sex neutral gang rise up or stay limp it doesn’t really matter

i don’t hear many people talk about the intersection between gender and sexuality when it comes to aspec identities but personally i feel that my aromanticism is a distinct aspect of my gender identity and presentation and it’s one of my favorite things about myself. the truth about the constructs of gender and sexuality is that they are inextricably intertwined at nearly all stages. the expectation of a relationship, the expectation of wanting others and being wanted in return, is baked into how you interact with others, and therefore how you present yourself. gay people present themselves differently than straight people because they are doing the performance of gender for a different audience. we access our own personal constructions of gender primarily through how we interact with others, how we compare and contrast with others’ genders, and so much of gendered interactions is built around heteronormativity or going against heteronormativity that our own personal constructs of sexuality and attraction are woven through it all as well. and exempting myself from the expectations of sexuality and attraction—eliminating the audience from my performance of gender—is kind of. crazy. i’m transsexual in the way that i have no connection to either gender in ANY way. the binary means nothing to me because i neither belong to nor desire any aspect of either gender. for me this means that i get to pick and choose whatever aspects i think are sexiest from either expectation and put on the best damn talent show this town has ever seen (i have no desire to engage in any kind of romantic or sexual activities, but i find it entertaining to be desirable and unattainable), which is both extremely freeing (hell yeah. opened up all of the customization options on the character design menu) and fucking FUN. it’s a performance and i’m getting the oscar in categories they haven’t even invented yet. it’s a competition and i’m fucking winning. it doesn’t matter what people want or expect from me because i don’t want them and i don’t want to be like them. there’s a huge gorgeous world out there and i am the most beautiful thing in it. truly one of the most fantastic and fascinating things about being aro to me

jk rowling’s time is fucking limited with all that black mold in her house. but ace garlic bread jokes are forever 🖤

i rlly want this blog to be more of a community space and i am always trying to think of more ways to make that happen… my concept. recently. is that i would really love to collect and share more art from aspec people :) so!! aspec creatives!! if you have any art of any kind that you feel inclined to share (or any art from someone else that you think is worth sharing!) feel so free to send it over here :) i would adore nothing more than to have a ton of aspec art and poetry and music and writing on this blog to share. i want to create this space where we can all sit together and feel aspec joy together always….

aro people send asks!!! i feel like we need to get better as talking to each other as a community

one of my main focuses with labels is that they are something that you use to communicate with people. if a label helps you to say something about your experience, then it’s a great word to use; things don’t need to represent your innate state of being. and on the other side of that, lately, i’ve been thinking about the reverse: sometimes there are things that do describe you, but aren’t valuable to you as a label. i id’d as ace for years and years and years and that was really important to me! but recently, while the parameters of aroace do technically describe me, i find that sex just… doesn’t have enough relevance to me to warrant using the word asexual as often. i use the label of asexuality to communicate my difference from the usual experience with sex and attraction, and when i’m in a place where i just don’t think about sex and don’t feel a need to communicate that difference, that label doesn’t have as much use to me. i’ve been using aromantic on its own more and more often without a SAM approach and i honestly really enjoy it. not because asexuality is any less fitting by definition, but because it doesn’t say as much about me as it used to. aromantic feels like it covers it, like it says what needs to be said, and i’ve really liked that. many thoughts about it that i don’t currently have the words to parse out but. labels as something that you can always use to communicate something and also something that you never have to use if they’re not useful for communication <3

one thing about me i am always talking about aromanticism

if you infantilize me for being asexual i'm straight up killing you. and when i strew your intestines across the ground like a macabre piece of art and soak myself in blood and gore i'll earn myself that explicit label don't you worry

if you infantilize me for being asexual i'm straight up killing you. and when i strew your intestines across the ground like a macabre piece of art and soak myself in blood and gore i'll earn myself that explicit label don't you worry

being asexual leaves me more time to think about the horrifying and repulsive methods of torture i could put you through for being a dick about the fact that i’m just not interested in sex. call that 18+ content the way i would never subject a child to what i’m about to put you through

if you infantilize me for being asexual i’m straight up killing you. and when i strew your intestines across the ground like a macabre piece of art and soak myself in blood and gore i’ll earn myself that explicit label don’t you worry

kiss kiss ily guys!!!! /aro (<— tone indicator that indicates that i mean it aromantically)