you can and you should be aware that "male/female socialization" is terf propaganda while also being aware of how your childhood gender affects you today, not for an activism reason but just for a better clarity and understanding of yourself, and no one else.
like I can recognize that a lot of the way that i am is because I grew up as a weird fat girl. I was bullied in ways that still affect my psyche and my view of myself. I was treated in ways that may not have happened if I were a boy, maybe my family and peers would have been more accepting due to their misogyny, maybe symptoms of my ADHD would have been more obvious if I were male and I could have gotten the help i needed. maybe I would have been celebrated and supported in ways that I was not because of the misogyny of the people around me.
HOWEVER!!!! I must also recognize that this is my individual experience and it doesn't reflect all trans men or all afab people! and I must not, under any circumstances, imagine the reverse of my situation and project it on to all amab people!! this is how the terf propaganda seeps in. I can be upset about my own childhood trauma when I was a cis girl, but I must never let that cause me to resent other people and assume their experiences. being raised as a girl does not make you an inherent victim. being raised as a boy that does not make you an inherent object of affection, or an inherent oppressor. this is gender essentialism which assumes everyone of the same biological sex has the same experiences and it's never been true.
