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A baby shower is a party centered on gift-giving to celebrate the delivery or expected birth of a child. It is a rite of passage that celebrates through giving gifts and spending time together.^[1]

Etymology

The term shower is often assumed to mean that the expectant parent is "showered" with gifts. A related custom, called a bridal shower, may have derived its name from the custom in the 19th century for the presents to be put inside a parasol, which when opened would "shower" the bride-to-be with gifts.^[2]

Description

Cake and finger foods are often served at baby showers.

Traditionally, baby showers are given only for the family's first child, and only women are invited to party ....^[3] though this has changed in recent years, now allowing showers being split up for different audiences: workplace, mixed-sex, etc.^[4]^[5] Smaller showers, or showers in which guests are encouraged to give only diapers or similar necessities, are common for subsequent babies.^[5]

Activities at baby showers include gift-giving and playing themed games. Giving gifts is a primary activity.^[1] Baby shower games vary, sometimes including standard games such as bingo, and sometimes being pregnancy-themed, such as "guess the mother's measurements" or "guess the baby".

According to etiquette authority Miss Manners, because the party centers on gift-giving,^[6] the baby shower is typically arranged and hosted by a close friend rather than a member of the family, since it is considered improper for families to beg for gifts on behalf of their members.^[7] The pregnant mother, as well as her mother and mother-in-law, and any sisters and sisters-in-law are commonly considered too closely related to properly host a baby shower, but a more distant family member, such as a cousin, might be accepted.^[5] However, this custom varies by culture or region and in some it is expected and customary for a close female family member to host the baby shower.^{[citation needed]}

Timing

Pre-birth baby showers may be held late in the pregnancy, but not usually during the last few weeks, in case of a pre-term birth.^[5]

Many cultures do not have pre-birth celebrations.^[5] When a baby shower is held after a baby's birth, an invitation to attend the shower may be combined with a baby announcement. In China, it is considered unlucky to have a baby shower before the baby is born, and gifts are usually sent after the birth, unrelated to a party.^[8] In the US, if a baby shower does not happen before the arrival of the baby, a sip-and-see party or other similar events can be organized after the birth.

Gifts

Guests bring small gifts for the expectant parent. Typical gifts related to babies include diapers, blankets, baby bottles, clothes, and toys. It is common to open gifts during the party; sometimes the host will make a game of opening gifts.

Whether and how a gift registry is used depends partly on the family's class, because wealthier families do not depend on the gifts received to care for the baby.^[1] Preparing a gift registry is a time-consuming and potentially fun activity for the parents-to-be.^[1] It may result in less personal gifts (e.g., the purchase of a store-bought item instead of a handmade one).^[1] As with gift registries for other gift-giving occasions, some guests appreciate them, and others do not.^[1]

Some families discourage gifts, saying that they want "your presence, not presents", or organizing a different activity, such as a blessing ceremony.^[1]

Social significance

In the United States, the baby shower is the only public event that recognizes a woman's transition into motherhood.^[1]

The baby shower is a family's first opportunity to gather people together to help play a part in their child's life. The new parents may wish to call on people to assist in the upbringing of their child, and help educate the child over time. People around the family, who care for them, want to be involved in the child's life, and a baby shower presents an opportunity for them to give gifts and be of help, showing their love for the family.^[9] If it happens before the birth, it allows the new family to thank everyone.

History

Baby showers are relatively new, having become popular only in the middle of the 20th century,^[1] but other celebrations and rituals associated with pregnancy and childbirth are both ancient and enduring.^[10]

Ancient Egypt: In ancient Egypt, rituals relating to the birth of a child took place after the event itself. Quite unlike modern baby showers, this involved the mother and the child being separated to "contain and eliminate the pollution of birth" – this may have included visiting local temples or shrines. After this, household rituals may have taken place, but the specifics are hard to study as these are such female-focuses events.^[10]
Ancient and Modern India: In India, a pregnancy ritual has been followed since the Vedic ages: an event called Simantha, held in the 7th or 8th month. The mother-to-be is showered with dry fruits, sweets and other gifts that help the baby's growth. A musical event to please the baby's ears is the highlight of the ritual, as it was common knowledge that the baby's ears would start functioning within the womb. The ritual prays for a healthy baby and mother, as well as a happy delivery and motherhood.
Ancient Greece: The ancient Greeks also celebrated pregnancy after the birth, with a shout (oloyge) after the labor has ended, to indicate that "peace had arrived". Five to seven days later, there is a ceremony called Amphidromia, to indicate that the baby had integrated into the household. In wealthy families, the public dekate ceremony, after ten days, indicated the mother's return to society. (The ten-day period is still observed in modern-day Iran.)^[10]
Medieval Europe: Due to the likelihood a mother would die in childbirth, this time was recognized as having a great risk of spiritual danger in addition to the risk of physical danger. Priests would often visit women during labor so they could confess their sins. After the birth, usually on the same day, a baptism ceremony would take place for the baby. In this ceremony, the godparents would give gifts to the child, including a pair of silver spoons.^[10]
Renaissance Europe: Pregnancies at this time were celebrated with many other kinds of birth gifts: functional items, like wooden trays and bowls, as well as paintings, sculptures, and food. Childbirth was seen as almost mystical, and mothers-to-be were often surrounded with references to the Annunciation by way of encouragement and celebration.^[10]
Victorian Britain and North America: Superstitions sometimes led to speculation that a woman might be pregnant, such as two teaspoons being accidentally placed together on a saucer. Gifts were usually hand-made, but the grandmother would give silver, such as a spoon, mug, or porringer.^[10] In Britain, the manners of the upper-class (and, later, middle-class) required pregnancy to be treated with discretion: the declining of social invitations was often the only hint given. After the birth, a monthly nurse would be engaged, whose duties included regulating visitors. When the nanny took over, the mother began to resume normal domestic life, and the resumption of the weekly 'at home' afternoon tea an opportunity for female friends to visit. The Christening - usually held when the child was between 8-12 weeks old - was an important social event for the family, godparents and friends.
Modern North America: The modern baby shower in America started in the late 1940s and the 1950s, as post-war women were expecting the Baby Boomers generation.^[1] As in earlier eras, when young women married and were provided with trousseaux, the shower served the function of providing the mother and her home with useful material goods.^[10]

While continuing the traditions from the 1950s, modern technology has altered the form a baby shower takes: games can include identifying baby parts on a sonogram. Moreover, although traditional baby showers were female-exclusive, mixed-sex showers have increased in frequency.^[10]

In different countries

A diaper cake is a party decoration made from baby diapers, elaborately arranged to look like a fancy tiered cake.

Baby showers and other social events to celebrate an impending or recent birth are popular around the world, but not in Western Europe. They are often women-only social gatherings.

In Armenia, a baby shower is called "qarasunq" (քառասունք) and is celebrated 40 days after the birth. It is a mixed party for all relatives and friends. Guests usually bring gifts for the baby or parents.
In Australia, Canada, New Zealand, and the United States, baby showers are a common tradition.
In Brazil, a party called "chá de bebê" (baby tea) is offered before birth.
In Bulgaria, as a superstition, no baby gifts are given to the family before the baby's birth. However, family and friends give or send unsolicited gifts to the newborn baby, even if some babies are kept from the public for the first 40 days to prevent early infections.
In Chinese tradition a baby shower, manyue (满月), is held one month after the baby is born.
In Hmong culture, a baby shower is called "Puv Hli", and is held one month after the baby is born. A ceremony would be hosted by the paternal grandparents or the father to welcome the baby to the family by tying the baby's wrist with white yarn and/or strings.
In Costa Rica, a baby shower party is called té de canastilla ("basket tea"), and multiple events are held for a single pregnancy for the family, co-workers, and friends.
In Egypt a baby shower is known as " Sebouh " (سبوع) (sebouh means week) which is usually celebrated one week after birth hence its name. This is usually celebrated with a DJ, much decoration, a food and candy buffet, activities and games.
In Guatemala, only women attend this event. Middle-class women usually celebrate more than one baby shower (one with close friends, co-workers, family, etc.).
In Indian tradition, they are called by different names depending on the family's community.
- In northern India it is known as godbharaai (filled lap), in the Punjab region, it is also known as "reet". In western India, especially Maharashtra, the celebration is known as dohaaljewan, and in Odisha it is called saadhroshi. In West Bengal, in many places a party named "sadh" (সাধ) or "sadhbhokkhon" (সাধভক্ষণ) is observed on the seventh month of pregnancy. After this, the woman resides in her father's house instead of her husband's until the birth.
- In southern India, in Tamil Nadu and Andhra Pradesh it is called seemantham, valaikaapu or poochoottal. The expecting mother wears bangles and is adorned with flowers.
- In Karnataka it is called seemanta(ಸೀಮಂತ) or kubasa (ಕುಬಸ). It is held when the woman is in her 5th, 7th, or 9th month of pregnancy.
- In coastal Karnataka, especially in Tulunadu (Tulu speaking region), the ceremony is also known as "baayake" ('ಬಾಯಕೆ'). Baayake in Tulu means desire. It is popularly considered that pregnant women crave fruits and eatables during the pregnancy period; and the ceremony was designed in the olden days to fulfill the desire or food cravings of the mother-to-be.
- Although these might be celebrated together, they are very different: seemantham is a religious ceremony, while valaikappu and poochoottal are purely social events much like Western baby showers. In a valaikappu or poochoottal, music is played and the expectant mother is decked in traditional attire with many flowers and garlands made of jasmine or mogra. A swing is decorated with flowers of her choice, which she uses to sit and swing. At times, symbolic cut-outs of moons and stars are put up. The elderly ladies from the household and community shower blessings on the expectant mother and gifts are given to her.
- In Gujarat, it is known as seemant or kholo bharyo, a religious ritual for most Gujarati Hindus during the 5th or 7th month of pregnancy, usually only for the first child. The expectant mother can only go to her father's house for delivery after her seemant. They offer special prayer and food to the goddess "Randal, the wife of the Sun".
- In Jain tradition, the baby shower ceremony is often called as "Shreemant". The expectant mother can go to her father's house in the 5th month of pregnancy and has to come back before the baby shower ceremony. After the ceremony the expectant mother cannot go back to her father's house. The ceremony is only performed on Sunday, Tuesday or Thursday of the seventh or ninth month of pregnancy. During the ceremony one of the practice is that the younger brother-in-law of the expectant mother dips his hands in Kumkuma water and slaps the expectant mother seven times on her cheeks and then the expectant mother slaps her younger brother-in-law seven times on his cheeks.
- In Kerala it is known as pulikudi or vayattu pongala', and is practiced predominantly in the Nair community, though its popularity has spread to other Hindu sects over the years. On an auspicious day, after being massaged with homemade ayurvedic oil the woman has a customary bath with the help of the elderly women in the family. After this, the family deity is worshipped, invoking all the paradevatas (family deities) and a concoction of herbal medicines prepared traditionally, is given to the woman. She is dressed in new clothes and jewellery used for such occasions. A big difference in the western concept of baby shower and Hindu tradition is that the Hindu ceremony is a religious ceremony to pray for the baby's well-being. In most conservative families, gifts are bought for the mother-to-be but not the baby. The baby is showered with gifts only after birth.

In Iran, a baby shower (Persian:حمام زایمان) is also called a "sismooni party" (Persian:جشن سیسمونی). It is celebrated 1–3 months before the baby's birth. Family and close friends give gifts intended for the baby such as a cot, toys, and baby clothes.
In the Islamic tradition of Aqiqah, an animal (such as a sheep) is slaughtered anytime after the birth, and the meat is distributed among relatives and the poor. The practice is considered sunnah and is not done universally.^[11]^[12]
In Italy a party is held when the expectant mother is three or four months pregnant. Marked by the revelation of the baby's gender to parents, friends, and relatives, this festive gathering features an array of food and music. Symbolically, colored balloons, either pink or blue, are released into the air, signifying the anticipated arrival of a baby girl or boy. Attendees express their well-wishes through the presentation of gifts to the soon-to-be parents; this tradition has been recently imported to Italy, where it was not celebrated before the early 2010s;
In Mongolia, a baby shower is called "хүүхдийн угаалга" (huuhdyn ugaalga).
In Nepal a baby shower is known as "dahi chiura khuwaune". The mother-to-be is given gifts from her elders and a meal is cooked for her according to her preferences. The pregnant mother is often invited by her relatives to eat meals with them. Pasni is a traditional celebration that often marks a baby boy's 6th month or a baby girl's fifth month, marking the transition to a diet higher in carbohydrates and allowing guests to bestow blessings, and money and other gifts.
In Puerto Rico, a baby shower is celebrated anytime after other family members are made aware of the pregnancy, but typically during the last trimester. The grandmother, sisters, or friends of the pregnant mother organize the celebration and invite other relatives and friends. It is not common for men to attend baby showers. The "bendición" (blessing) is bestowed money and other gifts.
In Russia, and Commonwealth of Independent States, there are no baby showers, though some of the younger generation are starting to adopt the custom.
In South Africa, a baby shower is called a stork party (named after the folk myth that a white stork delivers babies), and typically takes place during the mother's 6th month. Stork parties, usually not attended by men and often organized as a surprise for the mother, involve silliness such as dressing up, and mothers receive gifts of baby supplies.
In Vietnam, as a superstition no baby shower should be planned before the baby arrives. The baby shower is only organized when it is one month old. The baby shower is known as “Đầy tháng” which means “one full month”. The party is usually organized by the baby’s parents and/or the grandparents (baby’s father’s side). Relatives and close friends are invited. Gifts are welcomed, but try to avoid white color material gifts such as white clothing, white towels, white cloths … (mourning color)

Baby showers for fathers

Some baby showers are directed at fathers. These may be more oriented towards drinking beer, watching sports, fishing, or playing video games.^[13]^[14] The primary nature of these gifts is diapers and/or diaper-related items.^[15]^[16] The organization of the diaper party is typically done by the friends of the father-to-be as a way of helping to prepare for the coming child. These parties may be held at local pubs/bars, a friend's house, or the soon-to-be grandfather's house.^[15]^[17] In the United Kingdom, this is called wetting the baby's head, and is generally more common than baby showers. However, with the growth of American cultural influence – accelerated through celebrities via social media sites like Instagram – baby shower decorations are becoming more common in the United Kingdom.^[18] Wetting the baby's head is traditionally when the father celebrates the birth by having a few drinks and getting drunk with a group of friends.

There has been some controversy over these, with Judith Martin calling them a "monstrous imposition",^[16] although she was referring to the attitude of demanding gifts and not necessarily the male version of a baby shower.

In Hungary, such an event is called a milking party, and is held by tradition in favor of the mother to be blessed with breast milk for the newborn. Practically, it is the last day-off of the father for some time as he is expected to stay home to help. No similar domestic custom exists for mothers, such as a baby shower. Gifts for the baby are given on the first visit to his/her home. This, due to health concerns, happens at the appropriate and suitable time for each counterpart.

Names for events

A buffet at a baby shower. The "cake" in the center of the table is made from disposable diapers.

Diaper shower refers to a small-scale baby shower, generally for subsequent children, when the parents don't need as many baby supplies.^[19]
Grandma's shower refers to a shower at which people bring items for the grandparents to keep at their house, such as a collapsible crib and a changing pad.^[20]
Sprinkles or mistings are small showers for a subsequent child, especially a child who is of a different gender than the previous offspring.^[21]^[5]
A sip and see party is a celebration usually planned by the new parents after the baby's birth, so that friends and family can sip on refreshments and meet the new baby.
An adoption shower is held to celebrate a child's adoption into a family.^[5] Such events are called welcome parties when it's an older child being adopted rather than an infant.

References

^ ^a ^b ^c ^d ^e ^f ^g ^h ⁱ ^j Han, Sallie (2013-07-01). "Consumption and Communitas: Baby Showers". Pregnancy in Practice: Expectation and Experience in the Contemporary US. Berghahn Books. ISBN 978-0-85745-988-6.
^ Montemurro, Beth (2006). "Origins of Bridal Showers and Bachelorette Parties". Something Old, Something Bold. Rutgers University Press. pp. 26. ISBN 0-8135-3811-4.
^ Robin Elise Weiss (2009). The Complete Illustrated Pregnancy Companion. Fair Winds. pp. 320. ISBN 978-1616734435. baby shower history and tradition.
^ "The History of Baby Showers". www.parentingpage.com. 10 October 2020. Retrieved 2021-03-07.
^ ^a ^b ^c ^d ^e ^f ^g Smith, Jodi R. R. (2011-06-07). "Baby Showers". The Etiquette Book: A Complete Guide to Modern Manners. Union Square & Co. ISBN 978-1-4027-8251-0.
^ William Haviland; Harald Prins; Dana Walrath; Bunny McBride (2013). Anthropology: The Human Challenge. Cengage Learning. p. 784. ISBN 978-1285677583.
^ Martin, Judith (10 September 2010). "Miss Manners: Modesty is the best party policy". The Washington Post.
^ Xiaowei Zang (2012). Understanding Chinese Society. Routledge. p. 208. ISBN 978-1136632709.
^ "Why to Have Baby Showers?". The Pregnancy Zone. Retrieved 2018-01-13.
^ ^a ^b ^c ^d ^e ^f ^g ^h "Ritual and Ceremony: A History of Baby Showers". www.randomhistory.com. Archived from the original on 2015-11-03. Retrieved 2015-11-04.
^ The sacred meadows : a structural analysis of religious symbolism in an East African town / by Abdul Hamid M. el Zein.
^ 'Raise your voices and kill your animals' : Islamic discourses on the Idd el-Hajj and sacrifices in Tanga (Tanzania) : authoritative texts, ritual practices and social identities / by Gerard C. van de Bruinhorst full text
^ "Fathers-to-be get their own baby showers male style". TribLIVE. 2011-10-03. Retrieved 2012-07-31.
^ "It's buddies, beers and diapers". StarTribune.com. 2011-07-08. Retrieved 2012-07-31.
^ ^a ^b Yadegaran, Jessica (2011-09-25). "Home & Garden | Diaper parties: Dad-to-be's answer to baby showers | Seattle Times Newspaper". Seattletimes.nwsource.com. Archived from the original on 2013-01-30. Retrieved 2012-07-31.
^ ^a ^b Martin, Judith (2009-01-28). "Miss Manners: Diaper party is beyond the pail - Houston Chronicle". Chron.com. Retrieved 2012-07-31.
^ Tjader, Aimie (25 July 2011). "It's buddies, beers and diapers". Seattle Times. Retrieved 2012-07-31.
^ Kate Fox (2008). Watching the English: The Hidden Rules of English Behaviour. London: Nicholas Brealey Publishing. ISBN 978-1-85788-508-8.
^ Murray, Linda J.; Hennen, Leah; Scott, Jim; et al. (2005-06-22). The BabyCenter Essential Guide to Pregnancy and Birth: Expert Advice and Real-World Wisdom from the Top Pregnancy and Parenting Resource. Rodale. p. 346. ISBN 9781594862113. Retrieved 3 February 2013.
^ Hill, Sabrina (2010-09-30). Everything Baby Shower Book: Throw a memorable event for mother-to-be. Adams Media. pp. 133–144. ISBN 9781440524455. Retrieved 3 February 2013.
^ Vora, Shivani (9 December 2012). "For Baby No. 2 or 3, No Shower but a Sprinkle". The New York Times. p. 12. Retrieved 3 February 2013.

External links

Media related to Baby shower at Wikimedia Commons

[:0-1] ^ ^a ^b ^c ^d ^e ^f ^g ^h ⁱ ^j Han, Sallie (2013-07-01). "Consumption and Communitas: Baby Showers". Pregnancy in Practice: Expectation and Experience in the Contemporary US. Berghahn Books. ISBN 978-0-85745-988-6.

[SOSBIntro-2] Montemurro, Beth (2006). "Origins of Bridal Showers and Bachelorette Parties". Something Old, Something Bold. Rutgers University Press. pp. 26. ISBN 0-8135-3811-4.

[3] Robin Elise Weiss (2009). The Complete Illustrated Pregnancy Companion. Fair Winds. pp. 320. ISBN 978-1616734435. baby shower history and tradition.

[parenting_page-4] "The History of Baby Showers". www.parentingpage.com. 10 October 2020. Retrieved 2021-03-07.

[:1-5] ^ ^a ^b ^c ^d ^e ^f ^g Smith, Jodi R. R. (2011-06-07). "Baby Showers". The Etiquette Book: A Complete Guide to Modern Manners. Union Square & Co. ISBN 978-1-4027-8251-0.

[6] William Haviland; Harald Prins; Dana Walrath; Bunny McBride (2013). Anthropology: The Human Challenge. Cengage Learning. p. 784. ISBN 978-1285677583.

[7] Martin, Judith (10 September 2010). "Miss Manners: Modesty is the best party policy". The Washington Post.

[8] Xiaowei Zang (2012). Understanding Chinese Society. Routledge. p. 208. ISBN 978-1136632709.

[thepregnancyzone-9] "Why to Have Baby Showers?". The Pregnancy Zone. Retrieved 2018-01-13.

[random_history-10] ^ ^a ^b ^c ^d ^e ^f ^g ^h "Ritual and Ceremony: A History of Baby Showers". www.randomhistory.com. Archived from the original on 2015-11-03. Retrieved 2015-11-04.

[11] The sacred meadows : a structural analysis of religious symbolism in an East African town / by Abdul Hamid M. el Zein.

[12] 'Raise your voices and kill your animals' : Islamic discourses on the Idd el-Hajj and sacrifices in Tanga (Tanzania) : authoritative texts, ritual practices and social identities / by Gerard C. van de Bruinhorst full text

[13] "Fathers-to-be get their own baby showers male style". TribLIVE. 2011-10-03. Retrieved 2012-07-31.

[14] "It's buddies, beers and diapers". StarTribune.com. 2011-07-08. Retrieved 2012-07-31.

[st-15] Yadegaran, Jessica (2011-09-25). "Home & Garden | Diaper parties: Dad-to-be's answer to baby showers | Seattle Times Newspaper". Seattletimes.nwsource.com. Archived from the original on 2013-01-30. Retrieved 2012-07-31.

[miss-manners-16] Martin, Judith (2009-01-28). "Miss Manners: Diaper party is beyond the pail - Houston Chronicle". Chron.com. Retrieved 2012-07-31.

[17] Tjader, Aimie (25 July 2011). "It's buddies, beers and diapers". Seattle Times. Retrieved 2012-07-31.

[18] Kate Fox (2008). Watching the English: The Hidden Rules of English Behaviour. London: Nicholas Brealey Publishing. ISBN 978-1-85788-508-8.

[BabyCenterMurray2005-19] Murray, Linda J.; Hennen, Leah; Scott, Jim; et al. (2005-06-22). The BabyCenter Essential Guide to Pregnancy and Birth: Expert Advice and Real-World Wisdom from the Top Pregnancy and Parenting Resource. Rodale. p. 346. ISBN 9781594862113. Retrieved 3 February 2013.

[Hill2010-20] Hill, Sabrina (2010-09-30). Everything Baby Shower Book: Throw a memorable event for mother-to-be. Adams Media. pp. 133–144. ISBN 9781440524455. Retrieved 3 February 2013.

[21] Vora, Shivani (9 December 2012). "For Baby No. 2 or 3, No Shower but a Sprinkle". The New York Times. p. 12. Retrieved 3 February 2013.

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-Traditionally, baby showers are given only for the family's first child, and only women are invited.<ref>{{cite book | url=https://books.google.com/books?id=5n9RMTOzZOAC&pg=PA153&dq=baby+shower+history+and+tradition&hl=en&sa=X&ei=nNNAU_C4FIKMrgf48oCICA&redir_esc=y#v=onepage&q=baby%20shower%20history%20and%20tradition&f=false | title=The Complete Illustrated Pregnancy Companion | publisher=Fair Winds | author=Robin Elise Weiss | year=2009 | location=153 | pages=320 | isbn=1616734434}}</ref>
+Traditionally, baby showers are given only for the family's first child, and only women are invited to party ....<ref>{{cite book | url=https://archive.org/details/completeillustra00weis | url-access=registration | quote=baby shower history and tradition. | title=The Complete Illustrated Pregnancy Companion | publisher=Fair Winds | author=Robin Elise Weiss | year=2009 | pages=[https://archive.org/details/completeillustra00weis/page/320 320] | isbn=978-1616734435}}</ref> though this has changed in recent years, now allowing showers being split up for different audiences: workplace, mixed-sex, etc.<ref name="parenting _page">{{Cite web|title = The History of Baby Showers|url = https://parentingpage.com/the-history-of-baby-showers/|website = www.parentingpage.com| date=10 October 2020 |access-date = 2021-03-07}}</ref><ref name=":1">{{Cite book |last=Smith |first=Jodi R. R. |chapter-url=https://books.google.com/books?id=tlu1EAAAQBAJ&dq=%22baby+shower%22+%22small%22+etiquette&pg=PT233 |title=The Etiquette Book: A Complete Guide to Modern Manners |date=2011-06-07 |publisher=Union Square & Co. |isbn=978-1-4027-8251-0 |language=en |chapter=Baby Showers}}</ref> Smaller showers, or showers in which guests are encouraged to give only diapers or similar necessities, are common for subsequent babies.<ref name=":1" />
+Activities at baby showers include gift-giving and playing themed games.  Giving gifts is a primary activity.<ref name=":0" /> Baby shower games vary, sometimes including standard games such as bingo, and sometimes being pregnancy-themed, such as "guess the mother's measurements" or "guess the baby".
-According to etiquette authority [[Miss Manners]], because the party centers on gift-giving,<ref>{{cite book | url=https://books.google.com/books?id=nfIWAAAAQBAJ&pg=PT499&dq=baby+shower+gift-giving&hl=en&sa=X&ei=29ZAU9u9EYjmrAfkwIGgDQ&redir_esc=y#v=onepage&q=baby%20shower%20gift-giving&f=false | title=Anthropology: The Human Challenge | publisher=Cengage Learning |author1=William Haviland |author2=Harald Prins |author3=Dana Walrath |author4=Bunny McBride | year=2013 | location=456 | pages=784 | isbn=1285677587}}</ref> the baby shower is typically arranged and hosted by a close friend rather than a member of the family, since it is considered rude for families to beg for gifts on behalf of their members.<ref>{{cite news |url =https://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/09/10/AR2010091005903.html |title =Miss Manners: Modesty is the best party policy |date =10 September 2010 |author =Martin, Judith |publisher =The Washington Post }}</ref> However, this custom varies by culture or region and in some it is expected and customary for a close female family member to host the baby shower, often the baby's grandmother.<ref>{{cite book | url=https://books.google.com/books?id=WYWoAgAAQBAJ&pg=PA25&dq=baby+shower+baby%27s+grandmother&hl=en&sa=X&ei=ItVAU5SCG4j00gXx-IHwAg&redir_esc=y#v=onepage&q=baby%20shower%20baby's%20grandmother&f=false | title=Understanding Chinese Society | publisher=Routledge | author=Xiaowei Zang | year=2012 | location=25 | pages=208 | isbn=1136632700}}</ref>
+According to etiquette authority [[Judith Martin|Miss Manners]], because the party centers on gift-giving,<ref>{{cite book | url=https://books.google.com/books?id=nfIWAAAAQBAJ&q=baby+shower+gift-giving&pg=PT499 | title=Anthropology: The Human Challenge | publisher=Cengage Learning |author1=William Haviland |author2=Harald Prins |author3=Dana Walrath |author4=Bunny McBride | year=2013 | pages=784 | isbn=978-1285677583}}</ref> the baby shower is typically arranged and hosted by a close friend rather than a member of the family, since it is considered improper for families to beg for gifts on behalf of their members.<ref>{{cite news |url =https://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/09/10/AR2010091005903.html |title =Miss Manners: Modesty is the best party policy |date =10 September 2010 |author =Martin, Judith |newspaper =The Washington Post }}</ref> The pregnant mother, as well as her mother and mother-in-law, and any sisters and sisters-in-law are commonly considered too closely related to properly host a baby shower, but a more distant family member, such as a cousin, might be accepted.<ref name=":1" /> However, this custom varies by culture or region and in some it is expected and customary for a close female family member to host the baby shower.{{Citation needed|date=December 2023}}
-When a baby shower is held after the birth of a baby, an invitation to attend the shower may be combined with a [[baby announcement]].
-== Gifts ==
+=== Timing ===
+Pre-birth baby showers may be held late in the pregnancy, but not usually during the last few weeks, in case of a pre-term birth.<ref name=":1" />
-Guests bring small gifts for the expectant mother. Mothers are usually given pampering treats. Typical gifts related to babies include [[diaper]]s, blankets, [[baby bottle]]s, clothes, and toys.   It is common to open the gifts during the party; sometimes the host will make a game of opening gifts.
+Many cultures do not have pre-birth celebrations.<ref name=":1" /> When a baby shower is held after a baby's birth, an invitation to attend the shower may be combined with a [[baby announcement]]. In China, it is considered unlucky to have a baby shower before the baby is born, and gifts are usually sent after the birth, unrelated to a party.<ref>{{cite book |author=Xiaowei Zang |url=https://books.google.com/books?id=WYWoAgAAQBAJ&q=baby+shower+baby%27s+grandmother&pg=PA25 |title=Understanding Chinese Society |publisher=Routledge |year=2012 |isbn=978-1136632709 |pages=208}}</ref> In the US, if a baby shower does not happen before the arrival of the baby, a sip-and-see party or other similar events can be organized after the birth.
-== History ==
-[[File:Baby shower shortbread biscuits 1 (8515549806).jpg|thumb|Baby shower shortbread biscuits]]
-Baby shower as a term is relatively new, but the celebrations and rituals associated with pregnancy and childbirth are both ancient and enduring.<ref>{{Cite web|title = Ritual and Ceremony: A History of Baby Showers|url = http://www.randomhistory.com/2008/11/01_baby.html|website = www.randomhistory.com|accessdate = 2015-11-04}}</ref>
+== Gifts ==
-Ancient India: Baby shower in India has been followed since the vedic ages, in an event called '''seemantha''' held in the 6th or 8th month, the mother to be is showered with dry fruits, sweets grams and other gifts that help the baby's growth. A musical event to please the baby's ears is the highlight of the ritual, it was common knowledge that the baby's ears would start functioning within the womb - a scientifically proven belief{{Citation needed|date=September 2017}}.
+[[File:Baby_shower_gifts_-_October_2022_Sarah_Stierch.jpg|thumb|Gifts on a table at a baby shower]]
+Guests bring small gifts for the expectant parent. Typical gifts related to babies include [[diaper]]s, blankets, [[baby bottle]]s, clothes, and toys. It is common to open gifts during the party; sometimes the host will make a game of opening gifts.
+Whether and how a [[gift registry]] is used depends partly on the family's class, because wealthier families do not depend on the gifts received to care for the baby.<ref name=":0" /> Preparing a gift registry is a time-consuming and potentially fun activity for the parents-to-be.<ref name=":0" /> It may result in less personal gifts (e.g., the purchase of a store-bought item instead of a handmade one).<ref name=":0" /> As with gift registries for other gift-giving occasions, some guests appreciate them, and others do not.<ref name=":0" />
-Seemantha is a ritual to pray for a healthy baby and a mother, a happy delivery and motherhood.
-Ancient Egypt: Ancient Egyptians did not hold baby showers as we know them today, they did observe rituals associated with birth and pregnancy.
+Some families discourage gifts, saying that they want "your presence, not presents", or organizing a different activity, such as a blessing ceremony.<ref name=":0" />
-Ancient Greece: Ancient Greeks celebrated pregnancy after the birth of the child.
+== Social significance ==
-Middle Ages: Childbirth was associated with not only great physical danger but spiritual danger as well.
+In the United States, the baby shower is the only public event that recognizes a woman's transition into motherhood.<ref name=":0" />
+The baby shower is a family's first opportunity to gather people together to help play a part in their child's life. The new parents may wish to call on people to assist in the upbringing of their child, and help educate the child over time. People around the family, who care for them, want to be involved in the child's life, and a baby shower presents an opportunity for them to give gifts and be of help, showing their love for the family.<ref name="thepregnancyzone">{{Cite web|url=https://www.thepregnancyzone.com/pregnancy-tips/baby-showers/|title=Why to Have Baby Showers?|website=The Pregnancy Zone|access-date=2018-01-13}}</ref> If it happens before the birth, it allows the new family to thank everyone.
-Renaissance: Childbirth was an almost mystical event, and mothers-to-be would often be surrounded with references to the Annunciation to encourage and celebrate her.
+== History ==
-Victorian Era: Is the predecessor to modern-day baby shower. A Victorian woman would keep her pregnancy a secret as long as possible and would not appear in public due to cultural definitions of proper behavior.
+[[File:Baby shower shortbread biscuits 1 (8515549806).jpg|thumb|Baby shower shortbread biscuits]]
+Baby showers are relatively new, having become popular only in the middle of the 20th century,<ref name=":0" /> but other celebrations and rituals associated with pregnancy and childbirth are both ancient and enduring.<ref name="random_history">{{Cite web|title = Ritual and Ceremony: A History of Baby Showers|url = http://www.randomhistory.com/2008/11/01_baby.html|website = www.randomhistory.com|access-date = 2015-11-04|archive-url = https://web.archive.org/web/20151103101414/http://www.randomhistory.com/2008/11/01_baby.html|archive-date = 2015-11-03|url-status = dead}}</ref>
+;Ancient Egypt: In ancient Egypt, rituals relating to the birth of a child took place after the event itself. Quite unlike modern baby showers, this involved the mother and the child being separated to "contain and eliminate the pollution of birth" – this may have included visiting local temples or shrines. After this, household rituals may have taken place, but the specifics are hard to study as these are such female-focuses events.<ref name="random_history" />
-Modern Era: The modern baby shower started after WWII during the baby boom era and evolved with the consumer ideology of 1950s and 1960s. In other words, and served an economic function by providing the mother-to-be with material goods that lessened the financial burden of infant care.
+;Ancient and Modern India: In India, a pregnancy ritual has been followed since the Vedic ages: an event called [[Seemantham|''Simantha'']], held in the 7th or 8th month. The mother-to-be is showered with dry fruits, sweets and other gifts that help the baby's growth. A musical event to please the baby's ears is the highlight of the ritual, as it was common knowledge that the baby's ears would start functioning within the womb. The ritual prays for a healthy baby and mother, as well as a happy delivery and motherhood.
+;Ancient Greece: The ancient Greeks also celebrated pregnancy after the birth, with a shout (''oloyge'') after the labor has ended, to indicate that "peace had arrived". Five to seven days later, there is a ceremony called ''[[Amphidromia]]'', to indicate that the baby had integrated into the household. In wealthy families, the public ''dekate'' ceremony, after ten days, indicated the mother's return to society. (The ten-day period is still observed in modern-day Iran.)<ref name="random_history" />
+;Medieval Europe: Due to the likelihood a mother would die in childbirth, this time was recognized as having a great risk of spiritual danger in addition to the risk of physical danger. Priests would often visit women during labor so they could confess their sins. After the birth, usually on the same day, a baptism ceremony would take place for the baby. In this ceremony, the godparents would give gifts to the child, including a pair of silver spoons.<ref name="random_history" />
+;Renaissance Europe: Pregnancies at this time were celebrated with many other kinds of birth gifts: functional items, like wooden trays and bowls, as well as paintings, sculptures, and food. Childbirth was seen as almost mystical, and mothers-to-be were often surrounded with references to the [[Annunciation]] by way of encouragement and celebration.<ref name="random_history" />
+;Victorian Britain and North America: Superstitions sometimes led to speculation that a woman might be pregnant, such as two [[teaspoon]]s being accidentally placed together on a saucer. Gifts were usually hand-made, but the grandmother would give silver, such as a spoon, mug, or porringer.<ref name="random_history" /> In Britain, the manners of the upper-class (and, later, middle-class) required pregnancy to be treated with discretion: the declining of social invitations was often the only hint given. After the birth, a monthly nurse would be engaged, whose duties included regulating visitors. When the nanny took over, the mother began to resume normal domestic life, and the resumption of the weekly 'at home' afternoon tea an opportunity for female friends to visit. The [[Baptism|Christening]] - usually held when the child was between 8-12 weeks old - was an important social event for the family, godparents and friends.
+;Modern North America: The modern baby shower in America started in the late 1940s and the 1950s, as post-war women were expecting the [[Baby boomers|Baby Boomers]] generation.<ref name=":0" /> As in earlier eras, when young women married and were provided with [[Wardrobe (clothing)|trousseaux]], the shower served the function of providing the mother and her home with useful material goods.<ref name="random_history" />
+While continuing the traditions from the 1950s, modern technology has altered the form a baby shower takes: games can include identifying baby parts on a [[Obstetric ultrasonography|sonogram]]. Moreover, although traditional baby showers were female-exclusive, mixed-sex showers have increased in frequency.<ref name="random_history" />
-Twenty-First Century: Several important changes associated with technology. Invitations, traditionally mailed, now are often emailed in elaborate graphically designed invitations. In addition, baby shower participants may attempt to identify baby parts on an ultrasound as a game, or even hold virtual baby showers.
 ==In different countries==
-[[Image:Blue-yellow-diaper-cake.jpg|right|thumb|upright|Diaper cake]]
+[[Image:Blue-yellow-diaper-cake.jpg|right|thumb|upright|A diaper cake is a party decoration made from [[Diaper|baby diapers]], elaborately arranged to look like a fancy tiered cake.]]
-Baby showers and other social events to celebrate the impending or recent birth are popular around the world. They are women-only social gatherings.
+Baby showers and other social events to celebrate an impending or recent birth are popular around the world, but not in Western Europe. They are often women-only social gatherings.
+* In [[Armenia]], a baby shower is called "qarasunq" (քառասունք) and is celebrated 40 days after the birth. It is a mixed party for all relatives and friends. Guests usually bring gifts for the baby or parents.
-* In the [[United States]], baby shower is a common tradition.
-* In [[Canada]] it is also a fairly common tradition.
+* In [[Australia]], [[Canada]], [[New Zealand]], and the [[United States]], baby showers are a common tradition.
+* In [[Brazil]], a party called "chá de bebê" (baby tea) is offered before birth.
-* In the [[United Kingdom]], baby showers are not historically customary, but are becoming more common.
+* In [[Bulgaria]], as a superstition, no baby gifts are given to the family before the baby's birth. However, family and friends give or send unsolicited gifts to the newborn baby, even if some babies are kept from the public for the first 40 days to prevent early infections.
-* In [[Bangladesh]], in many places a party named "sadh" (সাধ) or "sadhbhokkhon" (সাধভক্ষণ) is observed on the 7th month of pregnancy. After this the woman resides in the house of her father instead of the house of her husband till baby birth.
+* In [[Culture of China|Chinese]] tradition a baby shower, ''manyue'' (满月), is held one month after the baby is born.
-* In [[Brazil]], a party called "chá de bebê" (baby tea) is offered before birth and is often a women-only event.
-* In [[Culture of China|Chinese]] tradition, a baby shower, called ''manyue'' (满月) is held one month after the baby is born.
+* In [[Hmong people|Hmong]] culture, a baby shower is called "Puv Hli", and is held one month after the baby is born. A ceremony would be hosted by the paternal grandparents or the father to welcome the baby to the family by tying the baby's wrist with white yarn and/or strings.
-* In [[Hmong people|Hmong]] culture, a baby shower is called "Puv Hli," and is held one month after the baby is born.  A ceremony would be hosted by the paternal grandparents or the father to welcome the baby to the family by tying the baby's wrist with white yarn and/or strings.
+* In [[Costa Rica]], a baby shower party is called ''té de canastilla'' ("[[basket]] [[tea (meal)|tea]]"), and multiple events are held for a single pregnancy for the family, co-workers, and friends.
-* In [[Armenia]], a baby shower is called "qarasunq" (քառասունք) and is celebrated 40 days after baby's birth. It is a mixed party for all relatives and friends. Guests usually bring gifts for the baby or parents.
+* In [[Egypt]] a baby shower is known as " Sebouh " (سبوع) (sebouh means week) which is usually celebrated one week after birth hence its name. This is usually celebrated with a DJ, much decoration, a food and candy buffet, activities and games.
+* In [[Guatemala]], only women attend this event. Middle-class women usually celebrate more than one baby shower (one with close friends, co-workers, family, etc.).
-* In [[Iran]], a baby shower ([[Persian language|Persian]]:حمام زایمان) is also called a "sismooni party" ([[Persian language|Persian]]:جشن سیسمونی). It is celebrated 1–3 months before the baby's birth. Family and close friends give gifts intended for the baby such as a cot, toys and baby clothes.
+* In [[India|Indian]] tradition, they are called by different names depending on the family's community.
-* In [[Costa Rica]], a baby shower party is called ''té de canastilla'' ("[[basket]] [[tea (meal)|tea]]").
+** In northern [[India]] it is known as ''godbharaai (filled lap)'', in the [[Punjab]] region, it is also known as "''reet''". In western India, especially [[Maharashtra]], the celebration is known as ''dohaaljewan'', and in [[Odisha]] it is called ''saadhroshi''. In [[West Bengal]], in many places a party named "sadh" (সাধ) or "sadhbhokkhon" (সাধভক্ষণ) is observed on the seventh month of pregnancy. After this, the woman resides in her father's house instead of her husband's until the birth.
-* In [[Nepal]], a baby shower party is called "dahi-chiura" (दही चिउरा) and is celebrated on the 6-7th month of pregnancy.
+** In southern India, in [[Tamil Nadu]] and [[Andhra Pradesh]] it is called ''[[seemantham]]'', ''[[valaikaapu]]'' or ''poochoottal''. The expecting mother wears bangles and is adorned with flowers.
+** In [[Karnataka]] it is called ''seemanta''(ಸೀಮಂತ) or ''kubasa'' (ಕುಬಸ). It is held when the woman is in her 5th, 7th, or 9th month of pregnancy.
+** In coastal Karnataka, especially in Tulunadu (Tulu speaking region), the ceremony is also known as "baayake" ('ಬಾಯಕೆ'). Baayake in Tulu means desire. It is popularly considered that pregnant women crave fruits and eatables during the pregnancy period; and the ceremony was designed in the olden days to fulfill the desire or food cravings of the mother-to-be.
+** Although these might be celebrated together, they are very different: ''seemantham'' is a religious ceremony, while ''valaikappu'' and ''poochoottal'' are purely social events much like Western baby showers. In a ''valaikappu'' or ''poochoottal'', music is played and the expectant mother is decked in traditional attire with many flowers and garlands made of [[jasmine]] or [[Jasminum sambac|mogra]]. A swing is decorated with flowers of her choice, which she uses to sit and swing. At times, symbolic cut-outs of moons and stars are put up. The elderly ladies from the household and community shower blessings on the expectant mother and gifts are given to her.
+** In [[Gujarat]], it is known as ''seemant'' or ''kholo bharyo'', a religious ritual for most Gujarati Hindus during the 5th or 7th month of pregnancy, usually only for the first child. The expectant mother can only go to her father's house for delivery after her ''seemant''. They offer special prayer and food to the goddess "Randal, the wife of the Sun".
+** In [[Jain]] tradition, the baby shower ceremony is often called as "Shreemant". The expectant mother can go to her father's house in the 5th month of [[pregnancy]] and has to come back before the baby shower ceremony. After the ceremony the expectant mother cannot go back to her father's house. The ceremony is only performed on Sunday, Tuesday or Thursday of the seventh or ninth month of pregnancy. During the ceremony one of the practice is that the younger brother-in-law of the expectant mother dips his hands in [[Kumkuma]] water and slaps the expectant mother seven times on her cheeks and then the expectant mother slaps her younger brother-in-law seven times on his cheeks.
+** In [[Kerala]] it is known as ''pulikudi'' or ''vayattu pongala''', and is practiced predominantly in the [[Nair]] community, though its popularity has spread to other Hindu sects over the years. On an auspicious day, after being massaged with homemade ayurvedic oil the woman has a customary bath with the help of the elderly women in the family. After this, the family deity is worshipped, invoking all the ''paradevatas'' (family deities) and a concoction of [[herbal]] medicines prepared traditionally, is given to the woman. She is dressed in new clothes and jewellery used for such occasions. A big difference in the western concept of baby shower and Hindu tradition is that the Hindu ceremony is a religious ceremony to pray for the baby's well-being. In most conservative families, gifts are bought for the mother-to-be but not the baby. The baby is showered with gifts only after birth.
+* In [[Iran]], a baby shower ([[Persian language|Persian]]:حمام زایمان) is also called a "sismooni party" ([[Persian language|Persian]]:جشن سیسمونی). It is celebrated 1–3 months before the baby's birth. Family and close friends give gifts intended for the baby such as a cot, toys, and baby clothes.
+* In the [[Islamic]] tradition of [[Aqiqah]], an animal (such as a sheep) is slaughtered anytime after the birth, and the meat is distributed among relatives and the poor. The practice is considered [[sunnah]] and is not done universally.<ref>The sacred meadows : a structural analysis of religious symbolism in an East African town / by Abdul Hamid M. el Zein.</ref><ref>'Raise your voices and kill your animals' : Islamic discourses on the Idd el-Hajj and sacrifices in Tanga (Tanzania) : authoritative texts, ritual practices and social identities / by Gerard C. van de Bruinhorst [http://hdl.handle.net/1887/12442 full text]</ref>
+* In [[Italy]] a party is held when the expectant mother is three or four months pregnant. Marked by the revelation of the baby's gender to parents, friends, and relatives, this festive gathering features an array of food and music. Symbolically, colored balloons, either pink or blue, are released into the air, signifying the anticipated arrival of a baby girl or boy. Attendees express their well-wishes through the presentation of gifts to the soon-to-be parents; this tradition has been recently imported to Italy, where it was not celebrated before the early 2010s;
 * In [[Mongolia]], a baby shower is called "хүүхдийн угаалга" (huuhdyn ugaalga).
+* In [[Nepal]] a baby shower is known as "dahi chiura khuwaune". The mother-to-be is given gifts from her elders and a meal is cooked for her according to her preferences. The pregnant mother is often invited by her relatives to eat meals with them. Pasni is a traditional celebration that often marks a baby boy's 6th month or a baby girl's fifth month, marking the transition to a diet higher in carbohydrates and allowing guests to bestow blessings, and money and other gifts.
-* In [[Hindu]] tradition, they are called by different names depending on the community the family belongs to.
+* In [[Puerto Rico]], a baby shower is celebrated anytime after other family members are made aware of the pregnancy, but typically during the last trimester. The grandmother, sisters, or friends of the pregnant mother organize the celebration and invite other relatives and friends. It is not common for men to attend baby showers. The "bendición" (blessing) is bestowed money and other gifts.
-**In northern [[India]] it is known as ''godbharaai'', in western India, especially [[Maharashtra]], the celebration is known as ''dohaaljewan'', and in [[West Bengal]] and [[Odisha]] it is called ''saadhroshi''.
+* In [[Russia]], and [[Commonwealth of Independent States]], there are no baby showers, though some of the younger generation are starting to adopt the custom.
-**In Southern India, in [[Tamil Nadu]]/[[Andhra Pradesh]] it is called [[Seemantham]] or [[Valaikaapu]] or [[Poochoottal]] (The expecting mother wears bangles and adorned with flowers) and in [[Karnataka]] it is called ''Seemanta''(ಸೀಮಂತ) and is held when the woman is in her 5th or 7th or 9th month of pregnancy. Although Seemantham, Valaikappu and Poochoottal might be celebrated together, they are very different. Seemantham is a religious ceremony while Valaikappu and Poochoottal is a purely social event much like Western baby showers. In a Valaikappu and Poochoottal, there is music played, and the expecting mother is decked in traditional attire with lots of flowers and garlands made of [[jasmine]] or [[Jasminum sambac|mogra]]. A swing is decorated with flowers of her choice, which she uses to sit and swing. At times there are symbolic cut-outs of moons and stars that are put up. There are blessings showered on her by the elderly ladies from the household and community. Gifts are given to the expecting mother.
+* In [[South Africa]], a baby shower is called a ''stork party'' (named after the folk myth that a [[White stork#Storks and delivery of babies|white stork delivers babies]]), and typically takes place during the mother's 6th month. Stork parties, usually not attended by men and often organized as a surprise for the mother, involve silliness such as dressing up, and mothers receive gifts of baby supplies.
-** In Gujarat, it is known as " Seemant" or "Kholo Bharyo ". It's religious rituals in most of Gujarati Hindus during 5th or 7th Month of pregnancy. A pregnant woman can only go to her father's home for delivery after her " Seemant". Usually it's only for the first child. They offer special prayer and food to the goddess "Randal, the wife of the Sun".
+* In [[Vietnam]], as a superstition no baby shower should be planned before the baby arrives. The baby shower is only organized when it is one month old. The baby shower is known as “Đầy tháng” which means “one full month”. The party is usually organized  by the baby’s parents and/or the grandparents (baby’s father’s side). Relatives and close friends are invited. Gifts are welcomed, but try to avoid white color material gifts such as white clothing, white towels, white cloths … (mourning color)
-**In [[Kerala]], it is known as 'Pulikudi' or 'Vayattu Pongala', and is practiced predominantly in the [[Nair]] community, though its popularity has spread to other Hindu sects as well over the years. On an auspicious day, after being massaged with homemade ayurvedic oil, the woman has a customary bath with the help of the elderly women in the family. After this, the family deity is worshipped, invoking all the ''paradevatas'' (family deities) and a concoction of [[herbal]] medicines prepared in the traditional way, is given to the woman. The woman is dressed in new clothes and jewellery used for such occasions. A big difference in the western concept of baby shower and Hindu tradition is that the Hindu ceremony is a religious ceremony to pray for the well-being of the baby. In most conservative families gifts are bought for the mother-to-be but not the baby. The baby is showered with gifts only after birth.
-* In the [[Islamic]] tradition of [[Aqiqah]], sheep are slaughtered upon the birth of a child. The practice is considered [[sunnah]] and is not done universally.<ref>The sacred meadows : a structural analysis of religious symbolism in an East African town / by Abdul Hamid M. el Zein.</ref><ref>'Raise your voices and kill your animals' : Islamic discourses on the Idd el-Hajj and sacrifices in Tanga (Tanzania) : authoritative texts, ritual practices and social identities / by Gerard C. van de Bruinhorst [http://hdl.handle.net/1887/12442 full text]</ref>
-* In [[South Africa]], a baby shower is called a ''stork party'' (named after the folk myth that a [[White stork#Storks and childbirth|white stork delivers babies]]), and takes place typically when the mother is about 6 months pregnant. Stork parties are usually not attended by men. The stork party is accompanied by silliness such as dressing up, and gifts of baby supplies are given to the mother. A stork party is often organised as a surprise without the mother's knowledge.
-* In [[Nepal]] a baby shower is known as "dahi chiura khuwaune". The mother-to-be is given gifts from her elders and a meal is cooked for her according to her preferences. The pregnant mother is often invited by her relatives to eat meals with them. Pasni is a traditional celebration after the birth of the child, often marking the age of 6th months for a boy child and 5 months for a girl, often marking the transition to a diet higher in carbohydrates, and allowing the people attending to give their blessings, money and other gifts.
-* In [[Guatemala]], only women attend this event. Middle class women usually celebrate more than one baby shower (one with close friends, co-workers, family, etc.).
-* In [[Russia]], and [[Commonwealth of Independent States]], there are no baby showers, though some of the younger generation are starting to adapt it.
 ==Baby showers for fathers==
-Some baby showers are directed at the future father.  These may be more oriented towards drinking beer, watching sports, fishing, or playing video games.<ref>{{cite web|url=http://triblive.com/x/pittsburghtrib/lifestyles/family/s_759997.html |title=Fathers-to-be get their own baby showers male style |publisher=TribLIVE |date=2011-10-03 |accessdate=2012-07-31}}</ref><ref>{{cite web|url=http://www.startribune.com/lifestyle/relationship/125181054.html |title=It's buddies, beers and diapers |publisher=StarTribune.com |date=2011-07-08 |accessdate=2012-07-31}}</ref> The primary nature of these gifts is diapers and/or diaper-related items.<ref name="st">{{cite web|last=Yadegaran |first=Jessica |url=http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/homegarden/2016297534_showers26.html |archive-url=https://archive.is/20130130031319/http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/homegarden/2016297534_showers26.html |dead-url=yes |archive-date=2013-01-30 |title=Home & Garden &#124; Diaper parties: Dad-to-be's answer to baby showers &#124; Seattle Times Newspaper |publisher=Seattletimes.nwsource.com |date=2011-09-25 |accessdate=2012-07-31 }}</ref><ref name="miss-manners">{{cite web|first=Judith |last=Martin |url=http://www.chron.com/life/article/Miss-Manners-Diaper-party-is-beyond-the-pail-1604050.php |title=Miss Manners: Diaper party is beyond the pail - Houston Chronicle |publisher=Chron.com |date=2009-01-28 |accessdate=2012-07-31}}</ref> The organization of the diaper party is typically done by the friends of the father-to-be as a way of helping to prepare for the coming child.  These parties may be held at local pubs/bars, a friend's house, or the soon-to-be grandfather's house.<ref name="st"/><ref>{{cite web|last=Tjader |first=Aimie |url=http://www.seattletimes.com/seattle-news/health/its-buddies-beers-and-diapers |title= It's buddies, beers and diapers |publisher=Seattle Times |accessdate=2012-07-31 }}</ref> In the [[United Kingdom]], this is called ''wetting the baby's head'', and is seen more commonly than baby showers.<ref>{{cite book
+Some baby showers are directed [[Dadchelor party|at fathers]]. These may be more oriented towards drinking beer, watching sports, fishing, or playing video games.<ref>{{cite web|url=http://triblive.com/x/pittsburghtrib/lifestyles/family/s_759997.html |title=Fathers-to-be get their own baby showers male style |publisher=TribLIVE |date=2011-10-03 |access-date=2012-07-31}}</ref><ref>{{cite web|url=http://www.startribune.com/lifestyle/relationship/125181054.html |title=It's buddies, beers and diapers |publisher=StarTribune.com |date=2011-07-08 |access-date=2012-07-31}}</ref> The primary nature of these gifts is diapers and/or diaper-related items.<ref name="st">{{cite web|last=Yadegaran |first=Jessica |url=http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/homegarden/2016297534_showers26.html |archive-url=https://archive.today/20130130031319/http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/homegarden/2016297534_showers26.html |url-status=dead |archive-date=2013-01-30 |title=Home & Garden &#124; Diaper parties: Dad-to-be's answer to baby showers &#124; Seattle Times Newspaper |publisher=Seattletimes.nwsource.com |date=2011-09-25 |access-date=2012-07-31 }}</ref><ref name="miss-manners">{{cite web|first=Judith |last=Martin |url=http://www.chron.com/life/article/Miss-Manners-Diaper-party-is-beyond-the-pail-1604050.php |title=Miss Manners: Diaper party is beyond the pail - Houston Chronicle |publisher=Chron.com |date=2009-01-28 |access-date=2012-07-31}}</ref> The organization of the diaper party is typically done by the friends of the father-to-be as a way of helping to prepare for the coming child. These parties may be held at local pubs/bars, a friend's house, or the soon-to-be grandfather's house.<ref name="st"/><ref>{{cite web|last=Tjader |first=Aimie |url=http://www.seattletimes.com/seattle-news/health/its-buddies-beers-and-diapers |title= It's buddies, beers and diapers |date=25 July 2011 |publisher=Seattle Times |access-date=2012-07-31 }}</ref> In the [[United Kingdom]], this is called ''wetting the baby's head'', and is generally more common than baby showers. However, with the growth of American cultural influence – accelerated through celebrities via social media sites like [[Instagram]] – baby shower decorations are becoming more common in the United Kingdom.<ref>{{cite book
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+}}</ref> Wetting the baby's head is traditionally when the father celebrates the birth by having a few drinks and getting drunk with a group of friends.
 There has been some controversy over these, with [[Judith Martin]] calling them a "monstrous imposition",<ref name="miss-manners" /> although she was referring to the attitude of demanding gifts and not necessarily the male version of a baby shower.
+In Hungary, such an event is called a ''milking party,''  and is held by tradition in favor of the mother to be blessed with breast milk for the newborn. Practically, it is the last day-off of the father for some time as he is expected to stay home to help. No similar domestic custom exists for mothers, such as a baby shower. Gifts for the baby are given on the first visit to his/her home. This, due to health concerns, happens at the appropriate and suitable time for each counterpart.
 ==Names for events==
-[[File:Baby shower buffet (2011)-01.jpg|thumb|A buffet at a baby shower, featuring an appropriately themed cake.]]
+[[File:Baby shower buffet (2011)-01.jpg|thumb|A buffet at a baby shower. The "cake" in the center of the table is made from disposable diapers.]]
-*''Diaper shower'' refers to a small-scale baby shower, generally for subsequent children, when the parents don't need as many baby supplies.<ref name="BabyCenterMurray2005">{{cite book|last1=BabyCenter|first1=Editors of|last2=Murray|first2=Linda J.|last3=Scott|first3=Jim|author4=Leah Hennen|title=The BabyCenter Essential Guide to Pregnancy and Birth: Expert Advice and Real-World Wisdom from the Top Pregnancy and Parenting Resource|url=https://books.google.com/books?id=AK60Xmnrm_AC&pg=PA346|accessdate=3 February 2013|date=2005-06-22|publisher=Rodale|isbn=9781594862113|page=346}}</ref>
+*''Diaper shower'' refers to a small-scale baby shower, generally for subsequent children, when the parents don't need as many baby supplies.<ref name="BabyCenterMurray2005">{{cite book |last1=Murray |first1=Linda J. |last2=Hennen |first2=Leah |last3=Scott |first3=Jim |display-authors=etal |title=The BabyCenter Essential Guide to Pregnancy and Birth: Expert Advice and Real-World Wisdom from the Top Pregnancy and Parenting Resource|url=https://archive.org/details/babycenteressentmurr|url-access=registration|access-date=3 February 2013|date=2005-06-22|publisher=Rodale|isbn=9781594862113|page=[https://archive.org/details/babycenteressentmurr/page/346 346]}}</ref>
-*''Grandma's shower'' refers to a shower at which people bring items for the grandparents to keep at their house, such as a collapsible [[crib (furniture)|crib]] and a changing pad.<ref name="Hill2010">{{cite book|last=Hill|first=Sabrina|title=Everything Baby Shower Book: Throw a memorable event for mother-to-be|url=https://books.google.com/books?id=0JemKVYVC8wC&pg=PA134|accessdate=3 February 2013|date=2010-09-30|publisher=Adams Media|isbn=9781440524455|pages=133–144}}</ref>
+*''Grandma's shower'' refers to a shower at which people bring items for the grandparents to keep at their house, such as a collapsible [[crib (furniture)|crib]] and a changing pad.<ref name="Hill2010">{{cite book|last=Hill|first=Sabrina|title=Everything Baby Shower Book: Throw a memorable event for mother-to-be|url=https://books.google.com/books?id=0JemKVYVC8wC&pg=PA134|access-date=3 February 2013|date=2010-09-30|publisher=Adams Media|isbn=9781440524455|pages=133–144}}</ref>
-*''Sprinkles'' are small showers for a subsequent child, especially a child who is of a different gender than the previous offspring.<ref>{{cite news|url=https://www.nytimes.com/2012/12/09/fashion/celebrating-a-new-baby-but-modestly.html?_r=0|title=For Baby No. 2 or 3, No Shower but a Sprinkle|last=Vora|first=Shivani|date=9 December 2012|work=The New York Times|page=12|accessdate=3 February 2013}}</ref>
+*''Sprinkles'' or ''mistings'' are small showers for a subsequent child, especially a child who is of a different gender than the previous offspring.<ref>{{cite news|url=https://www.nytimes.com/2012/12/09/fashion/celebrating-a-new-baby-but-modestly.html?_r=0|title=For Baby No. 2 or 3, No Shower but a Sprinkle|last=Vora|first=Shivani|date=9 December 2012|work=The New York Times|page=12|access-date=3 February 2013}}</ref><ref name=":1" />
+*A ''sip and see party'' is a celebration usually planned by the new parents after the baby's birth, so that friends and family can sip on refreshments and meet the new baby.
+*An ''adoption shower'' is held to celebrate a child's adoption into a family.<ref name=":1" /> Such events are called ''welcome parties'' when it's an older child being adopted rather than an infant.
+==See also==
+*[[Gender reveal party]]
+*[[Maternity package]] (or baby box), another way for parents to acquire the necessities for their first child
+*[[Postpartum confinement]], a set of customs for mother and baby immediately following the birth
+*[[Simantonnayana]], a Hindu ritual similar to a baby shower
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