What exactly is the past?

The past is the set of all events that occurred before a

given point in time. The past is contrasted with and de-
fined by the present and the future. The concept of the
past is derived from the linear fashion in which human
observers experience time, and is accessed through
memory and recollection.
A person’s identity is created by past moments, pres-
ent experiences, as well as dreams for the future. The
past plays a significant role in how a person chooses
to live life because it has contributed to the formation
of who a person has become. It is the catalyst to which
beliefs are formed to design your future.
According to neuroscience, the brain handles negative
and positive information differently. Negative experi-
ences require more thinking and, thus, are processed
more thoroughly. This causes our brains to become
better at remembering adverse events.
Reliving sad memories makes us feel like a hamster
in the wheel no matter how hard we try, we can’t move
forward.
You can’t change how your brain works. But you can
train yourself to get off of the hamster wheel. That re-
quires cutting the emotional attachment we have with
the past, especially negative experiences.
We usually have a hard time accepting that someone
hurt us. Recognizing an unhappy ending makes us feel
weak and embarrassed.
How does the past affect your present life?
For example, consider a highly feminine woman who
will become emotionally attached to anything that sig-
nificantly affects them, especially if it causes them pain
or suffering. If her partner does something that causes
her emotional pain, she will likely repeat it over and
over again throughout the relationship. Her partner
feels invincible because no matter how he corrects the
situation, she continues to punish him for his previous
transgressions.
The thoughts you choose to keep in the thought cloud
that pop up in your mind will negatively or positively
affect your current state.
Have you ever wondered why you never really get as
much done as you need? That’s because you’re hoard-
ing bad memories and experiences and you’re letting
the past determine your future. You will never find what
you are looking for if you do not have the strength to let
go and see the world with new eyes.
If you dwell on the past, you will never really live in the
present. Clinging to the past, you won’t see the beauty
of the present moment. . And if you don’t exist in the
present, you’re living halfway from memory to memo-
ry instead of opening your eyes and truly appreciating
what’s around you. And you cannot heal and open your
heart to joy and happiness . You will lose new opportu-
nities, new love and new memories.
Slavery is a thing of the past, but clinging to some-
thing, you are making yourself a slave, and the trivial
things that you refuse to let go are your masters. Take
charge of your life and tear off those chains. There is
a sense of accomplishment when you make the con-
scious decision to become the master of your own life.
Emotional scars from past relationships can ruin your
current relationship. Past relationship traumas, such
as emotional or physical abuse, can make you restless
and skeptical in your new relationship.
You can carry emotional baggage from past relation-
ships into your current relationship and kill it even be-
fore it blooms. Rebuilding love after emotional trauma
is hard work, but you have to know what you’re doing.
Basically, it consists of a pattern of behavior that you
feel remorse for; you are overwhelmed with sadness or
you have a lot of negative thoughts and feelings.

Sometimes, even when you are carrying an emotional

burden, you will not be aware of it because it is difficult
to recognize its presence in your life.

If you’ve been through a difficult period in your life be-

fore, it’s easy to lose trust in people. You will bring hurt
from your past relationship into your new relationship.
So have you:
էէ Insecurity envelopes your relationship
Insecurity is the reason of all the evils which take place
in your life, in general and in your relationship, in par-
ticular. If you have gone, through a rough phase in
your past life, then it will make you lose trust in people
easily. You will carry your past relationship trauma into
your new relationship.
էէ You become overprotective.
While rebuilding love after emotional trauma, you be-
come overly protective. But your current relationship
troubles start when you try to be overly protective
and possessive and invade your loved one’s personal
space.
էէ Comparing your partner with your past lovers be-
comes your habit
You always compare your partner with your past lovers
in such a way that it becomes disrespectful. You either
think too highly of your past lover which makes your
partner feel insignificant or you start thinking that your
partner will hurt you like your past lover.
Both these situations can hamper the peace of your
present relationship. Remember people are different,
so never compare one with another.
էէ You feel depressed
Even in the company of the person you love the most,
you still feel depressed and feel that something is
missing. This may be because of the feeling of anx-
iousness that the past debacle has left you with. You
must try to get over it. You are still looking for closure.
Jay Shetty says, “That’s pointless because your ex
lacks clarity to give you closure. So handle your emo-
tions yourself.”
Anxiety is something that gradually eats into your per-
sonality and then eventually into your relationship. If
you let the emotional scars of a past relationship to
add to your anxiety then you are making a huge mis-
take.
էէ Fear of being dumped again
Having been unexpectedly abandoned or dumped by
your past lover will develop a fear in you. At the back
of your mind, you will always think that this will be re-
peated and it is difficult to be happy and satisfied in the
present relationship with this sort of mindset.
If you are carrying emotional scars from the past rela-
tionship then this fear is inevitable. But how you deal
with this feeling is entirely your call. If you let it engulf
you then you will never be able to form a strong foun-
dation for your new relationship.
When we keep living in the past, it becomes a bur-
den on us. It holds us back and drags us down. Like a
snake shedding its skin over and over again, we need
to keep letting go of the past so we can move towards
the future constantly becoming a better and stronger
version of ourselves.
What does letting go mean?
Here we’ll talk about letting go of the past so we can
move on from relationships, people, and unhealthy
emotions.
Too much involvement with past memories that brought
you suffering and pain, give rise to unhappy thoughts.
This demands a heavy toll, and can take too much of
your time, energy and health. This involvement agi-
tates your mind and the feelings, obstructs common
sense, and prevents you from enjoying inner peace.
Letting go is the answer. Releasing the past is what
you need to do.
I am sure you have heard the phrase ‘let go’, more
than a few times.
What does letting go mean? What do you let go?
We usually use this phrase, when someone dwells on
past pains, failure or resentment.
Most people are unable to quit the past. They keep
thinking about it, creating for unnecessary continual
pain and suffering.
The problem is that most people don’t know how to let
go. They are even afraid to let go. They are too at-
tached to the past, even if it was not a happy past.
Here are a few definitions that explain what is the
meaning of the words “letting go of the past”:
It means stopping the attachment to the past, especial-
ly to painful past memories, and focusing on the pres-
ent. When you release the past you can start accepting
the present.
It is non-attachment to results. This means that you
do your best in every situation, but if things do not turn
well or as planned, you don’t dwell on them and don’t
get disappointed or discouraged.
Letting go is like lifting the anchor of your ship, so that
it can sail away. In order to move on, you need to re-
lease painful thoughts, negative habits, fears and wor-
ries. These are you anchor and shackles that tie you
down to the same way of life, to the same habits and
circumstances.
Letting go of the past, and releasing it from your mind
requires a certain degree of emotional detachment.
This leads to non-attachment, about which all the spiri-
tual traditions speak about.
If you don’t let go, you remain tied and not free. You
limit your perception, cause yourself stress and ten-
sion. If you cannot detach yourself from painful mem-
ories, envy, jealousy, bad relations, you suffer. It is like
being in a swamp, doing nothing to get out.
On the other hand, letting go, detaching yourself from
the causes of suffering, brings relief, ease, joy and
love.
When we talk about letting go, we’re not really talking
about gripping something with our hands. Letting go
in psychology is the mental letting go or release of the
psyche of attachment to something. Instead of fight-
ing to have someone in our lives or for something to
be a certain way, we let go of that need or want and
instead accept what is or what is. needs to happen.
This makes accepting or actively accepting experienc-
es, thoughts, and feelings an important part of what it
means to let go.
The thing that is perhaps the most difficult for us to let
go of is the past. We will probably go through a rough
time and wish we were in the good times before. This
means we always yearn for someone we love to stay
in our lives, miss a good friend we left, or even wish
someone important was still alive and well. with us to-
day. All can be challenging. And whether you’re letting
go because the other person is no longer in your life or
because you’ve decided to no longer have this person
in your life, it can be difficult to move on.
Remember that your past Self no longer exists. Yes-
terday has passed. All painful or sad memories of the
past are over, and it’s time to say goodbye. Your Pres-
ent Self should realize that you shouldn’t let the un-
changeable rule your life and make you believe you’re
less than your Future Self. Take time to explore your
past and then commit to letting it go. Your past is like a
rock you are throwing into the sea.
Take the time to absorb each area of your life. The
path to healing from the past is not always easy or
short, but it is a necessary step to living in the present
moment. The way you see yourself and your life should
not depend on what happened, but instead on who you
choose to be this second person.
Perpetual happiness in life is closely tied to your ability
to let go of your past and understand that those past
events are over. Therefore, if traumatic past experienc-
es are dwelled on for too long it can lead to depressing
thoughts, including what you could have or should
have done to the point where you feel stuck. The realty
is that those are things you cannot change because
that time has passed.
Most people continue holding on because they fear
that letting go will mean that they have to forget what
happened . It’s not possible to detach entirely from
something that has such a huge influence in your life .
However , remembering the event should not give you
bitter feelings . Letting go implies that you accept what
happened. It means that you hug your past self with
full arms . You remind yourself that you can transform
the past into something that can fuel your dreams.
Why is it important to let go of the past?