Lacy

Make me feel safe and I'll be the naughtiest girl you've ever met.

Alright, I’m fully healed. Send me a loyal butch that worships the ground I walk on.

I will argue with a butch, why don't you make me shut up handsome?

i can do a lot with 15 minutes! lot of pretty boys, lot of funny business!

i could never be in a relationship with someone nonchalant, i am such a lovergirl and i need that energy reciprocated. i'll preserve every flower you give me, i'll press them between the pages of my notebooks or dry them and let them hang from my ceiling. i'll save every receipt and ticket stub from the time we spend together and paste them in my diary when i get home so i never lose them. i'll make little cards reminding you that i love you, just because i do and i never want you to forget

she’s a 10… but she just needs you to be patient with her because she's never been loved properly.

being weird and full of love can save you

and it might save those around you, too

Glad to see more people are starting to talk about the problem of young lesbians calling themselves femmes and only meaning this in terms of aesthetics.

Reminding y’all that feminine /= femme

You cannot be femme and fetishise or use butches and studs.

You cannot be femme and take advantage of their chivalry and kindness and ignore their emotion just because they struggle to be vulnerable.

You cannot be femme and be divorced from our lesbian history, or the level of care and protection that butches and femmes gave to EACH OTHER for survival.

I’ve had some femmes reposting my other post discussing this issue and saying well i’ve had a hard life and if a butch wants to take care of me and do everything for me and i never have to do anything for them that’s fine. I’ve had a hard life too, more than most young lesbians I know who have never had to experience having to leave home as a teenager due to violent homophobia at the hands of a parent and had to push through life with very little support or stability. I have had a hard enough life to know this way of existing in a relationship is not sustainable or healthy, we need to be there for each other, support each other.

Femmes do not have to be weak or infantilise ourselves, we can have weakness, and be vulnerable, but it is blatantly stupid and dangerous to assume or paint ourselves as the only ones who experience this in a butch femme dynamic or relationship. It ignores the fact that butches bear the brunt of homophobic violence for being lesbians and often have no one but themselves for protection.

We owe it to butches to be there for them, to protect and give space for their vulnerability, just as they make us visible and lift us up on the streets and in our communities.

fem = the abbreviation of feminine

femme = a feminine presenting lesbian identity that emerged in working class lesbian bar culture around the 1940s. femmes are butches and studs counterparts; their identities revolve around loving, respecting, protecting, and understanding eachother in honor of their contrast and similarities.

butches are not walking strap ons. loving butches is not a fetish, so stop fetishizing them. stop regarding butches only as a chance to receive sexual favors. stop treating butches like men. if you view butches as less than and don’t respect them you are not a femme and don’t deserve their love and companionship. butchfemme relationships are not one-way streets. the support, care, and respect should be reciprocated by both butches and femmes between friends, lovers, and in general as people in the same community.

+ you don’t have to choose between butch and femme. just be yourself. you don’t need to label yourself as a “type” of lesbian. labels should not feel limiting and restricting. as a femme i was able to finally understand myself and felt free when i learned that butchfemme was an actual thing.

having to wake up every day to live my life instead of being happily married to Sevika or Abby and carrying their baby while being a pretty housewife

me: ugh i don't understand what girls find interesting and attractive in those straight toxic romance books. the men are always so abusive and possessive

me, with toxic! sevika/vi/abby/ellie fics:

i love 1am - 5am the world be so quiet.

weird femmes live forever

screen babe, mean babe, guess who’s gonna cream babe!

camgirl!vi x reader (part 1)

cw: mdni, long fic, pornstar!vi, bratty sub!vi with hints of dom here and there🤫, vi’s name is revealed later in the fic, parasocial, delusional and obsessed reader 😭, cursing, bitchy!reader, bitchy!vi, voice fixation, vi has nipple piercings, nipple play, licking & spitting, use of dildo, embarrassing moments be aware….

Shy butches

Nerdy butches

Butches with social anxiety

Butches who wear glasses

Short butches

Soft butches

Butches who are scared of the dark

Butches with s/h scars

Butches who hum when they do things

Simpy butches

Butches with a praise kink

Butches who hate PDA

Touch-me-not butches

Plus-size butches

Butches with acne

Butches who like science fiction

Clingy butches

Butches with stretch marks

Sensitive butches

Butches who struggle with mental health

You don’t need to fit the mold. You don’t need to conform to stereotypes. You don’t need to mask. You don’t need to be anything but yourself.

You are loved. You are so loved.