Q3-Module 1-PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT 12
Q3-Module 1-PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT 12
Q3-Module 1-PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT 12
Quarter 3 – Module 1:
Teen-age Relationships
Including the Acceptable and
Unacceptable Expressions
of Attractions
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Personal Development
Quarter 3 – Module 1:
Teen-age Relationships
Including the Acceptable and
Unacceptable Expressions
of Attractions
Introductory Message
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can continue your studies and learn while at home. Activities, questions, directions,
exercises, and discussions are carefully stated for you to understand each lesson.
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Thank you.
What I Need to Know
This module is designed and written to help you understand the concept
of relationships and family that is broad and varies from person to person. A
relationship experience is unique to all individuals but is viewed universally as a
state of connectedness that it mostly emotional in its sense. This state of close
connection between people becomes personal relationships formed by bonds and
interactions that often grow from and are strengthened by mutual experiences.
This lesson will give an idea on how to build a happier and more fruitful
relationship with others by understanding the problems people are facing and by
developing friendly relationship through effective and loving connections.
The content of this lesson is about Teen-age Relationships including the
acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions.
What I Know
A. Write the word True if the statement is correct and write the word False if the
statement is not correct. Write your answer on a separate sheet of paper.
1. Attraction is a force that unite people.
2.Affection is one of human beings' greatest emotions.
3.Infatuation is love without engagement or intimacy.
4. People differ in what they consider attractive.
5. Relationship is a one-way traffic.
6. Personal Relationship is a form of relationship closely linked to a
person and which can only be important to that person.
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7.Affection is one of the qualities in a relationship that everyone
looks for.
8.According to research study, people differ in what they consider
attractive, and cultural influences on attractiveness.
9.Ladies with broad shoulders and a small waist are not attractive to
men.
10.Intimacy is a sharing of details, emotions, and intimate thoughts
B. Write the word Yes if the statement is correct and write the word No if the
statement is not correct.
11.Filipino culture is bound to believe that a decent display of
someone's feelings also a must, to be accepted by society;
12.Macoi has leadership and work skills but does not have good
looks. Is it attractive to ladies?
13.Majelyn dictates to her boyfriend how to dress up
and what to eat. Is this a controlling issue?
14. Is “Love” one of the three components of a healthy
relationship according to Sternberg?
15 Is cheating one of the unacceptable issues in any relationship?
Lesson
Understanding Personal
1 Relationships
Relationship
It is said that every kind of relationship is a two-way traffic which means that
all parties should learn how to give and take. There are different forms of
relationships and each of us has a clear description for each of these forms. We
certainly have our own ways of creating and improving these relationships.
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What’s In
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Process Questions:
1. What do the pictures want to convey?
2. What did you feel after you wrote your reaction/observation to the
images?
3. Have you experienced this kind of scenario before? If so, how did you
deal with it? If not yet, how will you react to this kind of situation?
What’s New
Read the poem below and answer the questions that follow.
PURPOSE OF AFFECTION
By: Jessica V. Durante
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Process Questions:
1. How did you feel after reading the poem? Why?
2. What does the writer want to tell about the line "Love is the
greatest of all"?
3. How would you express affection to your loved ones if you were the author?
(You may write a poem of your own.)
What is It
Everybody knows when they go into a room packed with friendly faces, and
while they seem open and able to speak, there is only one face standing out from
the crowd. There may be a lot of people in the room who are physically attractive,
but you do not seem to keep your eyes away from one person.
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Here are some of the attractions you need to remember:
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Attraction
Proximity and similarity contribute to relationship-building, and reciprocity
and self-disclosure are critical for sustaining relationships. Yet, what characteristics
do we find attractive about a person? We don't shape relationships with someone
who lives or works in our vicinity, so how do we determine which particular
individuals we want as friends and partners? Researchers have documented several
characteristics which are attractive to humans. People differ in what they consider
attractive, and cultural influences on attractiveness. Nevertheless, research
indicates that some commonly attractive characteristics in women include wide
eyes, high cheekbones, a thin jaw line, a slim build (Buss 1989), and a lower waist-
to-hip ratio (Singh 1993).
Likewise, attractive features of men include being tall, having broad
shoulders, and a small waist (Buss 1989). Both men and women with high levels of
facial and body symmetry are commonly seen as more attractive than asymmetric
individuals (Fink, Neave, Manning and Grammer 2006; Penton-Voak et al. 2001;
Rikowski and Grammer 1999).
In future female partners, social characteristics that people consider attractive
include comfort, empathy, and social skills; in males, the desirable characteristics
include competence, leadership abilities, and work skills (Regan and Berscheid
1997).
While humans want physically attractive mates, this doesn't mean we are
looking for the most attractive person possible. In fact, this observation has led some
to propose what is known as the matching hypothesis that asserts that people tend
to choose someone they see as their equal in physical attractiveness and social
desirability (Taylor et. al. 2011).
People weigh the attractiveness of a potential partner against the probability
of succeeding with that individual. If you believe you are particularly unattractive
(even if you are not), you would probably be looking for partners that are fairly
unattractive (i.e. unattractive in physical appearance or behavior).
Typically, we love the people we make relationships with, but the sort of love
we have for our families, friends, and lovers is special. Robert Sternberg (1986)
suggested that love has three components: affection, passion, and dedication. These
three components form a triangle that distinguishes many forms of love: this is
known as the triangular love theory by Sternberg.
Love is sometimes characterized by intimacy which is the sharing of details
and emotions and intimate thoughts.
Sternberg (1986) states that a healthy relationship will have all three
components of love – intimacy, passion, and commitment – which are described as
consummate love.At different stages of life, however, different aspects of love may
prevail more. Other types of love involve affection, described as intimacy, but not
passion or commitment. Infatuation is love without engagement or intimacy. Empty
love means engagement without passion or intimacy. Companionate love,
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characteristic of close friendships and family relationships, is affection and loyalty
but there is no passion. Passion and affection describe romantic love, but no
engagement. Lastly, fatuous love is characterized by passion and devotion but no
intimacy, such as a long-term sexual love affair.
Filipino society has set standards for terribly unacceptable way to demonstrate
someone's attractions against those who are practically acceptable. Perhaps you are
asking why it is important to understand and realize these things.
1. Mutual respect. Will he or she get to know how smart and why you are? Will
your partner listen to you when you say you are not happy doing something
and then instantly back off? Respect in a partnership means that each partner
trusts and respects the weaknesses of each other and will never question
them.
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2. Trust. You talk to a classmate, and your partner wanders about. Is he going
to lose his cool, or is he going to keep walking, because he knows you are never
going to cheat on him? Often it's normal to get a little jealous; jealousy is a
common feeling. But how a person reacts when he feels jealous is what
matters. Though you trust each other, there is no guarantee that you will have
a healthy relationship.
3. Honesty. This one goes hand-in - hand with confidence, because when one
of you is not honest, it is difficult to trust another. Have you ever caught your
partner in a total lie? Like when she told you that she / he was occupied with
homework, but it turned out that she / he was talking to friends? You're going
to have a lot of difficulty believing the next time she / he says she / he has to
work and the trust will be on dangerous foundations.
4. Support. It is not only in difficult times that you should be supported by your
partner. Usually, when the whole world is falling apart, we thought that this
is the only time we need support from others. Even in your best, you still need
support and when time gets tough, your significant other should still be there.
For instance, your partner should be there when you find out that your
parents are breaking apart and he/she should also rejoice with you when you
get a great score.
7. Good Communication. Are you going to speak to each other and share the
feelings that matter to you? Don't keep your emotions locked up because you
are afraid your partner does not even need to hear about it. And if you need
some time to think about something before you are ready to talk about it, you
will be provided some space by the right person to do that.
Every relationship has its ups and downs, and we all have to
compromise a little to make them work. But if your partner consistently does
the following, it might be time to think twice.
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1. Cheating
If you are in a committed, monogamous relationship, cheating should
be out of the question. Many people will say infidelity is a deal-breaker.
However, others will decide to stay with their partners after an affair, and,
under the right circumstances, it is possible to heal the relationship. If you
do decide to maintain the relationship, your partner says they will never
cheat again, and they do, it’s likely that they will continue to break your
trust.
No one has the right to make you feel bad about yourself. Whether
blatant or subtle, if your partner criticizes your looks, your hair, your laugh,
your intelligence, or anything, they’re not worth your time.
4. Controlling
You should have a life outside of your relationship, away from your
partner. It is not their place to tell you who you can see, when you can see
them, what to eat, or how to dress. This controlling behavior can be a
warning sign of physical abuse and should be taken seriously.
5. Lack of communication
You will never be able to grow together if you don’t discuss your
wants and needs. You both need to feel comfortable openly expressing your
feelings, good and bad, otherwise you might begin to resent each other.
6. Unnecessary sacrifices
7. Unreliability
When your cellphone is not working, you need advice, or you’ve just
had a bad day and need a hug, do they come to your aid? If they’re not there
for you when you need them the most, think twice: why are you with them?
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8. Forgetting the memorable day
9. Self-destruction
When you want to build a life with someone, you have to accept every
part of them, including the people they care about. Your partner not making
an effort to get to know your loved ones can cause a major strain on your
relationship.
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What’s More
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Process Questions:
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2. is a force that unites people and can grow into an
attachment which eventually leads to commitment
What I Can Do
Have you experienced, or have you known someone who has experienced the
following unacceptable expression of attractions? Write your answer on a separate
sheet of paper.
a. Cheating
b. Controlling
c. Unreliability
d. Lack of communications skills
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Answer table below. The situation is written on the first column. On the second
column, write the reasons why these unacceptable expressions of attractions
happen; on the third column, write the possible effects of this kind of relationship;
on the fourth column, write your reactions; and your advice on the fifth column
1. Cheating
2. Controlling
3 Unreliability
4. Lack of
communicatio
ns skills
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Assessment
A. Write True if the statement is correct and write False if the statement is not
correct. Write your answer on a separate sheet of paper.
1. Attraction is a force that unite people.
2.Alpha males show a specific set of personality like trait, including
directness, dedication, which strength.
3.Companions can go to one another in the midst of hardship.
6.Many women claim that when they are looking for a long term
relationship partner, they are simply looking for the opposite of an
alpha male
7.Affection is one of the qualities in a relationship that everyone looks
for.
B. Write Yes if the statement is correct and write No if the statement is not correct.
11.Filipino culture is bound to believe that a decent display of
someone's feeling is also a must, to be accepted by society;
12.Hil has leadership and work skills but does not have good looks. Is it
attractive to ladies?
13. Megan dictates to her boyfriend how to dress up and what to eat. Is
this a controlling issue?
14. Is “Love” one of the three components of a healthy relationship
according to Sternberg?
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Additional Activities
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Answer Key
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References
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