new pinned post. now we get a guide on which mutual has lore for which oc
I have to Bathroom
I had a dream that Mariah Carey dove into a pool in the middle of a song and kept singing underwater and techs kept running back and forth to hand her microphones as they kept shorting out
i forget who made the post but "if you would transition in a heartbeat in a more accepting society then you are in fact trans" really helps me when i need it
buddy you're not gonna believe this
“I don’t wanna go thru the process.” Buddy, the time is gonna pass anyway. Now do you want to spend it continuing to wither, or do you want to spend it becoming yourself
I DESPERATELY needed someone to tell me this as I grew up in leftist online spaces. So now I am going to tell YOU:
If you
- Check what you sent over and over to make sure you didn’t say a slur instead of “hello how are you”
- Fear that someone will find you thinking not-leftist-enough thoughts and will call you out and ruin you
- Feel you have to make your intentions clear and over-explain your actions
- Find yourself consistently resisting the urge to engage in reassurance-seeking WRT being a good enough ally to marginalized people
- Stay up late endlessly debating political ethics in your head
- Have a set of actions that you take after discovering you made a morally wrong decision so that you can atone, which you rely on for reassurance that you are not a bad person
- Would rather not make a decision at all than make a decision that is the lesser of two evils, but is not morally pure
then I am gently, but firmly, requesting that you look into moral scrupulosity OCD.
Also, check the environment that you're in, specifically the people you engage with routinely.
Because if you constantly are told that you need to be 150% clear, you must think perfect thoughts, or that inaction is better than imperfect-but-better action, you are surrounded by people who care more about performing moral purity than actually Being Good People and making a positive impact in the world.
So long as you're doing your best and choosing the best reasonable option that is feasible for you (ie harm reduction, donating time instead of money, voting for a candidate who isn't perfect but is better than pure evil, whatever the case may be), you're doing good. Perfect is impossible - don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Let go of that expectation, because not a single one of us can or will meet it. Do your best, apologize when necessary, and get comfortable with the fact that you will always be the villain to someone, and that's okay.
And if people need the reassurance: I don't live like this. I've never lived like this. Not even a single thing listed above applies to me. This is not a "relatable" post for the average person. This is profoundly ultra specific and not universally shared among every human being alive.
If it does feel relatable for someone reading this, then that's probably because this is worth looking into. There's nothing wrong with struggling but it is worth trying therapy and other treatments for it.
phantom thieves text post meme based on what our friend group refers to as "the chili dog incident"