she/her • late 20s • multifandom • BEWARE FFXIV SPOILERS • icon by @bluecaeriart • here's anything I find funny, pretty, interesting or inspiring. I love stories, no matter what medium they are presented in!
I’m waldwasser (she/her), multifandom blogger in my late 20s. I do art sometimes, but I’m mostly just here to reblog things.
If you’re here for FFXIV, you can find stuff about my WoLs under the read more, as well as under their respective tags. It’s mostly (vanilla) gposes, bits of lore/backstory and the occasional art piece ^^
maybe i’m a joyless bitch but i actually do NOT think it’s funny to see women being like “the house is just in my husbands name” or “my husband makes all the money” or “i don’t even know who our mortgage is with” or “the only bank account/credit card is his and i get an allowance” like i do NOT find that cute or romantic and i am begging these women to Stand Up. you should at least be named on the deed to your house and the title to your car and the bank accounts even if you don’t pay for them/earn all the money. you can’t stop existing in the eyes of the law and the credit unions simply because you have a husband. if you’re raising his children and washing his socks half of everything he’s got is yours and it needs to be yours LEGALLY BY NAME. “he takes such good care of me :)” girl you are a PRISONER!! that’s all
“But my husband is a good man! He would never abuse/leave/cheat on me!”
Alright, let’s give you the benefit of the doubt and say your husband is a perfect angel of a human being. He does take care of you, and he does it well. Your life is great, you get along, you have beautiful kids and a beautiful home.
What’s going to happen to you if he stops being able to provide?
If his job lays him off or cuts his hours? If he becomes too disabled to work? If he goes to prison? If he dies suddenly?
What if you have to get a job to make sure you and your kids can still eat and have a home?
If you plan on seriously sharing your happily ever after with someone, you are going to have to pull your head out of the romantic fairy tale clouds and start planning for the worst case scenarios.
if your husband was really a good man you would be on the mortgage so if he gets hit by a bus the bank doesn’t take the fucking house back. if he was really a good man he’d make sure you had enduring legal protections to take care of you after his death, not just whatever bits of money he cares to dole out during his lifetime.
I keep seeing the leather/pleather vs denim jacket poll over and over again with all different sorts of discourse about how there is no plastic-free pleather and like, that’s TRUE, there isn’t, but honestly I DO think people who don’t want to use animal products* also deserve to look cool
and so my suggestion is that y'all google “waxed cotton jacket” or “waxed canvas jacket” plus like, “motorcycle” or whatever style you think is cool, because there’s a plastic free leather-look material that is strong and durable and waterproof and doesn’t use animal products** AND is plastic free already out there and some of the clothes that you can get made out of it look sick as hell.
*ignoring the fact that most leather is meat by-product that would be going to waste anyway
**except beeswax but if you’re going to object to that then honestly there’s no helping you
waxed cotton looks so good and wears-in to a gorgeous patina and when it loses its finish you can re-wax it and that just makes it look even better and more patinaed instead of flaking off in horrible bits of microplastic leaving you with a ruined piece of clothing
watching gen z and millennials make fun of gen alpha has been torturous. “But they’re actually stupid” 1. theyre middle schoolers 2. isn’t that what older gens said about us? don’t you remember being 11?
it truly is just “impulse reaction to cringe <- has not yet unlearned shame”
the cycle continues let me out of here
guys. guys I think we should kill cringe culture
My kids and their friends are Gen Alpha, and they are sweet, sweet kids living though appalling times.
They grew up with the most rigidly binary models of childhood that have existed in my lifetime (girl-glue, anyone?) and been viewed as their earning potential since before they could walk. They have been exploited and abandoned on the internet by their parents, have been exploited on the internet by the algorithm when they were too young to understand it. They are the first large generation of the children of Mommy bloggers, anti-vaxxers, trad wives, and quiverful types.
They’ve survived a pandemic, and had it cut through their schooling in a way that has been enormously traumatic. They have the smallest outdoor range of any generation to date. In their lifetime, climate change has become violently real, socioeconomic disparity has only increased, reactionary movements have increased, and rights that we’ve taken for granted have been rolled back. They are the generation of British trans kids taking their lives on the now-static youth GIC waiting lists. The American trans kids who are watching their very existence become illegal. They are the generation of creative kids whose arts and humanities funding has been cut to the bone. A generation who have grown up watching soft-lit, queer friendly cartoons, walking out in to a world of violent trans and homophobia.
They are depressed, anxious, afraid. Their aspirations are low, their hopes for the future fragile.
They are clever, and creative, and charming, and brave. And they are KIDS.
The reason for that being that they noticed an increase in trans people wanting to get HRT, so they founded an interdisciplinary working group to figure out how to provide the best care.
sometimes i wish i could tell folks from my past just how much they affected my future
this guy i dated for like two weeks back in 2013 is why i like monster hunter as much as i do. my high school math teacher sat down with me for hours after class to make sure i knew trig and now i’m an astrophysicist. i flinch when i hear the floor creak in the hallway because of a woman i’d rather forget. there’s this phrase - we’re all just collections of everyone we’ve ever known - and i’m really feelin it today mr krabs
