude fits Paglia’s (1993:63) remark, namely that “male lust and
male aggression are two uncontrollable forces of nature in society”. Years of
colonial repression now result in sexist bestiality. Garesego is an example to
support this because he has substituted his marital relationship for a fi-ee-
ranging, carefi-ee chase of women.
Once he has entered Dikeledi’s yard Garesego reaffirms his position as
phallocratic man and he scans the environment for the presence of his rival,
Paul Thebolo. There is no challenge of his phallic supremacy because Paul
Thebolo is in his own yard. Garesego, however, feels that he could reaffirm his
erstwhile position as the patriarch of the family when he enters his own yard.
Dikeledi does not want to miss “one detail of it” (p. 103) because she has to
experience her newly-established position as phallic ruler - she is in
possession of the substitute phallus (the kitchen knife). Her position emulates
the same responses people had following the Bobbitt case: “It’s a universal no-
no”; “it has to send a chill through every man in the world” and “Men feel
emasculated by the story while women feel empowered”
Paul :
Paul is responsible for taking care of Dikeledi and her family once they have
been left alone by Garesego and he is also willing to take care of her family
when she has to go to jail: “You don’t have to worry about the children, Mma-
Banabothe. I’ll take them as my own and give them all a secondary school
education” (p. 103).
Apart from this Paul is also sexually liberated and innovative. The description
of his sexual prowess and his ability to surprise his wife every night (p. 94)
contrasts him to Garesego who has a totally different opinion about sex and
the sexual satisfaction of women. For Paul Thebolo sexual intercourse means
something pleasurable to be enjoyed by both husband and wife, whereas it is
just the opposite with Garesego. He needs a different woman every night in
order to satisfy his lust. He sees sex as a display of masculine power,
domination and the oppression of women.
Kenalepe, Paul’s wife, is even willing to share him sexually with Dikeledi (p.
98). In this new idealised African community which Head tries to establish in
her writing the man becomes a sexual object shared by women for sexual
pleasures. Ezenwa-Ohaeto (1990:129) describes the female characters
inappropriately as “strong women who attempt to redefine their lives, who
break acceptable social codes of behaviour, become outcasts, and who are
ultimately destroyed for this act of controlling their personal^iological selves”.
This perspective undermines the gist of Head’s story. The women in this story
are definitely not “destroyed” because they have gone against sexism in
society. Ezenwa-Ohaeto’s perspective in itself turns out to be sexist too. He
does not want women to fight traditional assumptions about sex and
sexuality.
Paul is a liberator to Dikeledi. He is the one who has helped to rescue her from
an existence “that had been ashen in its loneliness and unhappiness”
The story is set in post-colonial Botswana and deals with the life of
Dikeledi Mokopi and her estranged husband Garesego Mokopi.
He has left her and their three children and she has to take care of them,
while he has set off in his pursuit of sexual gratification with other
women.
Dikeledi gets on very well with her neiglibours Paul and Kenalepe
Thobolo.
Garesego, however, is jealous of the relationship between Paul and
Dikeledi.
When Dikeledi is in need of money to pay for their eldest child’s school
fees, she invites Garesego over to her house to discuss it.
He is under the impression that she wants to have sexual intercourse.
Dikeledi, however, takes a kitchen knife and cuts off his genitals.
For this deed she is imprisoned for life.
In jail she befriends three other women who have committed the same
offence.
SUMMARY
SUMMARY
But the danger of ever forming a connection with a man like Garesego is
that even if he abandons you, he might come back.
Faced with her husband’s declaration that he’s coming “home” to
reclaim her, Dikeledi can’t bear the thought of him defiling her
happiness.
In a bloody conclusion, she feeds him dinner, lets him fall asleep and
castrates him with a knife she spent the afternoon sharpening.
She watches him bleed to death “with an intent and brooding look,
missing not one detail of it.”
Then she sends her oldest son to bring the police.
Dikeledi firmly believes that Garesego penis is the only thing that makes him
different from her and he used to control women. Therefore, when she
castrated him, not only did she kill him, she made him her equal.Garesego was
a man who did not have any respect for women. He used them as sex objects
and threw them away when he was done. In Dikeledi’s experience, he used her
one too many times. Without his penis, Dikeledi felt he could not hurt anyone
anymore, especially her. She had watched him treat her wrong long enough as
well as other women. Dikeledi felt that without his penis, Garesego and she
would be on the same level.