Prerna Art of Forgiveness 1
Prerna Art of Forgiveness 1
Prerna Art of Forgiveness 1
I wish to extent my sincere gratitude to all of you this evening. You are so
kindly attaining this festival. Prerana is a festival especially saying that
narration and culture in its spiritual qualities within the root of India because
all the future leaders of society out our generation. The future world depends
on the characteristics that you hold sacred within your live. Tonight I was
asked to speak on the subject matter of “Forgiveness”.
According to the great saints of all tradition, a definition of love is the capacity
to endlessly forgive. The love of a parent is that they forgive their child and no
matter what their child has done. If they cannot forgive you cannot love.
Forgiveness does not mean necessarily that a person should not pay a
particular price to the recipe. It is actually forgiveness means actually be the
well wisher. Even if we are persecutes and forgive in terms of their welfare.
Inner peace, Bhagavad-Gita teaches that to change one self. Inner peace will
never ever come by changing the peace of who have cheated us or hurt us.
You can try in a positive compassionate way but we cannot really succeed
unless change our own attitudes and perceptions.
One greater thinker has said, “If we do not forgive we are breaking the bridge
which we must crush in order to forgiven for all of the improper things that we
have done”. We see in this world, in the west, divorce rate is 71% within
years. We see brothers and brothers fighting with animosity, we see friends
and friends, we see people of the same spiritual mission, we see nations and
nations, races and races, religions and religions, and this inability to make the
choice to forgive, creates pain suffering and chaos. In this world we see it can
last generation after generation even centuries. People cannot forgive what
someone has done to their forefathers a thousand years ago. They still hate
and they still want avenge. That is the world we live.
Actually, one time a police officer told me in United States that they really not
afraid of going into the Maphiadon’s and breaking things up. They may be
killed or they may not. But it is something that it is not so bad. A police officer
generally fear the most, is entering into a scene, whether it is dispute between
loved ones. Why is it? Because it is such a rage of anger that you have just no
idea you cannot even speculate of what they may do at any given moment. If
the gangsters and the enemies, soldiers of the enemies you basically know
what they are going to do. Without forgiveness, no relationship, can be
satisfying? This is a very foundational universal principle of all spiritual
teachers in all spiritual paths.
When he was in the crucifix after being beaten and tortured and blasphemed.
Just before he entered into his state of Samadhi, his last prayer was, “My dear
father please forgive them, they do not know what they do”. That is a spiritual
principle. It is said that forgiveness is the fragrance that its sweet smelling
flower like a rose violet, leaves on the hill that has just crushed.
In the 9th canto of Srimad Bhagavatam it is said that qualified brahmanas are
worship by the people in general in this world because they have the quality of
forgiveness. This quality of forgiveness is more illuminating than the light of
the sun and those who have that ability to forgive are invested with the power
to access the mercy and the love of god. Now, how is it talk about it
theoretically? How to be forgiving, when our mind and our hearts are in
turmoil of various apparent injustices to ourselves? It is important that we
understand philosophically the phenomenon that taking place and also seeing
through historical examples of others, how achieved the goal of this virtue.
We are not these bodies. These bodies are temporary vehicles. We are the
soul. This is the first teaching of Bhagavad-Gita.
“dehino 'smin yathä dehe
kaumäraà yauvanaà jarä
tathä dehäntara-präptir
dhéras tatra na muhyati”
Bhagavad-Gita 2.13
As the embodied soul passed from boy hood to you hood, and old age the soul
similarly passes one body to another body at death.
“bhümir äpo 'nalo väyuù
khaà mano buddhir eva ca
ahaìkära itéyaà me
bhinnä prakåtir añöadhä”
Bhagavad-Gita 7.4
There are eight principle categories of elements within this material nature,
from gross elements to the subtle element they are as follows listed in
Bhagavad-Gita are earth, water, fire, air and ether. These composed the gross
body and there is the subtle body, which cannot be perceived anyway by the
senses but we know it is there. The mind the intelligence and ahankar the
false ego.
“apareyam itas tv anyäà
prakåtià viddhi me paräm
jéva-bhütäà mahä-bäho
yayedaà dhäryate jagat”
Bhagavad-Gita 7.5
Krishna explains there is a higher nature. That is the Jivatma, the atma, the
soul, which is the source of life, the source of consciousness, that emanates
and witnesses through this body.
When there is a affliction on the gross body and there is affliction on the subtle
body, which means our false ego, we become terrible disturbed. Factually we
are not the body but the eternal soul. Bhagavad-Gita explains the soul cannot
be burn by the fire, withered by the wind, cannot drown by water, cannot be
disturbed by words, and cannot be cutting to peaces by any weapon. We are
the eternal souls and our purpose in life is to cultivate knowledge and
awareness about true identity. It is simply in illusion and addiction to an
untruth that makes us take so very very seriously the phenomena avenge that
come upon a body, mind, and ego. It actually has nothing to do with us. But as
conditioned souls we are habituated so much to want to enjoy through this
body. Therefore any affliction that interferes with that enjoyment with the
body, mind, and ego causes us terrible terrible pain. Have any of you ever
experienced this?
Bhaktivinoda Thakur explains, “A person who loves god that love manifests to
other spiritual people in deep intimate friendships”. In the spiritual sense
friendship is not, “I’ll scratch your back but you must scratch my back”.
Friendship means selfless service. “A friend in need is friend indeed”. A real
friend is going to be most eagerly ready to be at your side to help you and
nothing to offer in return. When the world is against you and you failed, who is
there with you. Then you know, who your friends actually are. They are
whether friends or not really friends. You know who your friends are, when the
monsoon season storms of complexities and difficulties come into your life.
I would like to tell you one little story. In California, I know this lawyer. Lawyer
means advocate. He was a very very powerful persecuting attorney. That
means he work for the government in a persecuting attorney’s office. That
means he guess the criminals and puts all of his concentration on making sure
that person goes to jail, as long as possible. The more people you could put in
the jail for the longest time then you get promotions. You can promote to be
the attorney general, you can become the governor, and you may become
president. So he was very successful. He just take these people and make sure
that the Jury will know that these despicable and horrible people and they
should be punished severely.
So this lawyer told me, do you want to hear this story? Horibol.
That lawyer was a persecuted attorney. There was a prostitute. She robbed,
stole and she was very prostitution. She was selling drugs. He put her in jail, I
think twenty years. It was a great success. She just sent the letter that she
would like to talk to him. So he went. She said, “I do not want anything from
you because it is too late. I am already here and there is nothing you could do
to help me. But I just wanted to reveal my heart to you”. So he listened. She
said “When I was a little girl, I was violently and sexually abused regularly.
Then I got married and I have three children. My husband would beat me. He
was an alcoholic and ultimately he left me and for several years, I do not know
where he is. He has just gone. I am from a poor background. I have no
education. Not by my will but my parents put me in the work. I have a two
year, five year, and eight year old child. They were living in a gate way. In
order for me to have a home for them, in order for me to have food for them,
to give medicine to them, they are always getting sick, I have to work. But at
the same time I cannot afford of the -. I have to take care of them all day.
They need me because they were tinny children. I am wrong and evil. But the
only way I could take care of my children throughout the day and the only
person they have and at the same time feed them and have a place. I did not
anything else to do. In a couple hours a day, I can do prostitute myself and
drugs. I did not want to do it. I hate to do it. They agonize to do it. But I do not
know how I have to survive. Now what? I am a prison for the next 10-20 years
and my children are always sent out to some orphanage. Where they are
going to probably be abused and nobody is going to care anything for them. I
am a mother. I just want to you know, what my heart is gone through thinking
of what is going to happen to my children. That’s all”.
So why did I told this mundane story. It has amusing because most people
who are bad and who even inflict suffering upon us, they are like that.
Because in the past they would victimized. They went through hellish
conditions. They may have been abused in so many ways. If a person actually
looks into, why a person is doing what they are doing? Even if it is a bad. If
you really study that historically, emotionally, psychologically, you probably
never hate the person. You feel sympathy and sorry for them and hate the
acts that they are doing under the influence of the victimization upon them.
That is compassion. To see the disease that people are suffering, we try to
help them not condemn them.
Srila Prabhupada made this verse very simple and practical. The acaryas take
this esoteric slokas make them very practical in our life. Srila Prabhupada said,
“Do not blame the instrument of your own karma”. It is a fact. Whatever
coming upon us and whoever is doing it, they are just instruments of our own
karma. We are to blame. Someone has to do this to us. We have to go through
it. So we could thank them. I have to go through this. I have done it myself.
You are just the postman delivering my own karma to me. If a postman comes
and knocks in your door, showed up your mail and signed here. You open it up
and it’s aver for the date for one crore rupees that you will to the state -. If you
do not pay, they will come and take away your house, take away your
ambassador car. Now what? Do you, just your eyes become red and you just
pick up the nearest thing or look at to find the weapon and attack the
postman. No. You took out the loan and you did not pay the loan. So it is your
fault. It is not the State Bank of India’s fault. It is not the postman’s fault. You
did it. You have a date and you have to pay it and here it is. That’s what our
life is about. It is the laws of nature. For every action there is equal and
corresponding reaction.
Lord Jesus said in Bible, “As you show, so shall you rip”. So whatever is coming
upon us, it is the destiny that we have created in our past and our future is
according to how we respond to the karmic reaction that are coming today. If
we respond violently, hypocritically and we are just creating more violently
actions become come to us in future. If we understand, I have to go through
this, I have to change this, and I should be forgiving to the instrument of my
own karma. You will become purified.
There is the example of silo of grains. Sometimes people rotten grains in the
silo. Then later on they put good grains. So what’s are going to come out first,
if you open it from bottom. All the rotten grains are coming out. If you doing
good acts now, you are putting good grains in. Rotten grains means in the
past you done bad acts. Some people they do good acts and going to get good
grains now but now they are doing all cruel and hypocritical things and they
are putting horrible rotten grains in. That is going to come later. Why do the
good things happen to the bad people? Why do the bad things happen to the
good people? You can understood in this very simple way, who are being our
karma. Our sufferings from our past but if we doing good now, our future is
glorious. Another might have done good before and they are living on the top
of the Malbarhill but if they are doing cruel and sinful things their future is very
bleak and horrible.
Then he went to Vaikuntha, Lord Vishnu was lying down and Lakshmi was
massaging His lotus feet. Bhrigu comes in and Vishnu said, “Bhrigu muni, you
have come. Welcome”. Bhrigu muni, he fend to be very angry and with red
eyes went right up to Vishnu and kick with his foot right on the chest. So Lord
Vishnu, He said, “O’ Bhrigu please have a sit. I am sorry, my chest is so hard
because your feet is so soft and lotus like but my chest is so hard. I am sorry. I
must have hurt you. Let me massage your feet”. They Vishnu started very
very lovingly started massaging his feet. So Bhrigu Muni thought “A greatness
of a person is one’s ability to tolerate provoking situations”.
So Bhrigu Muni went back and reported that to all the sages and they all
unanimously began to chant the holy names of the lord. “Hare Krishna Hare
Krishna, Krishna Krishna, Hare Hare/Hare Rama Hare Rama, Rama Rama, Hare
Hare”.
Lord Sri Ramachandra, when He was living in Chitrakuta. Tonight we are very
honored by Sriman Aravinda Mafatlalji. I have been many times to his
wonderful project in Chitrakuta. He has a beautiful temple of Sita Ram on the
bank of the Mandakini Ganga close by and he does so much seva to the
saddhus by feeding them Prasad and taking care of them and to the poor
people tens and thousands of free cataract eye operations every year. People
who otherwise go blind and he was doing it all in the name of god and in the
service of Rama and the service of the people. So years ago, Mr. Mafatlal took
me to a rock the place between Chitrakuta and the place called Sati Anusuya.
It was a big rock. I am going to tell you what happened on that rock.
Even today, these little footprints of crow are on that rock. That is the rock of
forgiveness because that crow was actually Indra. Indra took the form of crow
some saying it was the son of Indra. What he did is, when Rama sitting with
Sita devi and this craw started clawing Sita in a private part of her body. The
crow just clawing. She was bleeding. Rama did not like that he did that to Sita.
So He took a piece of kusa gras and threw it at the crow and it turn into a
flaming arrow. That crow was just flown away. But wherever he went that kusa
gras was following right behind him. He went all over the universe trying to
escape and he was going to Indra and Brahma and so many people saying,
“Help me”. They said, “No no”. It is the weapon of Rama. There is nothing we
can do. So finally that crow came back to that rock and fell in repentance at
the feet of Sita and Rama and begged “I’ll never do this again. I am sorry”.
Lord Sri Rama forgave him. He said, “I learn through that arrow”. So he put it
just one of his eyes. He was delivered.
The supreme Lord is all forgiving. Let us take example of Sishupala. The day
Sishupala was born before he knew how to speak, he was blaspheming
Krishna. It is true. He did not even know words. He was just growing like an
ass just to blaspheme Krishna. As he was learning the alphabet letters, he was
demoniac exclusively for the purpose of better equipped, to blaspheme
Krishna. He hated Krishna. He was envious of Krishna. He wanted to Krishna to
be destroyed, everyday of his life. Krishna was always tolerating him an
forgiving him and little later Rukmini, whom Sishupal wanted to marry, she
wrote a letter to Krishna with such love and devotion. She said, “Oh my lord,
please, please this jackal Sishupal wanted to take me away but you are the
great lion. Please rescue me”.
So, out of her love Krishna came and took he away, right in front of Sishupala.
We say in the west, “He added salt to the injury”. Sishupala was fume with
envy and hatred. Yet, Krishna is all forgiving and tolerated. Then at the
Rajasuya yajna, he was blaspheming Krishna so bad that Bhima, Arjuna they
were just ready to destroy him but Krishna said, “No, no”. “Do not disturb him.
Let him be. Ultimately just to cure him of his envy Krishna did a surgical
operation with His Sudarshan Chakra. Yudhisthira was asking Narada Muni
later that Sishupala was most envious and demoniac person but I saw when
Sudarshan Chakra ended his life, I saw his soul in the form of light enter into
Krishna. That means he attain liberation. Narada Muni said, “Yes, he was
thinking of Krishna”. Because he was thinking of Krishna he was liberated.
Actually the supreme lord has the power to forgive anyone and every one of
any sins, abuses, and blasphemes, we have done against you. However many
of the laws of nature, we have broken. The lord can forgive us, in a moment.
This is the essence of the Bhagavad-Gita.
“sarva-dharmän parityajya
mäm ekaà çaraëaà vraja
ahaà tväà sarva-päpebhyo
mokñayiñyämi mä çucaù”
Bhagavad-Gita 18.66
If He just forgive us without our turn to him in surrender and love then we
would never learn the lesson and thus we would never enter into the land of
pure love. Love cannot be forced. Love has to be the independent expression
of our free will. Krishna says in Bhagavad-Gita, “Abandoned all varieties of
religion that means do not worry about all the rituals and all the sectarian
concepts, just surrendered to Me”. This is a universal principle. Just
surrendered to Me. I shall relieve you from your all sinful reactions. Do not
fear”. If we fear the repentance of our misbehavior. Not just that we beat
ourselves and head with guilt. But repentance means “I know it is wrong and I
am not going to do it again. I am going to do the right thing”. Then it is the
Lord’s promise and He forgive us and restore our eternal and natural
goodness.