My Body Belongs To Me

MY BODY BELONGS TO ME
A P E R S O N A L S A F E T Y E D U C AT I O N P R O G R A M F O R C H I L D R E N
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My Body Belongs to Me
Workshop Agreements
✓Maintain confidentiality and privacy
✓Respect and learn from others within the group
✓Silence phones
✓Share speaking time
✓Ask questions and help support a positive learning environment
✓Expect to hear different experiences & beliefs about sexual behavior
✓Be good to yourself
Discussion
SILENCE about
CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
protects who?
Discussion
TALKING about
CHILD PERSONAL SAFETY
protects who?
Lets Talk
Education
FOR CHILDREN
Seven Signals
When to say “No!”, Get Away & Tell an Adult Helper
1. Swimming Suit covered areas (Private Parts)

2. Secret
3. Scary
4. Say, “Ouch!”
5. Simply don’t like
6. Shocked or Confused
7. Self Talk
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Child Personal Safety Flip Chart:
Preschool – 2nd Grade
Classroom Presentation:
rd th
3 -6 Grade
✓Safety Rules: You are Important
✓Touches: Just in Case
✓Ok Touches vs. Not Ok Touches
✓My Body Belongs to Me Chant
✓Power Voices & Body Language
✓Boundaries
✓Short Video
✓Seven Signals
✓Get Away & Tell an Adult Helper or Safe Grown Up
My Body Belongs to Me Chant
YOU: “From the Top of my head”
KIDS: “From the Top of my head”
YOU: “To the bottom of my feet”
KIDS: “To the bottom of my feet”
YOU: “And everything else that’s in between”
KIDS: “And everything else that’s in between”
YOU: “MY BODY BELONGS TO ME!”
KIDS: “MY BODY BELONGS TO ME!”
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Power Voices
“No”
“I don’t like that”
“Stop!”
“No, thank you”
“Help”
Video & Discussion
By Jill Starishevsky
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a-5mdt9YN6I
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Lets Talk
Education
FOR ADULTS
Why is this program so
Important?
✓1 out of 3 girls and 1 out of 6 boys will experience some
form of sexual abuse before the age of 18.
✓Research suggests that fewer than 1/3 of child sexual

abuse incidents are identified or reported.
✓When a child has been taught to say “No! I’m going to tell”,
over 90% of offenders will STOP.
Child Sexual Abuse is…
✓Anysexual activity between an adult and child

under the age of 18 years old.
✓Sexual activity between two children of

significantly unequal power or development can
also be abusive.
Types of Sexual Offences
✓Touching
✓Non – Touching
✓Sexual Exploitation
Who sexually abuses children?
✓93% of victims were abused by someone they knew.
✓34% of victims were abused by family members.
✓40% of Victims were abused by peers or older children.

Child Sexual Abuse:
Grooming Stages
➢ Targeting the victim
➢ Gaining the victim's trust
➢ Filling a need
➢ Isolating the child
➢ Sexualizing the relationship
➢ Maintaining control
Child Sexual Abuse: 6 Stages of Grooming by Dr. Michael Welner

Website source: http://www.naasca.org/2011-Articles/010911-6StagesOfGrooming.htm
What can you do to protect
your child?
Lets Talk
Prevention
ADULTS
Boundaries
A boundary is a limit, a border, a line, a rule.
Setting boundaries is important when it comes to PREVENTION.
Discussion: What are some safety boundaries you have set or can set
for you children?
Boundaries for Parents
When parents and caregivers set healthy boundaries for children –
they are able to follow them!
But there are some boundaries children have no control over.

It’s up to adults to enforce them.
Examples:
✓Supervision/Childcare Expectations
✓Safe Decisions
✓Communication
Communication
Children need and crave: 3A’s
Affection, Attention, & Acceptance
✓Listening and Responding

✓Find opportunities for conversation
✓Family Safety Plan and Activity (Pages #26-34)
✓Discussing Sexual Matters (Pages #20-23)
Lets Talk
Intervention
WHAT YOU CAN DO
Sexual Behaviors in Children
…”Is this behavior normal!?”
= Behaviors that are typical and can be easily redirected to provide

opportunities to talk, explain and show support.
= Behaviors that are outside of the typical terms that signal

the need to monitor children and provide extra support.
= Behaviors that are not typical and signal the need to provide
immediate protection of children and follow up support.
Pages: 14-17
Responding to Sexual Behaviors
Possible Physical or Visible
Warning Signs of Abuse
• Possession of unexplained gifts or money
• Complaints of stomach and abdominal pain
• Signs of exhaustion or lack of sleep
• Radical change of appearance
• Pain or injury around genital or anal area
• Self mutilation
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Possible Behavioral
Warning Signs of Abuse
• Abnormal sexual knowledge or acting out specific

adult sexual activity
• Sudden noticeable changes in behavior
• Is afraid or refuses to be alone with a person
• Increased outbursts of anger, fear, and/or anxiety
• Excessive nightmares or other sleep disturbances
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How do I respond
If a child discloses abuse?
• Keep calm, Don’t shame
• Believe the child
• Praise the child for being brave enough to tell
• Reassure the child that it is NOT his/her fault

and they are not in trouble
• Listen carefully
• Try to identify who the abuser is
• If possible, get the child away from the abuser
Page: 12-13
Local Resources
Therapist /Mental Health Counseling
• Program to Treat and Evaluate Child Sexual Abuse
Child Abuse Treatment Program 485-6114 ext. 662
Child and Family Services

• To report child abuse to the county child abuse line
654-3200, 24 hour hotline - 7 days a week
Police Officer
• To report child abuse
9-1-1 or your local police department
We can’t control everything!
We can recover!
Resilience -
The human capability to recover, heal, and be strong after something
bad happens.
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Self Care
Thank You!

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MY BODY BELONGS TO ME

1. Swimming Suit covered areas (Private Parts)

✓Research suggests that fewer than 1/3 of child sexual

✓Anysexual activity between an adult and child

✓Sexual activity between two children of

✓34% of victims were abused by family members.

✓40% of Victims were abused by peers or older children.

Child Sexual Abuse: 6 Stages of Grooming by Dr. Michael Welner

But there are some boundaries children have no control over.

✓Listening and Responding

= Behaviors that are typical and can be easily redirected to provide

= Behaviors that are outside of the typical terms that signal

• Possession of unexplained gifts or money

• Complaints of stomach and abdominal pain

• Signs of exhaustion or lack of sleep

• Radical change of appearance

• Pain or injury around genital or anal area

• Abnormal sexual knowledge or acting out specific

• Sudden noticeable changes in behavior

• Is afraid or refuses to be alone with a person

• Increased outbursts of anger, fear, and/or anxiety

• Excessive nightmares or other sleep disturbances

• Believe the child

• Praise the child for being brave enough to tell

• Reassure the child that it is NOT his/her fault

• Try to identify who the abuser is

• If possible, get the child away from the abuser

Child and Family Services

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