If nobody ever explained this to you, if someone you see a lot does something you like and you never ever tell them that, they might think you don’t like them or don’t like the things they do for you.
If you like your sister’s cooking and have never ever told her that, she may very well think that you hate her cooking. If you like it when your friend drives you places and you never ever thank them, they might think you’re not grateful even if you are. If you like it when your partner does this or that thing for you they won’t know that unless you tell them.
Tell people in your life hey thanks for driving me, that was a great dinner, I like your singing, thanks for helping me with that. They don’t automatically know that you appreciate what they do.
learning this genuinely changed so much about my life and my interactions with other people.
no person should be afraid of their friends and the things they could do. no one should feel the need to appease to someone else’s tastes lest they be scapegoated to hell and back for having different opinions. no one should have to hide in fear of being harassed and chased out of a community based on their fictional preferences.
if you fear what your friends could say or do to you, then are they really worth keeping?
if they’d ditch you in a heartbeat for being a proshipper, are they really your friends? is it worth hiding in fear and shame forever?
reblog to give your headache to elon musk instead
I’d just like to point out the growth in this post has mostly coincided with elon’s public spiral downward and I’d like to think we’re all a small part of that
bro can’t think because he’s just got a rager of a migraine 24/7
yes I would like to give elon musk my menstrual pain. I think he deserves it
Reblog to also give Elon Musk your menstrual pain.
im still losing it over the “how did high schoolers write 600 word essays before chatgpt” post. 600 words. that is nothing. that is so few words what do you mean you can’t write 600 words. 600 words. this post right here is 45 words.
i had a thought of “do people not know what AUs are anymore?” and then i remembered nobody explains fandom stuff to new people anymore so it is entirely plausible people genuinely don’t know what AUs are and nobody has explained it to them, so for today’s lucky 10,000:
“AU” stands for “Alternate Universe” or “Alternative Universe” (same difference) and is basically any thought scenario for a fandom that isn’t canon and can’t fit within the canon universe. If it takes place in the canon universe but something is notably different, that is typically what’s known as a “Canon divergent AU,” because it diverges from canon.
an AU can be absolutely anything. There’s a couple of widespread pan-fandom au scenarios that often get thrown around, like coffee shop aus, genderbend aus, hanahaki aus (hanahaki is a whole thing in itself i’d recommend researching on your own), etc. One you might hear sometimes is “crossover AU” which is when you have characters from one fandom interacting with characters from another.
You can have as many aus as you want. They can be whatever you want and you can do whatever you want in them. It’s a sandbox for you to play around in and explore how things would be different or how the characters would act in those circumstances or environments. Maybe they have different relationships with each other. Maybe they behave slightly differently. Or you can just say “Okay, [x] is true. How did they get here? How would things have to be different for this to occur?” which can also be fun.
If you are ever confused about why people ship something that seems completely out of the blue or doesn’t make sense to you in the canon setting, there’s a good chance they like it in an AU setting! Not everything everybody is interacting with is necessarily the canon! Not everybody wants things to exist in canon and just want to explore playing dolls in a different sandbox and that’s okay. And their sandbox might look a lot different than yours, and that’s also okay. You have the freedom to make your sandbox whatever you please. Do whatever you want forever. Get funky with it. AUs are fun.
Okay that’s my schpeal. everybody go have fun and play nice now.