Asking aros to put down the overly defensive "well I still love! I still feel! I love in all these different ways!" and walk away slowly. Yes, it's true for you, but you're still equating your love with your merit; you're playing the game of arophobes. I get what it's trying to combat, but I don't think the solution is to continue to use love as a weapon rather than completely disarming it. Why is love the metric? Why is love what your worth is?
navigating friendships while aplatonic is so hard. i’ve been accidentally ghosting this one former fwb for a few months bc idk we just sort of drifted apart and then they sent me paragraphs like “are we still friends whats going on” and like. what is the nicest way possible to say that i view our relationship as purely transactional and since our dnd campaign is on indefinite hiatus and i found other fwbs who live closer to me i’ve kind of lost interest? what is the nicest way to say that i don’t really care about you i just care about what you give me? what is the nicest way to say that if it weren’t for you messaging me every so often asking if we’re still friends you wouldn’t even cross my mind? like i don’t want to be an asshole but it’s just the truth.
Loveless Aromantic Hearts
Remember loveless aroallos when you discuss loveless aromantics! Not all loveless aros also identify as asexual. The loveless aromantic experience varies from person to person and based on what definition you personally use or like. If you, like me, are a loveless aroallo, you are part of the community the same way I and any other loveless aroallos are. Like any other aromantic identity, don't assume it's followed by asexuality, or that people have to also use the asexual label with their aromanticism.
me: the word love aint shit
me after scrolling on my tumblr dash: they’re making love every positive emotion
my loveless mutual, pacing: the posters are lying to us
ALT@fixing-bad-posts Here's one I made!
one of my things with love is that i think it's probably like colors. yeah we have a thing that we all sort of agree is red. but we have no way to know if other people see red the same way as us. your red could be totally different from mine and we would never know because it has functionally the same relation to all of us and so we all just call it red. i have no way of knowing if anyone else on earth feels love the exact same way in which i do and in fact i think most people probably don't...
I really like this metaphor, because it includes everyone. It includes those who are loveless, those who are lovequeer, aromantic, alloromantic. It includes pretty much everyone and I like that.
Love as a word is like slang to me. It's very useful for getting across what I'm trying to say but very rarely do I use it literally (and even then I bend the understanding of it as an emotion). Oh I love the weather today. I love my hobbies. I love this art. Sometimes I get annoyed with how love is used as a synonym for practically every positive emotion under the sun, but other times I get it. It's all just slang.
loveless people. You agree. Reblog
i feel like people often forget that "love" is just a word humans made up to describe a certain set of feelings (that's not even well defined). because a lot of ppl's the first reaction to the concept of lovelesness is to ask "but don't you love your pets? don't you love the world around you?"
get this: i simply do not label my feelings as love. others might've if they were in my shoes, but i don't. is it *that* hard to understand?