DEALING with

BULLYING
Ma. Concepcion Manalili De Rueda

TO IDENTIFY AND UNDERSTAND:

Various bullying behaviors

The scope of the bullying problem

Who bullies The warning signs that a child is being bullied Strategies children can use to deal with bullying Steps adults can take to address bullying

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BULLYING can be defined

as an abuse of power by one or

more people through repeated hurtful or aggressive behavior with the intention to cause emotional or physical harm to a weaker person.
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- Takes at least two people: the bully and the victim - Deliberate its intention is to hurt someone - An imbalance of power (enjoys power over others) - Repeated and systematic harassment and attacks on others - Perpetrated by individuals or groups
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WHY CHILDREN BULLY?

- Too little supervision

- A payoff - Aggressive behavior in the home - Harsh physical punishment - Abusive peers - Constant negative feedback - Expecting hostility 6

Demographic Characteristics
WHO ARE BULLIES?:
Can come from any economic, cultural, or religious background Are often in late elementary or middle school
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WHO ARE BULLIES?:

Personal Attitudes/Behaviors
Want power
Have a positive attitude toward violence Have quick tempers

Have difficulty conforming to rules

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WHO ARE BULLIES?:

Personal Attitudes/Behaviors
Gain satisfaction from inflicting injury and perceive rewards (prestige, material goods) from their behavior Have positive self images
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WHO ARE BULLIES?:

Personal Attitudes/Behaviors
Lack empathy Are concerned with their own desires rather than those of others Find it difficult to see things from someone elses perspective Are willing to use others to get what they want

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WH0 are VICTIMS?

WHO IS MOST AT RISK? PASSIVE
They are the anxious and insecure

one - PROVOCATIVE Hot tempered, restless and also at risk of becoming bullies 11

WH0 are VICTIMS?

- TALENTED OR POPULAR CHILDREN - HIGH ACHIEVERS

Source: The Bullying Prevention Handbook by John Hoover and Ronald Oliver, 1996

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WH0 are VICTIMS?

WHO IS MOST AT RISK? Children who belong to a minority racial or ethnic group
Children

with mental or physical disabilities Children who are overweight

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WH0 are VICTIMS?

WHO IS MOST AT RISK?
Children

who are new to the community Children who are gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgendered Children who dont fit in
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WH0 are VICTIMS?

Low self-confidence Anxiety Fearfulness Submissiveness Depression or sad appearance Limited sense of humor Below-average size, strength, or coordination

PERSONAL ATTITUDES/BEHAVIORS

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WH0 are VICTIMS?

Feelings of helplessness Self-blame for problems Social withdrawal and isolation Poor social skills Low popularity Few or no friends Excessive dependence on adults

PERSONAL ATTITUDES/BEHAVIORS

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WHAT DO BULLIES DO?

Act like they rule the world Act mean Act rude Attack people Boss people around
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WHAT DO BULLIES DO?

Brag about being tough Break peoples things Carry weapons Cheat Damage peoples things
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WHAT DO BULLIES DO?

Embarrass people Force people to hand over their money Force people to hand over their possessions
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WHAT DO BULLIES DO?

Frighten people Gossip Harass people Haze people Hit
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WHAT DO BULLIES DO?

Humiliate people Hurt peoples feelings Ignore people Insult people Intimidate people
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WHAT DO BULLIES DO?

Kick Laugh at people Make fun of people Make obscene gesturess Make racist or sexist comments
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WHAT DO BULLIES DO?

Make people feel helpless Make people feel inferior Make people feel invisible Leave people out Lie
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WHAT DO BULLIES DO?

Make people do things they dont want to do Make people feel uncomfortable Name call
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WHAT DO BULLIES DO?

Pick on or attack people because of their race, religion, gender, family background culture, etc push
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WHAT DO BULLIES DO?

Pick on or attack people because theyre different in some way Put people down Refuse to talk to people Reject people 9/6/2012

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WHAT DO BULLIES DO?

Say nasty things about people Say sarcastic things to people Scare people scream

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WHAT DO BULLIES DO?

Shove Spread rumors Steal Swear Take peoples things
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WHAT DO BULLIES DO?

Taunt Tease Tell mean jokes Threaten Touch people in rude or
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WHAT DO BULLIES DO?

Use physical violence Use verbal taunts Write nasty things about people yell
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FORMS OF BULLYING
VERBAL BULLYING:
- is where the bully calls you names and makes threats etc...

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FORMS OF BULLYING
MENTAL BULLYING:
- is where the bully use's abusive language towards you.

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FORMS OF BULLYING PHYSICAL BULLYING

- is where the bully physically hurts you. This can include pushing, punching, and kicking etc...

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FORMS OF BULLYING SOCIAL BULLYING

Gossiping, rumors, ignoring, not including people in a group
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FORMS OF BULLYING
ETHNOCULTURALLYBASED BULLYING
any physical or verbal behaviour used to hurt another person because of his or her ethnicity (culture, colour or religion)

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FORMS OF BULLYING
TECHNOLOGICAL BULLYING
Internet abuse, Putting pictures of people on the internet, using MSN or other chat rooms to threaten someone or talk about someone , Abusive text messages, sending nasty text messages and not knowing who they are from

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Almost 30 percent of teens in the United States (or over 5.7 million) are estimated to be involved in bullying as either a bully, a target of bullying, or both. In a recent national survey of students in grades 6 to 10, 13 percent reported bullying others, 11 percent reported being the target of bullies, and another 6 37 percent said they bullied

TYPES OF BULLIES
AGGRESSIVE BULLIES tend to be
physically strong, impulsive, hot-tempered, belligerent, fearless, coercive, confident, and lacking in empathy for their victims. They have an aggressive personality and are motivated by power and the desire to dominate others. They are also likely to make negative attributions, often seeing slights or hostility in those around them where neither actually exists.

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TYPES OF BULLIES
PASSIVE BULLIES tend to be insecure, have low-self
esteem, few likable qualities, and unhappy home lives. Passive bullies also appear to have difficulties concentrating and focusing their attention at school, as well as violent outbursts or temper tantrums that lead to problems with their peers. Once a bullying incident begins, passive bullies become enthusiastic participants. In fact, passive bullies are very quick to align themselves with and display intense loyalty to the more powerful aggressive bullies.
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What is a BYSTANDER?
This group includes everyone other than the bully and victim who is present during a bullying incident. 6 out of 10 American teenagers witness bullying in school one or more times each day. Student bystanders to bullying experience feelings of fear, discomfort, guilt, and helplessness.
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FINDING BULLYING WHERE IT IS HIDDEN

A culture of silence often surrounds bullying. Many children where bullied never tell anyone
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FINDING BULLYING WHERE IT IS HIDDEN

Most bullying is not reported because

1. Dont recognize it is bullying 2. Are embarrassed 3. Dont want to appear weak 4. Believe they deserve it 5. Want to belong

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FINDING BULLYING WHERE IT IS HIDDEN

6. Fear retaliation 7. Dont know how to talk about it 8. Dont have a trusted adult to confide in 9. Thinks adult wont understand 10.Thinks nothing can be done about it.

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EXAMINING THE EFFECTS ON THE VICTIM

Signs That A Child Is Being Bullied
Physical Emotional Behavioral/social Academic
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EXAMINING THE EFFECTS ON THE VICTIM

PHYSICAL SIGNS
Cuts, bruises, scratches Headaches, stomachaches, Skin problems, Bedwetting and Crying Damaged possessions Missing possessions that need to be replaced
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EXAMINING THE EFFECTS ON THE VICTIM

Emotional Signs
Withdrawal and/or shyness Anxiety Depression Aggression

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EXAMINING THE EFFECTS ON THE VICTIM

Behavioral/Social Signs

Changes in eating or sleeping habits (e.g., nightmares) No longer wanting to participate in activities once enjoyed Beginning to bully siblings or mistreat family pets
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EXAMINING THE EFFECTS ON THE VICTIM

Behavioral/Social Signs

Hurting self, attempting or threatening suicide Suddenly changing friends

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EXAMINING THE EFFECTS ON THE VICTIM

Academic Signs
Not wanting to go to school Changing method of going to school (e.g., changing walking route, wanting to be driven instead of riding the bus) Drop in grades
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IN CASES OF EXTREME BULLYING, SOME TORMENTED VICTIMS HAVE RESORTED TO VIOLENCE TOWARD THEMSELVES OR OTHERS.

BULLICIDE Some victims of bullying have committed suicide.

SCHOOL SHOOTERS Other victims of bullying have used guns to take violent revenge in schools against their bullies and others who they believe have failed to support 50 them.

Victims painful memories of having been bullied linger as the victims mature into adulthood. Adults who were victimized as children may continue to show poor self-confidence and problems with depression.

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REDUCE THEIR RISK OF BEING BULLIED BY LEARNING HOW TO:

Exhibit self-confidence Avoid the bullys tactics Respond with assertiveness Obtain support from others

As a Teacher -Listen and respond to all complaints from

children and parents about bullying, even the seemingly trivial ones such as namecalling. Consistency matters!

e aware of the social interactions among the children in the group. Arrange groupings to separate children who tend to have negative interactions with others.

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lace children who tend to be left out of groups into one where they will be accepted. Try to avoid situations that will victimize atrisk children (e.g. picking teams or group partners).

onsider how you treat others and how you allow others to treat you. As a role model, your actions and reactions can influence how children relate to each other.
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TEACHERS: RULES AGAINST BULLYING

CHILDREN WILL NOT BULLY OTHERS. CHILDREN WILL TRY TO HELP PEOPLE WHO ARE BULLIED. CHILDREN WILL INCLUDE OTHERS IN ACTIVITIES. CHILDREN WILL TELL AN ADULT IF SOMEONE IS BEING BULLIED.
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 make adults aware of the situation and involve them make it clear that bullying is never acceptable hold a school conference day devoted to bully/victim problems

increase adult supervision in the yard, halls and washrooms more vigilantly
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 emphasize caring, respect and safety emphasize consequences of hurting others enforce consistent and immediate consequences for aggressive behaviours follow up on all instances of aggression

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 improve communication among school administrators, teachers, parents and students have a school problem box where kids can report problems, concerns and offer suggestions teach cooperative learning activities help bullies with anger control and the development of empathy
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 encourage positive peer relations offer a variety of extracurricular activities which appeal to a range of interests Physical - hitting, kicking, stealing or hiding belongings, sexual assault.

Verbal-name calling, insults, offensive or sexual remarks, threatening language.

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Parents Can Prevent Bullying

Keep an eye out for signs of bullying. Ask children direct questions about how peers treat them and if they witness bullying. Work with teachers, school staff, etc. to address bullying.

Parents Can Prevent Bullying

Inquire about the bullying policy at your childs school.
Suggest the implementation of a comprehensive anti-bullying program. Be a positive role model by not bullying children or adults.

PARENTS: Helping A Bullied Child

Take complaints of bullying seriously.

Reassure your child that he or she was right to tell you of the problem. Teach your child to be assertive, not aggressive.

PARENTS: Helping A Bullied Child

Help the child identify strategies for dealing with bullying. Give the child positive social opportunities to make friends.

Make teachers and other caregivers aware of the problem and work together to address it.

PARENTS: Keeping Your Child From Bullying Others

If your child is doing the bullying:
Spend time with your child daily. Know where your child is and with whom. Make it clear that you do not tolerate this behavior, but that you still accept your child.

PARENTS: Keeping Your Child From Bullying Others

Arrange for an effective nonviolent consequence if your child continues to bully.
Reward good behavior. Teach your child positive ways of solving problems and managing anger.

When other children intervene -- more than half the time, the bullying will stop within 10 seconds!
Hawkins, Pepler & Craig, 2001
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