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Coco
You can’t control other people. You can only control your reaction.
The need to control can be an insecurity. Insecurity and anxiety can lead to controlling behavior. Instead of using healthy coping skills, controlling people want to control the world around them in an effort to feel better. The need to control is similar to anxious attachment and abandonment issues in that they all stem from a fear of losing control.
People with anxious attachment styles tend to sacrifice their happiness for their partners, need constant reassurance, and have an overall fear of abandonment. On the other hand, people who have a need to control may also have a fear of abandonment and may try to control their environments or relationships as a way of avoiding this fear.