The information contained within these pages concentrates on developing some,

not all, aspects of emotional intelligence. (It is impossible for any 50 activities ever

effectively to address the whole of this subject.) The exercises contained within

these pages are aimed mostly at developing the following set of talents:

Self-Awareness and Control – This talent comprises two separate skills. The

self-awareness component demands intimate and accurate knowledge of one’s self and

one’s emotions. It also requires understanding and predicting one’s emotional reactions

to situations. One who is emotionally competent at self-awareness is also fully aware of

one’s values and core beliefs and knows the impact and effect of compromising these

core components. The self-control component requires full mastery of being in control of

emotions. Both positive and negative emotions are channeled in the most productive

manner when one controls the emotion versus the emotion controlling the person. The

person with mastery and control of emotions can both anticipate and plan emotional

reactions to maximize effectiveness.

Empathy – Empathy requires the ability to understand how others perceive

situations. This perception includes knowing how others feel about a particular set of

events or circumstances. Empathy requires knowing the perspective of others and being

able to see things from the value and belief system of the other person. It is the ability to

fully immerse oneself in another’s viewpoint, yet be able to remain wholly apart. The

understanding associated with empathy is both cognitive and emotional. It considers the

reasons and logic behind another’s feelings or point of view, while also allowing the

empathic party to feel the spirit of a person or thing.

and bonds with others that are based on an assumption of human equality. Social

knowledge allows people to genuinely express feelings, even conflict, in a way that

builds rather than destroys relationships. Social expertness also enables a person to

choose appropriate actions based on his or her feelings of empathy. The talent of social

expertness allows caring, support, and concern to show for fellow humans in all of life’s

situations. Social expertness also demands that one reads social situations for readiness,

appropriateness, and spoken and unspoken norms. Resolving conflict without

compromising core beliefs or values is an important component of social expertness.

High social expertness also allows for strong networks on both a professional and

personal level that can readily be enlisted when needed for aid.

Personal Influence – Personal influence is the ability to inspire others through

example, words, and deeds. It is the ability to lead others by way of social expertness.

Personal influence is the ability to read situations and exert influence and leadership in

the desired direction. Personal influence is also the ability to confront important or

debilitating issues to relationships, goals, missions, or visions. Personal influence is also

exhibiting motivation for one’s visions, missions, core values, and beliefs.

Mastery of Vision - Mastery of vision requires that the individual has the ability

to set direction and vision guided by a strong personal philosophy. The ability to

communicate and articulate with passion regarding direction and vision are also essential

to mastery of vision. This talent serves as the inner compass that guides and influences

one’s actions. This inner compass also provides resilience and strength to overcome

obstacles. It is the inner motivator and the guardian angel of our purpose. Because of
mastery of vision, we know who we are and what we are compelled to do with our lives.

When our actions and words are consistent with this personal philosophy, it is our sense

of authenticity. When inconsistent, it is our sense of stress and discomfort.

Exercise: Answer the following briefly.

1) Assess yourself on the five sets of talents on the degree of your emotional

intelligence.

- Based on the aforementioned talents above, First, in regards to self-

awareness and control as I observed my self in this said talent I may say

that I possess such matter because the person who knows me well is no

other than myself, those deeds and words came from me are based on how

I manage to control things I committed to do which corresponds on how I

acts towards other people or even in communication to my own pace.

Secondly, Empathy which I could say that I’m in the level of moderation

in this talent, meaning, I wasn’t that in a high degree based on my

emotional Intellegence. Yes, I consider others viewpoint but not to the

point that I overcome its fulgency, because in accordance with my own

perspective It was a long way process of learning in able to fully

understand the given situation comprehensively, as a matter of fact not all

things we’re already been encounter that’s why its an another way of

coping. To be honest my social connectivity was in the exaltative level to

my emotional aspects, I usually prefer building a strong foundation of

relationships to the point that I value the concepts of giving and sacrifice
 just to save the connection we had. Thus, I was able to socialize well and

give importance on having a better connections towards other.

Furthermore, Personal Influence outweigh the most among those five

talents that I reside, personally I have an established management in my

inner self which acts as my motivation if times gets harder and those

inspiration I built inside was my stong foundation to acquire things that is

appropriate in every situation came, which resulted to a personal

willingness to do such. Withal, I myself have a clear vision on what way

I’ve dreamed to be placed in my succeeding period of time. That’s why I

independently stands for my purpose and mission. Through its concept I

was able to distinguish necessary stuffs that is needed to address upon my

journey.

2) What are your reflective learnings on the readings

- In accordance with the given readings earlier, It upholds the values and

state position of every individuals which delivers its learnings towards

personal inner growth that helps in order to recognize the given talents and

self-reliance. In addition, I personally realize the essentiality to know

thyself that connects upon how I respond in every external matters that

tends to hinders my way. Also, being a successful individual doesn’t only

considered on what persons possess such depth intellectual ability, Rather,

shows manageable deeds that applied in doing such matters in those

external aspects. One more thing was, I preferred the thoughts that
everything I wished are all relays on how I responsibly do things

according to my values and virtue which corresponds on what character I

chose that made an reflection on what I decided to be.