One of the really tragic things I have found in my experiences is the breakdown of overall communications between the Frum Communities and the overall larger Jewish Communities.
Because it causes fractions in Am Yisrael, it causes misunderstandings, it causes lack of shared resources, and most importantly sharing information.
As we know one of the things Jews thrive on is information. The more the better. We understand the importance of information. I mean look at how we study the Tanach and how much information and sources we use to study it. Look at the Talmud and much information comes up at seemingly random to make a Rabbi’s point.
We don’t hoard gold as like the stereotypes make out, but rather information and it is not so much hoarding and more like gathering, collecting, and then sharing with others in great enthusiasm.
We each are vast libraries of info.
I don’t want to come across as if I’m painting all Frum communities this way or as if I’m bashing Frum communities. That is not my intention nor is my goal.
Rather it comes from a place of love. I grew up Frum and while I struggled deeply in my community because of how things that were set up that I firmly believe are fundamentally out of line with everything that Judaism is. There was still much that was wonderful and beautiful and in line with Judaism.
And while I don’t live in that community now there is much I deeply miss about. So this is not an attack on Frum communities or Frum people and I hope that is clear. (and if you are Frum yourself or grew up Frum and ever want to have discussion and what needs to change in the communities with me I’d love to have that convo)
A big thing about these communities is there is a very isolationists viewpoint. The is an idolization of the Shtetl and Shtetl life while totally ignoring what the actual reality of it looked like i.e the extreme poverty, the danger, and that women had a lot of say and power as well the reality that men and women were not all that isolated from each because they needed to interact with each other to get work done.
The reality is the Shtetl was murdered in the Holocaust. Now it probably would have died of natural causes as we entered a world that is more interconnected by technology. But we will never know because we never got a chance to find out. Because it and that type of life was murdered in the Holocaust.
And you can not just try and build it somewhere else because it was born out of a very specific history and antisemitic laws that forced it to come into place.
And even more so in the middle of places the well populated you can not just try and make a modern Shtetl. It will not work or happen.
And as the world becomes inter-connected the smaller it becomes and the less isolated you can be. That is the reality.
Now the reason I’m talking about all of this and there is one, is because at least in my community growing the messaging that I was given was that any Jew who is not Frum is assimilated.
Which I didn’t buy then and my instinct of not believing that was proven to be true as I lived in other places and interacted in other communities. To me an assimilated Jew is one who has shed all pretense of being a Jew. We has no connection to the community and identity and has no interest in maintaining any connection to the community and their identity.
There are plenty of assimilated Jews lets not play games. But most of us are not, most of us of still connected to our identities and our community is one way or another.
Someone who is proud of their Jewish identity is not assimilated regardless of what Halacha they do or do not keep. Someone who deeply connected to the culture is not assimilated again regardless of what Halacha they do or do not keep. Someone who is deeply involved with Jewish organizations (not JVP and its ilk, but actual Jewish orgs) or their local Jewish community is not assimilated regardless of what Halacha they do or do not keep. Someone who eats cheeseburgers, but is on their temple board is not assimilated.
This lack of sharing of information often means that Frum communities are unaware of the kinds of antisemitism and dangers that Jews in the communities outside of the Frum ones face and deal with in the and the Jews in none Frum communities often are unaware of the kind antisemitism Frum Jews face and deal with.
Which means that antisemites win every time.
So I try to educate everyone about it all. I do this here and I do this for my family who live in the Frum community.
Because when you live in a Frum community often you can work either within the community or network in the community which means that you can get a job for a business owned by a Frum Jew so certain workplace hurdles are ones you don’t experience because they don’t exist.
The idea of needing time off for Yom Tovim is not a thing because that is built in the work schedule already. No one is going get harassed for Kippah when the owner wears one. Stuff like that.
So there is not always an awareness about how other Jews who do experience antisemitism in the workplace or in school.
Or what it is like trying to find Kosher food or being one of a few Jews in a given area.
(Unless of course it is a very small frum community then there is that awareness)
But that ignorance and lack of awareness goes the other way too. In terms of how Frum Jews when traveling have to be cautious and aware because it is more obvious that they are Jewish. Amongst other things.
And with all that said there is still so much we have in common I want to clear. Like how we learn about antisemitism at a young age and then respond to it as children.
Like a common thread I have found in all the Jews I’ve interacted with no matter the background is that a young age we all have played some kind of “game” that comes down to us figuring out where in our homes we would hide, who we know could hide us, and how well could pass as a goy.
Like we all have “played” some variation of that “game”.
Or how so many of us keep important documents not in the bank but at home in place we can easily grab it or have many of us know what the one thing we are taking with us is.
The various tips and tricks so speak we pass from generation to generation for survival and to each other in whispers.
And that is just in one area where we are all so alike.
There is so much more in how we are all so like. We all need at least one pomegranate decorative thing in the house in another. Somewhere in pretty much every Jewish house you will find something that decorated with a pomegranate or decor that is a pomegranate without fail.
The reason I wrote this all here is on this post is because Trump won his 1st election in 2016 and in 2017 was Charlottesville and the Unite the Right Rally. And there was slew of articles that came out from both goyim and several people purporting to be Jewish who expressed shock and dismay. The reason I write purporting to be Jewish is because they either were totally assimilated Jews or people who had some Jewish heritage somewhere at some point, but where not actually Jewish at all because otherwise how could they so shocked and dismayed.
I was more shocked and dismayed and the various articles expressing shock and dismay that something like this could happen in the USA and in this year of 2017 of all things.
I kept thinking to myself like have these people never interacted with a spoken to any Jew ever in regards to antisemitism? Have they never interacted with any Jewish community ever?
Because there was absolutely nothing shocking about what happened. What was shocking was the responses to the what was happening. That a president took to two days to condemn it was shocking and that the condemnation was really one that was shocking and at the same time not really because the president was Trump.
What was both shocking and not shocking was easily the antisemitism got covered up and wiped away by the Left and the “Jews will not replace us” was turned into “You will not replace us” chants only by leftists.
What was shocking and not shocking was the lefty youtubers covering this not bothering to bring any Jewish youtubers or Jewish experts to give insight, expertise or anything like they normally do on topics or in regards to groups they don’t belong to.
It was for me a moment that I was knew I really need to start speaking more and more about antisemitism and educating more and more.
I don’t remember when my blog shifted from whatever random stuff it was before to mostly focusing on antisemitism, Jewish history, educational stuff, and life as a Jew type of stuff, but that moment really solidified it for me that was what my main focus would be.
Now I still have things on here because this is my blog and I reblog and blog about things in my personal life and stuff that interest me and that I like or find cute (animals) and fandom stuff, but like at the very least 50% (if not more) of what I do is trying to educate of Jewish history, history of antisemitism, antisemitism in general, and like reality of life being Jewish.
I can only hope that I’m doing an okay job at it and helping in any way.
So if there is anything I can say I hope is a take away from this is that is has always been about degrees of safety and a matter of safe-ish because no where is Diaspora is actually safe because that is the reality of Diaspora.
It is one of the reason I hate how Diaspora has become such a water downed word and gets applied incorrectly to many groups specifically immigrant groups.
Diaspora is not a generic term to mean living outside of one’s Homeland. It is a specific term with a specific meaning and it should and can loose it’s meaning.
When you think of people forcibly taken from Africa who where then put into Chattel slavery and their descendants that is Diaspora.
When you think of Trail of Tears and their descendants that is Diaspora.
{There are of course more examples within USA history and in other places, but I’m giving two very famous examples in USA history for Americans to try and given them a better understanding from one American to another}