Honestly I should talk about the ace experience more. I don’t see enough. Like–obviously it’s dehumanizing to be repeatedly compared to robots or aliens but uh…sometimes it feels like that??
My husband will get all horny while I’m, I don’t know, changing out of sweaty gardening clothes. And I’ll be like, “But we have to make lunch?? I stink? Now is not a good time?? Logic?” And clearly it’s not about logic to him. He is experiencing the entire scenario very differently. And I’m here like,
Or the times where you realize that like, having an actual physiological reaction to attractive people is not some enculturated metaphor, and people are actually doing that all around you all the time, and you’re like, Ah, clearly my studies of human culture have been incomplete. I have missed a critical psychosocial component. Many things now appear in a different light. *takes notes on holopad*
The notes on this post are just a shitload of aces going…I don’t get it. Or sometimes for a bit under very special circumstances I get it, or almost get it, and then I’m like “Wow this is a huge energy drain; you guys live like this?” Or just, “Totally baffling truly an alien species why would you lick someone?” And I am feeling the kinship in this here post.
a friend of mine once said “Wow! You must get so much done!”
to which i replied “No, no, I still have depression.”
I made this post two years ago and this is maybe the funniest addition in all that time.
Excluding the crucial fact that office jobs pay you an income….if staying home to raise children and do chores and bake bread was really so much easier and more joyful than working in an office on some objective level, why aren’t men doing it? Why aren’t they chomping at the bit to be ~leisurely house husbands~ to a working wife? Why aren’t they stepping up to depend solely on someone else’s income in exchange for round-the-clock domestic labor, if it’s really as blissful and their propaganda suggests? Curious.
an anonymised and edited exchange between a streamer (they/them) i like and a creepy alt-right bully who made a hate video about them. tw: transphobia
alt-right chud: you might realise i’m referring to [streamer] as their chosen pronouns of ‘they/them’. i assure you it’s not because i respect that identity, it’s simply because i genuinely can’t tell if they’re a boy or a girl
streamer: *hits pause*
streamer: holy shit. my friends, no gender euphoria hits harder than the gender euphoria you get unintentionally from your greatest enemy. this guy can say whatever he wants for the rest of this video, he can never take this away from me. i’m fucking reeling
What most people think the challenges of polyamory are: jealousy, lack of commitment, insecurity.
What better-informed people think the challenges of polyamory are: calendar management, social stigma.
What the challenges of polyamory actually are: when your husband and your lover bond over classical music, and your lover suggests to your husband that he would really enjoy Stravinsky. And it turns out your husband does really enjoy Stravinsky, but unfortunately with the exception of the opening bit of Firebird, which is OK, you fucking hate Stravinsky. And the background music of your life is Stravinsky for months on end because your husband loves Stravinsky now. So even when the three of you meet up together it turns into Stravinsky Fan Club Time. Plus a third wheel of you.
