Just some clown boy

Hard to choose from so many pictures. David was a good little dude and a very happy cat.

david was a lot of things to me. he was my son that i bottle raised from the day he first opened his eyes. he was the tiny thing i'd hold and cry while we hid from our respective abusers. he was my biggest fan that would drop everything he was doing to rush up to me whenever he'd see me. he was my tiny emotional support himbo. he was the only thing on earth that loved me, at one point.  he was the thing that kept me going for the past 8 years and filled me with determination to stay alive long enough to give him the life he deserved. we finally escaped my parents house together a year and a half ago. i thought we were finally in the clear, finally both of us could be happy and live the lives i planned for us and i could make up for the awful first 6.5 years of his life. every one of my plans for the future involved him. he died on my birthday, february 15th, this year and i am lost without him rest in peace, david, i had so many plans for the two of us and im so sorry we ran out of time

hey since i’m occasionally giving out adult advice. anyone wanna know my very adult and very boring and very sensible suggestion for grief gifts for friends and family when someone close to them dies

alright. this is shamelessly stolen from my godparents when they did this when my grandma passed about ten years ago, and since then i’ve been on both sides of this and it’s surprisingly thoughtful and useful. this is particularly important when people are like, in charge of funeral prep, but anyone who just heard someone close to them just died is gonna be in a certain headspace, so it probably works regardless. people are gonna be sending cards and flowers and other very nice, but ultimately useless gifts.

don’t do that. go to the grocery store and order one of those deli party platters. the ones with like, four different kinds each of meats and cheeses, maybe some sides, and veggies, and bread, and condiments. get the vegetarian version if you know they’re vegetarians. whatever. you know better than i how many people are gonna be eating it, but guess maybe, like, four day’s worth of food.

because, here’s the thing. cards and flowers are very nice, and remind you that you’re in people’s thoughts. but you know what you just. don’t even want to think about when someone dies? making dinner. going to the grocery store. ordering takeout. whatever. you don’t want to have to think about food. you just want to eat in between planning a funeral and working through your grief.

without getting too into it, when my grandma died, we were thrown for a loop. and we ate nothing but what was on that goddamned deli platter for days. because it was quick and easy and fresh and tasted good and we didn’t have to think about food. and ten years later, i don’t remember those cards or flowers, but i sure as hell remember the deli platter.

so next time someone’s going through something, when a family member or close friend just passed. go to your nearest grocery store, and if you can, walk a deli platter over to their place. as soon as you can after you hear. they may look at you weird when you hand it to them, but trust me, in the long run they’re gonna thank you.

^^This

Food helps. I don’t remember the cards & flowers. What I DO remember is the amazing lasagna somebody made me. It fed me for a week during a time when I was simply incapable of finding or preparing meals. The deli platter is an interesting twist on that and I’m filing that away for sure.

honeybaked ham delivers

When my dad died, everything was a black blur of grief and nobody could even really approach taking basic care of ourselves. A family friend made and brought over a HUMONGOUS batch of jambalaya, and it is basically the chief reason nobody fainted from hunger.

Horrific life update: Jay and I are currently homeless. We were left outside for hours the other night in 30 degree weather. Further details linked below. Jay is only 19 and does not deserve this. They're only with me because I was trying to help them, and now, well, here we are.

PLEASE boost this for us, we need all the help we can get.

love is so embarrassing . also the only thing that matters

why are so many people on this post saying things like “oh so what abt aromantic people then 🙄” like um… stumbling as u give up your seat for an elderly lady on the bus. stroking your friend’s hair as they cry in your arms. someone you care abt making you a long lovely playlist of songs you might like. attentively listening to your sibling as they talk excitedly about something they care abt. the sound of hundreds of people in unison singing a song they love at a concert. someone peeling a clementine and saving half of it for themselves and giving the other half to you. letting your cat crawl all over you even though her claws are scratchy. sitting in comfortable silence with someone. the pride shining in your grandfather’s eyes when you facetime him and tell him abt what you’ve been up to. taking a sip of your friend’s boba. people grinning at you when u blow out the candles on your birthday cake… these things aren’t love to you? you guys don’t consider that love? really? truly?

podcasts are so fucking strange cause if you stop paying attention for like .5 seconds you miss so much information. like, i fell asleep listening to night vale once and woke up to cecil talking abt sex ed for spiders

But to be fair that’s just how nightvale is

You didn’t actually miss anything, Cecil waited for you to wake up and that was just the next thing he was going to say

that’s so ominous and i hate that but thank you

Starling  

One of the prettiest and most underrated birds. I’m so glad I finally got around to paint one!

“No more diets, only riots”

- grittyphilly

ALL HAIL GRITTY

OH LORD HE’S DONE

I spent 1,025 hours over 3 years making this glitter bomb of a jacket 😭😭😭

wtf do I do now though

wretched little caboose now in HD

Bouncy bois

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Me

I took my nephew and niece to their first event when they were... five and seven? They each picked out a heavy and a rapier fighter to cheer on (we made favors for them to give as part of the Plan to Keep Little Kids Entertained™). They interpreted this to mean that they were to LOOK AFTER these fighters and spent the remainder of the day taking them water and sharing goldfish crackers with them.

You don’t know happiness until you see a little kid hand a Knight an Uncrustable and have him devour it gratefully.

#congrats your children reinvented squires (via @roach-works​)

Women be treating themselves to Special Coffee Drinks to motivate themselves to accomplish tedious errands

Sadly special coffee drinks don’t motivate me so my husband and I came up with Shrimp Points. We organized our Tasks and daily chores and stuff that’s been hanging over our heads and assigned various amounts of Shrimp Points to each item, and once we get to 1000 points we get to get neocardinia aquarium shrimp as pets. 

grub soap :)