We’re gonna keep things short and sweet since we know you’re here for one thing and one thing only: Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco’s love story.
So time to gather round and find out everything there is to know about these two, from how they met to which event marked their first red carpet debut and what their vibe is on babies. 🥺❤️ Let’s get into it, shall we?
Before 2019
Benny becomes friends with Sel’s ex-boyfriend Justin Bieber in 2009—roughly a year before the singer and Disney Channel alum begin dating for the first time. The two also have a longstanding work relationship, as he produced her 2015 Revival songs “Same Old Love” and “Kill ’Em With Kindness,” in addition to her 2017 collaboration with Cashmere Cat, “Trust Nobody.”
TL;DR: These two 🤝🏻 absolute bangers.
March 2019
Sel and Benny release yet another collaboration, “I Can’t Get Enough,” with J Balvin and Tainy—aka *that* song whose music vid sees the producer wearing a teddy bear costume. Witness:
October 2020
Fans note that there might be some tension between Benny—who, btw, collaborated with Justin on his 2021 song “Lonely”—and Sel given the shade the producer seems to throw her way while promoting the single.
During an interview on the Zach Sang Show, Benny says, “Justin is not one of those cookie-cutter pop artists. Like, you know, they’re like, ‘This is my new single and here’s my makeup line.’”
Considering Sel had legit *just* launched her iconic Rare Beauty makeup line, fans take the remark as a dis. However, neither artist addresses the interview’s subsequent social media frenzy, soooooo it could all have just been sheer coincidence? OR perhaps Benny privately apologized to her? Either way, things start to get real 👀 in...
August 2023
Selena releases her song “Single Soon”—a *chef’s kiss* banger, obvi—which Benny produced.
And if that isn’t enough to keep Selinators beyond thrilled, at the end of the month, the singer also gives us a lil insight into the traits she’s looking for in a partner during a SiriusXM Hits 1 L.A. interview.
While discussing her “Single Soon” line about being “a little high-maintenance,” she dishes, “I think I have standards. And I think I live in a world right now where boys confuse standards with high-maintenance. It really isn’t [the same thing]. But the line was really fun because I’m not ashamed to say, ‘I actually require x, y, and z for you to be with me.’ So in a way, it was just meant to be for the attitude of the song. And that’s genuinely how I feel.”
The celeb then reveals the qualities she wants in a partner, saying, “I mean you gotta be cool, man. Not cool in the sense that people think you’re cool. You just gotta be nice and like, please make me laugh and also just be good to my family and people around you.” 🥺❤️
October 2023
No dating rumors just yet! Just Benny ~casually~ showing his support for Sel by attending her Rare Impact Fund Benefit event.
^ Benny placing a bid on tickets for Taylor Swift’s Eras Tour. No, literally lol.
November 2023
Oh, this? Nothing much, just Benny announcing the release of his cookbook...and Sel Liking and commenting on the post, sparking dating rumors.
Plus, the singer also takes to her own Instagram to share the producer’s exciting news, calling him “one of my favorites”:
November 26, 2023
A chatty source gives Entertainment Tonight a dating update on the actor, and reveals that she’s single: “Selena is casually dating and doing well....She is doing her own thing and doesn’t feel any sort of pressure to be in a relationship. She is just focusing on what’s best for her right now and has been very in tune with maintaining her own boundaries. Her friends and family support her and just want her to be happy.”
December 4, 2023
A Selena fan account posts a clip of the celeb in her Selena + Chef holiday special while she’s having a convo about her crush! The comment alongside the vid reads, “This episode was filmed months ago, so we hope things went well with Selena and her crush 😂❤️,” to which the Disney Channel alum cheekily responds, “😉.”
Well! Then!!!!
December 7, 2023
Selena likes the following two Instagram posts on the (since deleted 😬) celebrity news fan account @popfaction—the first being a report about the rumors of her being in a relationship with Benny, and the second being a repeated roundup of clues signifying that the duo might be dating along with the headline “Selena Gomez Seemingly Confirms That She Is in a Relationship.” And, yes, she comments “facts” on the latter.
The singer then shares an Instagram Story of herself seemingly with Blanco, which is a BIG FREAKIN’ DEAL:
Oh, and she *also* responds to comments on PopFaction’s page and defends Benny being her boyfriend after people hit the comments section of the post with their ~thoughts~ on the sitch (including one person noting that Benny seemed to be “shading you years ago”).
Some of the 🥺 clapbacks she pens? “He is my absolute everything in my heart,” “Lol yeah and he’s still better than anyone I’ve ever been with. Facts,” and “I don’t understand. If you actually care about me. This is my happiest. If you don’t feel free to say whatever you want. But I will never allow your words to guide my life. Ever. I’m done. if you can’t accept me at my happiest, then don’t be in [my] life at all.”
We also learn that these two have apparently been together for six (!!) months, and in response to one commenter questioning her choice to date the producer, Selena writes, “Oh sweetheart, I’ve been in therapy since I was 18. I know what’s best for me and I will fight till I get what I deserve. I appreciate your misguided input, but I’m growing. Don’t feel free to grow with me, just know I’m not going to be with a f***boy ever again. Sorry to disappoint.”
Truer words!!!
...Also December 7, 2023
Selena reveals that she’s taking a break from Instagram after being accused of “trolling.”
“Never trolling,” she replies. “I’m leaving Insta for a while until I have work again. I just stand up for what I believe in. I have no shame in doing that. I love my fans more than anything in the world.”
However, shortly after...
She posts this pic seemingly of her hand with a diamond “B” ring on her finger:
And another one!!!!
Plus, that same day, a source opens up to Entertainment Tonight and dishes the following on Sel and Benny’s rumored ’ship:
“Selena and Benny have been casually seeing each other for a while and more recently, it became more official. Things have been going really well between them and Selena is happy. She thinks Benny is very funny and of course, extremely talented. Selena is in a great place in her life and feels content and relaxed. She is enjoying where things are going.”
In-ter-est-ing!!!
December 11, 2023
Benny seemingly soft-launches his ’ship with Selena on his Instagram Stories. The pic in questi0n? Selena’s back as she browses through an art gallery:
Sel also posts a photo dump teasing some new projects in the new year, and Benny shows his support by commenting a heart-eyes emoji, in true IG boyfriend fashion 🥹:
December 12, 2023
The singer shares a few more snaps that totally confirm her new ’ship with Benny, including a selfie of her wearing *that* diamond “B” ring (which is designed by Jacquie Aiche, btw!) on her finger and a pic of her snuggling up with the producer that kinda sorta makes our hearts melt. 🥺❤️
With only his white top and beyond recognizable curls showing, Benny’s upper body is hunched over as he hugs Sel, whose face is partially cropped in the pic. TBH, it’s fair to say that I definitely didn’t have this on my 2023 Bingo card, but I’m not not mad about it!
December 14, 2023
Sel goes ahead and drops a pic of Benny and her kissing to Instagram. Get ready ’cause it’s very cute:
Meanwhile, a source tells Us Weekly, “Selena hasn’t felt this happy about anybody she’s dated in a really long time. Selena and Benny are truly in love and although she has kept most people she’s dated under wraps, with Benny, she couldn’t wait to reveal they were together. Selena’s family absolutely approves of this relationship and they’re thrilled to see her so happy and in love.”
December 15, 2023
Another day, another photo dump. Selena recaps her trip to NYC with pics from Taylor Swift’s low-key birthday celebration, hotel room views, and Rare Beauty business outings. How-ev-er! She also includes a sweet pic of Benny hugging her from behind (ahem, slide 2) and a pic of them smooching (slide 8):
December 21, 2023
Selena seemingly opens up about what she looks for in a romantic partner during an interview with Vogue México y Latinoamérica. Of course, she doesn’t mention Benny by name, but it’s still super sweet.
“Honestly, I have to start being attracted to the right kind of people, because it’s a bit of both,” she says. “It’s very difficult to find someone who can listen to you and care about you, but I know that when it happens, it will be great and you will want it to be healthy.”
She also adds that motherhood is “fundamental to her life’s purpose” but that it’s likely not happening “in the short term.”
December 27, 2023
The duo shares more pics from their artsy date.
December 30, 2023
Selena posts a sweet snap of her and Benny hugging on her Instagram Stories.
January 2, 2024
Benny rings in the new year with close-up pics of the Rare Beauty founder sans makeup. And ofc, she’s sporting her “B” ring and is all smiles in the snaps.
Later the same day, Sel posts an adorable meme about asking her beau for one more kiss. If you’ll excuse me, I’m pretty much like 🥹🥹🥹 rn.
January 3, 2024
Selena and Benny go courtside official at a Lakers game and could not be cuter!
January 7, 2024
Benny and Selena kiss after the 2024 Golden Globes, and the singer sweetly captions a pic of the moment “I won.” (*HOLDS BACK TEARS*)
January 11, 2024
A source tells Us Weekly that “Selena has made it clear that she wants Benny by her side from now on, and she’s proudly introducing him to everyone in her life. They kept things low-key [at first], but Benny has passed every test with flying colors. The new year seemed like a perfect time to essentially shout [their love] from the rooftops, so that’s what Selena is doing.”
Another insider tells the outlet, “Benny asked her to dinner, and they started seeing each other about once a week, taking it slow. She loves how Benny treats her: He’s so kind and thoughtful. She’s never been with anyone like him. It’s been a very long time since friends saw Selena this happy. She’s positively glowing.”
January 14, 2024
Selena and Benny celebrate Nicola Peltz Beckham’s birthday in matching PJs (scroll all the way to the last pic!):
January 15, 2024
The celebs make their first red carpet debut at the Emmys, and the content is truly *chef’s kiss*. JFYI, it will totally take us at least five business days to recover:
February 2, 2024
Sel takes to her Instagram Story to share a sweet pic of what Benny wakes up to in the AM alongside the caption, “Mornings with you @itsbennyblanco.”
February 12, 2024
Benny and Selena are spotted arriving at Gucci’s Grammys after-party at Chateau Marmont!
February 11, 2024
Sel posts a sweet snap of herself and Benny with their arms around each other as the Only Murders in the Building star rests her nose on the producer’s head.
And it appears as though the duo is in good company, since Nicola Peltz Beckham is also seemingly there!
February 13, 2024
Sel calls Benny her “best friend”—scratch that, her “best fwend.”
February 14, 2024
Selena and Benny celebrate their first Valentine’s Day together!
February 22, 2024
Selena talks to Apple Music’s Zane Lowe about her relationship with Benny, saying (via People), “Without getting into too much detail, I think it’s just really important to meet someone that respects you. And I think it’s really nice to also lean on someone who understands the world that I live in. But I’d have to say overall, it’s the safest that I feel and it’s been really lovely and I’ve only grown through it, so it’s awesome.”
March 7, 2024
Selena wishes Benny happy birthday on Instagram in a cute post, writing, “Happy birthday, baby! Your emotional endurance, positive disposition, unbelievable talent (that blows me away), undeniable humor and loving, kind heart absolutely kill me. I love you @itsbennyblanco 🎂🥹”
March 16, 2024
The actor shares a snap of Benny via her Instagram Stories, and, yes, he’s legit wearing a yellow bodysuit while clutching a giant white plush figure and holding a feather. In the background, it seems as though he and Sel are on some kinda set, with lights and screens throughout the room.
The cute moment is showcased alongside the words, “It was you before I ever decided.”
Obvi, the caption is a callback to the fact that these two have been friends and collaborators for years, making their ’ship all the more special!
March 20, 2024
Sel posts a glimpse of the card Benny gave her for their first virtual date on her Instagram Story with the caption “#longdistancerelationship vibes.”
March 23, 2024
The actor jokes about “the day they dressed me like my boyfriend on set”—presumably for the show Only Murders in the Building season 4, which Sel is currently filming.
March 28, 2024
Sel posts a new snap of her Benny cuddled up a the couch with the simple words “happy place” over it. 🥺❤️
April 5, 2024
A source tells Entertainment Tonight that Sel’s “friends and family love Benny and his loved ones feel the same about her. Everyone can see that they have a loving relationship and both sides couldn’t be more encouraging.”
Apparently, the couple “have gotten very serious” over the past few days and “Selena trusts him more than any other past romantic partner in her life. They are very respectful of one another and their relationship is growing in positive ways.”
As for what’s next, the source says, “They both see a positive future together and have a desire to continue to move forward and have their relationship thrive.”
April 10, 2024
FYI, the celebs are apparently still beyond in love, per a source who speaks with People. The person close to the sitch reveals that the couple is currently doing long distance while Sel works on season 4 of Only Murders in the Building in New York City and Benny remains on the West Coast.
“They are so in love. It’s a very serious relationship, and they’re making long distance work while she’s in New York for work commitments,” says the insider, who then adds, “Benny makes her feel special, and they try to see each other as much as possible. She really does feel like it’s the best she’s ever been treated by a guy, and she’s had a certain glow since they started dating.”
Obsessed!
April 22, 2024
Looks like Benny found some time to visit Sel all the way in NYC after the couple is spotted on a date night at the New York Knicks vs. Philadelphia 76ers game at Madison Square Garden!
^ Also, a moment for this front row, pls?!?! Chris Rock, Ben Stiller, and Sting?!?!
April 25, 2024
Benny opens up about his relationship with Sel in an interview with WSJ. Magazine—namely, the fact that, in a very Clueless-coded way, it took him a while to realize his true feelings for the Rare Beauty founder.
“I was the last one to know,” the producer confesses to the outlet. “It’s crazy how your partner could just be sitting there the whole time, right in front of your eyes, and you don’t even notice, and then you have that Clueless moment where you’re like, ‘Wait, I’m in love.’”
We’re not crying, you are!!!!
April 29, 2024
Benny makes Selena’s favorite food for her and documents the process on TikTok. The Rare Beauty founder also posts a sweet snap of the producer's makeshift letter on her Instagram Stories:
April 30, 2024
Selena posts a sweet photo dump to celebrate the release of Benny’s cookbook, Open Wide, on Instagram. “So proud of @itsbennyblanco—Open Wide is out now!!” she writes.
The music producer also leaves the cutest comment underneath her post (excuse me while I 🤧):
May 15, 2024
Benny does an interview with Howard Stern (per Page Six), who wastes no time asking if he wants to “have kids with Selena.” In response, Benny says, “It’s always a topic of conversation to me every day. That’s my next goal, to check the box. I have a ton of godkids; I’ve got a ton of nephews. I love being around kids.”
Meanwhile, a source tells Entertainment Tonight that Benny and Sel "challenge each other in a healthy way and encourage one another to be better people," and that she loves that he's "protective of her."
The insider also adds that "They have talked about their future and while they don't have set plans in place, they are excited at the idea of continuing to grow together and get closer. They make each other happy and their friends and family are thrilled for them."
May 29, 2024
In a new cover story for Time, Sel is asked about Benny's iconic Howard Stern convo. “He can’t lie to save his life,” she says. “If he’s asked a question, he’ll answer it.”
The actor then reveals how her boyfriend has taken all of the comments about their relationship in stride: “I know what people can do to people I love. My own fans, who I adore and feel like have shaped who I am, will say the most hurtful things to me about how I live my life. But he has the strength in him that none of that noise fazes him. It’s really impressive, and I just cherish every moment with him.”
“I don’t know what the future holds, but I do know that he’s not going anywhere anytime soon,” she says about their romance before giving fans insight into how her and Benny's love story first began. Apparently, the celeb asked him to set her up with someone, so he took her to a party to meet a friend of his. However, it was then that she realized *he* was truly the person she was interested in. “It just happens when you least expect it.”
June 12, 2024
Benny takes to his Instagram Story to share a snap of Sel after the two had spent some time apart (she just attended the Cannes Film Festival to promote her new film Emilia Perez and is in the midst of filming Only Murders in the Building season 4 in New York City).
“she’s back,” the producer pens on a snap of the actor resting on a white pillow with her eyes closed. ❤️
June 15, 2024
The couple is spotted on a dinner date in Malibu and the pics are truly too cute for words.
June 24, 2024
Another day, another cute Sel pic! This time around, Benny posts a candid snap of himself cuddled up with Sel alongside the caption, “my little.”
July 4, 2024
While Selena doesn't get to celebrate the Fourth of July with her bestie Taylor Swift this year (iykyk), she does get to cuddle up with her beau, Benny. The Only Murders in the Building star posts a sweet snap with the music producer on her Instagram Stories in which they sport matching white summer outfits as Benny hugs her from behind.
Benny also shares a cute pic of Sel smiling on his own Instagram Stories. A moment of silence for this cuteness, pls:
July 22, 2024
Benny marks Sel's birthday with the sweetest Instagram tribute and writes, “I used to play a teddy bear in ur music video and now i get to b urs in real life… happy bday bb ! i love u !”
And on that same day, the actor shares a sneak peek of their day together on her own Instagram Story, where she calls her boyfriend the “love of my life.”
July 24, 2024
Selena posts an Insta dump filled with cute pics of Benny alongside the caption, “Thank you for sharing your life with me today and everyday 🙂.”
July 30, 2024
Sel responds to a TikTok video that uses old footage of her and questions her 'ship with Benny. “I know and so do you that at the time she would never have gotten engaged to Benny, She was in her IT GIRL era,” reads the caption.
But the “Come and Get It” singer makes her feelings known on the remark and claps back with, “Kinda makes me laugh because I was so depressed back then lol.”
Almost instantly, fans come to the A-lister's defense with words like, “Benny treats her like a queen,” and “She's the happiest she's ever been.” ILY SEL!!!!!
August 8, 2024
The actor sparks engagement rumors when she shares a snap of herself and Benny getting ready to go out complete with an emoji over *that* finger. Ahem:
Oh, and she also uploads this sweet carousel:
August 30, 2024
The actor ACTUALLY sports a ring on *that* finger in newly released TMZ pics. The more ya know!
Oh, and for a full-on investigation on everything you need to know about whether these two have made things official official, head right on over...
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