Dr. Erel Shalit: August 27, 2015
Dr. Erel Shalit: August 27, 2015
Dr. Erel Shalit: August 27, 2015
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Shrink Rap Radio #470, August 27, 2015 – The Cycle of Life
David Van Nuys, Ph.D., aka “Dr. Dave” interviews Dr. Erel Shalit,
Israeli Jungian Analyst
The Interview:
Erel Shalit: David, thank you so much and thank you for inviting me. And
thank you, in any case, for the great work you are doing. I have listened to
some of the interviews and I've heard about your interviews. So thank you
very much for that community service that you are doing.
Dr. Dave: That is so gratifying to hear. It's great to have this opportunity to
speak with you and I've become increasingly aware of your work. I first
became acquainted with your work as a result of my interview with Dr.
Nancy Swift Furlotti on the book Dream Amplification which the two of you
edited. In my more recent interview with her on Erich Neumann. And there
was a major conference in Israel not long ago about Erich Neumann - were
you the organizer or one of the principals in that conference?
Shalit: I was the organizer. I was chair of the conference. In fact it began in
a very interesting way that doesn't have anything to do with the book about
The Cycle of Life. It may have something to do with my cycle of life.
Shalit: After so many years, the correspondence between Jung and Erich
Neumann was published this year - 2015. While we know that both of them
died - in 1960 and 1961, respectively. So it has taken a very long time to get
all parties together to publish this correspondence. And when we managed
to sign the agreement back in 2012, with the Jung Foundation, the
Philemon Foundation that prepared the correspondence of correspondents
and I as the representative of the Neumann heirs. It was in fact Ulrich
Hoerni, Jung's grandson that suggested we launch the book and arrange
this conference in Israel. That's why I took it upon myself to go ahead with
this pretty big venture.
Dr. Dave: Yeah, I'm sure it was a big responsibility. I've never run a
conference. [laughs] I've managed to dodge that bullet so far.
Shalit: [laughs] Well. Now ... done this conference and not going to do any
further conferences. Was obviously greatly successful and great attendance
from more than 25 countries. And attendees from 25 countries. But it took a
full year, practically full time, to manoeuvre and get all that working.
Dr. Dave: Sure. I can imagine. And you've been very busy with lots of
activities. And on YouTube I discovered that you've lectured here in
California at the Pacifica Graduate Institute.
Shalit: Right. I've done that a few times and I will be there in November.
Dr. Dave: Well, very good. Although I am in the same state, it's a long ways
away from where I am. California is a very long state.
Dr. Dave: OK. Before we get into your book, maybe you can tell us about
what set you on the path of this ambitious project, because you are trying to
cover an awful lot [laughs] Right?
Shalit: Well ... so far you have mentioned Freud, Jung and Erikson. And all
three of them were in fact instrumental in setting me on this path. Freud,
obviously because he did categorize stages of childhood. He'd seen them as
universal phenomena. We are supposed to pass through these stages of
childhood without being fixated and if we resolve one we move relatively
smoothly unto the next. But we have to stand up to the different challenges.
Erikson ... well he set me off because - first of all, I've always been attracted
to his writings. And I have noticed so many times when lecturing on this
subject that people recall that he wrote about the stages of life. But that is
not actually the title of his essay. It's "The Ages of life". And that made me
try to bridge Erikson and Jung which may not be so easy.
Because I think that Erikson had a hunch - understood that it's not the
development through stages, but that each stage through life is also, in an
archetypal sense, a distinct age. It has own its own qualities, its own distinct
challenges and those ages may remain, or should preferably may remain in
the person as we go through the all the different stages.
Dr. Dave: So it's not like we leave it and it’s gone forever, but somehow
those issues are still alive within us.
Dr. Dave: Spoken like a true Jungian [both laugh] The idea is that it's
necessary to bring awareness and consciousness rather than just kind of
moving through and passively. I'll have to think about that because I think
... I've not always felt like I'm the actor - in the sense of having a plan for my
life. I've kind of gone through doors as they've opened up. So that's more my
sense than a really very conscious movement. So, I'm not supposed to be on
the couch here. [both laugh]. Well I invited it though [both laugh].
Shalit: [laughs] We can certainly discuss that. But I don't think we can
always consciously determine in advance what doors we are going to go
through. I do think we do have a certain obligation to consider, to
contemplate, to reflect when we find ourselves at the crossroads.
Dr. Dave: Yeah. The crossroads. That's one of the archetypes that you
discuss that always resonates very strongly with me, Blue Grass music -
meeting the devil at the crossroads, that's a strong association I have. I
interviewed (I have a block on his name right now) a Jungian analyst whose
written about the folk music called the Blues, and ...
Shalit: ... Mark Winburn. He's a lovely, lovely person. And I consider him a
friend of mine.
Dr. Dave: Oh. Yeah. Good. I really enjoyed discovering that he had written
on that, because I've long loved the Blues ...
If you don't mind I'd like to step you through the broad outline of the book.
In the book you share so many wonderful myths and stories. So I hope you'll
feel free to sprinkle in any of those here that make sense. Or they don't even
have to have been in the book if there's something that comes to min. So,
we'll course the first metaphor is that of The Journey. And that is an
archetypal idea in itself. Right?
Shalit: Right.
Dr. Dave: So what can you tell us about The Journey as a guiding
metaphor for looking at the life span?
are nearly dried up. Which here in my area of the world - the "wadi", the
dried up river, is very significant.
Dr. Dave: Yeah. Much so, and of course - getting back to what you were
saying, we are going through a drought right now. And so that is very much
impacting the whole river metaphor. Water.
Dr. Dave: A very real way. And so I am interested in the way that you just
outlined the river as having these two aspects. One that is very stable and
steady but then there's all this variation on the surface and it actually in
some ways foreshadows something that I think we'll talk about towards the
end of the book. Which is the idea of ... what in some ways our life is set...
there is some degree of predestination, if you will ...
Shalit: Right.
Dr. Dave: And at the same time ... things happen; we make decisions. And
there's the whole issue of free will.
Shalit: I think you touch upon what I see as perhaps the central theme in
my book, which is the axis, span, the tension, the conjunction between
predetermined fate - fate - what has been spoken by the gods ...
Dr. Dave: Yeah. You know this topic feels so juicy, that I'm going to skip to
the end of the book [both laugh] instead of going straight through as I'd
planned, because you have this chapter called ... or this section, called
"Homage to Sophocles" and in it you relate this play .... I think most of us
are familiar with Oedipus Rex and the story of Oedipus who I guess for ... a
seer of some sort... that's not the right ... an oracle, right? ... kind of lets him
know his destiny way in advance, that he's going to end up killing his father,
maybe even to sleeping with his mother. This of course happens as he goes
along. He goes through great anguish and gouges out his eyes. So Sophocles
and you pick up the story towards the end of his life, which I'd never heard
before, about the Sophocles play. And one part that ... and you can take us
through that ... one part that really caught my interest was Oedipus kind of
excusing himself, saying, "Well, look, yes, I did kill my father [laughs] and
slept with my mother but you know, that's the gods [laughs] lets blame it on
the gods. That was predestined. I really didn't have a choice."
Shalit: Yeah.
Dr. Dave: And there is that tension. And I'm aware of that too. Because the
interview I did before this was with a psychologist who listens to murderers.
He's written a marvellous book and ... and there's that tension in the law -
that you can understand the murderer's story and when you hear what the
murderer ... the environment he came through and all the things he was
subjected to as a child - the abuse and so on. The fact that he later on, he
becomes a murderer almost seems inevitable, and yet the law always has to
deal with that tension that you were just talking about.
Dr. Dave: Sorry to hear you've had such a difficult life [laughs] but we're
going to punish you.
Shalit: Right. Well, the law ... is always confronted with dilemmas that are
so not simple, even though, sometimes law as the executor of collective
conscience simplifies things. Just to give you one example ... when Adolf
Eichmann was tried in Israel, the prosecutor said that the court is
confronted with the enormous problem of how to prosecute a mass
murderer who has not killed a single person.
That is one dilemma. Your mentioning of Oedipus at the end of his life. And
I personally think that Oedipus at Colonus is one of the greatest plays from
ancient Greece. It's usually not read. It's so rare that I recall once when I
went into ... I was looking for ... I was giving a lecture on this subject in
Shalit: And Oedipus of course pleads not guilty for having carried out what
amounts to his four doomed fates and he says in this incredible section, he
says. “The gods so willed it. Doubtless, doubtless an ancient grudge against
our house. My life was innocent. Search as you will of any guilty secret for
which this error could have been the punishment, the sin that damned
myself and all my blood. Oh tell me," he said. "If my father were foredoomed
by the voice of heaven to die by his own son's hand, how can you justly cast
it against me who was still unborn when that decree was spoken?”
Dr. Dave: It's interesting that you went right to that because I was ... I do a
commentary after the interview usually, and I had in my mind tagged that -
that I was going to read that passage [laughs].
Shalit: Yeah, I think it is a very powerful passage And the chorus, in fact,
does agree with Oedipus. He manages to convince them; I personally remain
somewhat unconvinced. Yeah we are predetermined in so many ways. I
personally for instance as a Jew am acutely aware of the time of being born
because I know that if I was born in just a few years earlier than I was born,
and in a somewhat different location then I would probably have been
murdered as a child. Or not born because my parents would have been
murdered. So I acutely feel the impact of the archetypical fate, historical
fate, God-has-spoken fate - or whatever we call it. And still I cannot put
anything beyond my own responsibility. I need to carry my responsibility. I
need to respond to the fate in certain ways have been given to me. I need to
respond - take that responsibility and feel the guilt that comes along with it.
Dr. Dave: Yeah that's another theme that we'll come back to maybe
towards the end. Let me jump back towards the beginning of the journey
again. Of course the journey is such a natural and archetypal idea. I'm
thinking of in literature - we have the Don Juan, the first picaresque novel
which is about his travel along the road - you know, all the way to modern
times with Jack Kerouac’s On The Road.
Dr. Dave: In between so many stories, novels and so on about being on the
road, a journey. One that sticks out in my memory too is Journey to the East
... I'm blocked on his name- help me. Who wrote Journey to the East? You
must know it. [Hermann Hesse ]
Dr. Dave: And I know it too. I'll say it later. It will pop into my mind. Boy
that drives me nuts. It happens all the time. When you're talking about one
of the phrases. I think it was a section heading that you used which I found
particularly evocative, was your discussion on being on the way, being on
the journey, being on the way versus a way of being.
Shalit: Right.
Shalit: Well, it's a quote fromKároly Kerényi.And being on the way as a way
of being is the polar opposite to being in one place. Being at home. And we
live in a very ... in a restless world. We live in a world where location is being
... is disintegrating. I think that's why we, many of us, are concerned with
ecology, which comes from ”eco” meaning home. The Greek word for home.
Where we want this place on Earth to remain a viable home. That's one part.
But we also need to be the Traveller. We need to travel in our own life. It's
not necessarily in geography but in "psychography". And ... we need those
two aspects. The neurotic person is the reluctant traveller.
He or she will say, "Not now." Will avoid the travelling. Will avoid crossing
the ocean or travelling down the river. The neurotic person will say, "It's too
late." or "The time is not right, yet." Now is never right.
That's the... so ... the neurotic person is a reluctant traveller. The psychotic
person is a ... the erratic traveller, without a compass, without a connection
to a gyroscope ...
Dr. Dave: OK
Dr. Dave: Yeah. So again, being on the way, the journey versus a way of
being. And the way I'm hearing a way of being relates back to what you were
talking about being conscious, that's being as a way of life, as a way ... as a
philosophy of life, if you will, to ...
Shalit: Absolutely
Dr. Dave: ... be conscious of the journey, and by the way, the name that I
was blocking on was Hermann Hesse.
Shalit: Yeah
Dr. Dave: It did come back to me. And I recently reread it, and discovered
that it wasn’t at all like I remembered it. So somehow I had changed it into
whatever I needed to be. And for me it was a story about some people, who
were on the journey, and then they got separated and lost, and they forgot
[laughs] they forgot what the journey was about. They forgot where they
were going. And then later they kinda meet up again and it's kinda oh some
recognition. That's how [laughs] I ... there was a lot of other stuff in there
that as I read it again ... it was like I'm not interested in that part [laughs].
You, in this part of the book you also have an interesting discussion of the
god Hermes. What's his relevance in this context that we're talking about
right now?
Shalit: Well, you know ... isn't it fascinating that Hermes who is the god of
travellers, besides the god of businessmen, thieves and other ...
Shalit: [laughs] It's an interesting mix definitely. And that he is also ... he's
of course the god of souls ... with, he’s the only one who has permanent visa
to enter into the netherworld and get out of there ...
Shalit: ... and so he in fact travels not only horizontally, he travels vertically
as well. And downwards, upwards - he can fly on the winged sandals and he
can go down into the depths. He is the personified image of something… an
image of hermeneutics of the hidden scripts – of what's there between the
lines. And he is also connected to what is hermetically sealed. And it's in the
hermetically sealed vessel that we imagine that therapeutic and analytic
transformation takes place. So that seems at least on the surface to be
contradictory to the god of rogues but it is in the hermetically sealed vessel
that we go through our internal transformations, that we travel internally. If
we are constantly exposed to the external noise (and in today's world we
have such a difficulty of concentrating), we have such a difficulty
withdrawing into our own state of reflection and contemplation. We hardly
are able to read a book all through any longer because we need to check
emails. Some of us might feel a need to check the Twitter account. And of
course on Facebook there is constantly a constant stream of news. We are
all, I think, becoming ... having Attention Deficit Disorder.
Dr. Dave: I will confess [laughs] I certainly struggle with that. And agree
with you about that. And you talking about the hermetic containers make
me think about alchemy and all those images of and that idea we sort of
need to cook our issues. And I think that Hermes is actually depicted in
some of that alchemical ... those alchemical drawings from the Middle Ages.
Shalit: Yeah. I am not that familiar with alchemy. I have … as a Jungian ...
I have [laughs] done my basic ... but sure ... Hermes and Hermes
Trismegistus of course is an important figure. But Hermes the Greek god is,
I think, tremendously significant in the conceptualization and the idea of
our soul travelling.
Dr. Dave: So just to recap a bit then. Each of the archetypal stages will
confront us with one or more challenges which if successfully dealt with will
further our growth, or if not successfully dealt with will hold us back or even
become pathological obstacles. Does that sound right?
Shalit: I have ... I do believe that each age of the human being, or each
stage if we look at it from a developmental perspective, presents us with
challenges. Erik Erikson defined for instance the initial stage of basic stage
of trust versus mistrust, and in late life - ego integrity versus despair. And
so I do think that there are ... and of course Freud did that as well. From an
archetypal perspective I think that there are issues that pertain, that we can
elaborate on, that reflect some of those issues.
Let me take the child for instance. The idea ... the child from an archetypal
perspective is the idea of child not only one personal childhood. It's the idea
of child. The idea of child pertains for instance to the living in the more
mystical, in something that is closer to Nature, to the unconscious and
there, we can crystallize out of that, we can crystallize certain images. We
can crystallize the Divine Child. Which and shows the vicinity to the
Archetypal Sphere, to the Archetypal Dimension. The Divine Child carries
the name of Divinity. We see that. We sense that.
And often in the infant. We look at the infant and if we have the Child
constellated in us, we will see the beauty, the divinity, the transpersonal,
the grandeur of this little child ... who doesn't have to accomplish anything.
It's pre-ego. We don't ask (hopefully) a 6 weeks old child to do anything. And
when the child smiles at us, we are affected. Our heart, hearts beat and we
feel elevated by the interaction with divinity, and so Jung used the image of
the Divine Child, and others have as well, as an image for the self. But now
that is not the only image that I believe is important to experience as a child,
to be related as carrying that divinity.
Shalit: ... with newborn children. At some stage that has to be abandoned.
However good it has been, at some stage it has to be abandoned, because
otherwise there's no development. Otherwise it becomes something
decadent.
Dr. Dave: Yeah. Thank you. That's fascinating. I'm wondering, does that
archetypal image of the Orphan perhaps also contain some healing
information? Because the stories you cited they also have some kind of
resolution often.
Shalit: Most definitely. I thank you for pointing that out. Yes. I don't believe
so when the person has been traumatized. Then the healing must come from
some sources that help the person to unfreeze that, but as a complex, as a
teleological purposeful complex, as a developmental stage, then yes, it is
healing to be in touch with it, because we need to carry that sense within us
because we need to experience that sense of abandonment, unless it
becomes too extreme.
Shalit: So, I believe it does have a feeling function and it helps our
development.
Dr. Dave: Ok. Now you've mentioned the Divine Child and the Orphan
Child. We move on to the Puer and the Puella, which I think of as being ... Is
that considered part of the Child Archetype, or is that developed later?
Shalit: No ... well it depends on whom you ask. I personally see that as
something later. A further developmental stage. It's later. It's the ... if we
make it correspond with a certain age group that pertains to adolescence.
Dr. Dave: Ok and so for people who are not familiar with those Latin words,
like the Puer refers to the Eternal Boy - and Puella, the Eternal Girl,
like …
Shalit: You have the Puer aeternus, that is the Eternal Boy.
Shalit: Puella aeterna is the Eternal Maiden or young woman. The puer is
like you have the word "puerile" in English. It is quite simply the young. As
an archetypical image it's to me, I connect it with the fire. If the child thrives
in water, so here we have the fire. We have the fire of youth. Which, and you
know in many cultures, rites of initiation during adolescence have to do with
fire. Jumping through fire rings. Or in Israel for instance we have the
celebrations of what's called Lag BaOmer, that's one of the seasonal
festivities and ... in practice, it has to do with sitting around the bonfire. And
the young will have to learn the idea of fire, which concretely, of course ...
fire is Nature's foremost transformative energy.
It can be destructive unless it's reined in and controlled and interacted with
by the ego. But if it's in dialogue with Nature and Ego, then fire can be used
as Prometheus does. He brings fire to the use of humanity - to warm, to
keep warm, to cook, for transformation. Ideas require transformation.
Creativity requires a certain fire. And so, I connect youth, the Peur and the
Peurella with fire. The Puer aeternus and Puella aeterna are stuck, and they
don't develop.
They long for Paradise. They want to be taken care of. They want to remain
... they want to remain living in a shadowless existence. Do you know by the
way at what age Narcissus dies?
Shalit: Well he dies at age 16. Because that (again it doesn't have to be 16
completely). But if you take it as Sweet 16, in our imagination that can be
the height of narcissism.
Dr. Dave: So what is the relationship, if any between the Hero and the
Puer?
Shalit: Well ... often the Hero as a ... when we speak about Hero we often
think about the Hero ideal and we think of that Golden Youth, very
charismatic, energetic, and that may of course happen. But you know we
are now in the middle of summer, and one of the months in the middle of
summer in the Hebrew calendar is Tammuz. Tammuz was one of these
youthful gods who dies long before mid-life. Died young. It's very ... it's
tragic when the young actually die, whether it's in war or accidents or
illness, but as an archetypal idea, youth dies. It dies when we confront the
Shadow. When we are taken down from those youthful heights that
somehow is possible to imagine. The hero ideal is often connected with that.
But I see the hero from a Jungian perspective as something quite different.
The hero to me is that function in our psyche, that function in the ego of our
psyche, that function in our ego-consciousness, which turns towards the
Shadow. That function in our ego that dares to go into the depths, that
dares to step into the dark, that function of the ego that goes against, in a
way goes against simple consciousness, or the collective consciousness.
That function that goes out into the night-scape or the dream-scape at
night. So when we speak about dream ego, for instance, when I, when we do
recall a dream and we say "I" experience this or that ...
Shalit: … that "I" in the dream is of course not my waking ego. It is a night-
time dream ego. And I identify that with the idea of hero because that's the
aspect of the ego that goes out into the unconscious.
Dr. Dave: Yeah, you know I'm thinking of, that was portrayed in Star Wars.
Are you familiar with the Star Wars movies?
Shalit: Sure
Shalit: Right.
Shalit: Yeah.
Dr. Dave: Earlier you made reference to Prometheus in connection with the
Puer. Maybe you could take us through the highlights of that myth and how
it applies to what you are saying about the Puer.
Shalit: Well, I think of youth, the Puer and Puella as images of youth. They
are the link between the Child and the Adult. They try to carry some of the
fire, the idea, the ideology, the spirit. And try to bring it into their own
adulthood without losing ... without losing the fire. You will often hear, so
often hear the young say, "I need to be different from my parents. They have
submitted to the habits, to regularity, they are only interested in making a
living. They have lost the spirit. And I don't want to live my life as gray as
they do." And so I believe that one major task of youth, of the Puer and the
Puella is to try to make that fire land safely in the world of adulthood.
And Prometheus whose very name means "the one who thinks before "… he
is Fire and in some significant ways pertains to before-thinking. He restrains
his impulses. He brings the use of fire to Mankind, to Humankind. It should
not only be for the gods, the archetypal world. It has to find its place in
reality. Which is, let's call it adulthood. And his brother Epimetheus which
means "the one who thinks only afterwards".
Shalit: He rushes into things and basically burned by the fire. He doesn't
get there. Of course we do need a bit of Epimetheus because if we always are
so well-considered and fore-thinking and do the right thing in our
consciousness etc. - I believe that can't be done. And I don't believe it should
be done, either. We need a bit of that impulsivity as well, but it needs to be a
bit controlled by Prometheus.
Dr. Dave: The next major stage that you talk about is that of the adult.
Which doesn't sound like a very fancy name. [both laugh] Got no Latin or
anything. And - is there an Adult archetype? I mean I've never thought
about the adult as an archetype. And if so, what are the ... you know,
characterize that for us.
Shalit: Well, what I've chosen to put at the centre of this, and I think that I
give quite a few examples as well as of clinical examples, but the archetypal
image that I've chosen is the King. The King who, who believes. The King of
Fairy Tales. The King who believes that he can rule as a sole ruler of the
entire empire. And he can set the laws and he is the one who decides over
the inhabitants in his empire, in his kingdom. The King is often inflated. The
King forgets that he is merely human. I think that is what sometimes
happens to many of us as adults. And I think it is often is what causes some
aspects of the mid-life crisis. The King, the ego thinks it can rule by itself,
that it doesn't need any connections with its sources. It has … it believes in
its individual capability and some are fortunate to be individually very
capable and accomplished. But this kind overdoes it. That's why in so many
fairy tales, the king must die. And some of those kings are not willing to die,
they're not willing to abdicate, they're not willing to turn over the rule to the
next generation.
They hold unto power. And this is when the spirit is lost. The fire is
quenched. It's the extreme of the Father archetype, the father who sets the
rules, who does not accept that he might be overthrown, like Laius being
overthrown or killed by Oedipus. It is holding unto the power and the
decision making. I give some extreme examples of this in the book. So I
think that the ... that is one aspect of the adult. I give another, much more
positive image as well, which I like to call the Carpenter ego.
Dr. Dave: Ok [laughs] say a little about the Carpenter ego. I get the sense of
constructing, building.
Dr. Dave: Well you know we're at the time length that I generally give to
those interviews. So ... we'll let the listeners hopefully be motivated to get
your book to find out how the story ends [both laugh] with the Senex.
Would be a good one to talk about, and what happens even after that. But a
question that pops into my mind before we go. How did you become a
Jungian? How did that happen? [both laugh]
Shalit: Let me first before I answer that, very quickly say, to say that we'll
leave it to the listeners to find out how the story ends. And Jung so
pertinently says, life is the story of the unfolding of the Unconscious. And
the listeners who are willing to become readers of the book will also find out
something about is rarely known ... the feminine of Senex. Senex has to do
of course with seniority, senility, the old person. There is a feminine version
of Senex in the classical sources. But I will let the listeners who become
readers find out that.
Shalit: Right. How I became a Jungian. Well, I was a young person in the
1960s. So I of course went from one path to another, caught up in this
ideology and that one. But nothing really had an impact on me.
But when I did read Memories, Dreams, Reflections as a young person, I felt
that spoke to my psyche. I could understand it. There was nothing dry
there. This was living. This was life. This was truly a wonderful story.
Dr. Dave: Yeah, That's great. So, I see you are going to be part of a Webinar
on The Nature of Evil that's sponsored by the Asheville Jung Centre, and I
have kind of a strategic relationship with them, we try to support each
other's work. And I hope to be attending that. I'm going to try to get that into
my calendar. So I look forward to experiencing that with you. And so as we
are winding down here is there anything else you'd like to add?
Shalit: No. Thank you for mentioning that Webinar, which Murray Stein in
fact is doing with different guests at different times. And Murray Stein was
instrumental in the conference, the Jung-Neumann Correspondence
Conference here. And we are at the moment editing the book which will be
forthcoming from Chiron called Turbulent Times, Creative Minds - Erich
Neumann and C.G. Jung. That will be probably ... that will be forthcoming
next year. And I just want to thank you so much for having me here. And for
you very helpful questions.
Dr. Dave: Well thank you. Dr Erel Shalit I want to thank you for being my
guest today at Shrink Rap Radio.
[Music]
Dr. Dave: What an amazing resource Skype is allowing Dr. Shalit and me
not only to converse but also to see each other. Ordinarily I turn off the
video component thinking that we'll be using less bandwidth, and therefore
might be more likely to have a problem-free Skype connection. Dr. Shalit
has such a warm and welcoming face though, that I decided to take a
chance today and for us to each use our web cams. I'm glad that we did
because I think that the visual cues gave us more of a sense of immediacy
and connection with each other. Fortunately the Skype gods were in
alignment and we had no difficulties. We take these things for granted but
it's really pretty amazing that we can have these video chats with people on
the other side of the world. The world really has become a smaller place in
many ways. All those who have come before us and passed on would have
regarded this as a miracle indeed.
Dr. Shalit mentioned that he often reflects on the fact that had he been born
slightly earlier and in a different place, he would have in all likelihood
perished in a concentration camp, for the mere fact of being Jewish in that
time and place. I didn't mention it in the interview but I share that
circumstance. I was probably around 14 years of age when my mother sat
me down and told me that my biological father was Jewish. I knew of the
Holocaust and at that young age I secretly vowed I would never tell anyone
about this Jewish connection. Not because I was ashamed of it, but because
I didn't want to have my unborn children and other descendants to have to
risk the dangers of anti-Semitism. What they didn't know, I reasoned,
couldn't hurt them. When I was older and in graduate school, I realized that
having such a secret would likely exact a price on my psyche and had the
wisdom to come out, as it were. Fortunately, I've never had cause to regret
that decision.
If you are interested in the topics you heard us discussing, I think you'll
want to get yourself a copy of Dr. Shalit's book. So once again the title of Dr.
Erel Shalit's book is The Cycle of Life: Themes & Tales of the Journey. If you
would like to order Dr. Erel Shalit's book and at the same time help to
support Shrink Rap Radio, please go to our site and click on the small
banner ad for his book that you'll see in the right-hand sidebar. And by the
way his name is spelled Shalit, S-h-a-l-i-t, and his first name Erel is E-r-e-l.