every time a cis girl becomes a trans man is a good thing actually. the whole world should celebrate. if you came out as transmasc recently and someone had something to say about not needing more men in the world you should make them feel like shit about it. you dont deserve that. your becoming a man makes the world a better place - no ifs, no caveats, no exceptions. you being a man is a good thing because you are trans. you are not abandoning women, or abandoning feminism. you dont now have to dedicate your existence to defending women and being a selfless knight. you dont have to spend every social interaction trying to be as quiet as possible so you can be one of the good ones. you dont have to make yourself small. you get to be angry, sad, excited, horny, tired, scared, you get to expect comfort and rest and patience, just as much as you did before. you haven't betrayed anyone. you are a man now. we're so happy that you are.
EDIT: THIS POST IS ABOUT TRANS MEN AND TRANSMASCULINE PEOPLE EXCLUSIVELY. IT IS NOT A GENERAL TRANS POST. DO NOT DERAIL, AND GET OUT OF THE TAGS TALKING ABOUT WHAT YOU EXPECT TRANSMASCULINE PEOPLE TO BE DOING FOR OTHERS. MAKE YOUR OWN POST.
y'all are losing the plot. let me make myself abundantly clear:
i do not believe transmasculine people should have to unilaterally defend all women. i believe transmasculine people deserve to be defended and vulnerable, because they are at significant risk. in fact, i believe cis women should be more concerned with defending trans men. i believe that transmasculine people are too pressured to repress their vulnerability and not talk about their problems in favor of ending every thought with 1000 caveats about how it's obviously actually about women and all women always have it worse no matter what, and that they feel pressured to put themselves at disproportionate, unnecessary risk of transphobic violence just to avoid being called a gender traitor.
in addition, this post is not about women. it is about trans men and their rights, and their lives, and their needs, and the fact that they deserve to center that.
likewise, i believe that transmasculine people need language to describe a framework of how systemic transphobia affects them specifically, and that that systemic transphobia goes way deeper than just what i discussed in this post. frankly it's kind of insulting to claim that this little positivity post is all there is to it.
so i will state again: this post is about TRANS MEN. DO NOT FUCKING DERAIL!
