It was really saddening to hear of the blatantly antitransmasculine experience the friend of a friend is going through with absolutely no way for us to help because he won’t accept it no matter what is said.
He’s dating someone who refuses to use he/they pronouns for him and only uses his deadname, to the point where he’s just accepted that he’ll never be correctly gendered by his partner and plays it off as ‘I guess any pronouns are ok’ whilst it’s clearly not.
He’s also engaged to the partner, who firmly said that no he couldn’t wear a white suit to the wedding, he has to wear a dress. Once again they gave in and said 'well I guess I am the woman one’ whilst not identifying as a woman at all.
It’s so clearly obvious that their partner is repulsed by any masculinity they show (also forbidding medical transition and wearing a binder) and they’re just accepting it 'because love’.
This is what happens to so many trans masculine people, they get worn down and worn down by 'people who love them’ until they detransition or may as well be detransitioned because they’re still made to play the role of 'woman’ whilst being convinced they’re fine with that actually no matter how they feel really.
And if trans mascs are being made to live as women and having their voices silenced, nobody will ever know they existed.
It was really saddening to hear of the blatantly antitransmasculine experience the friend of a friend is going through with absolutely no way for us to help because he won’t accept it no matter what is said.
He’s dating someone who refuses to use he/they pronouns for him and only uses his deadname, to the point where he’s just accepted that he’ll never be correctly gendered by his partner and plays it off as ‘I guess any pronouns are ok’ whilst it’s clearly not.
He’s also engaged to the partner, who firmly said that no he couldn’t wear a white suit to the wedding, he has to wear a dress. Once again they gave in and said 'well I guess I am the woman one’ whilst not identifying as a woman at all.
It’s so clearly obvious that their partner is repulsed by any masculinity they show (also forbidding medical transition and wearing a binder) and they’re just accepting it 'because love’.
This is what happens to so many trans masculine people, they get worn down and worn down by 'people who love them’ until they detransition or may as well be detransitioned because they’re still made to play the role of 'woman’ whilst being convinced they’re fine with that actually no matter how they feel really.
And if trans mascs are being made to live as women and having their voices silenced, nobody will ever know they existed.