How to be less defensive

Defensiveness - it's the gut reaction to defend yourself when you feel someone has said or done something unfairly or negatively to you. This is

Recently I found myself getting rather defensive at something my husband commented on. I wondered why I was feeling so defensive when I knew it really wasn’t a big deal. Why was I feeling the…

It's time to ditch the whole "defense" framework completely.

Everyone gets defensive sometimes! However, when defensiveness is a pattern it can become destructive. A pattern of defensiveness becomes destructive for both you as an individual and for your relationships. This is why it is so important to know how to stop being defensive.

“The Couple that Coaches Couples” on Instagram: "Write YES if this is helpful 👇 plus read further for tips: Defensiveness is a pattern that many of us need to break because it prevents conversations from progressing or getting resolved. But you’re NOT alone in this! It takes conscious awareness to shift away from being defensive when communicating with your partner. If you want to get better at this, here are some helpful resources: 1️⃣ we discuss “Defensive Behavior: How to Overcome this…

Defensiveness is a gut reaction to feeling alone or criticized. However, having this be a default state tells your partner their feelings don’t matter.

The four communication styles that have a negative impact on your relationships: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Everyone will have a favoured method. Mine is defensiveness. D…

Defensive listening can be very damaging to a relationship. Learn how to deal with it to get your partner to finally hear you out.