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btw it is sexy and cool to uplift and admire people who have skills you wish you had without using their ability as a stick to beat yourself with. even and especially if you are jealous of them.

"you're so good at this. wonder what that's like." not a real compliment, just passive aggression.

"i guess SOME people are just naturally talented." not a real compliment, you're diminishing their efforts in order to find an excuse to kick yourself.

"seeing this makes me want to quit." not a real compliment, just a fucking bummer.

"must be nice to get so many views. i wish i could get even half as many." not a real compliment, they don't have any more control over how much engagement they get than you do so it doesn't go to their merit, just your bitterness.

none of these are compliments. they are burdens. they will hurt the person and they will hurt you. if that's your intention, that's a whole different thing. but if you genuinely want to pay a compliment and can't quite manage it without it coming out bitter, trust me - silence is better.

i get it. it's normal to feel jealous. the feeling isn't wrong. the behaviour is. stop using other people's success to hurt yourself. no one wins. it is a SKILL to retrain yourself into viewing your peers as teammates rather than competitors, and it is something you actively have to work on. if you struggle with it, don't worry, you are not doing it wrong. it does not come easily. sometimes i have to trick or force myself into changing my thinking, but it's a skill i need, because my jealousy is my own problem. i am only preventing my own growth by allowing it to control my behaviour.

btw it is sexy and cool to uplift and admire people who have skills you wish you had without using their ability as a stick to beat yourself with. even and especially if you are jealous of them.

Silver mask via dualflow

The Second Perspective! Atsushi sketch!

The Second Perspective! Atsushi sketch!

marilyn monroe

There are two types of writers:

1. 'It's fiction, it doesn't need to make sense!'

2. 'I didn't account for the rotation of the planet and how that affects the constalations while my characters stargazed at different times of year, I have failed as a writer, and this entire thing is trash'

Doechii at Tom Ford AW25

your outie has a semi-popular account on a failing microblogging plataform

Akutagawa is one of my favorite bsd characters because despite having the coolest deadliest ability in the whole show he still manages to exude the same pathetic energy as a raccoon trying to wash cotton candy in a stream for the first time.